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On July 11 2011 01:39 Chimpalimp wrote:Show nested quote +On July 11 2011 01:32 McFly wrote:
@chimpalimp- Thats a shitty way to live life and a way not to accomplish anything.
I always look at like situations and think of the billion things in our lives that are much more important than the little things. If your shy and you can't get the nerve to talk to someone your thinking wrong. Their are millions of pretty girls especially at your age so to freight if your going to fuck something up this one time is peanuts.
When I worry about a test I think of its only one test; which i've studied for and there's more important things to worry about, such as marriage and starting a family.
Basic TLDR: There are bigger things in life than you think so don't shit on the little ones.
My mindset is used more as a motivator more than anything. If you put forth effort to improve yourself (in a way you feel is improving yourself), then you shouldn't restrict yourself from grasping available opportunities. If your going to be lazy and just let things pass you, its no ones fault but your own. Wanting to be at the top of your game shouldn't impede you from jumping at opportunities, but rather motivate you to work harder. That's why I don't see it as "a way not to accomplish anything," its more of a motivator to accomplish everything. I'm not saying to let the petty things bog you down, but if you feel like your an unfit candidate, then its your fault for not applying yourself
Hey guys, please stop fighting on who's way to live/perceive life is better. It's pointless.
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People become their perceptions of themselves. You come across as a very ugly person (on the inside), but probably just because you think of yourself that way. You are so negative and hateful about others and yourself. If you don't believe you can get into the IB program, no probably you won't and be stuck in the sucky school you are at right now.
I suggest you change your attitude about life. This will make other people like you and want to be around you. This will make you feel better about yourself. You will either do better at school/other areas of your life you wish to improve, or you will realize you are actually doing alright, and just had a poor perspective of yourself. You will be a happier person.
Right now you are your own biggest problem.
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There's a lot of pressure from the society in Singapore, all kinds of crap I'd hate to endure. But think about it, if you don't like it just ignore it and maybe you'll have a chance to meet people who share the same views and of course won't be put off by any pretentiousness.
If you try to behave like everyone else, you'll probably meet more similar pretentious people. Of course finding someone who isn't is the hard part.
If you really want to learn Chinese, just try to talk to more people who speak it and just laugh with them if anybody laughs at you because that's me constantly asking questions about Cantonese and Hokkien words.
I already speak Chinese fluently but I'm trying to learn more dialects and of course I keep asking stupid questions. But I don't mind it at all when people laugh. Some Mauritius girls were laughing at me too when I was speaking French and make some mistakes. As long as they are nice people you'll learn the language in the end.
In fact, I'd prefer if people laugh at me rather than ignoring my mistakes, otherwise I won't learn anything.
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Either improve through mindset and effort or settle for less than it seems you want at this moment. Pick one and go for it. Being lazy is nice in its own way, nothing wrong with setting a low goal and living out that life. Some people can't be happy being cleaners or servers at restaurants while others never even aspire to higher places.
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First step is to stop hating yourself, and don't beat yourself up for not comparing to others. It's definitely great to work towards goals, but if you constantly think negatively it will be a really uphill battle.
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Have more confidence in yourself and what you do, and be more optimistic towards life. Ignore the elitism surrounding being in a top school. I know in Singapore being in a top school is obviously good for everything, but it doesn't mean instant success. You don't need to feel ashamed of yourself when you look at other people, that's just plain stupid. You should be thinking, what can I do to be better or more successful than him? If I work hard enough, I can go to the same or even better school than him! You're still only at secondary school, there's alot more to go through after your O'lvls. A'lvls or Polytechnic, National Service and lastly university. So it's a little too early to be worrying about such stuff.
For now just concentrate on your studies, O'lvls is the important stage in your life right now, and you should be putting your 100% effort into it.
As for the girl, just be yourself and try to talk to her occasionally, make her feel like you're a good friend and maybe she'll feel the same way, you'll never know! Good luck mate!
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okay im 21 here, finished NS already.
taking the assumption that you aren't just venting your feelings and actually want some different way to view life and all, especially in singapore.
can't say i ever felt the exact same way you did, but you need to chill. don't switch off yet.
what i mean is that your opinion about people with the combination of ugly/beautiful, fit/not fit and stuff equating to intelligence or whatsoever is JUST AN OPINION. don't take people in the bus as an example, look at your friends in your class or people you know. try to guess what they kind of person they are, JUST BASED ON THEIR LOOKS, while pretending you don't know them. Then, compare this to what you actually know they are like. you will realized that while you opinion may come true for some, but others, its just a random mix of factors, example fit stupid, smart fit, etc etc. Heck, you realize that basing a person solely on his/her looks is redundant. a guy may be short, but he may be the class joker and popular with the girls. or a sporty girl, but she isn't really fat, she didnt join sports to lose weight, and she's actually nice to talk to.
And so on.
everything is random in this world. some things you can't control. if you believe you studied you god damn hardest, and 233 is what you got, shouldnt it be something you are proud of? it is your own achievement, your own hard work, that is where you stand compared to others. this will make you humble, appreciate others. learn more from others, doesnt mean the way you have been doing something all this while is the right way. change! take life as an experience, its not a challenge or a test. go out and try, no matter what happens its okay, you only live once, don't forget. 
P.S. i got 235, so unless you like to count everything down to the point you and i are similar
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Since everyone else is talking about other stuff, I'll just mention some stuff about IB. While I don't know anything about school in Singapore, I did the IB diploma program here in Canada. Good IB scores arent difficult at all to get, as most of the work relies less on memorization, which you've complained about, and moreso on understanding. You're probably a smart dude, and I'm sure you'll be able to own up that stuff. IB is also really useful when it comes to college/uni, as a solid 34+ can get you into anything short of the most elite. 34 isn't hard either 
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Every night when you go to bed, 30,000 children in Africa die of starvation due to malnutrition:
![[image loading]](http://blog.weweclothing.com/wp-content/2009/02/starving-child.jpg)
Think about this next time you feel like you're not rich.
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I just got to say something that I hope you can remember for some time. I dont want you to believe what I say, just remember it.
You have a choice. You can choose whatever you want to.
Believe in yourself and make that choice without worrying about what others tell you.
Just find your own answer.
Until the moment that this is useful in your life, I recommend you watching this talks:
Brene Brown: The power of vulnerability
Ken Robinson: Changing education paradigms
If you like the Ken Robinson talk, he has a book called "The Element" wich is incredibly inspiring. If you read the first chapters you will realise how many wonderful people just SUCKED in our educational system, and even though they are considered genius.
Whatever you do just trust yourself over everything else. If you dont you wont be able to be happy, ever.
Hope you find your own way.
Best wishes. fatum.
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On July 11 2011 00:53 Chill wrote:
You seem to judge people a lot and think people are judging you. I suggest you just do you and be happy with what you have.
This.
You can't be quantified by just a simple combination of three characteristics - fitness/appearance/intelligence. People are not that one-dimensional.
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everyone suffers from these academic problems.. Just start working hard now (although I have to admit being in a top school breeds a different environment that might make studying and getting better grades easier) its still damn well possible to get stellar grades in any environment, its just a different path.
About the looking fit part, thats probably the easier task of the two. I can help you out with setting up an exercise regime, if you keep with it and do it for a couple of years, people will be like "wow". I know, i was a skinny fuck back in secondary school and just lifted for like 4~5 years and all's good now.
Try to aim for a scholarship after JC/Poly and you are good to go. My poly friend did it, its definitely doable! Best of luck!
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just because somebody goes to raffles or whatever does NOT make them a better person than you. the sg school system is so founded on TESTING, that all just because you don't test well doesn't mean you're a failure :<. all just because you don't go to a good school and she does doesn't mean she'll be wildly successful while you will be a kalang guni man (sp???). there are still lots of opportunities available for you out there -- it's all about working with what you have and finding the way to best make use of your skill sets.
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Oh yeah, another piece of advice... Find a hobby and excel in it. One suggestion could be playing guitar. If you can't beat them at school at least you can be popular in the future by impressing the girls with your music skills.
Computer games though probably isn't a good hobby.
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On July 11 2011 00:23 Azera wrote:
Hello everybody, my real name is Ezra. I'm Chinese and I'm from Singapore (No,it's not part of China even though the Chinese name of my country [新加坡] is actually a place in China or at least that's what my Geography teacher says...
I just want to talk about my life and perhaps get some advice from the wonderful people of TeamLiquid. First of all, I'm still studying in Secondary school and things have been pretty rough for me academically. I didn't do very well for my PSLE (it's similar to the American SAT, except that you are tested on English, Mathematics, Science and your Mother Tongue, and it's out of 300 points. I scored 233, which isn't really optimal to get in a good school.) So I'm studying in a mediocre school and when I take the bus to school I see all the people from top elite schools and I just feel so ashamed of myself for not being smart.
The things is guys, is that I'm not very fit and I've always had the mindset that:
Not-fit/Ugly = Smart
Fit/Beautiful = Stupid
Fit/Beautiful + Smart = 1 in a million
Not-fit/Ugly + Stupid = Fucking failure at life
I don't know how or why is it that I've always thought that way, but that's just how it is for me. To stay on track, about my bus rides. So I see all this smart and cool people on the bus and I feel like slitting my throat and cutting my wrist out of embarrassment, can't get any worse I thought, they can't do anything to me. But it did get worse. I fell in love with one of the smart and cool people. She studies in the one of the TOP schools' here in Singapore, and I feel like I just can't stand up to her. I mean, what can I provide her? If we ever got together she would be the one earning the money and keeping my balls in her purse. (I know it sounds like I'm a prick, so I may be a prick and an asshole but, that's just me I guess. Also, I know that true love has no bounds and whatever but I just feel that she should deserve some better if we ever got together.)
You're obviously smarter than you give yourself credit for but the level of competition makes you seem inferior.
Girls do marry downwards in terms of intelligence when they are in love. And what's wrong with marrying rich? If you truly feel that way though, you probably wouldn't get along with her even if you did get married.
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On July 11 2011 05:41 gzealot wrote:
everyone suffers from these academic problems.. Just start working hard now (although I have to admit being in a top school breeds a different environment that might make studying and getting better grades easier) its still damn well possible to get stellar grades in any environment, its just a different path.
About the looking fit part, thats probably the easier task of the two. I can help you out with setting up an exercise regime, if you keep with it and do it for a couple of years, people will be like "wow". I know, i was a skinny fuck back in secondary school and just lifted for like 4~5 years and all's good now.
Try to aim for a scholarship after JC/Poly and you are good to go. My poly friend did it, its definitely doable! Best of luck!
That seems helpful, but I just don't have the time to do it I feel, thanks for the offer anyway! =)
On July 11 2011 05:49 Bereft wrote:
just because somebody goes to raffles or whatever does NOT make them a better person than you. the sg school system is so founded on TESTING, that all just because you don't test well doesn't mean you're a failure :<. all just because you don't go to a good school and she does doesn't mean she'll be wildly successful while you will be a Karang Guni(Rag & Bone Man). there are still lots of opportunities available for you out there -- it's all about working with what you have and finding the way to best make use of your skill sets.
You're obviously smarter than you give yourself credit for but the level of competition makes you seem inferior.
Girls do marry downwards in terms of intelligence when they are in love. And what's wrong with marrying rich? If you truly feel that way though, you probably wouldn't get along with her even if you did get married.
To a certain extent that may be true, since Singapore is just a crazy place where academics are top priority and stuff. Also, very interesting point. But how do you know, though? Why do they degrade themselves for us? TT
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Meh...Maybe you just weren't born to be fit or smart. Maybe you're the smooth guitar player or the suave yoga instructor, or perhaps the sketchy homeless dude with no teeth. My point is, the rest of your life is a blank canvas and ultimately what you get out of it will be what you put in. The question is, what do you want?
If your only two concerns in life are beauty(hit the gym/kitchen) and intelligence(hit the books), then you already know what to do (if in doubt, refer to parentheses).
ps - play random, never cheese.
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On July 11 2011 05:21 infinitestory wrote:Show nested quote +On July 11 2011 00:53 Chill wrote:
You seem to judge people a lot and think people are judging you. I suggest you just do you and be happy with what you have. This. You can't be quantified by just a simple combination of three characteristics - fitness/appearance/intelligence. People are not that one-dimensional.
I agree with these 2. Also from your post about Husky you also have a poor and narrow idea for what constitutes success, or you're possibly angry because you feel that he shared the inaquacies you believe you have, but has been able to find happiness anyway.
Academic success is only one area in life, and its probably the easiest to pursue, simply because all it requires is natural ability and then you just follow the path. If you honestly don't think you're good enough to continue down the academic line, then don't.
My advice is find something you love and pursue it, that way even if you fail you are happy because you are doing something you love.
Finally to girls.
1) You're probably not as unattractive as you think. Girls like confidence, if you feel good looking you will do a lot better. So you say you think you're unfit, go to a gym then, lift some weights and you'll probably feel better about your appwarence. Also then, even if you are as ugly as you say, girls will still like you because drunk girls go for ugly guys, who are ripped.
2) You're only as cool as you act. Just try and stop stressing and be yourself you'll come across a lot better.
3) Girls don't like intelligence as much as you think, unfortunatly. Sure success is attractive, but you seem young, so pronably not as much and as I said before, you can be successful withoutbeing academically good, passion is so much more important to success.
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You are who you are, and the opinions & status of other people doesn't matter at all. You can compare yourself to the smartest or the most beautiful people all day, but you gain nothing from this. Accept who you are and embrace it. If there's something about yourself that you don't like, watching other people succeed won't better yourself. That comes through hard work and discipline, and hell Starcraft takes discipline to play.
You are a stallion.
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