[B]On April 12 2008 07:19 Jibba wrote:
In my personal, completely uneducated opinion it's probably true that most girls are looking for an alpha male, but keep in mind he's not looking to attract 99% of girls. He's looking to find 1 right girl and that can happen any time and place. There are things you can do to give yourself more opportunities, such as being funny, but I think it'd be a mistake for him to conform himself to "the game" just to meet people. You can be confident and assertive with yourself, without becoming an asshole to other people. That's exactly what the idiots he hates do.
Yes he can remain the same and hope for the best OR he can do something about it. Since he is not satisfied with the current situation, I think the logical choice is for some ACTION.
In an extreme example, lets imagine a girl who believes there is 1 guy out there who is fated to find her so she goes about "being herself" and does nothing about getting in shape, does not bother with make up and general grooming, because she believes all those superficial things are only what "bitches" do and that one day, there shall come one guy that amazingly loves her for who she is and her "inner beauty". The sad reality is that men are initially attracted to beauty and by not making any effort on her appearance, she is missing out on being able to choose the best among many different men. She cannot expect that 1 guy to find her... that would be too easy don't you think? She should put effort into finding that 1 guy by making herself attractive to 1000 guys.
The above example is just like nice guys who refuse to change their behavior in front of girls. Except that the nice guys are worse off, because women are very unlikely to go from friends to lovers so making that initial attraction is very important.
Also, please understand that learning "game" will not make someone an asshole. In fact, assholes naturally have "game" so they don't need to learn it. It is far more likely that nice guys learn "game" so that they can be with their one girl instead of losing her to assholes. This is like an ugly girl putting on makeup to attract the guy she wants who would otherwise go out with the naturally beautiful bitch.