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It might be hard for me to look at this rationally right now, but let me make a pros/cons list here of him
Pros - different major student, get to meet new people outside of my classes - cool with gaming - socializes with a lot of people - has a fridge Cons - Smells......so bad because he doesn't shower.
- was on my computer at god knows when in the morning doing homework. I was half awake when I saw him but I freaked the fuck out. He came too close to my computer. I have no password and all of my accounts names/passwords are autosaved in firefox so he could have basically gone into anything and fucked shit up.
- socializes excessively to where the point he is doing homework mere hours before the next class. I see this leading to a not good place. I hope he finds friends to study with
- says confusing phrases that often mean something else that he is trying to say
- does not know boundaries of the room. I gave him a brownie yesterday so he would shut the fuck up. He does not. He asks for more. At this point I just stop trying and move onto a different topic
- does not drink a lot of water, but when he DOES drink water, its from the water bottles that I recycle and fill up. He then throws the water bottles away.
I guess I will put up with him because a happy room mate makes a lot of your problems go away. I REALLY need to find something for the smell though....
   
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try communicating instead of blogging, LOL welcome to real life
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I'm sure he will read this and get back to you on your feedback.
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I'll go through the cons one at a time.
- Tell him to take a fucking shower. If he doesn't, chuckle to yourself that all his socializing won't get him laid. - Put a password on your computer. Problem solved. - Not your problem, who cares. - Even more who cares. - Maybe just tell him to shut the fuck up. That's not the message I would have gotten from being gifted a brownie. - Tell him to get his own water bottles.
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what i want to know is how do you put up with sleeping in a room with another person, especially one that you recently met?
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On September 07 2012 22:34 Iranon wrote: I'll go through the cons one at a time.
- Tell him to take a fucking shower. If he doesn't, chuckle to yourself that all his socializing won't get him laid. - Put a password on your computer. Problem solved. - Not your problem, who cares. - Even more who cares. - Maybe just tell him to shut the fuck up. That's not the message I would have gotten from being gifted a brownie. - Tell him to get his own water bottles. He was yelling at me about how he thought it was stupid that I considered my computer better than him. Yes I straight out told him you are not allowed to sit on my chair or be anywhere NEAR it because I don't trust you. He went off ranting for like 5 minutes about all of the smallest things that I did.
The worst part about arguing with ignorant people is that they fail to comprehend anything but their own view. I seriously doubt I would win an argument against him because in his mind, I will always be the bad guy if I choose to do that
I am probably going to have to put a password on my computer. I have never had to do one before....so it will take a little getting used to
We have a whiteboard and I have a message for my room mate that says "fuck you". I was being completely serious. I don't think he got the tone of the message or else I feel like he would have been a lot more offended than he was.
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this hurts my brain. things he does bug the shit out of you, but shit you do can't bug the shit out of him? and if it does he's ignorant and stubborn? that sounds awfully ignorant and stubborn.
you realize if you don't fix this shit, you are going to be LIVING with an ENEMY. and it'll be your own fault.
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I hope you keep writing blogs here. They're quite amusing and very good for my self-esteem.
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1. Tell him to shower.
2. Put a password on your computer.
3. Don't worry about his social life, as long as it doesn't negatively impact yours (e.g. as long as you can go to sleep when you need to).
4. Just ask him to clarify his speech and learn what he's saying.
5. Talk to him about boundaries and force him to understand.
6. Tell him that recycling is cool yo. Or just hide your own water and make him buy his own shit.
Also, regarding one of your pros ("different major student, get to meet new people outside of my classes"), sometimes it's nice to have a roommate with the same major so that you guys can connect on an intellectual level, study together, and have the same classes/ schedule. Not always, but just throwing that out there for the future in case you want to find a new roommate.
Good luck. Try not to let the little things get to you, but don't let him walk all over you either. Keep in mind it's your place too. (It is, after all, a relationship.)
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On September 07 2012 22:43 StateofReverie wrote:Show nested quote +On September 07 2012 22:34 Iranon wrote: I'll go through the cons one at a time.
- Tell him to take a fucking shower. If he doesn't, chuckle to yourself that all his socializing won't get him laid. - Put a password on your computer. Problem solved. - Not your problem, who cares. - Even more who cares. - Maybe just tell him to shut the fuck up. That's not the message I would have gotten from being gifted a brownie. - Tell him to get his own water bottles. He was yelling at me about how he thought it was stupid that I considered my computer better than him. Yes I straight out told him you are not allowed to sit on my chair or be anywhere NEAR it because I don't trust you. He went off ranting for like 5 minutes about all of the smallest things that I did. The worst part about arguing with ignorant people is that they fail to comprehend anything but their own view. I seriously doubt I would win an argument against him because in his mind, I will always be the bad guy if I choose to do that I am probably going to have to put a password on my computer. I have never had to do one before....so it will take a little getting used to We have a whiteboard and I have a message for my room mate that says "fuck you". I was being completely serious. I don't think he got the tone of the message or else I feel like he would have been a lot more offended than he was.
Honestly I think you're the douche in this story and that you might want think some more about this:
He was yelling at me about how he thought it was stupid that I considered my computer better than him. Yes I straight out told him you are not allowed to sit on my chair or be anywhere NEAR it because I don't trust you.
The worst part about arguing with ignorant people is that they fail to comprehend anything but their own view.
Lol.
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The brownie thing.. Is that a thing? Like if you give someone a brownie then that's some sort of subtle gesture to make them stfu? I wasn't familiar with this.
No real input here though. Blogging and leaving offensive messages in writing is clearly the ideal way of dealing with this situation.
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There is a lot of good advice in this thread (albeit some of it is hidden within sarcasm) so far. The only thing I think I can contribute right now is this: either man up and talk to him about the things that bother you and why they bother you, or find a new roommate. The small things might seem small now but they WILL eat away at you and they WON'T get better if you don't address them. Remember that you don't necessarily need to convince him to see things your way as long as you convey why they make you upset.
Having all that said, you certainly need to consider whether or not you should be upset by some of the things you're complaining about. In my opinion, only about half of your "cons" have any merit to them. As it was said earlier, welcome to real life where you have to learn to adapt to the fact that not everyone is the same as you.
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I left the brownie because I bought a sandwhich, 3 brownies, pudding, and animal crackers with cream. I felt bad for being a dick the other day by giving him a bad high(even though it was half his fault) so I gave him the brownie.
So far though its been 2 days in a row that hes kept me up. Hopefully this wont become a thing
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Calgary25969 Posts
Isn't this like week 2 of university for you?
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On September 07 2012 22:41 Cubu wrote: what i want to know is how do you put up with sleeping in a room with another person, especially one that you recently met? Being able to function around other human beings isn't exactly a superpower.
OP: Put a password on your computer if you're worried - that's your responsibility. Quit bitching about his lifestyle, it makes you look ignorant. Do talk to him about issues though: especially 'boundaries' - my college gives you an opportunity to set them out in writing, I don't know if yours does, but communication is important.
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On September 08 2012 00:12 Chill wrote: Isn't this like week 2 of university for you? hahaaha I was thinking the same thing. I always loved hearing roommate stories from friends.
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It's not really going away without talking to him about it. And be mindful of the tone you use, it can set some people off and throw up their defenses.
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On September 08 2012 00:17 Dfgj wrote:Show nested quote +On September 07 2012 22:41 Cubu wrote: what i want to know is how do you put up with sleeping in a room with another person, especially one that you recently met? Being able to function around other human beings isn't exactly a superpower. OP: Put a password on your computer if you're worried - that's your responsibility. Quit bitching about his lifestyle, it makes you look ignorant. Do talk to him about issues though: especially 'boundaries' - my college gives you an opportunity to set them out in writing, I don't know if yours does, but communication is important. I agree wtih this, BUT, some of those things directly influence his lifestyle, so don't let that continue, other than that, make your OWN changes rather than make HIM change. Its much easier that way.
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Gonna be funny when your roomate beats your arrogant nerd ass up when he reads this blog rofl
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I see no problems. My last roommate was naked wearing nothing but a towel 90% of the time he was in the room, jacked off more than frequently, locked the room while I was in the bathroom, got into fist fights in the room, and god knows what else. I didn't give a fuck cause its temporary and all I was forced to do there is sleep.
You seem like a massive Dick BTW.
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Hong Kong9151 Posts
This blog is incredibly passive-aggressive. Talk with your roommate about any issues you might have instead of ranting about it online in a forum that can't actually fix the problem. Failing that, request a transfer if possible.
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you sound like a bit of a fag
User was temp banned for this post.
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On September 08 2012 02:07 N3rV[Green] wrote: I see no problems. My last roommate was naked wearing nothing but a towel 90% of the time he was in the room, jacked off more than frequently, locked the room while I was in the bathroom, got into fist fights in the room, and god knows what else. I didn't give a fuck cause its temporary and all I was forced to do there is sleep.
You seem like a massive Dick BTW. He doesn't. And I don't know what kind of ghetto you put up with but I don't share the place where I sleep with animals.
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The story of all roommate problems: lack of communication. The best roommate I ever had was a huge bitch but I liked her a lot because of that. A bitch would tell you to shower, clean up, keep your paws off her cookies, etc. So, be a bitch. Or at least talk to him, outline your boundaries. If you don't do this, you'll walk around pissed all the time looking for reasons to bitch about him more in your blogs/to your friends. Not a very fun time imo. Imagine the things you could do with all the extra time you have that used to be spent on this
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I love how you ignore posts that makes u come off as an equal asshole
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Just be happy he doesn't beat your ass.
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On September 08 2012 04:12 NEEDZMOAR wrote: I love how you ignore posts that makes u come off as an equal asshole Haha Ive gotten so many it is just bothersome to keep replying
As for everyone else, next time I him Im gonna straighten things out. I feel a bit justified being an asshole to him. I am giving him tough love. Maybe I will set him up to be a successful person. MAYBE i am just beinf a dick
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On September 08 2012 04:17 StateofReverie wrote:Show nested quote +On September 08 2012 04:12 NEEDZMOAR wrote: I love how you ignore posts that makes u come off as an equal asshole Haha Ive gotten so many it is just bothersome to keep replying As for everyone else, next time I him Im gonna straighten things out. I feel a bit justified being an asshole to him. I am giving him tough love. Maybe I will set him up to be a successful person. MAYBE i am just beinf a dick Not your job to 'set him up' to be anything, don't try to change him. You're a new college kid, you've got your own growing to do.
You're pretty justified in telling him not to touch your things (computer, etc) without permission though.
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I ran into him today, he was right infront of the stairs that I had to go up. I just death stared at him while saying whats up. No response so hes gonna be ignoring me for right now. I think I will let him talk first because I feel like If I say something, shit is going to blow up really fast and we might end up in a fist fight in which he will inevitably lose
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On September 08 2012 05:55 StateofReverie wrote: I ran into him today, he was right infront of the stairs that I had to go up. I just death stared at him while saying whats up. No response so hes gonna be ignoring me for right now. I think I will let him talk first because I feel like If I say something, shit is going to blow up really fast and we might end up in a fist fight in which he will inevitably lose
Damn bro you are alpha as fuck.
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How does he socialize so much if he doesn't shower? O.o
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On September 08 2012 06:05 ssi.bal-listic wrote: How does he socialize so much if he doesn't shower? O.o In my opinion, he is sort of an akward person to talk with in big group conversations so I would probably assume he doesn't say as much in groups or maybe he takes a shower after he gets out of the room so he doesnt smell like shit.
I dont know when I was waken up this morning, but my room mate had the lights on and he was doing his homework. His schedule for the day, Friday, consists of no classes yet he was up at like 3 in the morning doing homework. Maybe he is splitting his work up and he's trying to cram a paper or some assignment or something right? Well he slept in till about 12 today. Then he watched some tv, HOPEFULLY took a shower, and then went outside and started socializing. Why couldn't he do his homework then? Im sure he has a perfectly good reason for it.
I don't even care if he is a lazy fuck because I am lazy too, but when I make the decision to go to sleep so I can get 8 hours of sleep, I'd like to be able to actually get some sleep so that I don't feel like a zombie in the morning. I am definitly going to be talking to him about this over the weekend, which I am NOT looking forward to at all
edit: this fight between us has made him shut the fuck up. this motherfucker is trying to avoid me now lol. I have been playing it cool and just moving on but hes still caught up about it
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I've read a few of your blogs, and most of the people commenting in them don't seem to have a high opinion of you. You never get upset though. You just provide more information, and then make another blog. I'm starting to get curious. Whats the point?
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On September 08 2012 06:45 32 wrote: I've read a few of your blogs, and most of the people commenting in them don't seem to have a high opinion of you. You never get upset though. You just provide more information, and then make another blog. I'm starting to get curious. Whats the point?
If no one will talk to you in real life you have limited options.
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my god you are a tool
WHY ISNT HE DOING THIS WHY ISNT HE DOING WHAT I WANT WAH WAH WAH
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On September 08 2012 06:45 32 wrote: I've read a few of your blogs, and most of the people commenting in them don't seem to have a high opinion of you. You never get upset though. You just provide more information, and then make another blog. I'm starting to get curious. Whats the point? Curious are you? I actually mentioned in one of my first blogs about college of how I am going to be keeping a blog of my college experience. Now whether people want to read or not, I let them decide by posting it on TL rather than keeping it in a little diary (i have a friend who does that and I have nothing against it except that you have to carry around a pen in your pocket).
I know that I am going to laugh at these when I see them in the future, like when I'm a sophomore, junior, and senior to be reminded of my freshman year. I also like the amount of comments that I get and what people get out of the way I say how these events happened and what I think about them
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FUCKERS GONNA BLEED
but seriously, you need to chill the fuck out. You act like he's a fucking guest. Granted, computer should be off limits, all the rest is unimportant.
And while I sympathize with you entirely on that personal space issue, even that you'll have to compromise at some point in college. JLIG.
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Again, he's your roommate. I wound up being good friends with my freshy roommate, and along with more of our friends we lived together until the end. Because we were easy going. Not because we were better than each other ( I was better than him,) or because I didn't know how to share, or because I had a serious dependency on watching the simpsons 24/7.
But because who cares. I was awesome, he was awesome, we had a good time.
And people don't go away to college to move in with their mother. So keep that in mind.
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On September 08 2012 07:23 StateofReverie wrote:Show nested quote +On September 08 2012 06:45 32 wrote: I've read a few of your blogs, and most of the people commenting in them don't seem to have a high opinion of you. You never get upset though. You just provide more information, and then make another blog. I'm starting to get curious. Whats the point? Curious are you? I actually mentioned in one of my first blogs about college of how I am going to be keeping a blog of my college experience. Now whether people want to read or not, I let them decide by posting it on TL rather than keeping it in a little diary (i have a friend who does that and I have nothing against it except that you have to carry around a pen in your pocket). I know that I am going to laugh at these when I see them in the future, like when I'm a sophomore, junior, and senior to be reminded of my freshman year. I also like the amount of comments that I get and what people get out of the way I say how these events happened and what I think about them You will laugh at how stupid they are, just like I am laughing a them now. I know it's hard to have perspective different from your current situation, but you should do what I (try to) do and just think, before you do anything, "Will I regret this in the future?" and "Is this really important?" It helps give me perspective and the focus to do what what I don't immediately want to do.
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On September 08 2012 07:23 StateofReverie wrote:Show nested quote +On September 08 2012 06:45 32 wrote: I've read a few of your blogs, and most of the people commenting in them don't seem to have a high opinion of you. You never get upset though. You just provide more information, and then make another blog. I'm starting to get curious. Whats the point? Curious are you? I actually mentioned in one of my first blogs about college of how I am going to be keeping a blog of my college experience. Now whether people want to read or not, I let them decide by posting it on TL rather than keeping it in a little diary (i have a friend who does that and I have nothing against it except that you have to carry around a pen in your pocket). I know that I am going to laugh at these when I see them in the future, like when I'm a sophomore, junior, and senior to be reminded of my freshman year. I also like the amount of comments that I get and what people get out of the way I say how these events happened and what I think about them This whole thing is interesting I agree- most people just post their side of any disagreement, or at least emphasize their case whenever I read the blogs, but you seem to be recording the the world as you experience it, and you are getting results from this effort. There is a certain amount of intrigue involved as well, I find myself wondering what you will post about next. Thanks for telling me why the posts, I probably should've checked your earlier blogs before asking.
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On September 08 2012 07:35 32 wrote:Show nested quote +On September 08 2012 07:23 StateofReverie wrote:On September 08 2012 06:45 32 wrote: I've read a few of your blogs, and most of the people commenting in them don't seem to have a high opinion of you. You never get upset though. You just provide more information, and then make another blog. I'm starting to get curious. Whats the point? Curious are you? I actually mentioned in one of my first blogs about college of how I am going to be keeping a blog of my college experience. Now whether people want to read or not, I let them decide by posting it on TL rather than keeping it in a little diary (i have a friend who does that and I have nothing against it except that you have to carry around a pen in your pocket). I know that I am going to laugh at these when I see them in the future, like when I'm a sophomore, junior, and senior to be reminded of my freshman year. I also like the amount of comments that I get and what people get out of the way I say how these events happened and what I think about them This whole thing is interesting I agree- most people just post their side of any disagreement, or at least emphasize their case whenever I read the blogs, but you seem to be recording the the world as you experience it, and you are getting results from this effort. There is a certain amount of intrigue involved as well, I find myself wondering what you will post about next. Thanks for telling me why the posts, I probably should've checked your earlier blogs before asking. its ok haha and now I will keep making blogs for you to follow :D
But ya Im so glad you asked that and now you knwo :D
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Usually when people are being unreasonable like this its because they are reacting to something that has happened them or something you did. Reasoning with him in this state is mostly useless until you find what bothers him. your distrustfulness for example could be a factor.
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Not sure if you realize it, but you're kind of being a huge jerk to him. It sounds like he just wants to be your friend, and share your computer with you. You should seriously praise him, and even try to help him with his homework. College is tough, and some people need to be guided the right way. I have numerous bad college experiences, and a lot of them would be way too inappropriate for tl.net.
This story kind of reminds me of this guy, who had bad add/adhd probs at my high school. He was social, but wasn't too popular, because he talked often. He didn't feel comfortable, if he wasn't talking all the time. You should maybe direct him to a major, in which he could "focus" harder, and use his extra energy, and just praise him on it. He might even get so zoned in on it, that he won't shower for the whole weekend, he'll just be studying, because he's so interested.
This guy got accepted into a good school, and had a full scholarship, but was often bullied, because he was a ginger supposedly. People would tie his bike up in the trees all the time, and cut the lock on his bike, just to laugh at him getting his bike out of the tree all the time. For the past 7 years, he's been working at Zaxby's, and has finally gotten back to school this year.
He's a lot older now, and he's a lot more mature too. You just have to give him time, and help him out. If you're a lot bigger than him, then you should be standing up for him, instead of being a douche to him. It's easy to instigate fights, but it takes a better man to stop them.
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On September 11 2012 08:01 Nymphaceae wrote:Not sure if you realize it, but you're kind of being a huge jerk to him. It sounds like he just wants to be your friend, and share your computer with you. You should seriously praise him, and even try to help him with his homework. College is tough, and some people need to be guided the right way. I have numerous bad college experiences, and a lot of them would be way too inappropriate for tl.net. This story kind of reminds me of this guy, who had bad add/adhd probs at my high school. He was social, but wasn't too popular, because he talked often. He didn't feel comfortable, if he wasn't talking all the time. You should maybe direct him to a major, in which he could "focus" harder, and use his extra energy, and just praise him on it. He might even get so zoned in on it, that he won't shower for the whole weekend, he'll just be studying, because he's so interested. This guy got accepted into a good school, and had a full scholarship, but was often bullied, because he was a ginger supposedly. People would tie his bike up in the trees all the time, and cut the lock on his bike, just to laugh at him getting his bike out of the tree all the time. For the past 7 years, he's been working at Zaxby's, and has finally gotten back to school this year. He's a lot older now, and he's a lot more mature too. You just have to give him time, and help him out. If you're a lot bigger than him, then you should be standing up for him, instead of being a douche to him. It's easy to instigate fights, but it takes a better man to stop them.  I wasnt being a jerk to him. Frankly that is absolutely ridiculous "share your computer with you". My computer actually has some important information about financials and passwords for accounts already saved. I cant tell him about it brcause he doesnt know that kind of stuff is there because he didnt look so really all i can say is gtfo without giving a solid reason that doesnt make me look like a jerk. I have my room mates back though. If he gets beaten up I got his back im not gonna call him a little bitch for getting beat up.
But if he is rolling down a hill and loses control and hits his head against a brick wall and has to go to the emergency room to get some stiches, then thats his dumb luck. By the way he didnt even tell me about it. My gay friend made a big deal about it and blew the situation out of proportion.
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FYI regarding the smell, one of my 2nd year roommates (it was a triple) had all his clothes in one giant pile under his bed, which he never washed, but only sprayed with febreze (air freshener) from time to time.
At least he showered regularly, but other than that his giant clothespile made our room smell like shit. I contemplated pissing all over it once, but my girlfriend was there and she dissuaded me (we sprinkled glitter all over it instead.... yay for cute little asian girls keeping you from doing dumb shit lol).
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I don't know how else to explain it to you, in a way that it would be TL appropriate. You should invite him to study with you. It sounds like he needs some one to help get his attention on the books. I could give you numerous examples of my bad room mates, but most of them are too inappropriate for TL. Going to write a short list of things that weren't too bad, and ask you if they've happened.
1. Has your room mate pissed in the ice maker? 2. Has your room mate pooped in the vacuum? 3. Has your room mate pooped on the couch? 4. Has your room mate tried to convince everyone that you're a jezebel? 5. Has your room mate tried to convince people that he's had sex with you? 6. Has your room mate begged to cry on your shoulder? 7. Has your room mate left their blood undies on the floor, until bugs started to live off of them? 8. Has your room mate screamed at himself all throughout the night? 9. Has your room mate been to prison? 10. Has your room mate stolen all of your food? 11. Has your room mate poured milk all over your computer? 12. Has your room mate talked a lot about raping an anonymous some one, and then asked you what certain drugs would do to you? 13. Has your room mate had a long lecture with you about how you shouldn't study what you're studying, because it's for sinners, and then tried to burn your books? 14. Has your room mate told people that you were in satan club?
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On September 11 2012 09:31 Nymphaceae wrote: I don't know how else to explain it to you, in a way that it would be TL appropriate. You should invite him to study with you. It sounds like he needs some one to help get his attention on the books. I could give you numerous examples of my bad room mates, but most of them are too inappropriate for TL. Going to write a short list of things that weren't too bad, and ask you if they've happened.
1. Has your room mate pissed in the ice maker? 2. Has your room mate pooped in the vacuum? 3. Has your room mate pooped on the couch? 4. Has your room mate tried to convince everyone that you're a jezebel? 5. Has your room mate tried to convince people that he's had sex with you? 6. Has your room mate begged to cry on your shoulder? 7. Has your room mate left their blood undies on the floor, until bugs started to live off of them? 8. Has your room mate screamed at himself all throughout the night? 9. Has your room mate been to prison? 10. Has your room mate stolen all of your food? 11. Has your room mate poured milk all over your computer? 12. Has your room mate talked a lot about raping an anonymous some one, and then asked you what certain drugs would do to you? 13. Has your room mate had a long lecture with you about how you shouldn't study what you're studying, because it's for sinners, and then tried to burn your books? 14. Has your room mate told people that you were in satan club?
You should totally make this a blog series.
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On September 11 2012 09:59 Shady Sands wrote:Show nested quote +On September 11 2012 09:31 Nymphaceae wrote: I don't know how else to explain it to you, in a way that it would be TL appropriate. You should invite him to study with you. It sounds like he needs some one to help get his attention on the books. I could give you numerous examples of my bad room mates, but most of them are too inappropriate for TL. Going to write a short list of things that weren't too bad, and ask you if they've happened.
1. Has your room mate pissed in the ice maker? 2. Has your room mate pooped in the vacuum? 3. Has your room mate pooped on the couch? 4. Has your room mate tried to convince everyone that you're a jezebel? 5. Has your room mate tried to convince people that he's had sex with you? 6. Has your room mate begged to cry on your shoulder? 7. Has your room mate left their blood undies on the floor, until bugs started to live off of them? 8. Has your room mate screamed at himself all throughout the night? 9. Has your room mate been to prison? 10. Has your room mate stolen all of your food? 11. Has your room mate poured milk all over your computer? 12. Has your room mate talked a lot about raping an anonymous some one, and then asked you what certain drugs would do to you? 13. Has your room mate had a long lecture with you about how you shouldn't study what you're studying, because it's for sinners, and then tried to burn your books? 14. Has your room mate told people that you were in satan club? You should totally make this a blog series. It's not appropriate. I'll pm you the long story, because I know you're more mature.
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On September 11 2012 09:59 Shady Sands wrote:Show nested quote +On September 11 2012 09:31 Nymphaceae wrote: I don't know how else to explain it to you, in a way that it would be TL appropriate. You should invite him to study with you. It sounds like he needs some one to help get his attention on the books. I could give you numerous examples of my bad room mates, but most of them are too inappropriate for TL. Going to write a short list of things that weren't too bad, and ask you if they've happened.
1. Has your room mate pissed in the ice maker? 2. Has your room mate pooped in the vacuum? 3. Has your room mate pooped on the couch? 4. Has your room mate tried to convince everyone that you're a jezebel? 5. Has your room mate tried to convince people that he's had sex with you? 6. Has your room mate begged to cry on your shoulder? 7. Has your room mate left their blood undies on the floor, until bugs started to live off of them? 8. Has your room mate screamed at himself all throughout the night? 9. Has your room mate been to prison? 10. Has your room mate stolen all of your food? 11. Has your room mate poured milk all over your computer? 12. Has your room mate talked a lot about raping an anonymous some one, and then asked you what certain drugs would do to you? 13. Has your room mate had a long lecture with you about how you shouldn't study what you're studying, because it's for sinners, and then tried to burn your books? 14. Has your room mate told people that you were in satan club? You should totally make this a blog series. Did you get it?
I just wrote a few pages about my room mates, but I think it was too long or something.
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I don't really get why this is still going. For the record, we are cool. He asked me "are we cool" and I said "yes". Now we are cool
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On September 11 2012 12:04 StateofReverie wrote: I don't really get why this is still going. For the record, we are cool. He asked me "are we cool" and I said "yes". Now we are cool I hope so, you're really lucky tbh
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On September 11 2012 12:10 Nymphaceae wrote:Show nested quote +On September 11 2012 12:04 StateofReverie wrote: I don't really get why this is still going. For the record, we are cool. He asked me "are we cool" and I said "yes". Now we are cool I hope so, you're really lucky tbh what makes you say that?
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On September 11 2012 12:34 StateofReverie wrote:Show nested quote +On September 11 2012 12:10 Nymphaceae wrote:On September 11 2012 12:04 StateofReverie wrote: I don't really get why this is still going. For the record, we are cool. He asked me "are we cool" and I said "yes". Now we are cool I hope so, you're really lucky tbh what makes you say that?
because you don't understand how you are obviously being just as much of an asshole as he is
telling someone "fuck you" isn't civil, because it sure doesn't sound like you asked him reasonably about all those issues you have listed out here
even if you are "right," that actually means fuck all, because you're trying to live with this guy for a year. you have to compromise and act nice even if you aren't feeling nice or you'll both have a very miserable year. try asking civilly, don't yell or tell him he's a lazy fuck or retarded or smelly or whatever
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I can kick him really hard between the legs for 20 bucks and return tickets =D
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On September 11 2012 12:34 StateofReverie wrote:Show nested quote +On September 11 2012 12:10 Nymphaceae wrote:On September 11 2012 12:04 StateofReverie wrote: I don't really get why this is still going. For the record, we are cool. He asked me "are we cool" and I said "yes". Now we are cool I hope so, you're really lucky tbh what makes you say that? Out of the 5 room mates I had, the best one was a convict, who burned down a club/bar.
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On September 11 2012 13:02 Nymphaceae wrote:Show nested quote +On September 11 2012 12:34 StateofReverie wrote:On September 11 2012 12:10 Nymphaceae wrote:On September 11 2012 12:04 StateofReverie wrote: I don't really get why this is still going. For the record, we are cool. He asked me "are we cool" and I said "yes". Now we are cool I hope so, you're really lucky tbh what makes you say that? Out of the 5 room mates I had, the best one was a convict, who burned down a club/bar. Seconded. Nymph's story is absolutely insane.
Nymph, you should probably publish it. There's nothing in there that would be inappropriate for TL
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On September 11 2012 13:02 Nymphaceae wrote:Show nested quote +On September 11 2012 12:34 StateofReverie wrote:On September 11 2012 12:10 Nymphaceae wrote:On September 11 2012 12:04 StateofReverie wrote: I don't really get why this is still going. For the record, we are cool. He asked me "are we cool" and I said "yes". Now we are cool I hope so, you're really lucky tbh what makes you say that? Out of the 5 room mates I had, the best one was a convict, who burned down a club/bar. Please do publish it as a blog, I've very interested in hearing about roommate stories ^^
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It's not appropriate, the only one's I could talk about would be the convict or the twins.
Anyways, I just think this guy should stop caring so much about the small things. To me, his story sounds like this...
I had just ironed my newspapers this weekend, and my room mate took my newspapers that I had paid 50 cents for, and just started reading them in front of me. Like who the fk does that? I was like, "I JUST IRONED THOSE, WHAT DO YOU THINK YOU'RE DOING?" so I wrote on a blackboard, "Go Fk yourself!" to help him get the message. He thought I was joking, but if you stacked all the newspapers that I've read in my lifetime, it would probably go up to the moon, so I have to iron them.
Also, my room mate is poor, it's hilarious. He doesn't own a computer, and I have a nice computer that my parents bought me. Neither of us have jobs, so I won't share my computer with him, so he can't do his homework. I just pretend to be asleep, and let him work on his paper, and then I'm like GTFO, after he's been doing it for about 2 hours. He won't have time to save it or anything. It's hilarious, and he's smaller than me, because he comes from a family, in which he couldn't eat all the time.
Oh, did I mention, that he's really social? I mean he smells extremely bad, and he's annoying as fk, but he's always is socializing. I don't know how he's so much more popular than me, but I guess it's because he showers before he goes out, but he does stink. Did I also mention that he's as annoying as fk?
He just won't shut up! He's not social in big groups, but when he's in small groups, he just won't shut up! I don't know how to deal with him, other than beating him up. I'm going to teach him to stop talking, by giving him a black eye for every time he tries to talk to me. If anything, he should just go back to the kitchen and make me a sandwich. I mean I'm a really big guy, and he's small, and I have needs ya know! I'm going to put him in his place, because that's what college is all about. Fk bitches, and make money, right?
I'm going to get a degree in engineering, so I can make the props in a porno, and have the money to buy me some chains, because I'm a P I M P BABY!!!!
Did I tell ya, that every time I sit down to see my room mate, I wear a watch, that's coated in diamonds, and flash it with every bite I take. I mean, I'll have a spoon of EZ mac, and be like "SWOOSH," and to me, he just stares at the watch, like WOAH! In reality, he's thinking, my room mate is such a douche, I need to get outside and meet some better people.
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On September 11 2012 09:31 Nymphaceae wrote: I don't know how else to explain it to you, in a way that it would be TL appropriate. You should invite him to study with you. It sounds like he needs some one to help get his attention on the books. I could give you numerous examples of my bad room mates, but most of them are too inappropriate for TL. Going to write a short list of things that weren't too bad, and ask you if they've happened.
1. Has your room mate pissed in the ice maker? 2. Has your room mate pooped in the vacuum? 3. Has your room mate pooped on the couch? 4. Has your room mate tried to convince everyone that you're a jezebel? 5. Has your room mate tried to convince people that he's had sex with you? 6. Has your room mate begged to cry on your shoulder? 7. Has your room mate left their blood undies on the floor, until bugs started to live off of them? 8. Has your room mate screamed at himself all throughout the night? 9. Has your room mate been to prison? 10. Has your room mate stolen all of your food? 11. Has your room mate poured milk all over your computer? 12. Has your room mate talked a lot about raping an anonymous some one, and then asked you what certain drugs would do to you? 13. Has your room mate had a long lecture with you about how you shouldn't study what you're studying, because it's for sinners, and then tried to burn your books? 14. Has your room mate told people that you were in satan club?
Everytime you post in the blog section it always seems to be about some unbelievable thing that has happened to you or your friends. I've come to the conclusion that you're either 1) a pathological liar 2) a particularely unlucky girl with a talent for storytelling.
In either case, keep posting on TL, you're easily top 10 most entertaining poster here !
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On September 12 2012 16:07 Nymphaceae wrote: It's not appropriate, the only one's I could talk about would be the convict or the twins.
Anyways, I just think this guy should stop caring so much about the small things. To me, his story sounds like this...
I had just ironed my newspapers this weekend, and my room mate took my newspapers that I had paid 50 cents for, and just started reading them in front of me. Like who the fk does that? I was like, "I JUST IRONED THOSE, WHAT DO YOU THINK YOU'RE DOING?" so I wrote on a blackboard, "Go Fk yourself!" to help him get the message. He thought I was joking, but if you stacked all the newspapers that I've read in my lifetime, it would probably go up to the moon, so I have to iron them.
Also, my room mate is poor, it's hilarious. He doesn't own a computer, and I have a nice computer that my parents bought me. Neither of us have jobs, so I won't share my computer with him, so he can't do his homework. I just pretend to be asleep, and let him work on his paper, and then I'm like GTFO, after he's been doing it for about 2 hours. He won't have time to save it or anything. It's hilarious, and he's smaller than me, because he comes from a family, in which he couldn't eat all the time.
Oh, did I mention, that he's really social? I mean he smells extremely bad, and he's annoying as fk, but he's always is socializing. I don't know how he's so much more popular than me, but I guess it's because he showers before he goes out, but he does stink. Did I also mention that he's as annoying as fk?
He just won't shut up! He's not social in big groups, but when he's in small groups, he just won't shut up! I don't know how to deal with him, other than beating him up. I'm going to teach him to stop talking, by giving him a black eye for every time he tries to talk to me. If anything, he should just go back to the kitchen and make me a sandwich. I mean I'm a really big guy, and he's small, and I have needs ya know! I'm going to put him in his place, because that's what college is all about. Fk bitches, and make money, right?
I'm going to get a degree in engineering, so I can make the props in a porno, and have the money to buy me some chains, because I'm a P I M P BABY!!!!
Did I tell ya, that every time I sit down to see my room mate, I wear a watch, that's coated in diamonds, and flash it with every bite I take. I mean, I'll have a spoon of EZ mac, and be like "SWOOSH," and to me, he just stares at the watch, like WOAH! In reality, he's thinking, my room mate is such a douche, I need to get outside and meet some better people. Last night for about an hour and a half, my room mate just kept saying "talk to me, someone talk to me". "your in my room so talk to me". Of course, I wasn't the only one in the room. Our gay friend was on my room mates bed and he kept telling my room mate to get in bed with him because he wanted to cuddle...
So that was a weird night. I just realized I probably would have reacted more aggressively towards him if I was NOT high
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On September 12 2012 22:52 StateofReverie wrote:Show nested quote +On September 12 2012 16:07 Nymphaceae wrote: It's not appropriate, the only one's I could talk about would be the convict or the twins.
Anyways, I just think this guy should stop caring so much about the small things. To me, his story sounds like this...
I had just ironed my newspapers this weekend, and my room mate took my newspapers that I had paid 50 cents for, and just started reading them in front of me. Like who the fk does that? I was like, "I JUST IRONED THOSE, WHAT DO YOU THINK YOU'RE DOING?" so I wrote on a blackboard, "Go Fk yourself!" to help him get the message. He thought I was joking, but if you stacked all the newspapers that I've read in my lifetime, it would probably go up to the moon, so I have to iron them.
Also, my room mate is poor, it's hilarious. He doesn't own a computer, and I have a nice computer that my parents bought me. Neither of us have jobs, so I won't share my computer with him, so he can't do his homework. I just pretend to be asleep, and let him work on his paper, and then I'm like GTFO, after he's been doing it for about 2 hours. He won't have time to save it or anything. It's hilarious, and he's smaller than me, because he comes from a family, in which he couldn't eat all the time.
Oh, did I mention, that he's really social? I mean he smells extremely bad, and he's annoying as fk, but he's always is socializing. I don't know how he's so much more popular than me, but I guess it's because he showers before he goes out, but he does stink. Did I also mention that he's as annoying as fk?
He just won't shut up! He's not social in big groups, but when he's in small groups, he just won't shut up! I don't know how to deal with him, other than beating him up. I'm going to teach him to stop talking, by giving him a black eye for every time he tries to talk to me. If anything, he should just go back to the kitchen and make me a sandwich. I mean I'm a really big guy, and he's small, and I have needs ya know! I'm going to put him in his place, because that's what college is all about. Fk bitches, and make money, right?
I'm going to get a degree in engineering, so I can make the props in a porno, and have the money to buy me some chains, because I'm a P I M P BABY!!!!
Did I tell ya, that every time I sit down to see my room mate, I wear a watch, that's coated in diamonds, and flash it with every bite I take. I mean, I'll have a spoon of EZ mac, and be like "SWOOSH," and to me, he just stares at the watch, like WOAH! In reality, he's thinking, my room mate is such a douche, I need to get outside and meet some better people. Last night for about an hour and a half, my room mate just kept saying "talk to me, someone talk to me". "your in my room so talk to me". Of course, I wasn't the only one in the room. Our gay friend was on my room mates bed and he kept telling my room mate to get in bed with him because he wanted to cuddle... So that was a weird night. I just realized I probably would have reacted more aggressively towards him if I was NOT high
Why were you high with 2 gay guys in your room? Sounds like you were experimenting.
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I feel that you have good reason to be frustrated, but I do not feel that you're going about ameliorating this situation the right way. The most effective way to communicate with people is to speak calmly and directly without any circumlocution (i.e. pussyfooting). Tell him frankly, without raising your voice or being aggressive, that you want him to respect your belongings. Ask him, gently, to look after his hygiene since his habits have begun to affect your well-being. When you can't understand him, either ask him to clarify, or if you can't do that, just stay silent.
This all will seem easier said than done, but you're going to have to make the decision between doing the easy thing, not addressing the problem and telling everyone but your roommate about this, and the hard thing, trying to communicate with your roommate and working toward a solution.
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On September 22 2012 11:26 Nymphaceae wrote:Show nested quote +On September 12 2012 22:52 StateofReverie wrote:On September 12 2012 16:07 Nymphaceae wrote: It's not appropriate, the only one's I could talk about would be the convict or the twins.
Anyways, I just think this guy should stop caring so much about the small things. To me, his story sounds like this...
I had just ironed my newspapers this weekend, and my room mate took my newspapers that I had paid 50 cents for, and just started reading them in front of me. Like who the fk does that? I was like, "I JUST IRONED THOSE, WHAT DO YOU THINK YOU'RE DOING?" so I wrote on a blackboard, "Go Fk yourself!" to help him get the message. He thought I was joking, but if you stacked all the newspapers that I've read in my lifetime, it would probably go up to the moon, so I have to iron them.
Also, my room mate is poor, it's hilarious. He doesn't own a computer, and I have a nice computer that my parents bought me. Neither of us have jobs, so I won't share my computer with him, so he can't do his homework. I just pretend to be asleep, and let him work on his paper, and then I'm like GTFO, after he's been doing it for about 2 hours. He won't have time to save it or anything. It's hilarious, and he's smaller than me, because he comes from a family, in which he couldn't eat all the time.
Oh, did I mention, that he's really social? I mean he smells extremely bad, and he's annoying as fk, but he's always is socializing. I don't know how he's so much more popular than me, but I guess it's because he showers before he goes out, but he does stink. Did I also mention that he's as annoying as fk?
He just won't shut up! He's not social in big groups, but when he's in small groups, he just won't shut up! I don't know how to deal with him, other than beating him up. I'm going to teach him to stop talking, by giving him a black eye for every time he tries to talk to me. If anything, he should just go back to the kitchen and make me a sandwich. I mean I'm a really big guy, and he's small, and I have needs ya know! I'm going to put him in his place, because that's what college is all about. Fk bitches, and make money, right?
I'm going to get a degree in engineering, so I can make the props in a porno, and have the money to buy me some chains, because I'm a P I M P BABY!!!!
Did I tell ya, that every time I sit down to see my room mate, I wear a watch, that's coated in diamonds, and flash it with every bite I take. I mean, I'll have a spoon of EZ mac, and be like "SWOOSH," and to me, he just stares at the watch, like WOAH! In reality, he's thinking, my room mate is such a douche, I need to get outside and meet some better people. Last night for about an hour and a half, my room mate just kept saying "talk to me, someone talk to me". "your in my room so talk to me". Of course, I wasn't the only one in the room. Our gay friend was on my room mates bed and he kept telling my room mate to get in bed with him because he wanted to cuddle... So that was a weird night. I just realized I probably would have reacted more aggressively towards him if I was NOT high Why were you high with 2 gay guys in your room? Sounds like you were experimenting. my room mate is not gay....as far as i know
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My old roommate, formerly best friend, stole hundreds of dollars from me right before the lease ended.
If you think this roommate is bad, you ain't seen SHIT yet, son.
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