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B-Roll
Profile Blog Joined March 2008
United States403 Posts
Last Edited: 2012-03-13 02:54:11
March 08 2012 11:57 GMT
#1
Hey Team,

So I don't know how to explain this but I guess I am going to start typing.

So, a while back I posted how I had met this amazing girl and everything was going awesome. So things started going down hill shortly after. Don't know what caused this to happen, but I tried to ask out the girl to be my girl friend and everything. Well she turns it down, because well lets face it. I am a fat Geek. Please note, I am not HUGE, just a big guy I am 6'4" 350 pounds. So anyway she said she can't date me because of this. I was pretty pissed but, F it, I turned to team liquid and they gave me advice. I have been working out every day at least running and then lifting every other day. After me asking her out and getting turned down, I have avoided her like the plague, didn't speak to her and just forgot about her. Was working well. . . . .Till today.

So, last night I had a dream that was weird, It was me and her in a relationship at times x10000 speed. Just random points from weeding, to a trip, to a family, to a fight, to the us laughing later. Well I was going to take this as just a weird dream. Well today, I run into her. All that happened was we past in the hall (we work at the same place). She smiled at me, I died inside. Like it bugged me the whole day. Couldn't get it out of my mind. Tonight we talked for the first time in a week. And basically said we would go our separate ways. She is thinking about moving 1000 miles away, and I am stuck in the rut that I was before, but I don't want to be. I don't know what to do. I don't want to chase after her because its just going to be a one sided relationship where I am the only one that wants it to work. But I don't want her to go.

Anyone have any advice?

Thanks Liquid for listening to me bitch. <3

Update 3/12/12 - She removed me from Facebook, with no warning or note, I know its not that big of a deal but I thought we could a least be friends. . . . . WTF?!?!?!?

*****
Iranon
Profile Blog Joined March 2010
United States983 Posts
March 08 2012 12:08 GMT
#2
You'll meet someone else. Chasing someone for a relationship that doesn't even currently exist would be incredibly rash, and I think you know that. Of course you don't want her to go, but these things happen.

Why do you say you're stuck in the rut you were before? It sounds to me like she motivated you to try and get in shape. That's great. Continue doing that, and just remember her as someone who motivated you to better yourself.
RastaMonsta
Profile Joined October 2011
304 Posts
March 08 2012 13:04 GMT
#3
There will be other girls
Monsen
Profile Joined December 2002
Germany2548 Posts
Last Edited: 2012-03-08 13:37:15
March 08 2012 13:36 GMT
#4
What the hell, if you've been working out etc. you should already be way higher on the "feel good about yourself" scale. Get in decent shape and all the pussy can be yours.
11 years and counting- TL #680
Cyber_Cheese
Profile Blog Joined July 2010
Australia3615 Posts
Last Edited: 2012-03-08 14:31:59
March 08 2012 14:31 GMT
#5
keep with the working out, tell her not to move because of you [ensure it's not because of you], and forget about her for the time being, either find someone else or chase another part of your life that needs 'fixing'.

once you're thin, bump into her, if she'll consider you then, either a) reject her and feel good that it was that way around [given opportunity], or b) 'keep it as ammunition' to make her stay in shape. If you're a really good guy you could c) go out with her and forget about it.
The moment you lose confidence in yourself, is the moment the world loses it's confidence in you.
Nudelfisk
Profile Joined June 2011
Sweden104 Posts
Last Edited: 2012-03-08 14:49:07
March 08 2012 14:39 GMT
#6
yeh it's tough, but as other people have said there will be more girls.

my advice is; yes it's freaking hard, but just keep doing stuff you enjoy even if you don't feel like doing them. keep working out as it releases tension and in general is good for your mental as well as physical health. talk to your friends but don't do it too much or they will get tired of you lol. eventually there will be a day when you realize you haven't thought about her in a long time.

this stuff is always hard but it's get easier every time it happens, which still is kinda shit, but yeah there you have it. it will always feel like the end of the world and that there is noone else for you but there always is, sooner or later.

edit - if you feel that you can stay in touch with her, kudos, do it, just make sure you're not hurting yourself. basically if you try really hard to not think about her, that won't work since doing that is actually thinking about her. focus on other stuff instead and if she pops up, note it and let it pass, or you could write it down and then go do something else. generally it's easier to be objective about stuff if you're writing.

personally i wouldn't really read into dreams that much, as in; I don't think you dreamt the future. it's basically your brain going over events and thoughts and trying to sort them out. you probably thought about this girl during the week/day/before you went to bed and she made it into your dreams. you can actually learn how to control your dreams if you practice it
Velr
Profile Blog Joined July 2008
Switzerland10668 Posts
Last Edited: 2012-03-08 14:56:50
March 08 2012 14:56 GMT
#7
Do it with style:
Poison her cat and spout bullshit about her on Facebook!
Yoduh
Profile Joined August 2010
United States216 Posts
March 08 2012 14:57 GMT
#8
read this and keep working out
http://www.oldtimestrongman.com/strength-articles/iron-henry-rollins
BisuDagger
Profile Blog Joined October 2009
Bisutopia19225 Posts
March 08 2012 15:00 GMT
#9
So what's your current weight and health at now. How long has it been since stopped talking to her. I want to hear a few more details on that in between time and how you have been taking care of yourself before I give any insight. Just remember to hang in there. We all love you here at TL.
ModeratorFormer Afreeca Starleague Caster: http://afreeca.tv/ASL2ENG2
docvoc
Profile Blog Joined July 2011
United States5491 Posts
Last Edited: 2012-03-08 15:06:54
March 08 2012 15:06 GMT
#10
The main thing is that its not good to pine. Keep on working out, doing your routine, maybe buy the book, the game and the rules of the game from Neil Strauss and just learn an opener and that should pretty much guarantee a win a girl.
User was warned for too many mimes.
trias_e
Profile Blog Joined May 2010
United States520 Posts
Last Edited: 2012-03-08 15:59:12
March 08 2012 15:56 GMT
#11
Don't work out just for her. Do it for you, and your future self. If you continue the path of self-improvement you will have tons of opportunities in the future. There is nothing totally unique about her other than she was first. What you find special about her you will find in others if you keep your eyes open.
nttea
Profile Blog Joined July 2008
Sweden4353 Posts
March 08 2012 18:26 GMT
#12
You don't really sound angry at her, but you should still give her some stalker vibes just for turning you down for being big, get a little bit back at her. Ask for her adress, go to google maps then print it out and make it look like a photo you took outside her house (just an example, be creative)
B-Roll
Profile Blog Joined March 2008
United States403 Posts
Last Edited: 2012-03-08 21:35:49
March 08 2012 21:24 GMT
#13
On March 09 2012 00:00 BisuDagger wrote:
So what's your current weight and health at now. How long has it been since stopped talking to her. I want to hear a few more details on that in between time and how you have been taking care of yourself before I give any insight. Just remember to hang in there. We all love you here at TL.


Been working out every day, Had my first weigh in last night, have lost 5 pounds. We had not spoken in a week till last night. Now we don't speak at all. I have just been eating better and working out. When I am not doing that I am at work or, playing Starcraft .

Thank you everyone else for you input and support!


On March 08 2012 23:31 Cyber_Cheese wrote:
keep with the working out, tell her not to move because of you [ensure it's not because of you], and forget about her for the time being, either find someone else or chase another part of your life that needs 'fixing'.

once you're thin, bump into her, if she'll consider you then, either a) reject her and feel good that it was that way around [given opportunity], or b) 'keep it as ammunition' to make her stay in shape. If you're a really good guy you could c) go out with her and forget about it.


This is an awesome plan.
Eben
Profile Blog Joined September 2008
United States769 Posts
March 08 2012 21:30 GMT
#14
On March 08 2012 23:31 Cyber_Cheese wrote:
keep with the working out, tell her not to move because of you [ensure it's not because of you], and forget about her for the time being, either find someone else or chase another part of your life that needs 'fixing'.

once you're thin, bump into her, if she'll consider you then, either a) reject her and feel good that it was that way around [given opportunity], or b) 'keep it as ammunition' to make her stay in shape. If you're a really good guy you could c) go out with her and forget about it.


I like the way you think
Wrongspeedy
Profile Blog Joined August 2010
United States1655 Posts
March 08 2012 21:54 GMT
#15
Forget her there are lots of wonderful girls out there who won't judge you solely on your looks or your weight. But that being said 350lbs is heavy man, just keep working on that (for your health, fuck what other people think about material shit). Your body is just your tool to make an impact on this world, take care of it but don't let peoples opinions of it get you down. Your looks won't even matter when your old and wrinkled, its not really that important.
It is better to be a human dissatisfied than a pig satisfied; better to be Socrates dissatisfied than a fool satisfied.- John Stuart Mill
B-Roll
Profile Blog Joined March 2008
United States403 Posts
March 09 2012 00:18 GMT
#16
On March 09 2012 06:54 Wrongspeedy wrote:
Forget her there are lots of wonderful girls out there who won't judge you solely on your looks or your weight. But that being said 350lbs is heavy man, just keep working on that (for your health, fuck what other people think about material shit). Your body is just your tool to make an impact on this world, take care of it but don't let peoples opinions of it get you down. Your looks won't even matter when your old and wrinkled, its not really that important.



Yeah, I not going to lie, I know I am big, I have had girl friends before like the way I am now, I don't know why now it became a problem. I am still working out. Not for anyone but myself at this point. I have always been a big guy, and I am sick of it. I am eating better and working out to better myself.

You know, when you get down about a girl, you always hear that there are other fish in the sea, but really just need other people to tell you that there are. Something about other people telling you, makes it easier to cope with.
htn2481
Profile Blog Joined April 2011
Vietnam117 Posts
March 09 2012 05:02 GMT
#17
Yeah man, I think its best to forget about her and move on. Would you really want to be in a relationship with someone who doesn't want to date you just on how you look? Rather than your personality and who you are on the inside.

It sounds great that you're working out and eating well for yourself more than anyone. My advice is to go out and meet more and more people. As you're meeting more and more girls, you'll ask yourself, "What was I thinking about so and so?" Having different options does wonders on your perspective on potential dates. When you're so focused on one girl, you often get tunnel vision in that you can't see the whole forest out there.

In addition to working on your physical self, it's great to work on other parts of yourself as well as in interpersonal skills, flirting, etc. A book that's greatly helped me was 'How to find a date worth keeping' by Henry Cloud. Changed my entire perspective on dating and what the end goal should be i.e. not about finding the one but becoming a more complete person and changing yourself for the better.
B-Roll
Profile Blog Joined March 2008
United States403 Posts
March 09 2012 05:58 GMT
#18
On March 09 2012 14:02 htn2481 wrote:
Yeah man, I think its best to forget about her and move on. Would you really want to be in a relationship with someone who doesn't want to date you just on how you look? Rather than your personality and who you are on the inside.

It sounds great that you're working out and eating well for yourself more than anyone. My advice is to go out and meet more and more people. As you're meeting more and more girls, you'll ask yourself, "What was I thinking about so and so?" Having different options does wonders on your perspective on potential dates. When you're so focused on one girl, you often get tunnel vision in that you can't see the whole forest out there.

In addition to working on your physical self, it's great to work on other parts of yourself as well as in interpersonal skills, flirting, etc. A book that's greatly helped me was 'How to find a date worth keeping' by Henry Cloud. Changed my entire perspective on dating and what the end goal should be i.e. not about finding the one but becoming a more complete person and changing yourself for the better.


Awesome, thanks for the tip on the book. Thinking about picking it up tomorrow!
B-Roll
Profile Blog Joined March 2008
United States403 Posts
March 13 2012 02:53 GMT
#19
I normally would not bump my own thread, but I don't see a reason to create a new Blog. Question, what does it mean when they remove you from Facebook in this situation? Because she did, I didn't think it was that big of a deal but what the hell?
sam!zdat
Profile Blog Joined October 2010
United States5559 Posts
March 13 2012 03:57 GMT
#20
Cut your losses, bro.
shikata ga nai
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