i wrote a lot saying basically chill you shouldnt assume every little detail in the guy and his fathers interactions. your list portrays OP as a psychopath and i could write a similar list portraying the father in an equally bad light.

however i have decided that it all infact hinges on how the father explained to the son the circumstances surrounding the cancellation of the football show.

now OP describes this very minimally. "then explained how hes canceled the football thing..."

if i was "making up" with my father and he provided a satisfactory response to "why did you cancel the football to hang out with someone else?" then i would not become dismissive and then angry. however, this is what the OP writes.

so we now decide if the OP was
a) felt he was given an unsatisfactory response, eg white lies
b) OP was given a satisfactory response and then over-reacted in an immature fashion (in brief)
c) OP was given and accepted a satisfactory response but LATER became angry & feeling sorry with regards to his dad

with this in mind, we now turn to the final paragraphs of the OP

" he said that he should have a chat with my mum, i said that she will go nuts. And they both had a chat, my mum saying that you cant keep doing this to him(me) and soo on. then he walked out crying basically heart broken."

OP later writes

"I did say i feel sorry for him. I dont want him to have to choose, i just want him to manage his time better and not let me down so many times. On fathers day me, my sister and him went out for dinner, it ended up her calling her having ago at him because hes not around..."

Now, why does OP think his father is acting like an idiot?
- not spending enough time with him (you cannot assume that this is not a legit claim!)
- he hates the girlfriend (again, you cannot assume that this is not legit!)
- being disorganised (unsatisfactory response re football)
- talking to his ex-wife and getting shouted at (the son knew this was a bad idea because he has an understanding of his mom and dads relationship)

To me, OP is potentially very immature and needy, but he is also potentially an out-spoken "problem-confronter" (rather than a "conflict-avoider") . as much as you can assume that he is immature and a daddy's boy, you can also assume that he is quite mature and able to express openly and deal with emotional or social issues and work to a compromise.