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Misanthrope
Profile Blog Joined May 2010
United States924 Posts
February 17 2012 19:34 GMT
#1
I have a confession: people who BM me actually fuck with my head. The shit they say stays in there for awhile, it circles around as if leaning on my self-consciousness or insecurity. I fucking hate that it affects my mental state, and I feel like I can't just choose to not give a fuck. I'm not really sure how to overcome this. I feel like taking a quick break to let my head balance out is letting them win, because their trolling takes root in my head. Anything I do that's because of them is letting them win, and as Jeff Winger would say, "..that's what's weak."

I suppose a stronger sense of self-assurance would solve this. Not sure how to do that exactly. I typically do the things I know I'll respect myself for tomorrow, and that gives me an overall positive self-image. This feels like a whole other beast compared to the mental challenges I've faced in the past.

Tips?

*
Resolve to perform what you ought. Perform without fail what you resolve. - Benjamin Franklin
Synystyr
Profile Blog Joined September 2010
United States1446 Posts
February 17 2012 19:37 GMT
#2
/ignore is your friend when it comes to things like this. Put on some music you enjoy and just try and tune it all out. Focus on the positive parts of your play and try and get into a mindset where you realize trolls will just be trolls. It's unavoidable on the internet, but you ARE better than that!
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DaPyro
Profile Blog Joined January 2012
Serbia131 Posts
February 17 2012 19:38 GMT
#3
They do with me also but then I remember its the internet and actually start to feel better. When people bm me I reply with tips on how they coulda done better it helps
Drone so hard motherfuckers wanna fine me. Whats 50k minerals to a nigga like me? can you please remind me
how
Profile Blog Joined January 2011
United States538 Posts
February 17 2012 19:40 GMT
#4
At the begging of each game just ignore them they can't say anything to you. You will never see anymore gg's but you also won't have to worry about it. You can always unignore them if you actually had a good game or something.
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phiinix
Profile Blog Joined February 2011
United States1169 Posts
February 17 2012 19:41 GMT
#5
There aren't really any good ones. The simple fact is that you're too sensitive. Just keep playing and it'll go away eventually. The closest thing to a cure would probably be to make fun of you and bm you until you learn to cope with it, but given that it's tl and I'd probably be banned for it.
Calt
Profile Joined September 2011
Finland1140 Posts
February 17 2012 19:42 GMT
#6
I kinda have the same thing but I just put the player on ignore right away when he shows even slight possibility of BMing. Usually they didnt get to say anything too bad before I ignored them and I can just keep playing normal.
Maru | MMA | Ryung | MKP | NaDa | BoxeR | FOREVER SLAYERS
0123456789
Profile Blog Joined November 2010
United States3216 Posts
February 17 2012 19:45 GMT
#7
If you don't want to get BM'd, you have to just counter BM your opponent harder. And then u have the pshycological advantage.
darunia
Profile Blog Joined May 2010
United States139 Posts
February 17 2012 19:46 GMT
#8
If we played and I was excessively GM would it have the reciprocal effect?
If it sounds good, it is good.
dAPhREAk
Profile Blog Joined July 2010
Nauru12397 Posts
February 17 2012 19:47 GMT
#9
block all communication during games and between games.
Papvin
Profile Joined May 2009
Denmark610 Posts
February 17 2012 19:48 GMT
#10
A trick I've learned playing lots of League of Legends is to realize (or just pray) that your opponent is 12 years old, and therefor you shouldn't take anything he says seriously.
"It's criminally negligent to dismiss Rock's contributions to other people's careers", Dukethegold
Gheed
Profile Blog Joined September 2010
United States972 Posts
February 17 2012 19:52 GMT
#11
Try writing pompous 6000 word blog entries.
jubil
Profile Blog Joined March 2011
United States2602 Posts
February 17 2012 19:52 GMT
#12
I find it's best to just be super polite, and/or silly with them. Doing this, I find myself starting to pity the person BM'ing, rather than accepting what they say. Although, it's a lot easier to do this when you're winning than when it's a offensive GG or BM like that...
Marineking-Polt-Maru-Fantasy-Solar-Xenocider-Suppy fighting!
0123456789
Profile Blog Joined November 2010
United States3216 Posts
Last Edited: 2012-02-17 19:54:15
February 17 2012 19:53 GMT
#13
On February 18 2012 04:52 jubil wrote:
I find it's best to just be super polite, and/or silly with them. Doing this, I find myself starting to pity the person BM'ing, rather than accepting what they say. Although, it's a lot easier to do this when you're winning than when it's a offensive GG or BM like that...


Dude, u r ok with bending over, and letting the 12 year old run his bm all over your shiny virgin ass? U r theoretically giving the bm'er what he wants, responses, and letting him do it and give him validation to do it by trying to be nice.
Misanthrope
Profile Blog Joined May 2010
United States924 Posts
February 17 2012 19:53 GMT
#14
Hmm.. well the thing is I want to be at a point where it just doesn't affect me at all. I'm not the BM type, so I'd rather not BM them, if for no other reason than I know how it can fuck with me. Because I've met people during ladder games before, I'd rather not ignore people automatically either. Being exposed to it until it doesn't affect me actually sounds like the best option, to get to a point where I'm just absolutely neutral about it. The problem is that when you're in the middle of an adrenaline rush or feeling any kind of emotion somewhat intensely, which SC can cause, makes being neutral nearly impossible.

I suppose that leaves me with managing my emotions as best as possible to maintain a calm viewpoint. The intimidating fact about this solution is that even experienced, hardened competitors like FlaSh have trouble maintaining an absolutely clear and focused mind.
Resolve to perform what you ought. Perform without fail what you resolve. - Benjamin Franklin
English
Profile Joined April 2010
United States475 Posts
February 17 2012 20:07 GMT
#15
On February 18 2012 04:53 0123456789 wrote:
Show nested quote +
On February 18 2012 04:52 jubil wrote:
I find it's best to just be super polite, and/or silly with them. Doing this, I find myself starting to pity the person BM'ing, rather than accepting what they say. Although, it's a lot easier to do this when you're winning than when it's a offensive GG or BM like that...


Dude, u r ok with bending over, and letting the 12 year old run his bm all over your shiny virgin ass? U r theoretically giving the bm'er what he wants, responses, and letting him do it and give him validation to do it by trying to be nice.


Actually in most cases, I found that BM'ers want to invoke rage responses. Being polite (ignoring or not responding is part of being polite to an extent) or silly is the opposite of what he wants.

Saying "I love you" in response to any BM works pretty well.
Uranium
Profile Blog Joined May 2010
United States1077 Posts
February 17 2012 20:09 GMT
#16
Growing up with a verbally abusive mother who would tell me that I was going to fail out of school, project her mental issues on me, and tell me I had every mental disorder in the book went a long way toward not giving a fuck about some 13 year old raging on the internet.
"Sentry imba! You see? YOU SEE??!!" - Sen | "Marauder die die!" - oGsMC | "Oh my god, she texted me back!" - Day[9]
0123456789
Profile Blog Joined November 2010
United States3216 Posts
February 17 2012 20:09 GMT
#17
On February 18 2012 05:07 English wrote:
Show nested quote +
On February 18 2012 04:53 0123456789 wrote:
On February 18 2012 04:52 jubil wrote:
I find it's best to just be super polite, and/or silly with them. Doing this, I find myself starting to pity the person BM'ing, rather than accepting what they say. Although, it's a lot easier to do this when you're winning than when it's a offensive GG or BM like that...


Dude, u r ok with bending over, and letting the 12 year old run his bm all over your shiny virgin ass? U r theoretically giving the bm'er what he wants, responses, and letting him do it and give him validation to do it by trying to be nice.


Actually in most cases, I found that BM'ers want to invoke rage responses. Being polite (ignoring or not responding is part of being polite to an extent) or silly is the opposite of what he wants.

Saying "I love you" in response to any BM works pretty well.


We need proof of this. I will post my results, u post yours. Then we can all laugh together.
Vorenius
Profile Blog Joined December 2010
Denmark1979 Posts
February 17 2012 20:26 GMT
#18
Just respond with
"Your mother was a saint and you father a respectable citizen!"
and then block communication.
AnachronisticAnarchy
Profile Blog Joined July 2011
United States2957 Posts
Last Edited: 2012-02-17 20:30:48
February 17 2012 20:30 GMT
#19
First of all, you are too sensitive. Way too sensitive.
Second of all, you need to realize that when somebody is BMing you, they typically either got their butts kicked unusually hard by you or they are on a monster losing streak. Either way, I take it (and you should as well) as a compliment and a good source of laughs.
Nothing says "I'm fucking sick of losing to better players" quite like dropping the F-bomb at the start of the game and going mass voidrays or something.
"How are you?" "I am fine, because it is not normal to scream in pain."
nath
Profile Blog Joined May 2010
United States1788 Posts
February 17 2012 20:40 GMT
#20
depends on who you are..

if you cant shake it off or realize that they are the ones being pathetic and probably also bm'd because you owned them, then maybe cheese the next few games as their race? idk? punch a pillow? smash shit on the wall? jerk off? w/e makes you calm down
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