On January 12 2013 17:53 rezoacken wrote: And your purpose as a man is to avoid such women.
Have fun
Most guys aren't that great at it. Hence, divorce.
One thing I've never understood is why the huge stigma attached to it. Everyone makes mistakes, but why is marriage the one mistake that folks expect you to bear for the rest of your life?
I don't know either. I don't care if people divorce that seems a normal thing to me, it just didn't work out big deal move on. I just feel sad for the kids (and even then, they won't turn into psychos and things could be worse... like your dad staying with your mom but beating her up hey ?).
I also think marriage is archaic anyway and won't marry, ever; even though my gf is pissed by me not wanting marriage. But I don't care, I don't share the conviction that this is necessary in the 21th century. If that's enough for her to leave me, so be it, I,m not a travesty.
My last ex tried to get pregnant when I told her I didn't want to marry her by age 25. When I found out she wasn't taking the pill and called her out on it, she broke up with me. Consider yourself lucky
On January 12 2013 17:53 rezoacken wrote: And your purpose as a man is to avoid such women.
Have fun
Most guys aren't that great at it. Hence, divorce.
One thing I've never understood is why the huge stigma attached to it. Everyone makes mistakes, but why is marriage the one mistake that folks expect you to bear for the rest of your life?
I don't know either. I don't care if people divorce that seems a normal thing to me, it just didn't work out big deal move on. I just feel sad for the kids (and even then, they won't turn into psychos and things could be worse... like your dad staying with your mom but beating her up hey ?).
I also think marriage is archaic anyway and won't marry, ever; even though my gf is pissed by me not wanting marriage. But I don't care, I don't share the conviction that this is necessary in the 21th century. If that's enough for her to leave me, so be it, I,m not a travesty.
My last ex tried to get pregnant when I told her I didn't want to marry her by age 25. When I found out she wasn't taking the pill and called her out on it, she broke up with me. Consider yourself lucky
You know, that should be considered child abuse. To knowingly try to get pregnant without the father in the know about it. The start of their lives will be built on the parents inability to trust each other among other things such as single parents and alimony and spending child support checks entirely on shoes. (you rage, you lose.)
Or at least, they should consider to consider it child abuse.
On January 11 2013 15:20 Ximeng wrote: Shady writes a lot of interesting things and he is usually spot on.
But I am going to be honest here - even though you might not like it.
This woman's blog is spot on, no sarcasm. It is upsetting and certainly ugly but also quite sound. This is a lot like women's real politik. As a man reading it I am quite offended but I won't let that cloud my judgement. While not ideal, this blueprint is optimal.
....really? because i showed this to my wife to get her opinion on it and she said that is the worst piece of garbage shes ever read and that it is a blue print to ruining your life. Pretty much 99% of the advice is ment for gold diggers and people who like to walk a fine line between corporate fraud and out right lying (it is best to milk maternity leave for as long as possible so you can get paid without doing your job, while the legal department is deciding whether to fire you or not, you can draw a paycheck the whole time. Its great to start up a business even if you don't have any intentions of creating revenue because you can draw a salary until the investors stop investing.)
Not to mention the straight gold digging advice, its best to attend business school early on and only after you've had face and chest plastic surgery.............
The blue print is far from optimal if you actually want to be considered, you know, a human being.
.... err they don't want to be considered as human beings. They want to be trophies.
There's one point in the article that I really agree with: one person should stay at home if possible.
I'm pretty sure I will be able to comfortably provide for myself and my family, but at the same time, I have no problems staying and home and take care of my children while my future wife provides.
On January 12 2013 17:53 rezoacken wrote: And your purpose as a man is to avoid such women.
Have fun
Most guys aren't that great at it. Hence, divorce.
One thing I've never understood is why the huge stigma attached to it. Everyone makes mistakes, but why is marriage the one mistake that folks expect you to bear for the rest of your life?
I don't know either. I don't care if people divorce that seems a normal thing to me, it just didn't work out big deal move on. I just feel sad for the kids (and even then, they won't turn into psychos and things could be worse... like your dad staying with your mom but beating her up hey ?).
I also think marriage is archaic anyway and won't marry, ever; even though my gf is pissed by me not wanting marriage. But I don't care, I don't share the conviction that this is necessary in the 21th century. If that's enough for her to leave me, so be it, I,m not a travesty.
My last ex tried to get pregnant when I told her I didn't want to marry her by age 25. When I found out she wasn't taking the pill and called her out on it, she broke up with me. Consider yourself lucky
I would rather say you were unlucky. As far as I'm aware of, what you experienced isn't the norm. Also, maybe I'm blind but I know my gf enough so that she would never do something like that.
I feel like the best part of shady blogs isn't what he's writing about and whatever point there is to it. It's just enjoying the read 'cause that's stylish writing.
Didn't read her article, don't plan to. I wouldn't want to taint that moment.
On January 12 2013 07:24 h3r1n6 wrote: And only in very rare circumstances should someone ever consider homeschooling, unless I am overestimating the US education system.
In a lot of parts of the country the education system is definitely bad enough that you wouldn't want your kids going to the public schools, but if you're wealthy enough that you have the option to homeschool, private school is better anyway. Generally only crazy people homeschool because they don't want their kids to learn evolution and stuff like that.
I know some parents who thought they were smarter than their kids' teachers who would homeschool. It happens, even in places like NYC/NJ/Boston/Bay Area where there are excellent public school available
I think you have to have a sort of skewed sense of reality if you think you can do a better job than professionals at educating your kids, though. If you wanna send your kids to private schools, fine (and, again, if you can afford to stay home with your kids, you can probably afford to send them to private school).
edit: and that's ignoring the whole process of socialization that occurs in schools. home-schooled kids test really well and are generally very smart, I'm not arguing that, but you have to keep social stuff in mind.
edit x2: and the point I was trying to make is that "I am smarter than the teachers and therefore I'm going to teach my kid myself" is a special brand of crazy that falls under "only crazy people homeschool."
Teachers are professionals at controlling children, not necessarily at educating them. Furthermore, teacher:student ratios are generally much lower than parent:child ratios... and a good textbook beats an average teacher.
On January 12 2013 05:08 hp.Shell wrote: Or you could create revenue streams so you don't have to work, teach your kids how to make money without getting a job so they don't have to go to school past high school, wear what you want and do what you want. You can live in society without being a wage slave.
On January 12 2013 05:15 farvacola wrote: As someone who gets paid both to work out and read books, I'm right there with ya. The narrative of a hope crushing society is only as meaningful as one makes it.
I'm having trouble telling the difference between this woman and a cell of Grey Goo
gather resources and spawn and teach my spawn to gather resources and spawn and teach my spawn to gather resources and spawn and teach my spawn to gather resources and spawn and teach my spawn to...
Here's a fun thought... "It's all retch and no vomit"
On January 14 2013 06:15 Dapper_Cad wrote: I'm having trouble telling the difference between this woman and a cell of Grey Goo
gather resources and spawn and teach my spawn to gather resources and spawn and teach my spawn to gather resources and spawn and teach my spawn to gather resources and spawn and teach my spawn to...
Here's a fun thought... "It's all retch and no vomit"
On January 14 2013 07:11 ZERG_RUSSIAN wrote: Shady, how old are you?
Why do I keep getting this question?
Because you're either... 1 - Too young to be this cynical 2 - Too young to know what the hell you're talking about 3 - Too old to get how things aren't the way they used to be 4 - Too old because you're bitter and hate youth 5 - Old enough to know better, young enough not to care.
I'm betting 5. (Like the stars you got.) I liked your blog, btw. I think it does have a disturbing hook in reality, in as much as the blog it's referencing appears to be itself delusional but reasonable from a certain mindset. There are a fair number of people so beaten down that they will actually think this makes perfect sense. And then other people will see it and laugh hysterically.
Regarding your wanna-be-a-baby-momma ex-gf - Effing crazy beaches mang. My brother's first wife wanted to "have a baby, it'll bring our marraige together" while they were having troubles. (They instead had a divorce - it too took around 9 months to finalize, but was painful to both of them and didn't completely fuck over some innocent kid.)
Speaking of kids, on the topic of home schooling - a teacher should be a guide to information, but some are glorified prison guards babysitters. You can get an education, a good education, without a teacher, or a school, if you are willing to work for it. Where does someone get that kind of motivation and drive? Probably from parents - either through early life experiences, encouragement, or waking up one day and going "Oh hell no, I'm not growing up to be them!" If your parent is also your teacher... yeah, it might work out but I'm thinking you run into other problems. And a great many people that want to home school their kids fall into the "might also think tin foil would make a lovely chappeau" camp. Not all of them, by any means, but a fair number of the ones I've met.
Oh, and in general - money can't buy happiness. Happiness doesn't guarantee money. But they can be complementary, money is a tool and happiness is a state of mind.
On January 11 2013 16:09 domane wrote: Forgoing children would be a lot simpler and carry less risks. Who knows if you'll be satisfied with your husband and little ones down the road.
Very interesting blog post. Thanks.
Er as long as you're a good parent the chance of you being "dissatisfied" with your children is pretty small. Even if my marriage doesn't work out the daughter I have from it is more than worth it and I'd do it all again.
On January 14 2013 07:11 ZERG_RUSSIAN wrote: Shady, how old are you?
Why do I keep getting this question?
The question means: "You´re appearing to be too young to be as knowledgable on the subject as is required for a meaningful contribution thereon".
Usually this Kind of suspicion is raised by:
- very frequent posting --> getting recognized by peers - threads that function as a stage for the OP --> making a desirable impression (deep, singular, sexy, rebel and anything not teenager)
These two points have been the motivation for practically everything any teenager has ever done in the history of mankind. Nobody experiencing it realizes this, because they lack perspective that comes from experience and they´re drugged by hormones. On the other hand, everybody who finished this phase of character development knows these Patterns. And that is why older (i.e. experienced) folks can spot younger folks even in an anonymous context.
Though, it´s important to note that there is nothing wrong with being a teenager/young adult.
You don't need really need much money to have happy, successful kids. I can see some people want a certain living standard but it's not related a single bit to how happy children can be.
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