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Probulous
Australia3894 Posts
Can people suggest their methods of de-stressing? I am going to put my answer in spoiler...+ Show Spoiler + If I am stressed to the point that my previously stated methods can't help, well I squeeze one out. Sexual release, no matter what form is appears in, is just that, a release. On most occasions I don't need to, but damn if I feel all ragey, a quick slip between the sheet sorts things out good and proper. My 2c | ||
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jakechen
United States17 Posts
1) working out to exhaust myself; no gym needed, just aerobics like squats and ballet exercises. I just do it in front of a mirror (for postural reference) in my bedroom. 2) hanging out with my sisters-- or other people it's easy to laugh with-- and watch something silly (I can give you recommendations if you want!) 3) writing a funny story about the stuff that really bothered me-- it helps me see the 'ridiculous' in it. And in general, if I can laugh stuff off, I find myself feeling much more generous and patient with the rest of the world. 4) Cleaning and organizing my stuff. It makes me feel more on top of things and in control of myself, and that makes me feel more able to deal with the rest of the world. Plus inventing new ways of organizing things can be kind of fun! well... maybe that's just me being weird. But surely other people think that too? 5) do anything that makes you proud of yourself. Maybe take photos? I've seen some of your photos in past blogs and your pictures are beautiful! Okay, that's all I can think of off the top of my head. I hope you feel better soon! | ||
NeverGG
United Kingdom5399 Posts
On July 27 2011 11:59 RedJustice wrote: If you have a way to be around animals, many people find them calming and that they make them happier because animals don't need to talk and don't judge you for anything. I find my dog is very sensitive to my emotions. When I am excited she is running around barking and wants to play. When I'm sad or upset she comes and lies down next to me. She was terribly abused before I found her at the shelter, but she is amazing because she is so incredibly loving of everyone and just wants to be loved back.  Animals + chilling outside are definitely my two biggest stress relievers. My Mum does this cute thing where she holds the phone up to my cat to see if I can hear it purring ^_^ Actually, it's definitely possible. There are a couple of new cat cafes that have opened up close to my house, and I really enjoy going to play with the kitties. It's a bit weird/embarrassing going on my own, but the staff at the one I tried were really friendly. I'm hoping to get a cat of my own (since I'll let my mum keep my other one now it's used to living with her.) when I eventually go home. | ||
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NeverGG
United Kingdom5399 Posts
On July 27 2011 12:13 StarStruck wrote: I like receiving gifts. Your insecurities are no different from others when it comes down to lines, crammed subways, etc. Personally, I think you could use a few more friends down there. It's hard for you because you come across as an introvert who is insecure with herself and doesn't speak the language fluently, so the social interactions are slim to none. You've been living there for years now and it's probably time for a change of scenery. Then again, work is work. Anyway, I'll PM you when I head to Korea. I could use a tour guide and this way I could assess your situation better. You have me intrigued. I like oddballs and you are quite the oddball Missie. Yeah, outside of work and one friend I never really interact with anyone. I do like a lot of time to myself, but I find that when I am put into social situations (or I want to do nice things for people) I'm always pretty bad at it. ^_^ Hahaha, thanks - I like the term oddball. | ||
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NeverGG
United Kingdom5399 Posts
On July 27 2011 12:23 Whole wrote: Starcraft and exercising are pretty good stress relievers for me. Anything that keeps you very active to keep your mind off of something. Also, did the person you give the note too ever express not liking your noisiness during the daytime? If she never did, then she might've not noticed it and getting a random apology would catch her off-guard. If I was in that situation, I would assume the note was for someone else. I used to be like this in Middle School, but I found that the best way to talk to people with no common interest are getting to know things that can almost apply to anyone. The way I can spark a conversation with a person not interested in video games is to tell them work stories (I get to see a lot of strange people when working at Quiznos) or not-so-mainstream current events. Don't do it in an awkward manner though. You need some type of ice breaker...and sometimes the opportunity simply does not present itself. Yes, she did - only once, and since then I've been even more considerate than usual. I always wear headphones when watching things on my netbook, and I never make any noise from 11pm onwards (except for using the bathroom.) When I came out the notelets were stuck on the sil of her mini window, and the note I'd stuck to her door had been left where it was - so I assume she rejected it. I just took the note off the door, and put the notelets back in my room. | ||
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NeverGG
United Kingdom5399 Posts
On July 27 2011 12:51 StarStruck wrote: Watching a movie is progressive procrastination though. You aren't bettering yourself or your situation when you do stuff like that. Lots of people like the gym, but for some who are self-conscious it can be taxing in itself. In NeverGG's case, she might want to start her own modeling group or join one. Then again, language barriers. :[ I'd *love* to start my own modeling club. I'm thinking of just asking the staff at Nonno21 if I can use a table to make my kits during the monthly flea market. I've been with my friend several times now, so they know I'm a good customer. It'd be a good way to pass the time until their 5pm raffle, and to help people to approach me if they want to. | ||
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Whole
United States6046 Posts
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NeverGG
United Kingdom5399 Posts
On July 27 2011 12:51 SaRrAceN wrote: I dont get, why are you awkward around others ? Anyways, based on what Ive read, its seems to me that the mental state you're describing is the product of something else. Im gonna take a stab here and say that your mental state is a result of loneliness. Ive gathered from your blog that you don't seem quite in tune with your environment like a cog in a machine that is slightly misaligned. This in itself is a form of loneliness. I mean you could have a world full of people around you and still be lonely because there isnt really a connection between you and them. You are "trying" to connect but your self-defeating attitude gets in the way as you seem to second guess yourself. If im right about my assessment, then I suggest you change your game plan on social interactions and your attitude about yourself mainly and those around you. I'll leave this here for now GL I tend to become really loud and a little attention seeking, or overstate my quirkiness when I'm in a group of more than three. I think it's because I don't want to seem boring, or moody. Susie says I'm actually much nicer when I'm only with one friend, since I don't try too hard. | ||
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NeverGG
United Kingdom5399 Posts
On July 27 2011 15:20 Whole wrote: How long ago was it though? If it was long ago, she may have forgot. If it was recent, you still shouldn't look too much into it. People can have a lot of shit going on in their life, and maybe she just didn't have the time to properly respond or was occupied with something. You can never really know, so don't let it bother you imo. Maybe a month ago? I only saw her Vocaloid posters through the window when I passed by yesterday, and I got so excited to see she is also a Vocaloid fan that I wanted to do something to show her I'm one too. (The notelets were Vocaloid.) You're right about me not knowing her circumstances, but it seemed pretty clear that she didn't want to know. It's a shame because finding fans of otaku things here who aren't teenagers is really difficult. (Finding foreign ones is almost impossible since most of the ones who are into something are koreaboos. I'm not using this term negatively, but I did have a bad experience with a group of foreign kpop fangirls who were very elitist towards Japanese things.) I'm lucky to have cgi, but sadly he lives quite far away, so we only meet up once or twice a month. Thanks for all the suggestions so far everyone ^_^ | ||
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Z3kk
4099 Posts
On July 27 2011 12:43 Gummy wrote: I find that setting unrealistic goals for myself and then trying my best to meet them and them coming up well short anyway is a great way to stress myself out. Since I find myself doing this all the time, a simple way I might destress would be to stop doing that. For normal people, things like watching a movie, listening to Norah Jones, hanging out with friends, going to the gym, playing an instrument, etc... are totally reasonable ways of de-stressing. I happen to do these all the time, which is why I am such a well-adjusted and non-bipolar individual! All right, will take this advice to heart .__. Thanks!! Bad goal-setting is a hallmark of my stress indeed. Hope you feel better, NeverGG!! | ||
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Deleted User 101379
4849 Posts
A few month ago i even got 2 kitten, but they turned out to just stress me even more, so i gave them to a family that would care better for them. On July 27 2011 12:43 Gummy wrote: I find that setting unrealistic goals for myself and then trying my best to meet them and them coming up well short anyway is a great way to stress myself out. Since I find myself doing this all the time, a simple way I might destress would be to stop doing that. If it would be so easy to stop setting high goals... I'm a great programmer with more knowledge than all my coworkers combined - which is actually not that big of a feat as this company only hires the cheapest people they can get and when i started, i thought i'm a horrible programmer and asked for too little -, so i expect myself to write perfect code... based on a legacy system that only works correctly when the stars are in the correct position while there is a solar eclipse... it's not pretty  Well, NeverGG, i wish you more luck than i have. I hope you find something that works for you. | ||
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SenorChang
Australia4730 Posts
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NeverGG
United Kingdom5399 Posts
On July 27 2011 16:02 SenorChang wrote: Hit the bottle! (not hard :p) I did mention in the op that I don't drink ^_^; | ||
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SenorChang
Australia4730 Posts
On July 27 2011 16:07 NeverGG wrote: I did mention in the op that I don't drink ^_^; Oh my bad! I missed that one line D: I find exercise is one of the best ways for me to de-stress and take my mind off things, in the OP you said you exercise a bit maybe being more regular would be a good thing :D + good TV series (I watch too many) and good movies! | ||
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Sotamursu
Finland612 Posts
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Deleted User 101379
4849 Posts
On July 27 2011 19:25 Sotamursu wrote: I can't believe no one mentioned masturbation. Probably because a) The OP is female, so while it might have positive effects, it's just a different story b) It doesn't work when the (inner) stress is too high | ||
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OpticalShot
Canada6330 Posts
Not sure if that's applicable to you though >_< I've played piano for 16 years now so it's probably only natural that I can resort to it whenever I'm stressed. Also, unless you already own one, buying a new piano is probably going to add a ton more money-related stress... alternatively, you could buy a cheap guitar and learn/play it independently. Related to music, maybe you should grab a TLer and go to kareoke together and vent it all out with crazy singing~ Then again, posting and communicating here on TL is a part of de-stressing already =) | ||
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underscore
252 Posts
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Servius_Fulvius
United States947 Posts
On July 27 2011 21:58 underscore wrote: Meditation. I was about to say, "Ever try guided meditation?" I suppose it's a bit different from me recommending this. I had huge stress management issues a few years ago and when I started going to public meditation sessions I was falling asleep before they were halfway done! As a general rule of thumb I also don't do anything stressful in my apartment (if I can help it). All work is done at the work place and all worrying phone calls have me pacing around outside. Otherwise netflix, sc2, and skype have been my buddies! | ||
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Shifft
Canada1085 Posts
The most straight-forward method is to just try to focus on your breathing, I like counting my breaths (breathe in 1, breathe out 1, breathe in 2 etc.) to 10 and then repeating since it helps me to focus more easily. | ||
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