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I once told a girl I liked her breasts. It worked! We were not the classiest people at the time I admit...
... Hmm where was I going with this? Oh yeah, same as it ever was: put yourself out there. She says yes: yay! She says no: nutcracker, but there will be another. Wait too long: she won't!
I know it's always easier to say, "Just do it," but that's basically the solution to achieving nearly every goal in life.
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WHY HASN'T ANYONE EVEN COMMENTED ON THE KITTY CARDBOARD RACE CAR!?!? That is fucking hilarious! I gave you 5/5 just for that! The look on that cat's face . . . it look like he/she's really pissed off at being forced into doing something cute. Did he/she go in there by his/herself?
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Just add her, tell her you want to find out if her personality can live upto the standards her beauty sets. (Or something.) The point is, you found her attractive physically and barely know anything about her. Don't pussy foot around that if you don't have to,
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Honestly I found that just letting a girl know that you want to get to know her more works better than you'd think.
Sometimes if I really don't have any reason to talk to a girl, I just say it outright that I want to get to know them more, and start talking a little bit.
Also that kitty cat looks so cute and hilarious.
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The easy way is to be confident, a little forward, and sweet. Just tell her, "I found you really smart and attractive, and maybe you could grace my presence with a date sometimes (with a natural smile here)?" then you can follow it up with (after a yes), "Great (small laugh here) well I'll pick you up this weekend, and take you on an awesome date to X, Y, Z places (the best places are little gems that you can really hit it off with her, not like some random bar or club) and you can set the time, after all you are gracing my time ." Seriously, this girls seems to be the sweet girl type.
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Thank you for your time and advice everyone. I think I've gained the little confidence needed to tip the scale. Now I'm going to the gym to sprint a marathon while conjuring something smooth to go with, be it a SURPRISE! ! Facebook invitation or something over the phone.
On November 13 2012 09:51 Kanaz wrote:
and you're studying engineering? DTU ? :>
Nope, Aarhus
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On November 13 2012 07:32 Left4Cookies wrote: And I can't stop thinking about how I should approach this.. "Hey, it's me, that guy who you shook hands with two days ago at some bar! You like coffee?" or "Random dude wants to be your friend"-request on Facebook or whatever..
Oh my god kid, where the fuck is your balls. That's so utterly pathetic. "Hey its me the guy you shook hands with two days ago ?" Are you kidding me ? You're so special that she is going to remember you over all the other people's hands she probably shook that day....right. You did nothing memorable and you're just another no name, soon to be completely forgotten stranger in her book and here you are pining away like some love sick school boy while some callous, dont-give-a-fuck dude is pumping her full of cock.
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On November 13 2012 19:05 RomanianSavior wrote:Show nested quote +On November 13 2012 07:32 Left4Cookies wrote: And I can't stop thinking about how I should approach this.. "Hey, it's me, that guy who you shook hands with two days ago at some bar! You like coffee?" or "Random dude wants to be your friend"-request on Facebook or whatever.. Oh my god kid, where the fuck is your balls. That's so utterly pathetic. "Hey its me the guy you shook hands with two days ago ?" Are you kidding me ? You're so special that she is going to remember you over all the other people's hands she probably shook that day....right. You did nothing memorable and you're just another no name, soon to be completely forgotten stranger in her book and here you are pining away like some love sick school boy while some callous, dont-give-a-fuck dude is pumping her full of cock.
That was his point, that he wouldn't be remembered at all because he did nothing to stand out.
And @OP, just call her or add her on facebook already (I'm sure you have mutual friends so it isn't 'just some random guy'). The worst thing that can happen is she says no.
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Okay, so I texted her, she texted me back not knowing who exactly I was and we exchanged a few more after that with me shrugging it off as if it was no biggie, making a joke, trying to point her in the right direction (by briefly talking about who I was with because I knew she knew them and so on). So after about an hour and a half where we do this, I ask her out for coffee again (my opening message also had this element). This is an hour and a half ago. Nowhere during our chat did she seem like she would throw me away, she could have done that on multiple occasions! The suspense is killing!
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On November 14 2012 06:34 Left4Cookies wrote: Okay, so I texted her, she texted me back not knowing who exactly I was and we exchanged a few more after that with me shrugging it off as if it was no biggie, making a joke, trying to point her in the right direction (by briefly talking about who I was with because I knew she knew them and so on). So after about an hour and a half where we do this, I ask her out for coffee again (my opening message also had this element). This is an hour and a half ago. Nowhere during our chat did she seem like she would throw me away, she could have done that on multiple occasions! The suspense is killing!
nice work man! don't let the results matter too much though. The important thing is you tried and so far have not failed miserably. if she's not in just take more shots! every body! shots, shots shots shots! shots-shots shots and so on -lmfao
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Best choice to to get your friend to organise another event that you can join. Requires patience, but it guarantees better results and you get a second chance to make a good impression, especially if it's dinner at a restaurant or drinks/dessert and not at a dance club.
Edit: oh jeez, just realised you went the cold turkey text route without any way to identify yourself from the other guys she met over the last two days. GL, if you get the coffee date then it's on, but jeez, you could have played this safer instead of a marine-SCV all-in off a low eco 1-base.
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I totally get what you mean 1ntrigue. I was also quite sure you were right, until 20 mins ago when I was eating breakfast. Holy cock, she responds, apologising she didn't answer yesterday and even follows up on my lame joke.
I guess she forgot to pull her workers to defend that all-in.
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On November 13 2012 12:51 fire_brand wrote:Show nested quote +On November 13 2012 12:11 ~ava wrote: Just draw a picture of the girl you want to take out... and give it to her for like a gift or something. Don't do this. This is only cute if you already know each other. Get your friend to organize a group thing with that girl and talk to her more there. It might be awesome of her if she could make it so you were the only two singles going. If that's not really a possibility just call her. If you aren't going to find another way then you really have nothing to lose.
It might take you a couple of hours to get the shading on her upper lip though....
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On November 14 2012 17:02 Left4Cookies wrote: I totally get what you mean 1ntrigue. I was also quite sure you were right, until 20 mins ago when I was eating breakfast. Holy cock, she responds, apologising she didn't answer yesterday and even follows up on my lame joke.
I guess she forgot to pull her workers to defend that all-in.
So, are you going for that coffee?
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On November 14 2012 17:09 Fumanchu wrote:Show nested quote +On November 13 2012 12:51 fire_brand wrote:On November 13 2012 12:11 ~ava wrote: Just draw a picture of the girl you want to take out... and give it to her for like a gift or something. Don't do this. This is only cute if you already know each other. Get your friend to organize a group thing with that girl and talk to her more there. It might be awesome of her if she could make it so you were the only two singles going. If that's not really a possibility just call her. If you aren't going to find another way then you really have nothing to lose. It might take you a couple of hours to get the shading on her upper lip though....
Build her a cake or something -pedro voice
so good fumanchu. made my morning
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GOSH!
Asking her out and getting no response for a while is kind of a deathblow. I don't have a lot of experience with girls but I've had some success with suggesting breakfast as a first date instead of coffee, it's a little bit more original and there's no ambiguity, breakfast is definitely a date.
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On November 15 2012 00:33 ~ava wrote: GOSH!
Asking her out and getting no response for a while is kind of a deathblow. I don't have a lot of experience with girls but I've had some success with suggesting breakfast as a first date instead of coffee, it's a little bit more original and there's no ambiguity, breakfast is definitely a date.
your mom goes to college ! 8-@ !!
good idea, coffee is a little boring, makes your breath smell bad thus no kissing. Orange juice and eggs + morning vibes for the win. or even perhaps a fruit salad or toast n jelly
as long as he's hanging out with her he's better than if he's not hanging with her, therefore he is successful.
by the way, i think that for some hetrosexual females, once they have found you adequate in some way romantically, they will often want some attention even if they're not interested in it going anywhere, which i think is fine, as long as I can keep the right distance without going sweet on her.
"you're not going sweet on that doctor, are ya, jimmy?" - Tychus
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Honestly people hype up talking to girls way too much. You shouldn't be treating it like a math problem, or because you -should- be doing it. Do it if you find talking and hitting on girls fun. Don't stress, if a girl isn't into you just find another there's plenty out there.
But let me give you a super bro tip OP -- call them. Don't fucking text them, CALL THEM when you want to ask them to do something. When you text you run the very possible and common risk of them just flat out not responding or taking like a week to do it. Call them, and force an IMMEDIATE reaction off of them. When you text they can sit around and think about it, force it to be a quick emotional one. Plus when you hear someones voice asking you out it's far more personal and they're more likely to say yes. You can set up a time and get it over with quickly. Plus it makes her feel special since every guy these days just texts. You took time out of your day to call her, it shows your caring and shit. Bitches love caring guys.
Remember, you -might- feel like crap if you get try and get rejected but you will -always- feel like crap if you never try.
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