EPTTell me your experience with initiating text messages with girls
i need some help lol
Who should initiate text messages (Girl/Guy)?
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raja91
Canada28 Posts
Tell me your experience with initiating text messages with girls i need some help lol | ||
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andeh
United States904 Posts
bitches love smiley faces | ||
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Dalguno
United States2446 Posts
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Skee
Canada702 Posts
On June 14 2011 08:29 andeh wrote: send that bitch a smiley face bitches love smiley faces Please post your source. | ||
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raja91
Canada28 Posts
On June 14 2011 08:29 andeh wrote: send that bitch a smiley face bitches love smiley faces not answered the question but i do send alot of smiley faces | ||
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NB
Netherlands12045 Posts
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Lysenko
Iceland2128 Posts
However, if she's responding promptly each time you text her, I'd characterize that as a sign of interest, so I wouldn't worry about doing what you're currently doing too much. | ||
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ShoCkeyy
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awu25
United States2003 Posts
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Dalguno
United States2446 Posts
/contradiction | ||
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Golgotha
Korea (South)8418 Posts
 it is kinda like mind games, you don't want to turn her completely off by not texting at all, but you want to get near that fine fine line between being "cool" and being a jerk. lol | ||
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BloodNinja
United States2791 Posts
Source: + Show Spoiler + On that note - If she is responding positively, keep going. If you start getting one word answers to everything or she doesn't text back, then stop texting her. | ||
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jlim
Spain943 Posts
On June 14 2011 08:29 andeh wrote: send that bitch a smiley face bitches love smiley faces /thread | ||
Rekrul
Korea (South)17174 Posts
with some girls if u just wait around they forget you and/or think u don't like them cuz u didn't text BUT: 1. it's all random and based off variables u can not know 2. calling a girl with a purpose and a plan is usually better than gay texting and most importantly: 3. if you made a good first impression on her (and no, her giving you her number does not mean you accomplished this) then it does not fucken matter if you text her first or wait for her to text you | ||
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Elegy
United States1629 Posts
I long for the days when a real man would pen a letter on yellowed parchment to a fair maiden, speaking of how her flaxen hair and heaving bosom are akin to the moon and the stars, and how the ocean can be seen in her deep blue eyes. | ||
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Lemonwalrus
United States5465 Posts
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Chef
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Lemonwalrus
United States5465 Posts
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divito
Canada1213 Posts
For instance, most girls I dealt with up till now could be characterized by using their text response time/initiation and content to establish their interest level. One I'm currently interested in however, completely bucks that trend. She rarely uses her phone, and can go a very long time without looking at it, whether willing or able. She also has a busy work / hobby schedule, which leaves less time for correspondence. Coming from my experiences, I initially felt her lack of initiation and long pauses might indicate disinterest and/or apathy. However, I wasn't discouraged (because there are always other possibilities) and went out with her a few times. Being with her, and talking openly with her about random things helped me see her personal perspective, and I don't have to guess about what it all means. If you want to avoid the guessing game, try to get together with her. This will give you an opportunity to either ask her outright about her habits, or subtly work towards talking about things of that nature, and you can also observe how she treats her phone and other conversations with her friends. Perhaps she is just someone who views it as most people, where if people are interested in talking, they will send a message. Obviously, if you both view it the same way, you'll never message each other, regardless of interest. Everyone always wants to test the other person. You can't be hung up or expectant of them in that regard. If you're interested in talking, send a message; if they reply, great. If they don't, don't assume the worst. | ||
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noobcakes
United States526 Posts
On June 14 2011 08:57 Elegy wrote: Texting is one of the great failures of the human race. I long for the days when a real man would pen a letter on yellowed parchment to a fair maiden, speaking of how her flaxen hair and heaving bosom are akin to the moon and the stars, and how the ocean can be seen in her deep blue eyes. Yeah...you were born in the wrong century bro. | ||
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stephenkingfan
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Good words. Another thing for all you younglings to consider is this. If a girl likes you and is inexperienced, she will respond amiably and relatively quickly to your tests. If a girl likes you and is more experienced, she will know how dangerous it is to be completely obvious with her feelings. -> slow // null response If a girl likes you and is shy, she will not know how to respond to random statements like, 'Just got out of car and made a sandwich ^_^'. --> slow // null response. Girls are interesting creatures that believe in horoscopes. Thus they expect you to 'get them.' | ||
micronesia
United States24673 Posts
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Trufflez
Australia174 Posts
On June 14 2011 08:57 Elegy wrote: Texting is one of the great failures of the human race. I long for the days when a real man would pen a letter on yellowed parchment to a fair maiden, speaking of how her flaxen hair and heaving bosom are akin to the moon and the stars, and how the ocean can be seen in her deep blue eyes. Some girls swoon at that shit, but normal girls, and my girl, vomit at it. Get real bro. Also Brown eyes win. Shalalalalalallalalalalalalalaladeedah. | ||
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obesechicken13
United States10467 Posts
On June 14 2011 09:08 Lemonwalrus wrote: Don't listen to chef, he once made me a chicken dinner and while quite savory it was a bit dry. Definitely not what I would expect from someone with his moniker. On the whole a disappointing night. Don't listen to chef! That chicken was my brother  | ||
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Kralic
Canada2628 Posts
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Chef
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On June 14 2011 09:37 stephenkingfan wrote: Obviously, if you both view it the same way, you'll never message each other, regardless of interest. Everyone always wants to test the other person. You can't be hung up or expectant of them in that regard. If you're interested in talking, send a message; if they reply, great. If they don't, don't assume the worst. Good words. Another thing for all you younglings to consider is this. If a girl likes you and is inexperienced, she will respond amiably and relatively quickly to your tests. If a girl likes you and is more experienced, she will know how dangerous it is to be completely obvious with her feelings. -> slow // null response If a girl likes you and is shy, she will not know how to respond to random statements like, 'Just got out of car and made a sandwich ^_^'. --> slow // null response. Girls are interesting creatures that believe in horoscopes. Thus they expect you to 'get them.' This is great news since it sounds like there is no chance of the girl not liking you. | ||
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FetusFondler
United States246 Posts
On June 14 2011 09:39 micronesia wrote: Send her really lewd texts and then if she reacts negatively apologize and say it was your friend that sent them from your phone. Genius!! | ||
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Lemonwalrus
United States5465 Posts
On June 14 2011 09:53 Chef wrote: This is great news since it sounds like there is no chance of the girl not liking you. That is how it is for the rest of us. You wouldn't understand. | ||
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jlim
Spain943 Posts
On June 14 2011 08:57 Elegy wrote: Texting is one of the great failures of the human race. I long for the days when a real man would pen a letter on yellowed parchment to a fair maiden, speaking of how her flaxen hair and heaving bosom are akin to the moon and the stars, and how the ocean can be seen in her deep blue eyes. On June 14 2011 09:34 noobcakes wrote: Yeah...you were born in the wrong century bro. On June 14 2011 09:40 Trufflez wrote: Some girls swoon at that shit, but normal girls, and my girl, vomit at it. Get real bro. Also Brown eyes win. Shalalalalalallalalalalalalalaladeedah. On June 14 2011 09:48 Kralic wrote: What is with this text messaging? Obviously writing a hand written letter and mailing it to her would get a better response. I mean you can buy stamps that have a smiley face on them too. Poll: best (written) way to woo women? letters (33) text messages (6) 39 total votes Your vote: best (written) way to woo women? i am genuinely curious about that; i've always liked both yet never seen either as optimal, so maybe popular wisdom can help me with that | ||
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Lemonwalrus
United States5465 Posts
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Elegy
United States1629 Posts
On June 14 2011 09:57 jlim wrote: Poll: best (written) way to woo women? letters (33) text messages (6) 39 total votes Your vote: best (written) way to woo women? i am genuinely curious about that; i've always liked both yet never seen either as optimal, so maybe popular wisdom can help me with that yeah i wasnt being serious with my post, in case that wasn't clear. anyway, gushy romanticism is probably not the best way to go. | ||
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Trufflez
Australia174 Posts
Brown eyes win, yet again. Shalalalalalalalalalalalalaladeedah | ||
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Kingsp4de20
United States716 Posts
On June 14 2011 08:29 andeh wrote: send that bitch a smiley face bitches love smiley faces its all about the winky faces, bitches love winkey faces | ||
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matjlav
Germany2435 Posts
On June 14 2011 09:58 Lemonwalrus wrote: ^^100% depends on the girl. I know a few girls that would probably go batshit over a guy if he sent them a letter, but most girls I know would at most think it was kinda cute...maybe. I don't think it really does depend on the girl. From my experience, I would say that most girls would love a handwritten letter from a boyfriend and would find it extremely cute. However, I think that most girls would find a handwritten letter quite weird before the "well-established relationship" stage. I feel like it's the same thing as buying a present for her out of the blue. Cute if you're already dating, but obsessive if you're courting her. | ||
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jlim
Spain943 Posts
On June 14 2011 10:04 Elegy wrote: + Show Spoiler + On June 14 2011 09:57 jlim wrote: Poll: best (written) way to woo women? letters (33) text messages (6) 39 total votes Your vote: best (written) way to woo women? i am genuinely curious about that; i've always liked both yet never seen either as optimal, so maybe popular wisdom can help me with that yeah i wasnt being serious with my post, in case that wasn't clear. anyway, gushy romanticism is probably not the best way to go. i guessed so, but i used it anyways as an excuse to expose my existential doubt about written wooing | ||
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PassiveAce
United States18076 Posts
On June 14 2011 08:55 Rekrul wrote: 2. calling a girl with a purpose and a plan is usually better than gay texting This a thousand times. | ||
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SpoR
United States1542 Posts
On June 14 2011 08:55 Rekrul wrote: with some girls if u text too much it turns them off, and its better to wait with some girls if u just wait around they forget you and/or think u don't like them cuz u didn't text BUT: 1. it's all random and based off variables u can not know 2. calling a girl with a purpose and a plan is usually better than gay texting and most importantly: 3. if you made a good first impression on her (and no, her giving you her number does not mean you accomplished this) then it does not fucken matter if you text her first or wait for her to text you truth. I have been noticing lately that girls that I aim or text throughout the day don't really care even though they like the social crap. You have to just call them, and don't just chat to chat. I never did that shit with my ex and the relationship lasted 4 years. I was doing everything the opposite with this new girl and it lasted like 2 months. PS- the main thing about texting is that its weak. It shows more confidence and obviously you can make a better impression talking etc. Use texting mainly as it was designed. A tool for when you can't make a phone call to say something important. If you are able to make a phone call but it's not worth calling to say 1 simple (useless?) thing then don't text or call. And I wouldn't write a love letter unless you were already well invested in a relationship. | ||
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xenogis
United States63 Posts
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ShoCkeyy
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~ava
Canada378 Posts
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dRaW
Canada5744 Posts
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qzmpwxno
Papua New Guinea152 Posts
Focus on meeting as many people as possible since you are single. This will distract you from texting every day. Also you will go on more dates, get experience etc., and when she texts you asking what you're up to you can tell her you're on a date, if she has any interest in you she will flip out and ask you out. lol thats absolutely hilarious advice. yeah she might be into the whole "hard to get" thing or might like a jerk, but this is slightly over the top. 99% of the time if you do something like this its going to get really ugly haha | ||
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raja91
Canada28 Posts
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Tegin
United States840 Posts
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SpoR
United States1542 Posts
On June 14 2011 11:46 qzmpwxno wrote: lol thats absolutely hilarious advice. yeah she might be into the whole "hard to get" thing or might like a jerk, but this is slightly over the top. 99% of the time if you do something like this its going to get really ugly haha well 50% of the time this will work, the other half she will just drop you. So it doesn't really work if you're really into a particular person. raja91, I know exactly what you mean. I always feel like I'm the one calling or texting first. Even if she has invited me somewhere previously. Its pretty lame because I feel clingy or needy because of it. | ||
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Servius_Fulvius
United States947 Posts
On June 14 2011 08:26 raja91 wrote: I been on 1 double date with a girl. I always initate the text messages like once a day, but i sort of feel like i m trying to hard to make this work. She responds to all my text in few minutes positively. Tell me your experience with initiating text messages with girls i need some help lolSo...you went on a double date and now you text every day?! I know I'm not the only one who feels this is a tad bit creepy... If you seriously want to see if something will work ask her on a one-on-one date. If that's too much then ask her to hang out. In the very least be doing SOMETHING in person. You have to do more than text message to cultivate any kind of meaningful relationship. Text messaging, while an effective means of communication, removes another level of intamacy (face-to-face dialogue) and leaves you more likely to build up some alternate reality that only exists in your head... On June 14 2011 11:22 dRaW wrote: You gotta do the door test bro, it's all about the door test... + Show Spoiler + http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HAJdqzRM6Dw Awesome movie! 3 points!!! | ||
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itachisan
Canada109 Posts
On June 14 2011 11:57 Tegin wrote: If you like her id stop texting her for a few days. If she doesn't text you within a few days you now know how much she really wants to talk to you. If that's the case then move on and just be friends. This man speaks the truth. | ||
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BenKen
United States860 Posts
On June 14 2011 08:55 Rekrul wrote: with some girls if u text too much it turns them off, and its better to wait with some girls if u just wait around they forget you and/or think u don't like them cuz u didn't text BUT: 1. it's all random and based off variables u can not know 2. calling a girl with a purpose and a plan is usually better than gay texting and most importantly: 3. if you made a good first impression on her (and no, her giving you her number does not mean you accomplished this) then it does not fucken matter if you text her first or wait for her to text you Listen to Rekrul. | ||
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Razith
Canada431 Posts
There's a fine line between too much attention and not enough, as Rekrul stated above quite nicely. So I just call her up / text her when I want to do something, but other than that, I usually keep it pretty quiet. If its been a day or so without any communication I often get something like "I miss you!" from her. So as far as initiating texting, it doesn't matter, but probably the guy more often because girls like a guy who can make decisions and show them a good time. | ||
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~ava
Canada378 Posts
On June 14 2011 12:00 SpoR wrote: well 50% of the time this will work, the other half she will just drop you. So it doesn't really work if you're really into a particular person. raja91, I know exactly what you mean. I always feel like I'm the one calling or texting first. Even if she has invited me somewhere previously. Its pretty lame because I feel clingy or needy because of it. | ||
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Sc1pio
United States823 Posts
On June 14 2011 09:57 jlim wrote: Poll: best (written) way to woo women? letters (33) text messages (6) 39 total votes Your vote: best (written) way to woo women? i am genuinely curious about that; i've always liked both yet never seen either as optimal, so maybe popular wisdom can help me with that I once asked a girl out via letter. + Show Spoiler + It didn't work | ||
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Ryuu314
United States12679 Posts
On June 14 2011 11:57 Tegin wrote: If you like her id stop texting her for a few days. If she doesn't text you within a few days you now know how much she really wants to talk to you. If that's the case then move on and just be friends. Do this. And/or listen to Rekrul. You don't want to seem too clingy. Let her initiate texts sometimes. It's okay to initiate to show u have interest, but you don't want to overdo it. | ||
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Garnet
Vietnam9016 Posts
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VIB
Brazil3567 Posts
Just ask her if her dad is alive. If he is, then move to the next girl. I know it because I saw it on family guy. | ||
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ShoCkeyy
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On June 14 2011 11:18 ShoCkeyy wrote: Show yourself show yourself to me expose yourself I wanna see your face come on give it to me show yourself show yourself to me are you Hot_Bid are you Beyonder are you Micronesia. I wanna see give it to me if you got one I wanna see come on and show yourself who runs this? who runs this TL country? show me show yourself give it to me show yourself to me I want to know I wanna see give it to me show yourself show yourself to me I want you know I wanna see give it to me show yourself show yourself to me who runs it? who runs it around? show me show me show your face to me | ||
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fenner
United Kingdom163 Posts
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deathly rat
United Kingdom911 Posts
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Ephemerality
United States203 Posts
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Endymion
United States3701 Posts
Also, all of these chumps are newbies. You have to 1. not text her first, 2. not text her second.. If you get a double text, you know you're in the gold. | ||
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Kaonis
United States243 Posts
On June 14 2011 08:29 andeh wrote: send that bitch a smiley face bitches love smiley faces The pinnacle of the evolution of human courtship. In two sentences. on topic it does help after you get her attention to "forget" about her every now and then, just for like a day or so. I do it by accident. :| | ||
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Stratos
Czech Republic6104 Posts
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konadora
Singapore66158 Posts
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BLinD-RawR
ALLEYCAT BLUES50118 Posts
On June 14 2011 19:41 konadora wrote: texting is for chobos lol I see what you're doing here.:p follow the three day rule man,and during those 3 days watch HIMYM.lol | ||
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raja91
Canada28 Posts
<3 TL | ||
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Iyerbeth
England2410 Posts
On June 14 2011 14:05 Sc1pio wrote: I once asked a girl out via letter. + Show Spoiler + It didn't work Yeah, using a letter to ask someone out is a terrible idea. Maybe even slightly creepy. | ||
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CrownRoyal
Vatican City State1872 Posts
Every case is absolutely different and you have to dip your feet into enough ponds so that u can overcome variance with +EV decisions Or maybe i just played too much poker in my life :O | ||
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CrownRoyal
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Iplaythings
Denmark9110 Posts
You can also see this by texting random "hi sup? " etc and then see if she tries to get the conversation going she is interested in talking to you (to some extent atleast). If not getting hooked up it means you found a friend atleast, cheer up cus thats good enough and if you wanted a relationship and not friendship you can just stop contacting her altogether without being an ass. Besides people often overanalyse the meaning of you asking her if she has something to do etc. As many of you said, it's texting. If you want to go hard on ask her out or over. REMEMBER! Be spontaneus and do some silly jokes which you know arent really funny but she will like your jokes alot more if she is interested. Thats my 2 cent | ||
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QuanticHawk
United States32051 Posts
On June 14 2011 09:39 micronesia wrote: Send her really lewd texts and then if she reacts negatively apologize and say it was your friend that sent them from your phone. You got hacked. The answer is always 'I got hacked' http://deadspin.com/5809158/a-long-list-of-sports-figures-whove-also-claimed-their-twitter-was-hacked | ||
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Gogleion
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