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I have a confession: people who BM me actually fuck with my head. The shit they say stays in there for awhile, it circles around as if leaning on my self-consciousness or insecurity. I fucking hate that it affects my mental state, and I feel like I can't just choose to not give a fuck. I'm not really sure how to overcome this. I feel like taking a quick break to let my head balance out is letting them win, because their trolling takes root in my head. Anything I do that's because of them is letting them win, and as Jeff Winger would say, "..that's what's weak."
I suppose a stronger sense of self-assurance would solve this. Not sure how to do that exactly. I typically do the things I know I'll respect myself for tomorrow, and that gives me an overall positive self-image. This feels like a whole other beast compared to the mental challenges I've faced in the past.
Tips?
   
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/ignore is your friend when it comes to things like this. Put on some music you enjoy and just try and tune it all out. Focus on the positive parts of your play and try and get into a mindset where you realize trolls will just be trolls. It's unavoidable on the internet, but you ARE better than that!
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They do with me also but then I remember its the internet and actually start to feel better. When people bm me I reply with tips on how they coulda done better it helps
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At the begging of each game just ignore them they can't say anything to you. You will never see anymore gg's but you also won't have to worry about it. You can always unignore them if you actually had a good game or something.
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There aren't really any good ones. The simple fact is that you're too sensitive. Just keep playing and it'll go away eventually. The closest thing to a cure would probably be to make fun of you and bm you until you learn to cope with it, but given that it's tl and I'd probably be banned for it.
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I kinda have the same thing but I just put the player on ignore right away when he shows even slight possibility of BMing. Usually they didnt get to say anything too bad before I ignored them and I can just keep playing normal.
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If you don't want to get BM'd, you have to just counter BM your opponent harder. And then u have the pshycological advantage.
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If we played and I was excessively GM would it have the reciprocal effect?
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block all communication during games and between games.
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A trick I've learned playing lots of League of Legends is to realize (or just pray) that your opponent is 12 years old, and therefor you shouldn't take anything he says seriously.
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Try writing pompous 6000 word blog entries.
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I find it's best to just be super polite, and/or silly with them. Doing this, I find myself starting to pity the person BM'ing, rather than accepting what they say. Although, it's a lot easier to do this when you're winning than when it's a offensive GG or BM like that...
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On February 18 2012 04:52 jubil wrote: I find it's best to just be super polite, and/or silly with them. Doing this, I find myself starting to pity the person BM'ing, rather than accepting what they say. Although, it's a lot easier to do this when you're winning than when it's a offensive GG or BM like that...
Dude, u r ok with bending over, and letting the 12 year old run his bm all over your shiny virgin ass? U r theoretically giving the bm'er what he wants, responses, and letting him do it and give him validation to do it by trying to be nice.
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Hmm.. well the thing is I want to be at a point where it just doesn't affect me at all. I'm not the BM type, so I'd rather not BM them, if for no other reason than I know how it can fuck with me. Because I've met people during ladder games before, I'd rather not ignore people automatically either. Being exposed to it until it doesn't affect me actually sounds like the best option, to get to a point where I'm just absolutely neutral about it. The problem is that when you're in the middle of an adrenaline rush or feeling any kind of emotion somewhat intensely, which SC can cause, makes being neutral nearly impossible.
I suppose that leaves me with managing my emotions as best as possible to maintain a calm viewpoint. The intimidating fact about this solution is that even experienced, hardened competitors like FlaSh have trouble maintaining an absolutely clear and focused mind.
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On February 18 2012 04:53 0123456789 wrote:Show nested quote +On February 18 2012 04:52 jubil wrote: I find it's best to just be super polite, and/or silly with them. Doing this, I find myself starting to pity the person BM'ing, rather than accepting what they say. Although, it's a lot easier to do this when you're winning than when it's a offensive GG or BM like that... Dude, u r ok with bending over, and letting the 12 year old run his bm all over your shiny virgin ass? U r theoretically giving the bm'er what he wants, responses, and letting him do it and give him validation to do it by trying to be nice.
Actually in most cases, I found that BM'ers want to invoke rage responses. Being polite (ignoring or not responding is part of being polite to an extent) or silly is the opposite of what he wants.
Saying "I love you" in response to any BM works pretty well.
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Growing up with a verbally abusive mother who would tell me that I was going to fail out of school, project her mental issues on me, and tell me I had every mental disorder in the book went a long way toward not giving a fuck about some 13 year old raging on the internet.
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On February 18 2012 05:07 English wrote:Show nested quote +On February 18 2012 04:53 0123456789 wrote:On February 18 2012 04:52 jubil wrote: I find it's best to just be super polite, and/or silly with them. Doing this, I find myself starting to pity the person BM'ing, rather than accepting what they say. Although, it's a lot easier to do this when you're winning than when it's a offensive GG or BM like that... Dude, u r ok with bending over, and letting the 12 year old run his bm all over your shiny virgin ass? U r theoretically giving the bm'er what he wants, responses, and letting him do it and give him validation to do it by trying to be nice. Actually in most cases, I found that BM'ers want to invoke rage responses. Being polite (ignoring or not responding is part of being polite to an extent) or silly is the opposite of what he wants. Saying "I love you" in response to any BM works pretty well.
We need proof of this. I will post my results, u post yours. Then we can all laugh together.
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Just respond with "Your mother was a saint and you father a respectable citizen!" and then block communication.
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First of all, you are too sensitive. Way too sensitive. Second of all, you need to realize that when somebody is BMing you, they typically either got their butts kicked unusually hard by you or they are on a monster losing streak. Either way, I take it (and you should as well) as a compliment and a good source of laughs. Nothing says "I'm fucking sick of losing to better players" quite like dropping the F-bomb at the start of the game and going mass voidrays or something.
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depends on who you are..
if you cant shake it off or realize that they are the ones being pathetic and probably also bm'd because you owned them, then maybe cheese the next few games as their race? idk? punch a pillow? smash shit on the wall? jerk off? w/e makes you calm down
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Canada9720 Posts
really? I love getting BM'd (if I'm winning / won)
I imagine myself like Cartman in that episode where he tricks the redhead into eating his parents, as if I'm licking the nerd tears off my opponents face in joy.
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.... i want to play against you....
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Saying "I love you" as stated earlier is the best. THEY get pissed. Then start typing the lyrics to "What is Love?" oh maaaaan its great. they usually all in immedietly, and BM (gg).
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Why do you choose to let the information that comes in stay there if you don't like it?
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just tune it out! i always turn on my music louder when there's some BM going on in the game. just focus on what your build..if they're BM'ing you and having to type..you may assume your opponent is falling behind due to having to type so often. ignore them..focus on your build!
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If it bothers you too much, just ignore them! It's your gaming time and nobody has the right to make you feel bad while playing. I generally respond with something along the line of "I'm sorry you feel that way." It can help both them and you to have a response that diffuses the situation. But if not, just ignore and move on.
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I have a solution, when someone BMs you, just paste random Korean text at them. They are defeated because you are Korean and "can not read" their BM.
e.g.
NutBuster5000: LOL NOOB U SUK NutBuster5000: HUEHUEHUE Misanthrope: 난 영어 안합니다 NutBuster5000: WTF KOREAN i am screwed
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You can also do this in team games if you don't feel like having to communicate with your allies. Throwing Korean at someone is in my experience every bit as effective as ignoring someone.
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What Jeff meant was that it didn't matter whether or not Troy wore the jacket. What was "weak" was his reasoning. He either wanted to take off the jacket so people stopped harassing him, or keep wearing it to piss them off. He was seeking to either please or piss them, instead of just wearing the jacket because he liked it or didn't like it. Troy just had to learn to ignore them and do what he wanted. Which is your problem, right? You want to make your own decisions uninfluenced by them.
Well you can get around this in a variety of ways. When I go into a ladder session (which I'm assuming is where you are getting BMd mostly) I turn on "Only allow friends to message me." That way, if the guy tries to BM you outside of the game, he can't. You can turn it off once you're done laddering since I doubt the trolls have the attention span to pester you for longer than 10 minutes.
When the game starts, I don't "gl hf". (This tends to be where a lot of BM starts) I wait for the other guy to say it first, and then I respond to it. This way, they'll have to be mannered first, and you'll know who on the ladder is mannered or not, and you're only going to be mannered to those who are also manner.
EDIT: btw sinensis, wouldn't it be more convincing to type in spanish or something? (or whatever language is spoken by the majority of people in the region your region is linked with)
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I would probably just block communications at the beginning of the game!
usually works for me when I've had a bad day ^^
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On February 18 2012 05:44 CTStalker wrote: really? I love getting BM'd (if I'm winning / won)
I imagine myself like Cartman in that episode where he tricks the redhead into eating his parents, as if I'm licking the nerd tears off my opponents face in joy. Did you know that scene is from a Shakespeare play? I'm always baffled when I see allusions in that show that none of their core audience will get. Like My Neighbour Totoro. I don't even watch South Park much, so they must do it all the time. Not so sure if they do it to be witty or because it's easy to insert their characters into anything to make it funny.
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people on korea ladder in bw bm me a lot. I get over it by realizing that they would never say such horrible things to my face and are simply cowards. they are insecure so they have to bm to bring people down. we are better so I shrug it off and start typing back in english. They get REAL mad even though I am saying nice things.
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On February 18 2012 05:44 CTStalker wrote: really? I love getting BM'd (if I'm winning / won)
I imagine myself like Cartman in that episode where he tricks the redhead into eating his parents, as if I'm licking the nerd tears off my opponents face in joy. Agree, there nothing more rewarding after winning a game it just puts a smile on my face for 10mins afterwards
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my friend when in doubt just say "u mad?" works every time and i mean every time!!
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just send them hearts with everything they say with alt+numberpad3
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I like Xarow's idea, I was going to suggest it too...maybe if its really affecting you you can press the hotkey for communication and block the player? Otherwise I think its best to just ignore the person. Because if you're that sensitive then fighting back will make things worse, and saying things like "I love you" might weird them out but they might also thing you're being sarcastic and insult you further.
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on a side note, if a player starts BMing you at the start of the game with things like "XX IMBA" or not write gl hf, its MUCH more likely to be an all in strategy or cheese.
I cant count the games ive won by just playing it safer after some weird BM
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United States10182 Posts
If you get bmed, you should counter gm and be overly polite and troll them. that usually makes them stop. it also is funny to see their reaction.
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On February 18 2012 06:38 Sinensis wrote: I have a solution, when someone BMs you, just paste random Korean text at them. They are defeated because you are Korean and "can not read" their BM.
e.g.
NutBuster5000: LOL NOOB U SUK NutBuster5000: HUEHUEHUE Misanthrope: 난 영어 안합니다 NutBuster5000: WTF KOREAN i am screwed
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You can also do this in team games if you don't feel like having to communicate with your allies. Throwing Korean at someone is in my experience every bit as effective as ignoring someone.
you might be f-ed if the BM-er is korean and/or can read it XD
highly unlikely on sc..but i got BM'ed on dota2 yesterday by a korean..or a smurf since his gamertag was korean
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Getting Bm'ed means someone cares about you lol.
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i love bm. it typically means the opponent is butthurt.
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