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I only drink around people I hate, or people who are just boring to me...
Using drinking as an 'in' to socializing is just handicapping yourself. If you can't socialize without it would these people really be your friends?
You can go to a party with alcohol and not drink.
I used to be really introverted myself. I was depressed by how boring and stupid most of the people I met were, but this is what worked for me:
If you don't already do it, start working out, or get into sports, you'll feel a lot more relaxed about social things and you'll be more comfortable with expressing whatever opinions you have. You'll find yourself giving less of a fuck about what other people think. Sports are an amazingly easy way to socialize.
Also, realize any thoughts you might have about other people judging you are probably just thoughts, most people aren't really malicious and furthermore won't judge you on whatever shortcomings you might have.
There's no reason not to do anything so long as it doesn't endanger your life.
As far as talking to people goes, everyone wants to tell their own story, if you're able to be a decent listener, people will see you as a good friend.
Just be confident about whatever you do, if you're funny try an amateur night at your local comedy club.
I feel like I'm rambling... If anyone in the Seattle area wants to come out to the amateur night @ Giggles on Wednesday the 17th I'll be there, my name is Dan. I'll be telling some tasteless jokes to people I don't know.
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Getting buffed often boosts your confidence, making you more prone to doing things you wouldn't normally do (aka, talk to random person). Personal Hygeine is also another good one, pluck your eyebrows dude, you don't want to look like this:
A bad image of yourself will often lower your self-esteem. I could go on and on, but I don't want to insult you or try to type stuff that you already do.
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I have this weird problem of talking to some girls alot one year and then the next year I completely stop talking to them. If I think about some stuff too much, it happens, I jinx myself all the time and it sucks
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On December 08 2008 11:47 il0seonpurpose wrote:Show nested quote +On December 08 2008 10:38 emperorchampion wrote:
imo opinion it would be the social atmosphere (party) with alcohol as just the catalyst to go to the party. There are a lot of people who drink that you don't want to make friends with.
It will be uncomfortable, but hey rome wasn't built in a day.
( +2 for rhyme and cheesy quote) What rhyme?
but HEY rome wasn't built in a DAY
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ever heard of the cult international assistance organization Toastmasters?
not the one related to kitchen appliances
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You don't have to be the life of the party. Just don't say you're busy all the time when people ask you to do things. Offer to help people out if they look really busy. Stay after class gets out and ask someone you've spoken with before if they have anything to do/want to get lunch? It's not super hard. I generally don't employ the strategies I've listed here because people around here are bumfuck stupid, but you might have more success. Good luck.
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just put up an "i just don't give a fuck" attitude..and you'll be fine
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Find yourself a good wingman.
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- join a club/sports team
- force yourself to accept every single invitation to go out/go somewhere where you will meet and have to talk to people you dont know yet
- practice socially relevant exercises from pickup artist programs
- http://www.succeedsocially.com
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Investing your time on starcraft and posting on tl.net will only make your problem worse. Go outside and socialize!
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Are you comfortable having a conversation with any close relatives, like a sibling or parent? I do, and it surprises me sometimes that my dad thinks I have a sharp wit when I feel my anxiety disorder holding me back from normal everyday things. High school(I assume you're there @ 17) sucks for social situations unless you have friends with similar interests. Joining a club or something would be a good idea to start, I wish I would have joined the anime club.
Also, please don't turn to drinking in a routine because that can lead to dependence especially with some type of anxiety. You're also underage, and need to keep your driving privileges, or acquire them at some point! 
Confidence can be addressed by things like grades, exercising and hygiene. If you do take care of these things regularly you should feel good in general.
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