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Ireland23340 Posts
This sounds like a first world problems meme nerd edition:
"Can't study quantum mechanics because me and this hot chick are in love with each other"
Pretty sure knowing chinese better and being a weekend better at electronics and math isn't going to make you happy. Integrated over your entire lifetime it's almost nothing but it feels like passing up chances like you have are often the things people regret in retrospect. Even assuming you are some kind of immune to procrastination machine who can devote his entire weekend to study usually I don't see why you should be completely ignoring things. You should have loads of time to catch up later. I guess it's a bad attitude but this seems like some kind of exception.
On May 12 2012 19:56 sc4k wrote:
I tell you right now the only way you will get rid of those feelings is getting a girlfriend. I'd say that thinking about having a girlfriend eventually wastes more time than actually having a girlfriend, if you are alone and want company for long enough.
If she's giving you any sort of signal whatever, just go up to her and say hey I really want to say that I like you, let's go out, it would be fun. Then just use a random date idea it could be anything but I advise against a movie.
If she shoots you down...big fucking whoop...that's just as good a result as her saying yes. You'll get the tingly feelings out of your head entirely (the *does she like me? Could this be the start of a wonderful love story?*) and then you can find another female to ask out. As long as you judge your attractiveness right and don't aim too high, you'll succeed in about 3-4 tries. (If you fail, maybe you judge yourself too highly and need to take an assessment of yourself).
This post seems pretty intelligent to me.
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How to forget her ?
First don't make blogs about her :D
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How to forget a girl? Get another girl.
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For the record, I think it's absolutely hilarious when hyper-rational posters complain about emotions and sexual urges trying their very best to rationalize them. It's not going to work, OP, so save yourself the trouble.
Simple "If I do X then my feelings go away" won't always work out for you; you're not a computer program.
Sure, there are many things you can try. Exercise is usually pretty good since it's so physical. Group activities are great because you're less likely to spontaneously drop trow and whack off. Independent activities like SC2, reading, studying, etc. may work, but more likely your mind will wander and end up in a frustrating failure.
The universal thing I can think of is ignoring the girl and letting a lot of time pass. It's the same idea when getting over a hard breakup.
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pretty much just time. after 6mo or so you wont care anymore if youre anything like me.
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Its just impossible to forget about a girl you once loved and had a relationship with. The feelings still dwell within just not as obvious =(
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On May 13 2012 01:33 Leth0 wrote:
How to forget a girl? Get another girl.
As stupid this sounds, I actually think this is the easiest way. Just push your passion onto someone else. It's easier to move it than remove it
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On May 13 2012 03:36 Mentalizor wrote:As stupid this sounds, I actually think this is the easiest way. Just push your passion onto someone else. It's easier to move it than remove it
That would just revive the cycle, wouldn't it? o_O
Just dump your time into another activity. Fill up your sched so much that you are literally too busy to think of her.
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Once you figure this out, let me know!
It's hard for me..but I just focus on my passions and realize I am just as well off alone as with someone else 
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Well, shit. I tried to ignore her but looks like she hit up a conversation on FB by herself, even though I can see she's pretty shy. Looks like we both have had some similar hobbies, namely piano and singing, so we had a ton to talk about. Having this conversation was great, because I got rid of this silly romantic maelstrom and I can now see her as a regular friend and concentrate on my own activities without this silly lingering anymore. God knows if it's going to develop further, but I don't mind either way. At least I have a new friend right now.
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Ireland23340 Posts
On May 14 2012 05:46 Vector Jay wrote:
Well, shit. I tried to ignore her but looks like she hit up a conversation on FB by herself, even though I can see she's pretty shy. Looks like we both have had some similar hobbies, namely piano and singing, so we had a ton to talk about. Having this conversation was great, because I got rid of this silly romantic maelstrom and I can now see her as a regular friend and concentrate on my own activities without this silly lingering anymore. God knows if it's going to develop further, but I don't mind either way. At least I have a new friend right now.
I'd laugh so hard if this became some kind of reverse girl blog where she REALLY wants him but she gets hard friend zoned hahahaha.
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this poor girl has no idea who she's dealing with..
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On May 13 2012 02:36 Disregard wrote:
Its just impossible to forget about a girl you once loved and had a relationship with. The feelings still dwell within just not as obvious =(
I feel you brother... I feel you.
Lots of those in my life.
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didn't bother reading the entire thread just the op, but will just leave you with this... Some people have to search for love, while others are found by love. It's all part of the human experience, either act on it or don't. Most of the time 'don't' is a very difficult option to pursue, the choice is obviously yours to make however.
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Oh lord. Quality advice all over this thread.
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Given enough time you can forget anything.
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On May 14 2012 05:59 Slayer91 wrote:Show nested quote +On May 14 2012 05:46 Vector Jay wrote:
Well, shit. I tried to ignore her but looks like she hit up a conversation on FB by herself, even though I can see she's pretty shy. Looks like we both have had some similar hobbies, namely piano and singing, so we had a ton to talk about. Having this conversation was great, because I got rid of this silly romantic maelstrom and I can now see her as a regular friend and concentrate on my own activities without this silly lingering anymore. God knows if it's going to develop further, but I don't mind either way. At least I have a new friend right now. I'd laugh so hard if this became some kind of reverse girl blog where she REALLY wants him but she gets hard friend zoned hahahaha.
It would be absolutely hilarious if the girl posts a girl blog here on TL, and the stories line up exactly.
Then it would become awkward...ly hilarious.
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She's coming to my place next Friday. Asked me if she could meet me on this 4-day vacation. I don't like generic stuff like movies or boring restaurants so instead I offered we'd go to a store, buy items and she'd come to my place and we'd cook something delicious. We've been hanging out a little this week around school, talking to get to know each other. She's really nervous when around me even though she's the one who's been initiating our meet-ups, that must've taken some courage. Something for me to learn. She's intelligent, pretty, and has a great body. And the way she looks into my eyes is otherworldly. I still can't study because she keeps popping in my head, she's been skipping school to get in contact with me as well..
I've been single for 2 years with a few chances to get in a relationship but I deliberately denied them because I wanted to focus on myself. Not this time, the more I tell myself to ignore her the more I feel like I'm lying to myself.
I'll lead this from now on. I love learning, why not learn how to have a stable relationship? That should grow one as a person as well.
And sorry if this sounds like bragging, I don't intend to. While I'm confident, I'm also a bit confused and even scared. In my previous relationships I hurt the girl big time by being a stupid dick, which I still regret. I don't wanna do it again.
jay
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We're together now. She's extremely empathetic and lovely. I feel like I need someone like her in my life, not sure why, but I'm going to hold on to her from now on.
Thanks for all the advice on how to forget about her, even though it didn't go to use. I felt like lying to myself so this way is most likely better.
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well, well...such stuff as dreams are made
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