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As you are all reading this, I'm sure many of you are my age, in college, and getting back to the swing of things.
But as we speak, my father is undergoing stent placement surgery to clear one of his Arteries that is 75% blocked by cholesterol and to further reinforce said blocked artery. I can't help but wonder if maybe I am doing something wrong by not being there. I understand it is a routine operation that Cardiologists and surgeons perform all the time, but I can't help but wonder, "What if something goes wrong?"
If it makes any difference, my mother is working right now as well. She dropped my father off at the hospital. I'm in the middle of getting a job interview and passing training at a local Papa johns.
But ultimately, I can't help but wonder if I am doing something wrong. I wonder if right now I should actually be at the hospital waiting to hear from the doctors about the outcome of my father's surgery. What if something goes wrong? What if the man who raised me since I was in diapers disappears from my life? I'm only 23, he's 61, still young...
Just now, I was outside, smoking a cigarette and mentally preparing myself for the worst. I couldn't help but shed just a few tears.
 
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as long as your soul and heart is with him, and you truly love him which you do, there's nothing you are doing wrong. i wish the best of luck to your dad and hope he has a successful surgery. our prayers are with him.
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You have to ask yourself if physically being in the hospital would actually change anything. If something were to go wrong, would being in the hospital actually make you feel any better about the situation?
I understand your fear, but in your situation all that you can do is hope for the best and try to stay positive. Hopefully all goes well and the surgery drastically improves your father's quality of life.
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This is going to sounds bad, but you should really take lessons from his experience. Heart trouble can be very dangerous, cut down on stuff like smoking. But really, I'm sure he knows how much you support him and care about him. Good luck to your father, and good to luck to you, too. Like the above poster said, all of TL's support is with you.
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Thanks for the support guys... Made me feel a little better.
Smoking didn't cause his heart problem. It was cholesterol. Eating the wrong stuff all the time.
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Smoking IS a factor that can cause heart disease, by damaging the lining of arteries and allowing cholesterol to build up. Not to mention the many other health problems associated with smoking. Please quit smoking, for the sake of your own health.
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I don't think you're doing anything wrong, I'm sure your Dad would prefer that you continued with your job interview and training. I hope everything goes ok with the surgery though and I know its pretty useless advice because a normal person would never be able to follow it, but try to not think about the surgery too much just focus on your job interview at the moment, if I was your Dad I'd hate to know that the surgery was making you worry so much.
Also its probably the least of your concerns right now, but genetics can have a huge effect on your risk of heart problems and if your father has heart problems its more important that you give up smoking than it would be for a person without a family history of heart problems.
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My dad had something similar, except it was a quad bypass in the end and it was out of no where. I believe you should do what will help you in the long run, unless your dad is a huge tool he would want you to get your job interview done. Get your job, move up in the world dude, your dad will be fine .
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On August 17 2012 02:34 aRyuujin wrote:
This is going to sounds bad, but you should really take lessons from his experience. Heart trouble can be very dangerous, cut down on stuff like smoking. But really, I'm sure he knows how much you support him and care about him. Good luck to your father, and good to luck to you, too. Like the above poster said, all of TL's support is with you.
I agree with this guy. You should try to live a healthier life.
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On August 17 2012 04:34 Nymphaceae wrote:Show nested quote +On August 17 2012 02:34 aRyuujin wrote:
This is going to sounds bad, but you should really take lessons from his experience. Heart trouble can be very dangerous, cut down on stuff like smoking. But really, I'm sure he knows how much you support him and care about him. Good luck to your father, and good to luck to you, too. Like the above poster said, all of TL's support is with you. I agree with this guy. You should try to live a healthier life.
I guess that makes me +2. I wonder if his problem is hereditary, and you smoking certainly doesn't help the lifestyle.
Anyways, as long as you're being a productive member of society and not bullshitting around, I'm sure he understands why you're not with him at the moment.
Just make sure you do visit him soon. My mother was going to call her mother one time when she (my grandmother) was getting old, just to check up on her and chat. But instead, my mother figured "Eh, it's kind of late; I'll just do it tomorrow." My grandmother died in her sleep that night. Actually a true story.
I hope things work out well for your father and you ♥
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Good luck man, I had my father almost die in hospital, and I couldn't even visit him, I know how it feels. :<
It'll all be good, hang in there!
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Hey man, my father just had the same condition, except his artery was 100% blocked! I've been told that it's a very common procedure that happens to many males over the age of 50. He was fine in the end, and it has helped him live a healthier life. I also didn't stay at the hospital with him. I visited him once or twice though. He even told my mom not to bother coming for the first night. "What are you going to gain by being here, besides added stress and less sleep (and worse food!)." Don't worry, he'll be fine!
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