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Alright, I recently started talking to this girl from one of my classes. I've known her for a year or so, but we've never been anything more than casual acquaintances. I know she exists, and she knows I exists too.
Anyway, a friend of mine recently got into this dumb flame war on Twitter with this girl's best friend. Let's call her Jane, and let her best friend be Brendan. He's gay. So my friend is pretty homophobic and starts calling Brendan names, referring to him as a "thing" and "vermin" on Twitter. Some vague retaliatory tweets were exchanged and things got pretty heated I guess.
Now let me explain - my friend was in a relationship with Jane until November last year. Jane dumped him because he's a douchenozzle. My friend is slightly bitter about Brendan because he thinks Brendan was the catalyst for Jane dumping him, with Brendan being her best friend and all. So let's fast forward to this year January. My friend talked to me about Brendan, and was complaining about how Brendan was the one who convinced Jane to break up with him and so on - it was ludicrous. He told me to go on Twitter to see how much of an ass Brendan was online. I did, and I found his blog. That's when I first found out Brendan was gay.
I told my friend about Brendan being gay, and told him about his blog. He didn't really do much with the information, but he was starting to say some pretty homophobic things. I left it alone because I didn't care much - he wasn't openly saying it to people. Then 2 days ago the whole gay bashing thing started on Twitter. Jane and Brendan retaliated. Things were getting pretty out of hand. It started when Brendan made the standard teenage tweet about my friend's new girlfriend. It went something like this:
1) date a slut
2) tell everyone
3) ???
4) profit
So that's what started the whole thing I guess. Pretty stupid stuff. But that's not the point. Sorry for making this too confusing.
When I realized that I had enough, and that was when my friend called Brendan a 'thing', I sent Brendan a message on Twitter. In that message I apologized to him for subjecting him to the homophobic remarks as I was the one who told my friend about his homosexuality. I explained myself for a bit, saying that I was completely fine with homosexuals and I supported gay rights, the whole works. He accepted my apology and I got a new friend.
Brendan mentioned that I should've talked to Jane before telling my friend about his blog. I apologized again. Then I sent a message to Jane, apologizing to her. She accepted my apology too. We then started talking about other things.
We talked about her and her family, she told me about the problems she had with her family. She asked me how much I knew about her especially since I hung around with her ex so much (they hate each other). I told her that I knew some things. She asked what those things were, so that she could either establish them as either fact or fiction. It was all done in a very friendly manner.
This afternoon I started texting her again. We talked about her favourite books and authors, and I talked about mine. The conversation was very pleasant. We talked about her favourite graphic novel (comic) which was 'I Kill Giants', and I made a joke about how I was reading about "messed up girls" as she asked me to read the comic and I was working on reading Lolita. She mentioned that she hasn't read Lolita, but knew about the book. She asked me for a brief synopsis for Lolita, and I gave it to her. The conversation then shifted to why Humbert Humbert was the pervert that he was, and we talked about him having an underdeveloped sex life, and so on. She brought up the birds and the bees, and I tried making a joke. I asked why it had to be birds and bees. She proposed that it was because bees had stingers and birds, well, birds can be slang for penis in Singapore. So that happened.
The rest of the conversation was about her passions and mine. There wasn't anything worth mentioning here.
Well, I guess what I'm trying to ask is this:
Should I be worried about getting friend-zoned and what should I do if I should be worrying about this? Should I just let things take it's natural course? If it happens, it happens, right?
  
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So you're trying to hit on your good friend's ex (whom he hates) ? Sounds like a recipe for disaster XD
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I really couldn't understand anything  Can you give a short summary for the guys with short attention spans?
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On March 28 2013 22:07 AngryMag wrote:I really couldn't understand anything Can you give a short summary for the guys with short attention spans?
Three guys, one hole. Two guys are gay. One doesn't admit it yet. OP wants a hole.
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Sounds a whole lot like you should go be friends with Jane and Brendan man, and not this other dude who seems, to use your term, to be a "douchenozzle". And then see what happens from there. It's possible to have a good conversation with someone who isn't interested in you, although I think you're safe placing your bet on the fact that Jane does at least entertain the thought of liking you. If you're not going to ditch douchenozzle I'd be expecting a friendzone and/or get-the-fuck-away zone eventually.
My plan of attack:
6 Don't hang out with homophobic friends anymore
9 Scout. find out if Jane is into any movies you are also into and try to watch a few with her at your place/hers (not a movie at a movie theater, those make for terrible first/early dates), Obviously, replace "movie watching" with whatever activity fits your situation/preferences, that's just my go to as a movie lover and because it's a fantastic move-making atmosphere with proper micro
14 Fast Expand, lay the groundwork for the lategame. Suggest bringing over a frozen pizza, etc, or take her out to somewhere casual first. And also, be prepared and accepting if Brendan is present, he won't cock block you obviously, so no big deal. Also, when the best friend approves you're in man. Ease into getting her alone, but ask her in a way that suggests that's what you want without being ambiguous or confusing
15 Scouting push. When you hang out together (alone or not) play it cool, but be intentional with you intentions man. Sit next to her, don't shy away if you accidentally touch
23A Attempt to do damage. If you can make a move, even a tiny one, do it man. If she's open to snuggle, go for it, if she's willing to talk late, stay, etc. If a big one, go for it also, IMO you should always slow play it (makes it better/more real), but that's up to you
23B If unable to do damage: Maintain course, expand further. Pull back, but don't friendzone yourself. Just because you aren't feeling her up after hanging out once and she isn't spending every second with you every day doesn't mean your cause is lost. Keep up the pressure, never let her drone too hard. Otherwise the cause will be lost no matter what and you'll get friendzoned. D:
**Note: IMO, if you're feeling like she isn't picking up on your signals and/or you feel like you're just terrible at sending them or whatever and it's looking like your scouting pressure is going to backfire and lose you the game, just pull your workers and tell her in plain old English what you are interested in, make a smooth joke about it or something, you're the one talking to her, you'll know what to say if it comes to that.
12:00-14:00 If gg still isn't thrown out, then you should go for it, wherever the line has been drawn, cross it. I.e. if you have sat very next to each other watching a movie, but not "cuddled" per se, go for the arm-around, if you've done that but nothing else, try to kiss her (WITH TACT obviously, don't just dive bomb it), if you've gone out but not alone, ask her out again but specify it as a date-date this time, alone, just the two of you, etc.
If you succeed and she responds positively to whatever move you end up making I demand that you hear "EEE HAAANN TIMIIIIINNGGGG" in your head as it happens. Alternatively, go full man mode and stop mid-move and shout it yourself.
Hopefully I gauged your situation accurately and didn't just throw out a bunch of beginner's advice for someone who didn't need it. :/ But you are the one who made the girl blog man, so don't blame me! lol
gl hf bro. 
"REMEMBER: EEEEE HHAAAAANNNN TIIIIIIMMMIIIIIINNNGGGGGGGG!!!!!!!!!!!"
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On March 28 2013 22:24 Burrfoot wrote:Show nested quote +On March 28 2013 22:07 AngryMag wrote:I really couldn't understand anything Can you give a short summary for the guys with short attention spans? Three guys, one hole. Two guys are gay. One doesn't admit it yet. OP wants a hole.
ROFLROFLROFL
This is completely accurate IMO. Approved as official TL;DR, should be added to OP.
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If you don't care about your friendship with this guy, then it isn't much of a friendship and just go for it. If you want him as a friend, you can friendzone her. Make up your mind about your allegiances though.
Also, OP def wants a hole.
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On March 28 2013 22:50 Kommatiazo wrote:Sounds a whole lot like you should go be friends with Jane and Brendan man, and not this other dude who seems, to use your term, to be a "douchenozzle". And then see what happens from there. It's possible to have a good conversation with someone who isn't interested in you, although I think you're safe placing your bet on the fact that Jane does at least entertain the thought of liking you. If you're not going to ditch douchenozzle I'd be expecting a friendzone and/or get-the-fuck-away zone eventually. My plan of attack: 6 Don't hang out with homophobic friends anymore 9 Scout. find out if Jane is into any movies you are also into and try to watch a few with her at your place/hers (not a movie at a movie theater, those make for terrible first/early dates), Obviously, replace "movie watching" with whatever activity fits your situation/preferences, that's just my go to as a movie lover and because it's a fantastic move-making atmosphere with proper micro14 Fast Expand, lay the groundwork for the lategame. Suggest bringing over a frozen pizza, etc, or take her out to somewhere casual first. And also, be prepared and accepting if Brendan is present, he won't cock block you obviously, so no big deal. Also, when the best friend approves you're in man. Ease into getting her alone, but ask her in a way that suggests that's what you want without being ambiguous or confusing 15 Scouting push. When you hang out together (alone or not) play it cool, but be intentional with you intentions man. Sit next to her, don't shy away if you accidentally touch 23A Attempt to do damage. If you can make a move, even a tiny one, do it man. If she's open to snuggle, go for it, if she's willing to talk late, stay, etc. If a big one, go for it also, IMO you should always slow play it (makes it better/more real), but that's up to you 23B If unable to do damage: Maintain course, expand further. Pull back, but don't friendzone yourself. Just because you aren't feeling her up after hanging out once and she isn't spending every second with you every day doesn't mean your cause is lost. Keep up the pressure, never let her drone too hard. Otherwise the cause will be lost no matter what and you'll get friendzoned. D: **Note: IMO, if you're feeling like she isn't picking up on your signals and/or you feel like you're just terrible at sending them or whatever and it's looking like your scouting pressure is going to backfire and lose you the game, just pull your workers and tell her in plain old English what you are interested in, make a smooth joke about it or something, you're the one talking to her, you'll know what to say if it comes to that. 12:00-14:00 If gg still isn't thrown out, then you should go for it, wherever the line has been drawn, cross it. I.e. if you have sat very next to each other watching a movie, but not "cuddled" per se, go for the arm-around, if you've done that but nothing else, try to kiss her (WITH TACT obviously, don't just dive bomb it), if you've gone out but not alone, ask her out again but specify it as a date-date this time, alone, just the two of you, etc. If you succeed and she responds positively to whatever move you end up making I demand that you hear "EEE HAAANN TIMIIIIINNGGGG" in your head as it happens. Alternatively, go full man mode and stop mid-move and shout it yourself. Hopefully I gauged your situation accurately and didn't just throw out a bunch of beginner's advice for someone who didn't need it. :/ But you are the one who made the girl blog man, so don't blame me! lol gl hf bro. "REMEMBER: EEEEE HHAAAAANNNN TIIIIIIMMMIIIIIINNNGGGGGGGG!!!!!!!!!!!"
This is one of the most fun and creative answers I've readed in a Girls Blog... the best part is that makes perfect sense!! XD
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why dont you start of with this:
firstly: try to make sure whenever you text her its something that makes her smile
secondly: try to text her late, it's a good sign if she is comfortable texting you late at night, its a great sign if she is comfortable texting you while she is in bed!
ride on playa, let us know when there is some improvement
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bro thats like gold shit right there, girls associate that with all kinds of good and sexy shit
you gotta get that girl tot the point where she is anticipating your messages, and that they always make her smile
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As much as I would want for you to find someone, I think you really need to consider what kind of person you are and whether you'd be comfortable dating the ex of a friend.
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On March 28 2013 22:50 Kommatiazo wrote:Sounds a whole lot like you should go be friends with Jane and Brendan man, and not this other dude who seems, to use your term, to be a "douchenozzle". And then see what happens from there. It's possible to have a good conversation with someone who isn't interested in you, although I think you're safe placing your bet on the fact that Jane does at least entertain the thought of liking you. If you're not going to ditch douchenozzle I'd be expecting a friendzone and/or get-the-fuck-away zone eventually. My plan of attack: 6 Don't hang out with homophobic friends anymore 9 Scout. find out if Jane is into any movies you are also into and try to watch a few with her at your place/hers (not a movie at a movie theater, those make for terrible first/early dates), Obviously, replace "movie watching" with whatever activity fits your situation/preferences, that's just my go to as a movie lover and because it's a fantastic move-making atmosphere with proper micro14 Fast Expand, lay the groundwork for the lategame. Suggest bringing over a frozen pizza, etc, or take her out to somewhere casual first. And also, be prepared and accepting if Brendan is present, he won't cock block you obviously, so no big deal. Also, when the best friend approves you're in man. Ease into getting her alone, but ask her in a way that suggests that's what you want without being ambiguous or confusing 15 Scouting push. When you hang out together (alone or not) play it cool, but be intentional with you intentions man. Sit next to her, don't shy away if you accidentally touch 23A Attempt to do damage. If you can make a move, even a tiny one, do it man. If she's open to snuggle, go for it, if she's willing to talk late, stay, etc. If a big one, go for it also, IMO you should always slow play it (makes it better/more real), but that's up to you 23B If unable to do damage: Maintain course, expand further. Pull back, but don't friendzone yourself. Just because you aren't feeling her up after hanging out once and she isn't spending every second with you every day doesn't mean your cause is lost. Keep up the pressure, never let her drone too hard. Otherwise the cause will be lost no matter what and you'll get friendzoned. D: **Note: IMO, if you're feeling like she isn't picking up on your signals and/or you feel like you're just terrible at sending them or whatever and it's looking like your scouting pressure is going to backfire and lose you the game, just pull your workers and tell her in plain old English what you are interested in, make a smooth joke about it or something, you're the one talking to her, you'll know what to say if it comes to that. 12:00-14:00 If gg still isn't thrown out, then you should go for it, wherever the line has been drawn, cross it. I.e. if you have sat very next to each other watching a movie, but not "cuddled" per se, go for the arm-around, if you've done that but nothing else, try to kiss her (WITH TACT obviously, don't just dive bomb it), if you've gone out but not alone, ask her out again but specify it as a date-date this time, alone, just the two of you, etc. If you succeed and she responds positively to whatever move you end up making I demand that you hear "EEE HAAANN TIMIIIIINNGGGG" in your head as it happens. Alternatively, go full man mode and stop mid-move and shout it yourself. Hopefully I gauged your situation accurately and didn't just throw out a bunch of beginner's advice for someone who didn't need it. :/ But you are the one who made the girl blog man, so don't blame me! lol gl hf bro. "REMEMBER: EEEEE HHAAAAANNNN TIIIIIIMMMIIIIIINNNGGGGGGGG!!!!!!!!!!!"
Seeing ee han timing makes me dead nostalgic. Wish I could go back to 2004 and watch OSLs live lol.
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On March 29 2013 01:12 obesechicken13 wrote:
As much as I would want for you to find someone, I think you really need to consider what kind of person you are and whether you'd be comfortable dating the ex of a friend.
I think I'm fine with it, especially since he has a new girlfriend now and he supports me.
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found an article for you OP, i agree with a lot of their shit, check it out
texting for ballers
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On March 29 2013 01:14 Azera wrote:Show nested quote +On March 29 2013 01:12 obesechicken13 wrote:
As much as I would want for you to find someone, I think you really need to consider what kind of person you are and whether you'd be comfortable dating the ex of a friend. I think I'm fine with it, especially since he has a new girlfriend now and he supports me.
Then go for it.
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stop texting too much and take it to the real world.
If you keep texting without meeting, it can get very awkward. You want to move things along anyways so you dont end up being the guy she texts to comfort herself.
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Like i give a fuck..
User was warned for this post
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expect to lose your friend if you start dating his exgirlfriend :p
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On March 28 2013 22:50 Kommatiazo wrote:Sounds a whole lot like you should go be friends with Jane and Brendan man, and not this other dude who seems, to use your term, to be a "douchenozzle". And then see what happens from there. It's possible to have a good conversation with someone who isn't interested in you, although I think you're safe placing your bet on the fact that Jane does at least entertain the thought of liking you. If you're not going to ditch douchenozzle I'd be expecting a friendzone and/or get-the-fuck-away zone eventually. My plan of attack: 6 Don't hang out with homophobic friends anymore 9 Scout. find out if Jane is into any movies you are also into and try to watch a few with her at your place/hers (not a movie at a movie theater, those make for terrible first/early dates), Obviously, replace "movie watching" with whatever activity fits your situation/preferences, that's just my go to as a movie lover and because it's a fantastic move-making atmosphere with proper micro14 Fast Expand, lay the groundwork for the lategame. Suggest bringing over a frozen pizza, etc, or take her out to somewhere casual first. And also, be prepared and accepting if Brendan is present, he won't cock block you obviously, so no big deal. Also, when the best friend approves you're in man. Ease into getting her alone, but ask her in a way that suggests that's what you want without being ambiguous or confusing 15 Scouting push. When you hang out together (alone or not) play it cool, but be intentional with you intentions man. Sit next to her, don't shy away if you accidentally touch 23A Attempt to do damage. If you can make a move, even a tiny one, do it man. If she's open to snuggle, go for it, if she's willing to talk late, stay, etc. If a big one, go for it also, IMO you should always slow play it (makes it better/more real), but that's up to you 23B If unable to do damage: Maintain course, expand further. Pull back, but don't friendzone yourself. Just because you aren't feeling her up after hanging out once and she isn't spending every second with you every day doesn't mean your cause is lost. Keep up the pressure, never let her drone too hard. Otherwise the cause will be lost no matter what and you'll get friendzoned. D: **Note: IMO, if you're feeling like she isn't picking up on your signals and/or you feel like you're just terrible at sending them or whatever and it's looking like your scouting pressure is going to backfire and lose you the game, just pull your workers and tell her in plain old English what you are interested in, make a smooth joke about it or something, you're the one talking to her, you'll know what to say if it comes to that. 12:00-14:00 If gg still isn't thrown out, then you should go for it, wherever the line has been drawn, cross it. I.e. if you have sat very next to each other watching a movie, but not "cuddled" per se, go for the arm-around, if you've done that but nothing else, try to kiss her (WITH TACT obviously, don't just dive bomb it), if you've gone out but not alone, ask her out again but specify it as a date-date this time, alone, just the two of you, etc. If you succeed and she responds positively to whatever move you end up making I demand that you hear "EEE HAAANN TIMIIIIINNGGGG" in your head as it happens. Alternatively, go full man mode and stop mid-move and shout it yourself. Hopefully I gauged your situation accurately and didn't just throw out a bunch of beginner's advice for someone who didn't need it. :/ But you are the one who made the girl blog man, so don't blame me! lol gl hf bro. "REMEMBER: EEEEE HHAAAAANNNN TIIIIIIMMMIIIIIINNNGGGGGGGG!!!!!!!!!!!"
If this would have been the blog 5/5 Awesome
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