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Antimatterz
United States1010 Posts
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UmbraaeternuS
Chile476 Posts
Fucking Felicity, man. :/ | ||
GHOSTCLAW
United States17042 Posts
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UmbraaeternuS
Chile476 Posts
On July 06 2012 09:54 GHOSTCLAW wrote: i can't believe that you found that picture Well, Google knows everything... | ||
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Eisregen
Germany967 Posts
On July 06 2012 09:02 Djagulingu wrote: The 2 best moves i saw in this blog: 1- Confessing your love 2- Giving her the finger Yes, if you give her the finger for good, you never see/talk to/have any more good memories with her, but this is not about her, it's about you. You say you have been in a bad shape ever since she has been in your life. All the obsessions and shit, First you get over the obsession and then poof she disappears from your life, along with every single thing you fuck up with because of her. Just this, seriously. Well spoken Sir! | ||
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r.Evo
Germany14080 Posts
-She's not the only girl you can be happy with. -She's not the only woman you can have sex with. -She's not the only friend you'll ever have. Go out there, meet people, have fun. =) | ||
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roronoe
Canada1527 Posts
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HeeroFX
United States2704 Posts
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JerKy
Korea (South)3013 Posts
Like if you had that much PASSION or something for her, it MIGHT be acceptable; Ive personally been in a similar situation more than once and now that I look back, I'm much happier without them. it might not feel like it in the moment, but once you move on youll realize there are a million other girls out there | ||
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hazelynut
United States2196 Posts
they will automatically consider you friend material if you engage in that behavior | ||
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obesechicken13
United States10467 Posts
Thanks for giving me my article of the day.  | ||
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opsayo
591 Posts
you may not believe me now but you'll see u sacked up and didnt let urself be a bitch for years it'll hurt but thats normal but it wont last forever u may not believe me now but you'll see | ||
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DarkPlasmaBall
United States45164 Posts
5/5 for the awesome pictures and because Day[9] posted in your blog. | ||
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endy
Switzerland8970 Posts
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r.Evo
Germany14080 Posts
On July 06 2012 12:16 endy wrote: I think it's a good thing that you told her you loved her. I mean, you had to do it sooner or later. Of course it doesn't sound very good over the phone with a drunken voice, but you had to do it anyway. ...? How many people do you know where this "advice" has worked out? He could also have escalated physically, push through the "I don't know if we should really do this" and be her bf now. | ||
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Cowpieguy
United States97 Posts
On July 06 2012 12:34 r.Evo wrote: ...? How many people do you know where this "advice" has worked out? He could also have escalated physically, push through the "I don't know if we should really do this" and be her bf now. I totally agree. A girl might think you are cute if you tell her you love her, or even feel flattered, but she won't love you back. The only advice I have is to find a way to hate her. Really hate her. Then the hate will replace the longing/love/obsession. That worked for me, but I'm not sure how to find that hate unless she does something really terrible to you. Also, you'll probably never love someone the same way you loved her. I've heard that your first true love is different and special. Unfortunately for you, it sounds like it will be different and special in a bad way. Getting with other women may never make that feeling go away. It's been over a year since I ended my friendship with someone similar to your Felicity and I'm only now starting to feel like it may be possible to let go of her at some point. Though I think I will probably always feel that pain, frustration, rage, and longing when I think of her. | ||
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MassHysteria
United States3678 Posts
And just to get it straight, the only reason you fucked up is b/c you had no gameplan man. It isn't because she thought you are ugly or can't talk for shit b/c then I doubt she would have been your friend for so long or taken the "time to think about it". The problem was you just splurting your feelings to her like that out of nowhere, which made her realize you had kept this for a long time and that is quite honestly a little scary for a girl in her position. You should have acted sooner, or dropped some hints, or just tried to do some things that let her know that you were interested as more than a friend when you realized it. Instead, you showed her you were insecure by never being able to actually tell her how you felt until it got to the point it would damage your friendship if she didn't feel the same. In addition, insecurity is not an attractice guy quality, and that is something that probably stood out to her. I am not saying you are insecure bc I don't know you, I am just saying that these series of moves you took made you look like that. You live and you learn man. You will be that much better/prepared the next time to man-up to a woman/girl comes by. Just remember that with no risk, comes no reward. But be confident in knowing you aren't afraid to fail and it will show externally yo. I am not saying to give up with her or not, I am just saying think of the situation from a 3rd person point-of-view and then decide if she is worth the fight..or if it is time to move on to new, exciting experiences... and proceed without fear... edit: just saw your posts after the OP so spoilering b/c doesn't apply. Tough tho man, I think many of us have that ONE who will always stick out. edit2: unspoilering b/c it is still the best advice here after reading the next 5 pages lol | ||
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Mobius
Canada1268 Posts
I should get Ultras. Felicity liked ultras. hahahaha What did her PMs say? lol, dont tell, me you deleted them without reading t.t | ||
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r.Evo
Germany14080 Posts
On July 06 2012 12:54 Cowpieguy wrote: I totally agree. A girl might think you are cute if you tell her you love her, or even feel flattered, but she won't love you back. The only advice I have is to find a way to hate her. Really hate her. Then the hate will replace the longing/love/obsession. That worked for me, but I'm not sure how to find that hate unless she does something really terrible to you. Also, you'll probably never love someone the same way you loved her. I've heard that your first true love is different and special. Unfortunately for you, it sounds like it will be different and special in a bad way. Getting with other women may never make that feeling go away. It's been over a year since I ended my friendship with someone similar to your Felicity and I'm only now starting to feel like it may be possible to let go of her at some point. Though I think I will probably always feel that pain, frustration, rage, and longing when I think of her. Imo it's mostly about time, evolving yourself as a person and admitting mistakes. Around... 6 years ago I had a huge crush on a certain girl and did all the usual "lovely" stuff trying to impress her and it ended with me writing her a pretty pathetic letter confessing my feelings. She broke off all contact and I felt incredibly betrayed, heart broken and thought she must be one of the worst people I ever met for this. About half a year ago I was close to where she worked on a business trip (she works in a book store), I decided to drop by, say sorry for being such a retard back then and that I was still wondering how she was doing. She for some reason seemed to be incredibly happy about this (I thought it possible that she'll be like wtfomggetoffme!!!) and I only really understood it after I talked it through with my gf. Every girl has tons, tons of guys in her life who are basically huge pussies, not sexual at all and then somehow out of the blue tell them they love her and put all the responsibility for the decision on her. If she doesn't comply she's being labelled a stupid bitch who only played with the guys feelings. Done often enough the girl either tends to become more and more bitchy or more and more reserved. That shit isn't funny for her either. Taking the burden that it's - even partly - her "fault" off her shoulders is one of the greatest things you can do to that person after such a mess. And yes, in almost all cases I'd put way more blame on the guy who is incapable of expressing his feelings in a sexual kind of way (learning how to do that is part of growing up) than the girl who is just genuinely being nice, friendly and happy - just not attracted. | ||
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RezChi
Canada2368 Posts
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