Girlfriends Parents

On January 21 2009 02:07 kidd wrote:
Lol your girlfriend is quite the pyscho if from one single argument she put a hole in the wall, broke her closet, and threw a shoe box at her own grandmother... Am I missing anything.

I would hate to have that wrath focused on me, good luck with that.

On January 21 2009 02:32 Quesadilla wrote:


This is what I thought. And she's not 21, switch the numbers.

On January 21 2009 02:24 Chill wrote:
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When this was going on you weren't holding your girlfriend back and trying to calm her down? Or leaving?

On January 21 2009 02:24 Chill wrote:
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When this was going on you weren't holding your girlfriend back and trying to calm her down? Or leaving?

On January 21 2009 03:29 CommanderFluffy wrote:
sounds to me like your gf's crazy, then i read,

"supper ultra christian people"

gg dude

On January 21 2009 03:32 Frits wrote:
Wow this is a bunch of dumb shit, when a person asks you to leave their house you do it, no questions asked, you just leave and diffuse the situation. Just say goodbye to your girlfriend and come back another time.

On January 21 2009 04:21 arbiter_md wrote:
That's what happens when there's no tolerance in the world. I mean, had any of you four, any kind of tolerance, and the things would have been fine. Now, the idiots of the house of course are her parents. Unfortunately, there are many parents that don't understand yet, that a 20 years old girl has the right for private life. The problem is, they think they have the right to decide about her life just because they give her some fucking house and food.

And I disagree with those who think she is 12. I think she is the only who did the right thing. That's what you have to do to that type of parents. You have to show them their place from the beginning, otherwise they will do the same shit over and over again. Maybe she overreacted, but that's definitively the right attitude about this. And the big losers from all this shit is again her parents. Because,. no matter what will happen to this relation, soon she will get a job and will have her life. And soon after that, those parents will start to miss her.

On January 21 2009 03:32 Frits wrote:
Wow this is a bunch of dumb shit, when a person asks you to leave their house you do it, no questions asked, you just leave and diffuse the situation. Just say goodbye to your girlfriend and come back another time. What you're doing is basically setting yourself up for never getting along with those people. They have every right to tell you to leave, no matter how unreasonable it seems to you.

And your girlfriend needs to calm down, how old is she? 12? Stop being a dumb stereotypical teen and learn to adapt to other people's environment. If her mom is threatening with calling the cops Im pretty sure you have overstayed your welcome. Now whenever you will come over it's going to be incredibly awkward. Maybe her mom just had a bad day.

"BOOHOO FUCK YOU YOU'RE NOT MY DAD"

What if you had to take care of your brother's home, would you think it was reasonable if some kid refused to leave when it's getting late?

edit: Stop bringing religion into this, just stop.

On January 21 2009 04:39 Xeofreestyler wrote:
Ermm

to those saying his girlfriend is a psycho:
maybe think about the fact that there's probably a history of arguments and fighting?

anyway good luck with this man, wouldnt wanna be in that kind of situation

On January 21 2009 03:34 intoyourrainbOW wrote:


Seriously. Throwing a shoebox at an old lady? (seriously NOT cool) Breaking a closet? Throwing weights into walls? Your gf has issues. But are you really 20? It seems like you didn't do anything but stand back and watch like a pussy. Dude, grow some balls. And why mention her parents are "supper ultra" Christians, like that has ANY relavence to what happened? Keep that kind of bullshit to yourself plz.

On January 21 2009 05:31 Sadist wrote:



Actually the SUPER nutbag christians are ridiculous in circumstances like these. We're talking nutbags, not the regular people. If they are nuts about something like christianity, it gives you an idea of how nuts they can be in a situation like this. Why anyone is taking offense I dont understand at all.

On January 21 2009 05:37 EsX_Raptor wrote:
Those are the extremists, they aren't truly Christian, they just make an image of God in their minds (God's infinite, thus I don't think you can) and follow it as it is, they are literally worshipping a graven image, just that it isn't physical, this leads to hate and anger and that's why many of them try to control other christians using bible references and taking them out of context for their own benefit and/or preaching doom to them.

On January 21 2009 04:56 Chromyne wrote:
I have to disagree. The daughter is living in a house that is not her own, the owners obviously tolerate her enough to let her stay in a place she's not paying for. And they are not "deciding about her life." They are giving her rules that she must abide by as long as she is under their roof. They should have kicked her out long ago, because she obviously does not need their housing or food (if she did, she does not seem grateful in the slightest).

On January 21 2009 05:56 arbiter_md wrote:


The thing is, she did nothing out of the box, before they were disturbed, to say that she had to be tolerated somehow. I mean, they did nothing special to disturb somehow the other members of the house.

So, why would mister uncle play a daddy role there? Because he is paying for the house?? Well, maybe she would better go and hook with some millionaire in this case, respecting his rules, instead of family rules.

That's what a family is supposed to be? To remind her, how she has to respect some non-sense family rules, because is not paying anything? If there are some family rules, she has to understand those rules first, and agree with them, as part of the family.
The whole family thing is based on good willing and tolerance. Not on some stupid rules, that says do this because this is my house and I pay for this. Yes, it is possible that there were some other issues between them before this all happened, but the thing that they had to make this scene when our hero was there, tells me that her parents have something with her personal life.

And, yes I agree that the whole children-parents thing is complicated, but she's not a child anymore. And this means there are some principles that have to be respected.

On January 21 2009 06:20 Chromyne wrote:

Some principles but not other (I'm making assumptions about what you consider principles)? The daughter wants to be able to make decisions for herself (whether she can have other people in her room and how long, in this case). She wants independence. If she wants that, she needs to get out of that house and into her own home.

On January 21 2009 05:35 Naib wrote:


I second that statement, but I admit that might be my prejudices (and bad experience) talking. Oh wait a second, I guess that's perfectly fine

On January 21 2009 06:34 KlaCkoN wrote:

And if you read the Op you would have realized that's exactly what she is doing.

On January 21 2009 06:35 damenmofa wrote:
wow Chromyne by that logic, her parents are even the owners of her fuckin life.

Just because they own the damn place doesn't mean that they can dictate their own morals and values. Just because her parents technically own that place, doesn't mean they can enforce whatever silly rules and values they think of upon her.

It doesn't mean she has to buckle down and swallow everything. I think its completely justified to stand up for your own believes, breaking of closets and punching holes in the wall is probably not the best way to do it I admit that much. But still, the fact remains that your argument is ridiculous.

On January 21 2009 01:58 ShoCkeyy wrote:
..while her grandma is just yelling at me to get the fuck out that she has been wanting to call the cops on me for a while.

On January 21 2009 08:10 Chill wrote:
LOL I JUST REALIZED WHO YOU ARE

oh god it makes sense now

On January 21 2009 04:00 Savio wrote:
Your girlfriend has serious anger issues man.

Also, if she wants to do what she wants, she needs to get her own place. As long as she lives with Mommy and Daddy (or anyone else who owns the house and is paying for it), she can't complain about their rules. That's like trying to have the privileges of adulthood without taking the responsibilities of adulthood.

EDIT: Frits is right. Your gf sounds like a child and you should have left right away.

On January 21 2009 08:10 Chill wrote:
LOL I JUST REALIZED WHO YOU ARE

oh god it makes sense now

He was saving up for it for a while and then her mother and uncle decided to trick her into selling the car and giving them the money, which they used on a new kitchen for the house.

On January 21 2009 10:51 mahnini wrote:

ROFL

On January 21 2009 12:33 Chill wrote:
Hmm, on second thought you and your girlfriend sound perfect for each other. I recommend marriage now.

On January 21 2009 12:49 Pengu1n wrote:
so let me get this straight...you were told to leave the house by 11pm (which sounds like a perfectly reasonable time to me as its pretty late) and you decided to disobey her parents and stay and watch your girlfriend stomp around like a spoiled raging lunatic bitch smashing holes through walls, breaking down closet doors screaming and yelling and attacking her poor lil grandma all because she didn't get her way? Not to mention she is 21 years old (acting like a 3 year old who jus got her candy taken away) living in her parents house (which the uncle is paying for) the least she can do is respect their rules. And now your complaining to tl.net that your mad because they called the cops on you when you decided to disobey her parents rules in their own home?

lol and you think you got it bad? if my sisters boyfriend was told to leave and he refused my dad would be taking him out himself in a bodybag.

On January 21 2009 02:07 kidd wrote:
Lol your girlfriend is quite the pyscho if from one single argument she put a hole in the wall, broke her closet, and threw a shoe box at her own grandmother... Am I missing anything.

I would hate to have that wrath focused on me, good luck with that.

On January 21 2009 12:56 ShoCkeyy wrote:


I disobeyed because they disrespected me and also my girlfriend was already going nuts for them yelling at me for no reason. The reason why I even disobeyed also was because I wanted to make sure my girlfriend was going to be alright.

On January 21 2009 13:07 lilsusie wrote:


... they disrespected you by asking you to leave?

On January 21 2009 13:15 lilsusie wrote:
So the uncle didnt exactly come to you and ask you to leave. The mother came in and said "Uncle wants you to leave by 11" although he never said that. I dunno. I still cant sympathize with you, it's not your girlfriend's house - it's her mom/uncle's. =/

No matter how bad a relationship is between a daughter and mom, she's still her mom. If it wasn't for her your girlfriend would not even exist. She needs to show more respect to her mom, imo, she's 21 and living at the house rent free (i'm assuming) how can she have the audacity to scream at her for asking her bf to leave since it's getting late?

You don't really have a position in this. You're the stranger in the situation that's been asked to leave, even if the non-house-owner girlfriend asks you to stay, it would have been the proper thing for you to leave first, then question it later.

how can she have the audacity to scream at her for asking her bf to leave since it's getting late?

On January 21 2009 13:29 fight_or_flight wrote:
Nothing like a TL blog to set you strait.

On January 21 2009 12:56 ShoCkeyy wrote:


I disobeyed because they disrespected me and also my girlfriend was already going nuts for them yelling at me for no reason. The reason why I even disobeyed also was because I wanted to make sure my girlfriend was going to be alright.

On January 21 2009 14:01 Savio wrote:


Yes, I am sure your presence made the whole situation a LOT better for your gf...

Also, they disrespected you? You have to earn respect by acting like a man. That means being responsible and acting mature even when other adults act immature.

On January 21 2009 14:03 ShoCkeyy wrote:


It's the same for them. They earn my respect by respecting me and all I've ever done was respect them till that happened.

On January 21 2009 14:10 Savio wrote:


I don't wanna be too hard on you, but I do think that by any way you measure it, you should have left their house when they made it plain that they wanted you to leave. By you staying and your gf throwing a tantrum, it just made you both look like younger people in adult bodies.

I also think that you are the one who should be doing the earning of respect because
1. You are younger
2. You are dating their daughter whom THEY are taking care of at the moment.
3. You were in their house. You were not on equal footing with them.

On January 21 2009 15:47 Savio wrote:
I can see your point of view. When people act retarded (like when they yelled at you instead of just asking you politely to leave), it is offensive and we want to push back or at least not give them what they want.

I wouldn't worry about it too much. Its over now. Hopefully your gf will get her own place soon and it will be irrelevant what they think.

On December 26 2008 16:54 Manifesto7 wrote:
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and bragging about beating up homeless people with his friends.

http://www.teamliquid.net/forum/postmessage.php?quote=49&topic_id=84344
I know it's not ok to destroy some one's property but what other choice do we have? Also the sign got replaced within the next day so stfu.

I disobeyed because they disrespected me

On January 21 2009 21:38 damenmofa wrote:
The fact that she is old enough to move out is irrelevant for the faulty of this logic. The logic "parents own house/pay for kid -> kid has to obey" is simply false. Imagine she would be 10, so the option to move out wouldn't be given.

On January 21 2009 08:10 Chill wrote:
LOL I JUST REALIZED WHO YOU ARE

oh god it makes sense now

On January 21 2009 23:36 29 fps wrote:


anyone wanna explain this? im lost... maybe a little history on this guy might help explain things.

On January 21 2009 23:22 damenmofa wrote:
Im not ranting about asian culture nor am I taking peoples statements out of context. People never gave said context. The people I was talking about merely did posts like "you live in someones house, you obey their rules, simple as that". I was just pointing out that it is not "simple as that". The connection to asian culture simply came up in my mind because most people who posted like that are asians. Coupled with recent reflections about the state of civilizations I had in philosophy it made me realize that this kind of thinking is still strong in asian culture although other values and traditions have proven more successful.

Asian civilization was far ahead of western civilization a few hundred years ago, why do you think western civilization has caught up, if not surpassed all other civilizations (including asian)? Apart from geographical factors which encouraged strong competition on the governments side, the tradition of criticism plays a large role here. Criticism towards superiors/religion/cultural habits is a key value for any civilization and in that regard it saddens me to see that some people request strict obediance towards your parents as long as you live from their expenses.

Sure these thoughts do not have much to do with the original topic directly, but why should this discussion stay on a low level if it can provide a basis for a much more prolific discussion? Denying someones right to criticize (disobediance is a form of criticism) because of hierarchical structures (financial dependence is just one example for such a structure) is just bad in general imo.

On January 21 2009 10:49 ShoCkeyy wrote:
One time her father (which doesn't live with her) bought her a new car fully paid and everything. He was saving up for it for a while and then her mother and uncle decided to trick her into selling the car

On January 21 2009 21:38 damenmofa wrote:
tl.net is full of asian people and in asian culture the obediance towards your parents is extremely important. This totally shows in this thread. While its completely wrong for the guy to not leave, the daughter doesn't have to obey every single rule their parents set for her. Morals >> property rights. The police comes in your house if you molest children in it. It is because morals transcend property rights. The same logic can be applied for her daughter. If her parents try to enforce rules which she finds immoral or demeaning, she has all right in the world to refuse obediance.

The fact that she is old enough to move out is irrelevant for the faulty of this logic. The logic "parents own house/pay for kid -> kid has to obey" is simply false. Imagine she would be 10, so the option to move out wouldn't be given. Do you really think her only choice is to behave like a fuckin slave and do everything and respect everything their parents tell her, even if they are religious nuts?? God, the extreme form of "respect elders" value in asian cultures certainly leads to some dubious concepts about human rights on an individual basis. If her parents tell her to say a prayer before eating and she doesnt want to cus shes atheist, would you guys say she has to obey? Does "obediance towards parents" overrule "freedom of religion/belief" for you?

The only problem here is requesting him to be gone by 11pm is not "morally wrong". Its fair. It would be more morally wrong for him to stay.

You seem to think your some bigtime gangsta or something? However your really just an immature little shit who needs to learn how the real world works. Im glad you got a you got a girlfriend whos as big of an idiot as you (she brought all this shit on herself, and you sure as hell didnt help). Just do us all a favour and dont procreate.

On January 22 2009 04:20 ShoCkeyy wrote:
Dude I stole pokemon cards once and that was when I was a kid. The fucking thread asked if you ever were in a sticky situation and I posted what I did. Like you guys never tried to steal pokemon cards ever.

They didn't request it. If they had requested it I would have left. They just started to yell at me and threatened to call the cops.

On January 22 2009 05:12 MarklarMarklar wrote:
OP should post his picture

The only problem here is requesting him to be gone by 11pm is not "morally wrong". Its fair. It would be more morally wrong for him to stay.

They didn't request it. If they had requested it I would have left. They just started to yell at me and threatened to call the cops.

On January 21 2009 01:58 ShoCkeyy wrote:
I'm pretty sure there are people who go through this all the time with their girlfriend's parents all the time, but yesterday was by the far the worst experience in my life. Not only about the thought of losing a loved one but the fact that her parents called the police on me.

It started with me being at her house like usual. She is 21 years old and I'm 20. We were in her room watching Dodgeball at the time and her uncle comes in acting like he is her dad. She gets upset and tells him to fuck off. Then her mom comes in talking about her uncle wanted me out of the house by 11pm. So she got mad and told her to fuck off that it's not his house nor his rule. She goes on by stating that the house taxes are being paid by him either way. My girlfriend explodes now and tells her mom that she doesn't give a shit about his money or what he pays for. He's not her father to be telling her what to do. Then her mother ASK me to leave the house and threatens to call the cops on me. Now my girlfriend explodes even more and throws a cup at the wall and a pound bar for weights; makes a whole in the wall and now shit gets even more heated. She's their fighting with her mother while her grandma is just yelling at me to get the fuck out that she has been wanting to call the cops on me for a while. My girlfriend throws a shoe box at her grandma. I stop and ask what the fuck did I ever do to get called the cops on me. Her mother responds nothing just get out of my house. My girlfriend gets more upset and breaks her closet. I told her mother I wasn't leaving my girlfriend like this at all. She told me to get the fuck out repeatably. I know now I can get arrested for not leaving and trespassing. (BTW her parents are insane, and their like those supper ultra christian people. Also her mothers pastor has been saying i'm a bad guy.) My girlfriend just keeps yelling and I finally decide to leave the house after 20mins and the cops coming. I get in my car and just park in the front doors neighbors house. My girlfriend runs outside and stays with me for about 15mins. She thought about going to live with her dad which is about 40mins from me. But it would be impossible to see her. So now she's asking for me and her to move with each other; I agreed. There was a lot more to this but I'm going back to her house now and I just wanted to throw my little rant and see how people overcome situations like this. I didn't get arrested nor a restraining order. But they did tell me to watch out for the parents because they will try everything to get me and her separated.

On January 21 2009 13:24 ShoCkeyy wrote:

Well she didn't scream at her for that, she has asked me to leave before and I had left(different day of course). It was the fact that she lied about it and then promptly yelled at me instead. Then her mother and grandmother come out of no where saying they're going to call the cops. They asked me to leave and I told them no because I wanted to make sure my gf was going to be alright, then her mother yells "YOURE NOT MARRIED TO HER GTFO" which made me more upset and what not but I still wanted to make sure she was alright. After 5mins of screaming, yelling, I left. I didn't yell back of course. Just asked why will you call the cops on me for no reason. They didn't have a reason till they asked me to leave.

On January 22 2009 04:20 ShoCkeyy wrote:
Oh yes I'm being immature, all those things I did was in the past, before I was even 16. Around the age when I was really actually immature, and I'm pretty sure people have done a lot more stupid shit than I have ever done. Now I've grown up and have seen most of the shit I've done was retarded, but hey that's how you learn

I want to know what you guys think about graffiti. I'm getting pretty well known in Miami for it now and soon will be posting some pictures of my graffiti.

you have to do it illegally just because it's practice. You wouldn't have anywhere else to do it.

I know it's not ok to destroy some one's property but what other choice do we have? Also the sign got replaced within the next day so stfu.

To do something like this on a train never knowing when they're going to come out and catch you is amazing.