EPTShould I stay or should I go now(girl advice) - Page 4
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nihlon
Sweden5581 Posts
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HardlyNever
United States1258 Posts
On January 24 2012 12:49 PaqMan wrote: I completely understand the point dAPhREAk is trying to make. If your girlfriend read this blog post I'm pretty damn sure shit would go down. And if your girlfriend was in the same scenario as you, I'm positive you'd be at least a little upset with her. With that said, you just have to realize what is more important to you. Hooking up with a German girl that you hardly know and aren't even sure if she's into you, or spend the last 5 months with your girlfriend of TWO YEARS that you say you love... My advice: If you really do love that girl, try to spend every single day with her and try to make her feel the happiest you possibly can. So that when the day finally comes, she wont be strong enough to end it with you. I appreciate this response more than the stupid crap some of the other trolls have posted, because you can actually put an "opposing" (even though there isn't really anything to oppose) viewpoint forward, without looking like an idiot. I say there is nothing to oppose, because despite my care in writing it, a lot of people have "read between the lines" something that isn't there at all. They took an honest question, and turned it into something along the lines of "how do I get with this German girl while still keeping my current gf as an option," which it isn't. And there is no reason to think that, except haters are gonna hate, and angry people just want to be angry. The problem with your course of action is that it is the action of a sucker. And I don't mean that to be mean, because I've done something like that in the past. It is the actions of a sucker because if I devote the rest of my time to her, and she bails,and I never see here again, then I've left myself in a position were I was subservient to this girls whims, and when she was done, I was left hanging. Did I spend the rest of my time with someone I love? Ostensibly yes, but as another poster has mentioned, as it gets closer to the end of this relationship, things are getting more and more strained. Maybe strained isn't the right word. It is just getting somewhat uncomfortable. Hence, the posting of this blog in the first place. I'll just say the situation between us is still fluid. While not long ago, she didn't want me to move out there, today she was trying to find out if someone could live with her where she was staying. She is weighing the options, as she has said, and as I've tried to relate (perhaps in my first post, I made it sound too certain, which was a mistake). From where things are, I'd say it is pretty likely she doesn't want to continue the relationship when we leave, but obviously, that could change. I'm going to take the advice of some of the better posts, and sit down and discuss where I stand with her, within the week. As others have mentioned, I'm going to get this current relationship figured out one way or another, before I start concerning myself with the next. That said, anytime you make a decision, in anything, I believe it is good to consider all the options and all the contingencies. | ||
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jrkirby
United States1510 Posts
On January 24 2012 07:51 Chill wrote: I think you should pretend the German girl doesn't exist and then make your decision. Chill: he's concise and accurate. He doesn't get sidetracked by half-trolling posts, or write four paragraphs which are useless, only a single line. Yet his single line is solid advice that helps you make your decision, yet doesn't make it for you. He is: a Moderator | ||
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mrGRAPE
Singapore293 Posts
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TheAntZ
Israel6248 Posts
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Pholon
Netherlands6142 Posts
this struck me as odd.. :/ | ||
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Hassybaby
United Kingdom10823 Posts
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-_-Quails
Australia796 Posts
Wouldn't it be better for you both to begin moving on? What you're doing now is basically having a 5-month-long goodbye. You see the relationship as dead. So does your girlfriend otherwise she would encourage you to try to find a job near her next uni. Why bother pretending it isn't over? | ||
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Brett
Australia3820 Posts
The German girl is largely irrelevant... She could be any other attractive single girl and she's not worth fixating on at all; you know next to nothing about her, including whether she's interested. Therefore, she basically represents your other options... Something you seem like you'd be interested in exploring... Which goes back to part one: you're done with your gf. I think you're better off ending it now and being in a better place (within yourself) when you move to another state in 5 months. As for the people who can't read, and/or make personal insults and/or like to infer mindsets and draw conclusions that aren't reasonable.... All I can say is I know what you mean. Plenty of people who go all social-retard mode thanks to the anonymity of a computer screen. | ||
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Ushio
Canada868 Posts
On January 24 2012 15:08 jrkirby wrote: Chill: he's concise and accurate. He doesn't get sidetracked by half-trolling posts, or write four paragraphs which are useless, only a single line. Yet his single line is solid advice that helps you make your decision, yet doesn't make it for you. He is: a Moderator Jason Statham stars in The Moderators as Chill | ||
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OpticalShot
Canada6330 Posts
Too bad you've antagonized several forum members here along the way, I don't see why that was so necessary. | ||
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purecarnagge
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Praetorial
United States4241 Posts
I can't believe that I missed this the first time around. | ||
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HardlyNever
United States1258 Posts
I believe we didn't break up that close to when I originally posted this. I think we ended up breaking up (again) toward the end of the semester (late march) for like three weeks. Then we ended up getting back together, effectively, at the end of April, then we where in a limbo area for a bit. She "found out" about that German girl (in that I told her about her during one of our "breaks") and was 100% cool with it. She even (and I'm not making this up) toyed with the idea of having a threesome with her. Unfortunately, I have no idea how you set that up with anyone, much less your neighbor (do you just say "hey my sort of gf and I want to get you in on some 3 way action?"). I'm reasonably experienced with girls, but that is honestly outside my realm of experience. Then we were "officially" back together until the end of summer, where we broke up again, but ended up sleeping together again after that. At the end of summer, we both moved out of that town, me going back to our home state and her moving out west as planned. We kinda sorta were still "together" but not really for about another month after that. Then she started seeing someone else, and I started seeing someone else like a week after that, and that is more or less where we are at this point. We still talk semi-regularly ( I talked to her like 3 days ago at the time of this writing) and we don't really know what will happen in the future for either of us. I'm not banking on anything and I'm kind of hoping we don't get back together to be honest. At the bare minimum she will be out where she is for another year and half at least, and quite possibly longer. Last, the german girl. Sigh... the german girl. So during all that (what I listed above) we kind of exchanged hellos and what not. I didn't really want to make anything happen while me and the other girl were still figuring things out. So I don't end up actually talking to her until THE DAY WE ARE BOTH MOVING OUT. Turns out we have A LOT in common. This is the first time I ever felt like I missed a really good opportunity (in case you forgot, this girl was hot, and actually even hotter than I thought when I had time to actually talk to her). She did have a boyfriend at some point, but they were not really together anymore, but when exactly that occurred on the time-line I laid out above, I'm not really sure. I had to go before I could get the details on that, and it turns out she was moving back to Germany in another month or so (this was back at the end of July). At the end of it all, do I regret anything? It is hard to say. Me and the German girl did hit it off in the brief time we talked, but I also had good times with my then current girl friend in the follow up, and we are still decent friends. Either way, I don't think I would have gotten a long term relationship with the German girl, so I probably would have "broken even" in the long run, I just would have had a different experience over that time. I might have lost my friendship with the other girl though, so it is hard to say. Since I moved back to my home state some interesting things have happened with girls, but that is a different girl blog  .I tried to keep this as short as I could without leaving anything out, but it looks like I went on a little long anyhow. Either way, was fun times  . | ||
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Praetorial
United States4241 Posts
there is so much bullshit in your post, you must be a politician. I still think you're a coward, and you just proved it. Praetorial: Since he's banned from your blogs | ||
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King Geedorah
190 Posts
On January 24 2012 07:10 HardlyNever wrote: Have you even ever been in a relationship? Maybe HardlyNever is making up fictional problems so people on the internet will believe he's of importance in real life. | ||
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HardlyNever
United States1258 Posts
On December 31 2012 14:30 Praetorial wrote: dAPhREAk says(this is not Praetorial, this is Phreak talkin') Praetorial: Since he's banned from your blogs Pretty funny that someone who has to talk through trolls calls someone a "coward." I updated the blog for the people that care, but of course Daphreak and his crew of bottom feeders need to troll it up. I'm done here. Edit: I know someone having a chance with multiple girls reads like fiction to guys like you. | ||
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