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What's wrong with me?
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TOCHMY
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Endymion
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TOCHMY
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jdseemoreglass
United States3773 Posts
The solution is either constant conscious effort to prevent harmful behavior, or perhaps finding a partner who is just as clingy as you, and hope that you two don't eventually kill each other from mutually overreacting in an argument. | ||
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Masamune
Canada3401 Posts
Stop being so clingy. | ||
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munchmunch
Canada789 Posts
(a) Make plans that sound fun, not a last resort. Don't say, let's hangout, say, let's watch a movie, or go someplace, etc. (b) Give her some slack for being 15; she's really young and should be allowed to make a lot of mistakes. (c) Give yourself some slack for being 20; you might not realize it, but you're still really young. You probably have a lot of stuff to learn, and lots of chances at romance ahead of you. The odds are that this relationship won't last your whole life, and that's a good thing. Enjoy what you have, and try to be less insecure. Don't worry about not being perfect. | ||
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TOCHMY
Sweden1692 Posts
On September 17 2011 07:31 munchmunch wrote: There's nothing wrong with you. It's natural to be insecure in a relationship, especially when you are not getting the face-time that you need. From the sounds of it, it's not her fault either. Human relationships don't magically work, you need to make them work. I suggest: (a) Make plans that sound fun, not a last resort. Don't say, let's hangout, say, let's watch a movie, or go someplace, etc. (b) Give her some slack for being 15; she's really young and should be allowed to make a lot of mistakes. (c) Give yourself some slack for being 20; you might not realize it, but you're still really young. You probably have a lot of stuff to learn, and lots of chances at romance ahead of you. The odds are that this relationship won't last your whole life, and that's a good thing. Enjoy what you have, and try to be less insecure. Don't worry about not being perfect. thank you | ||
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GigaFlop
United States1146 Posts
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Maand
326 Posts
Talk things over. Know what's on her side and make sure she knows what's on yours. Probably two most important things I've learned past fire years from two failed(sort of) relationships. And what munchmunch said in c) ! Edit: You probably know that but I'm gonna write it anyway. Conflicts in relationships are not a bad thing. It means your relationship is strong and alive. The seemingly more violent conflict, the more vivid and pure emotions are involved and even if they are bad, if you resolve the conflict they recoil in good emotions  | ||
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Earll
Norway847 Posts
The only cure I can say will most certainly work against something like this is getting more experience\more relationships\more girls or whatever, that can go a long way to getting rid of neediness. But that is a more long term solution i guess. If you can't pull yourself together I predict a not so good end for you in the not too distant future though, it seems like you are way over invested in this compared to her, and stuff like this can go into an evil spiral of doom real fast. =p If you want this to last then you are just going to have to stop being needy. If you ever think sometihng MIGHT come across as needy, even if you have somehow convinced yourself that it is not out of needyness that you want to do\say it, don't. | ||
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Maand
326 Posts
Ellis had exaggerated fears of speaking in public and during his adolescence he was extremely shy around women. At age 19, already showing signs of thinking like a cognitive-behavioral therapist, he forced himself to talk to 100 women in the Bronx Botanical Gardens over a period of a month. Even though he did not get a date, he reported that he desensitized himself to his fear of rejection by women. You can quite literarily train such things  | ||
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VarmVaffel
Norway378 Posts
On September 17 2011 07:53 GigaFlop wrote: 15-year-old girls aren't the most mentally stable... Pretty much. I'm not generally too fond of generalizing people like this, but there's a good point to be made here. Even though they can seem like they are mature, they aren't really at that age. You should take that into consideration. She, the same as you, still have a lot to learn. | ||
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TOCHMY
Sweden1692 Posts
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Zombie_Velociraptor
274 Posts
She is 15 years old and I am 20 years old. It's 4 years between us on paper, but in reality its pretty much 5 years I can see why the title of the blog is 'what's wrong with me'... | ||
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TOCHMY
Sweden1692 Posts
On September 17 2011 08:17 Zombie_Velociraptor wrote: This probably isn't going to be very helpful at all, but after reading this: I can see why the title of the blog is 'what's wrong with me'... what do you want to have said with that? EDIT after you EDITED: Yeah thanks, douche. | ||
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eXigent.
Canada2419 Posts
I suggest trying your hardest to start taking everything positively, and do things to take your mind off of negative thoughts. Everytime you argue about the same thing , it probably puts a small rift into your relationship that could possibly blow up some time later on. I would advise backing down a little and resisting the urge to argue. In general its good to be calm and level headed in every portion of your relationship, and would benefit not only you, but her aswell. Lastly realize she is very young, and most likely has a completely different mindset than you regarding all kinds of things. Even if the relationship doesnt work out in the end, dont treat it as the end of the world and learn from it and build on it. After a while you will find its much easier to remain calm and basically roll with the punches. | ||
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arb
Noobville17922 Posts
On September 17 2011 08:19 TOCHMY wrote: what do you want to have said with that? EDIT after you EDITED: Yeah thanks, douche. Seriously bro shes probably too young for you anyway. Remember, if her favorite toy doesnt vibrate shes too young for you bro. But in all reality, shes young as fuck, give her some space and stop being so fucking clingy wow. Thats like the #1 thing girls hate is clingy as fuck guys | ||
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DoubleZee
Canada556 Posts
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TOCHMY
Sweden1692 Posts
On September 17 2011 08:26 DoubleZee wrote: Don't date a 15 year old. Seriously. Can't you be arrested if you guys have a bad breakup and she claims you "raped" her? It's never a good idea to date someone that young when you're not the same age. you can get arrested if anyone says you raped her, but yeah i get ur point. | ||
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nicknt
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