EPTHow I met my wife and why we got married- Part 2 - Page 2
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doihy
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mel_ee
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thedeadhaji
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Sounds like you have a great partner | ||
MightyAtom
Korea (South)1897 Posts
@n.DieJokes: You are a wise and insightful man on both accounts @fanta[Rn]: thanks, I have no choice but to do it, but honestly every reply I get strengthes my resolve *^^ @Hynda : Agreed, will respond to your quote with separate reply. @Slayer91,lungo,dahornnn,mooose,MarCoon, Juliette: not baller yet, broke ass mofo is closer to the reality right now...but I will be baller when I sponsor a TSL as the 'MightyAtom TSL', then trust me, I will have lost any attempt at humility at that point in time. @vlaric: among non-pussy Korean men, common knowledge ^^ @mizU: visiting Korea and living in Korea are 2 totally different things, its more on the bad side here to live here, but there ain't no place like home @29 fps: ^^ No part 3, Daddy's got to bring home the bacon and work like a mofo (its why I haven't posted for a while now) @doihy: related to gaming, TL.net is this kinda badge of me of 'baller nerd' legitmacy, so I try to keep things separate from my actual act of business and here. @mel_ee: I think that's very true about ilsan, I wouldn't say extremely rich, but pretty well off, but definately a lot of relocations from Gangnam. @thedeadhaji: I do have as perfect as a Korean wife can be, definately married above my 'station'. ^^ | ||
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MightyAtom
Korea (South)1897 Posts
On February 21 2011 06:40 Hynda wrote: I find it amazing just how different the cultures of this world can be. For me and the majority of my countrymen all those things you mention would be considered weak points for anyone you'd marry here. Someone that would always support you in public would be seen as dull and with no opinions of her own. Someone that would believe in the man providing for the family would be seen as unambitious and lazy, for many men a woman that can't provide for herself is unacceptable. Someone that didn't voice her opinion if she felt the man is working to much and would need him to spend more time with her during some difficult time or more commonly the children would be seen as a very flat, whipped and unindependant woman. And ofcourse there is no right or wrong here, I can respect most cultures virtues but it's fun to see how completly opposite some of them are. Korean women are fiery women, but very good points as I know a bit about the Scandinavian culture (only been to Denmark though), but in the context of Korea it does make more sense too. Men need to command a certain level of respect in public, the easiest way this gets shot down is having a wife that argues with you in public or sides with others in an argument. Having a discussion is one thing and having your own opinion, trust me, my wife has her own opinion; but in a social situation where a conflict occurs, there is no room for your wife to be reasonable other than standing by your side and then yelling at you when you get home. Scandinavia area actually is probably the most equal rights place for women and maybe in some cases women have more personal power. But you guys work from 9-5; I guess the biggest thing is working in Korea is extremely difficult, even women who work at Samsung or a major firm want to quit and even the men do too, and money issues are always close to the surface. The working conditions are horrible here, even if you work from 7pm to 6pm, and even if not all the working time is productive, it is just such a wear on you. So, Korean women realize that being a house wife is a luxury nowadays, but whether they work or not, they need to allow the man the respect to be a provider or else the marriage will fall apart because the wife will constantly nag the man for more money, better job, thus giving the man a great deal of extra frustration. Korean women are passionate and romantic, they love to have time alone with their man and for some women they are very demanding about it. But a man needs to focus and a woman has to give the man space to focus. When I mean Korean women are passionate and romantic, its not a matter of being clingy, but rather, they want to simply spend as much quality time with you as possible and feel special too. Maybe we are society of egoists, but if you want to charm a Korean girl from Korea, its very simple. Just tell her every day how beautiful she is (but if she is really hot, tell her that she is really disgusting to look at as she probably will enjoy the joke more). Its that simple. So, when you need to work late, go drinking with your company people, then your wife has to let you go rather than hold you an emotional hostage because at the end of they day, of course you'd rather be with her than at the company drinking party. But I also have to say, when I was in Denmark for business and I talked with the guys there, they thought living in Korea would be heaven because the women were too tough in Denmark ^^ | ||
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beetlelisk
Poland2276 Posts
I hope your business becomes steady fast so you both don't have to endure hardships related to it. You have an amazing wife and it's amazing you could find her when the it takes so much to get married in a standard way. Great insight into Korean society, you have my double 5/5 | ||
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MightyAtom
Korea (South)1897 Posts
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Klogon
MURICA15980 Posts
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haduken
Australia8267 Posts
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Rekrul
Korea (South)17174 Posts
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MightyAtom
Korea (South)1897 Posts
On February 21 2011 20:49 Rekrul wrote: I really wish you went into more detail about the night walk we took. I would have except that it involves the one who will not be named and this was a tribute to my wife ^^ | ||
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kakaman
United States1576 Posts
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MightyAtom
Korea (South)1897 Posts
On February 21 2011 23:50 kakaman wrote: Great blog, it really hits close to home in my relationship history. I'm Chinese, but the girls are very similar in nature to Korean girls (I've had experiences with both). I also am from a relatively well off background with a good education and good job, so the people I interact with are of similar nature. The problem is, I don't like to spend money, I don't like to show off, I don't like to give gifts for every single superficial anniversary (V day, 100 day, white day, etc). I've tried to branch out and look at girls from "lower" statuses, to hope to find a girl who would care less about the superficial stuff in the world. In your experience, do you know of friends who have succeeded? Or is it pretty much a lost cost for me? In Korea, we spend money on the women, never dutch, buy gifts etc, I'd say if you went out of your socio-economic class, they may have lower expectations, but then you might be getting suckered with a gold digger. For me its an acceptable and reasonable cost to make your woman feel good (especially if her friends are getting gifts as well), but if you are looking for a less superficial way to have relationship then Canadian, Australian and New Zealand women are very down to earth as long as they aren't Asian. I'd say, if you know your woman isn't a gold digger and this is the level of materialism that she is use to and you trust her and love her, then make her happy and spend the coin; but a really classy lady really won't care about all the little gifts and anniversaries if you buy her big ticket gifts that dwarf the other gifts like a piano, fur coat, rolex or channel bag or something like that. | ||
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Ciryandor
United States3735 Posts
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