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Since this is a Starcraft website, I'm assuming most people who browse here are big, strong, manly men, or better than that, Korean men, so of course, we know how to treat our women right.
Part of it probably involves spending money on doing fun (fun! FUN!) things with her, like watching Twilight for the sixth time and taking her to that USD 150/person sushi place she's been obsessing over or buying her an emerald necklace that costs more than a semester's worth of college credit.
But what if she's the richer one? What if she's an insurance lawyer or investment banking associate and she pulls in 250k per year? What if, god forbid, she insists on paying after every meal and pays for movie tickets to go watch Jackass and The Hangover with you, then buys you an Xbox 360 so that you can teach her how to play World at War on the rare weekends when she's free?
Would you do it?
Poll: Would you date someone who makes more than you?Yes (87) 91% No (9) 9% 96 total votes Your vote: Would you date someone who makes more than you? (Vote): Yes
(Vote): No
Seems like we're all pretty chill about this arrangement. Now for the flip question: do you think she'd be up for it? Based upon your experience, do you think a girl would date you if you were pulling in less than half her annual take?
Poll: Would a girl date a guy if he made less than her?No (20) 67% Yes (10) 33% 30 total votes Your vote: Would a girl date a guy if he made less than her? (Vote): Yes
(Vote): No
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The more important question is, would she date you? Probably not. I'm pretty sure anyone can appreciate a free xbox 360. Heck, I'd prefer to date someone that way more money than me. Provided she was generous with all that extra cash.
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Of course... get it while you can.
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Is that even a serious question lol?
My gf makes twice as much as I do (she is a hotel manager) and pampers me all the time. I love it!!!
When I want to feel manly I head over to the gym and kick fools in the face.
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Braavos36379 Posts
I am secure enough to be OK with this, but it depends on the amounts too. There is a huge difference between you making nothing and her making 50k a year and you making 100 and her making 250.
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Absolutely no issue with this. I've never been the sort of person who feels like I need to spend lots of money on a girl. So I would never go for a girl who would expect this of me. This, of course, does not mean that I would let her spend a lot of money on me if she were to make more.
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United States5162 Posts
I'd be about as uncomfortable with this as I would be with dating someone taller than me - ie. it'd bother the selfconscious part of me that I'm 'less manly', but thinking about it logically I'd know it doesn't matter.
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On April 01 2011 04:28 l0st_romantic wrote:
But what if she's the richer one? What if she's an insurance lawyer or investment banking associate and she pulls in 250k per year? What if, god forbid, she insists on paying after every meal and pays for movie tickets to go watch Jackass and The Hangover with you, then buys you an Xbox 360 so that you can teach her how to play World at War on the rare weekends when she's free?
Would you do it?
Hell yeah, sounds like the perfect girl !
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Caring about this means you care/worry/talk about money which in turns means your a plebeian and thus not worth caring about. ^_^
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money isn't everything, i don't care.
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I live in the condo she owns. It's awesome.
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CA10828 Posts
well it depends really
for the moment i'm ok with it. my gf has a job lined up for 80k/year starting in a couple months while i'm going to be a student for essentially the next 7 years. but i know that when i graduate and start practicing i'll be making 6 figures.
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My wife doesn't work at all right now as she is going to college. I would absolutely love for her to be my sugar mamma.
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Are polls like these and the "would you sleep in the same bed as a person of the same sex"-poll made to troll people who consider themselves equals to the opposite sex?
Every swede will see this poll and think of you as if you came from medieval times.
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If only that were the case  . It is actually a dream of mine to be a stay at home Husband. I will cook clean and play starcraft all day.
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I don't see why it would be a problem. As long as it's not you being a bum and your date working hard and making money (but in this case, the date doesn't even matter, and the problem is just you being a bum).
I want to go straight to work after undergrad. A lot of people I know would rather go to grad school, med school, or law school. If this is the case, then after we graduate from Undergrad, I could very feasibly making twice as much as them (considering they're still going to school). If the roles were reversed, I wouldn't see any problem with it at all.
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On April 01 2011 04:44 LosingID8 wrote:
well it depends really
for the moment i'm ok with it. my gf has a job lined up for 80k/year starting in a couple months while i'm going to be a student for essentially the next 7 years. but i know that when i graduate and start practicing i'll be making 6 figures.
Wow, coincidences are creepy:
When I was finishing med school (making negative $) my girlfriend was bringing in roughly 80k annually. I was fine with it because she never rubbed it in my face.
As long as you are secure with yourself, and as long as she doesn't call you out on it (not teasing) then your good to go
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i would love to. sugar momma ftw. seriously that would be stellar.
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I'm on disability, so my wife is the breadwinner. My disability check is ~1/3 of what she pulls in monthly. Doesn't bother me in the least. Of course, I'm also watching the kid, so that helps prevent emasculation, but all in all, I think it's up to your self confidence as to whether you can handle it.
I generally let my wife be the one who pulls out the card, since she brings in more money than me, I don't feel some irrational need to look like I completely control and dominate any portion of the relationship, let alone something as silly as the money.
But then, I have what's probably a slight ego problem, and couldn't care less what anyone says or thinks.
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I'd date a girl with more income than me- it doesn't matter to me.
Now if only I could find one...
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On April 01 2011 05:22 JingleHell wrote:
But then, I have what's probably a slight ego problem, and couldn't care less what anyone says or thinks.
Pretty sure that's the opposite of a problem :p
On topic, of course! I love when people spend money on me :D
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Lol I love how one sided the first poll is.
It's not that a guy wouldn't date a girl that makes more, but a long term relationship tends to fail if the woman makes more for several reasons. It's very much one sided the other way.
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Hyrule19144 Posts
It's really only social stigmas which make this "unacceptable". In reality, if you're in love and you (together) can afford to live how you want, who cares who makes more?
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On April 01 2011 05:33 tofucake wrote:
It's really only social stigmas which make this "unacceptable". In reality, if you're in love and you (together) can afford to live how you want, who cares who makes more?
who cares at first? nobody really, but tension builds up.
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How the hell did we let something as stupid as money become so important in people's lives?
Who the fuck cares about money? Are you happy together, and enjoy one another's company? good to go dude.
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On April 01 2011 05:46 Zlasher wrote:Show nested quote +On April 01 2011 05:33 tofucake wrote:
It's really only social stigmas which make this "unacceptable". In reality, if you're in love and you (together) can afford to live how you want, who cares who makes more? who cares at first? nobody really, but tension builds up.
tension might build up between people that don't actually care about each other or something. If people are fixated enough to care which gender makes more money then I'm at a loss for words and wouldn't want to be with someone like that anyway.
My girlfriend have talked about it a few times that what if she ended up being the one making a lot more money, since she has the opportunity to. It wouldn't change anything cause it's not like my/her money or something, it's our money. As long as both people are contributing there shouldn't be a problem in any solid relationship
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On April 01 2011 06:03 Divinek wrote:Show nested quote +On April 01 2011 05:46 Zlasher wrote:On April 01 2011 05:33 tofucake wrote:
It's really only social stigmas which make this "unacceptable". In reality, if you're in love and you (together) can afford to live how you want, who cares who makes more? who cares at first? nobody really, but tension builds up. tension might build up between people that don't actually care about each other or something. If people are fixated enough to care which gender makes more money then I'm at a loss for words and wouldn't want to be with someone like that anyway. My girlfriend have talked about it a few times that what if she ended up being the one making a lot more money, since she has the opportunity to. It wouldn't change anything cause it's not like my/her money or something, it's our money. As long as both people are contributing there shouldn't be a problem in any solid relationship
^This. If either partner in a theoretically serious relationship isn't seeing it this way, the relationship is doomed for other reasons. Even when my wife was on unemployment, and that plus my disability barely paid the bills, it was never a problem.
If you're in a serious, committed relationship with someone you love, you can make pretty much any weird situation work. It comes down to expectations and societal traits, combined with your understanding of them. In our case, the best thing for us is for my wife to work and me to take care of our son at home. Thus, I'm doing the best job possible providing for my family that way. As such, there is no other "manly" decision to be made. Any other thought is ego.
Mind you, in a less serious relationship, that societal stuff will come into play a lot more.
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I will share a quick story. I once dated a lawyer, we were like on the 4th date. We were talking about jobs and our careers so the topic of how much you make eventually came up. At the time, her and I were 25 so she just finished law school and just started her career. I've finished college and have been working for 2 years or so. She said her current salary was 160k which surprised me. I told her I only make 20k less than her. I thought I was the baller lucky one but apparently shes the one bringing home the bigger bucks. Then she never called me back. lol I doubt that was the reason tho.
I think women would prefer to have a higher income man. They want to be pampered as much as we want to but unfortunately it's on us to attract them. It's also harder to tease a woman who makes significantly more money than you because if she does, she probably made correct decisions in her life to get that far. Hard to say you're better than her in that case.
What can you say when she says I make more money than you? I'd be like dam you got me. What can I say?
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