EPTOn January 01 2013 13:25 Krakoskk wrote:
Yes, it was self centered because it was about me. Me being hurt, me being extremely uncomfortable and me making sure that she knew and could handle my feelings about him. And she pretty much agrees :/ (though not exactly of course, she loves him.)
She did talk about other things and about their past a little and the dad's past a little, and it's fine. I just believe that when you love someone, you need to clear the air about this kind of stuff. A good relationship is one where you can both be self centered when you need to be and ready to understand them when they need it.
Ktimekiller is obviously completely ridiculous. His own daughter admitted that he's "pretty evil" to everyone but her and her brother, when I bluntly said he was as close to the personification as evil as possible for me. Its an issue, if we didn't talk about it, and discuss it, and make sure it was an open subject.
I Know where she was coming from. He's her fucking father. And I pretty much know why he's like that, racists tend to be fairly boring in that sense. I just had to tell her that I was hurt and I found that she could understand why. Obviously if she got all defensive and actually acted like she didn't care I was hurt, then it's pretty obvious it's a relationship that was set to go bad... but it's not how we work. Overall, despite any bad feelings or doubts or imperfections, I can find a warmth now in the apparent beautiful grace we share as a couple in surpassing that.
Yes, it was self centered because it was about me. Me being hurt, me being extremely uncomfortable and me making sure that she knew and could handle my feelings about him. And she pretty much agrees :/ (though not exactly of course, she loves him.)
She did talk about other things and about their past a little and the dad's past a little, and it's fine. I just believe that when you love someone, you need to clear the air about this kind of stuff. A good relationship is one where you can both be self centered when you need to be and ready to understand them when they need it.
Ktimekiller is obviously completely ridiculous. His own daughter admitted that he's "pretty evil" to everyone but her and her brother, when I bluntly said he was as close to the personification as evil as possible for me. Its an issue, if we didn't talk about it, and discuss it, and make sure it was an open subject.
I Know where she was coming from. He's her fucking father. And I pretty much know why he's like that, racists tend to be fairly boring in that sense. I just had to tell her that I was hurt and I found that she could understand why. Obviously if she got all defensive and actually acted like she didn't care I was hurt, then it's pretty obvious it's a relationship that was set to go bad... but it's not how we work. Overall, despite any bad feelings or doubts or imperfections, I can find a warmth now in the apparent beautiful grace we share as a couple in surpassing that.
All of your posts wreak of arrogance about how much better you are than this guy. You are fixated on this to an unhealthy degree, like you've never met an asshole before, and demand they be expunged from the globe.
Just to requote:
Yes, it was self centered because it was about me. Me being hurt, me being extremely uncomfortable and me making sure that she knew and could handle my feelings about him.
me me me me me me
