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I was browsing TL, and I read Chef's blog about passion. That touched me on an emotional level. It made me realize that writing has the potential to evoke different emotional responses; my blogs so far have uh had an emotional response, but I wanted to try to change it up a bit so here goes.
There is something I like to call the "golden rule" that I try to live my life by.
"Leave people better than you found them"
The rule means that when you interact with people, you have the ability to leave them better than you found them. Here is an example of what I mean. Let's say you have a chance to have a conversation with a KESPA progamer such as Flash. After your interaction with him, you are left in shock and awe because of the words of wisdom that he bestowed upon you when you asked him about a TvZ question.
After the interaction with him, you feel enlightened and happier that you learned something new and got to meet someone as great as Flash, who has accomplished oh so much.
What if you had the chance to brighten up a person's day? to help them appreciate life and to help them feel good about themselves purely through something as simple as a 5 minute conversation?
Well, this is something that I try to strive for everyday; to touch a person's life and help make their day better. It can be something as simple as a genuine compliment or giving help where help is needed. Actually, it can be even simpler than a compliment. Just smiling at strangers can help make their day better or holding the door open for them. Even though the latter of them wouldn't have a major impact on someone's day, it still does make your day better.
If this doesn't make sense yet, look at this from a role reversal perspective. Let's say you are going through a hard day and have to study for a test, or you got fired from your job. You are feeling stressed and most likely awful as well. If only there was something significant in your day that made you feel better about yourself to help cope with the situation on hand.
Then, while you are wallowing in your problems and going about your day, a stranger smiles at you. Smiling is contagious, just like yawns are. You see someone yawn, a subconscious notion of yawning is put into your head and most likely within 5-10 minutes or even less you realize that you are about to yawn as well. Although you might not smile 5-10 minutes later, a subconscious notion of happiness is sent through because a smile is 99% of the time associated with happiness.
You also tend to remember people more when they smile at you, I mean cmon. Let's say your walking in a place where you don't know ANYONE like NYC. You walk down the street and unless you are a celeb or something, no one is going to pay any attention to who you are or what you are doing.
What smiling to a stranger does, or anything else, is that it is a gesture that you are paying attention to the other person. You genuinely went out of your way to do something for them that took a conscious effort on your part. I'm going to be a bit blunt here now. EVERYONE likes attention. The easiest example here is all the girl blogs here. How much better is it if someone you find attractive smiles at you or strikes up a conversation. All of a sudden, shit just got real and you're mood spikes up.
There is a lot more stuff I would like to add but that would mean branching off into different points and I will end up getting side tracked and writing a fucking thesis on my life values. Ill save it for the future 
 
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FUCK i meant to fucking change the blog title but it posted....ITS NOT DONE YET FUCK
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I am just so curious here...
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how does flash leave better than when you found him? you gained something, but i'm not so sure i can say the same for him.
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lol nice title 
But yeah, for sure, this is a great idea to have. Simple, like most great things in life are. Whatever you do, treat others how you'd like to be treated yourself, and leave others better than you found them.
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5/5
Finally a blog that doesn't reek of freshman-ness:p
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Supposedly given 5/5 ratings, still 2 stars overall. Is there something stopping him from having a higher rating?
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I'm pretty sure a lot of people just like to drive by and 1-star his blogs. If you look on the rankings, he's the first place blogger when it comes to lowest rating =P
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Holy shit, 2 stars average rating. You're moving up in this world, State. You will reach them 5 stars yet.
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ok NOW I am done. took longer than intended because I was having an argument with my mom, punched a wall etc but its finally finished now!
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dude, why did you change it, it was perfect but seriously, I think this is one of your better blogs
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On October 15 2012 12:23 StateofReverie wrote:
ok NOW I am done. took longer than intended because I was having an argument with my mom, punched a wall etc but its finally finished now!
I initially read that as you had an argument with the wall, and then you punched your mom. How silly of me.
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On October 15 2012 12:25 Wortie wrote:dude, why did you change it, it was perfect but seriously, I think this is one of your better blogs
Well, I decided why not change the direction in which my blogs are going, see what kind of responses it provokes
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On October 15 2012 12:23 StateofReverie wrote:
ok NOW I am done. took longer than intended because I was having an argument with my mom, punched a wall etc but its finally finished now!
Punched a wall? Come on now... I liked this blog as it was more adult than your others but than you have to say you did that...
Edit for clarification: Saying you punched a wall to me either shows you lack emotional control or are trying to sound tough which is what I disapprove of.
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On October 15 2012 12:32 Clayberg wrote:Show nested quote +On October 15 2012 12:23 StateofReverie wrote:
ok NOW I am done. took longer than intended because I was having an argument with my mom, punched a wall etc but its finally finished now! Punched a wall? Come on now... I liked this blog as it was more adult than your others but than you have to say you did that... Edit for clarification: Saying you punched a wall to me either shows you lack emotional control or are trying to sound tough which is what I disapprove of.
its actually sort of a wtf factor.
The context of me punching the wall was a way to get full attention on what I was saying. It's complicated and Im leaving it at that. im sort of not happy that I even mentioned it, too late to delete it now.
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The camp ground rule, Woody'sGamerTag is a big proponent of this in the youtube CoD scene. It's the basic rule that I follow in regard to pretty much everything.
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dunno how i should feel about this blog...
3/5 for "not sure if gusta"
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If you really want to make a difference you should leave people richer than when you met them.
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Punch a wall when making a point. sick advice
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Your blog is at an unprecedented 2.5 stars! :O
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I hope you didn't get this rule from some PUA.
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I'm tempted to not believe that this is a SoR blog. It just seems... too good to be true. I'm also horribly tempted to rate it 1 star out of habit. Must resist.
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What were you arguing with your mom about that made you punch a wall? That's a pretty serious argument.
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On October 15 2012 15:33 surfinbird1 wrote:
I hope you didn't get this rule from some PUA.
I did, but I apply it to everyone!
On October 15 2012 16:15 heyoka wrote:
What were you arguing with your mom about that made you punch a wall? That's a pretty serious argument.
she basically kept asking me fucking loaded questions. I wikipedia'd the definition and even told her what a loaded question is, that it's not a good kind of question because it basically assumes one thing that may or may not be true (religion in this case).
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On October 15 2012 16:15 heyoka wrote:
What were you arguing with your mom about that made you punch a wall? That's a pretty serious argument.
Depending on the state of their relationship, even something mundane can turn hostile. It happens.
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On October 15 2012 14:01 Fumanchu wrote:
If you really want to make a difference you should leave people richer than when you met them.
I get your intent with your version of the golden rule, but everyone wants something different (as quoted above), so that makes you the judge for determining what makes a person better... TBH most people will not appreciate your actions and if anything will expect more of you. Anyways just trying to help leave you better than I found you 
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but u didnt even give her pie
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On October 15 2012 22:08 GohgamX wrote:Show nested quote +On October 15 2012 14:01 Fumanchu wrote:
If you really want to make a difference you should leave people richer than when you met them. I get your intent with your version of the golden rule, but everyone wants something different (as quoted above), so that makes you the judge for determining what makes a person better... TBH most people will not appreciate your actions and if anything will expect more of you. Anyways just trying to help leave you better than I found you
I see it as giving away free stuff. Does a hug cost you anything besides calories to do?
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I read this and no way I thought it was stateofreverie
someone musta hacked his account
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On October 15 2012 22:29 StateofReverie wrote:Show nested quote +On October 15 2012 22:08 GohgamX wrote:On October 15 2012 14:01 Fumanchu wrote:
If you really want to make a difference you should leave people richer than when you met them. I get your intent with your version of the golden rule, but everyone wants something different (as quoted above), so that makes you the judge for determining what makes a person better... TBH most people will not appreciate your actions and if anything will expect more of you. Anyways just trying to help leave you better than I found you I see it as giving away free stuff. Does a hug cost you anything besides calories to do?
If some random stranger gave me twenty bucks, I would be a heck of a lot happier than if they gave me a smile or a hug. Hell, if someone gave me a quarter that would be pretty cool.
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