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How I met my wife and why we got married- Part 2
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MightyAtom
Korea (South)1897 Posts
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Ilikestarcraft
Korea (South)17731 Posts
 Also the hanja in ilsan for the il isn't the one for the number one(한일一) but is the one for day (날일日). I remember that because I used to live in ilsan and for the longest time thought that it meant one mountain. | ||
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MightyAtom
Korea (South)1897 Posts
On February 21 2011 05:06 Ilikestarcraft wrote: like reading your blogs Also the hanja in ilsan for the il isn't the one for the number one but means day 날일日. I remember that because I used to live in ilsan and for the longest time thought that it meant one mountain. Really? hehe, I'm gonna check that, cause there are more than 1 mountains in islan too keke. ^^ | ||
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Kalingingsong
Canada633 Posts
Now you need to understand this one point, in Korea, we don't mix with different social classes, and the criteria for this is so minuet, so tiny, so inconsequently and so, when you see a Korean drama where an uber rich guy marries some beautiful poor girl that works in his company that he owns THAT NEVER EVER FUCKING EVER WILL NEVER EVER HAPPEN EVER. That rich dude, doesn't even know that that beautiful poor girl exists cause when he takes the elevator, the staff don't join him and he ain't at the office working all day and taking phone calls, no he at the Grand Hyatt having lunch and gonna take a flight to Jeju to do some golfing. And vise versa for the ladies as well. So my point was that while there maybe a lot of gold diggers out there in the world, these gold diggers in Korea would never ever get the time of day or have the social network to even run into a really well off guy. So in the same way, the girls that I was meeting, their parents are CEO of this or that company or are doctors, professors, lawyers etc. So it wasn't like for 1 second they thought that they needed to impress me, rather, that I needed to impress them. But since I'm not a golddigger either, its just blah... hmm, any thoughts as to why the society turned out like this? | ||
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Tipany
United States368 Posts
I skipped to the middle when I decided that I NEEDED to read the whole thing, so I went back and read Part 1. With 100% candor, I hope everything works out for the best in the end.  | ||
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MightyAtom
Korea (South)1897 Posts
On February 21 2011 05:20 Kalingingsong wrote: hmm, any thoughts as to why the society turned out like this? couple of thoughts. 1. basically in the modern era after the 88 Olympics, much of the class system of the Joseon dynasty basically became irrelevant as there was this ungodly amount of mass of wealth made via gangnam real estate and chaebol companies really turning up the exports in all sectors. So there became a class system based purely on wealth with the chaebols on top and the new wealthy who had been lucky to buy the right plots of land in gangnam when it was just farm land or who bought the new houses in the areas and could sell it for 1000% of its value then rode the real estate boom and flipped more properties on top of that. A class system has been inherent part of Korean society in one form or another since the Shilla kingdom and thats plus 2000 years ago. Just because we are not as focused on the old class system doesn't mean that a new one hasn't formed. But the huge amount of insta wealth that occurred in such a short period of it totally changed the expression of classes. 2. the rapid industrialization in such a short period of time and in such a concentrated area (Seoul) has bred uber competitiveness, because there is no middle class identity. No one is proud to be middle class, everyone is trying to get out of being middle class because the signs of wealth are so apparent and obvious that it seems as though if you do x y z, then you as well can achieve the wealth that surrounds you. In america, the very rich areas are vastly separated from the very poor areas, someone in the ghettos will likely not even know a single road in a very rich neighborhood and even middle class people may never go into those neighborhoods, but in Korea, you run into celebrities and rich people all the time around you; today coming down from the mountain, we saw of of Korea's top directors, I didn't know who he was, but my wife and sister-in-law, were like, wow, its so and so. But the point is the rich are not far removed from sight. Now becoming chaebol rich is uber tough, near impossible, but going to a top school and becoming a professional is possible, so its this constant state of competition and comparing. Couple this with this new class system based on wealth, with no formal guidelines, then you have this very materialistic uber competitive society system where only when everyone is of the same 'level' is there this relaxation of the strain of being competitive/comparing. But only if you are in the same level, if you below it, you strive to get in or go back down, if you are above it, you can't hang out with them because you set their envy aflame. It's not easy living in Korea. The ones outside this class system is probably the Christian population to some degree, but then they substitute the class system from simply associating with only other Christians. | ||
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MightyAtom
Korea (South)1897 Posts
On February 21 2011 05:38 TheJoyBringer wrote: Brilliant. I skipped to the middle when I decided that I NEEDED to read the whole thing, so I went back and read Part 1. With 100% candor, I hope everything works out for the best in the end. Thanks, much appreciated. ^^ | ||
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ninini
Sweden1204 Posts
I hope I can remember this valuable knowledge when it's time for me to get married. | ||
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n.DieJokes
United States3443 Posts
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fanta[Rn]
Japan2465 Posts
later on after we dated more, she told me she thought that my taste was way too conservative and was going to end the date there when we bought the ties lol! hahaha, brillaint : D Your wife is amazing, I can't believe how supportive she is. You gotta do it man! | ||
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Hynda
Sweden2226 Posts
On February 21 2011 04:38 MightyAtom wrote: The kind of woman you marry is the kind that will always do 3 things : 1. Always support you in public 2. Believe in you as a man who can provide for the family 3. Not put her personal need to want to be with you in front of your ambition and/or the family I find it amazing just how different the cultures of this world can be. For me and the majority of my countrymen all those things you mention would be considered weak points for anyone you'd marry here. Someone that would always support you in public would be seen as dull and with no opinions of her own. Someone that would believe in the man providing for the family would be seen as unambitious and lazy, for many men a woman that can't provide for herself is unacceptable. Someone that didn't voice her opinion if she felt the man is working to much and would need him to spend more time with her during some difficult time or more commonly the children would be seen as a very flat, whipped and unindependant woman. And ofcourse there is no right or wrong here, I can respect most cultures virtues but it's fun to see how completly opposite some of them are. | ||
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Slayer91
Ireland23335 Posts
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lungo
Denmark276 Posts
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dahornnn
United Kingdom395 Posts
gl with companies! | ||
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mooose
Japan200 Posts
I hope your companies do well | ||
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MarCoon
Germany493 Posts
Are we gonna see part3 soon? | ||
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vlaric
United States412 Posts
actually, just love all your blogs in general. best of luck to you and your family on your business venture as well! On February 21 2011 04:38 MightyAtom wrote: <The Marrying Kind> Megan is the kind of woman you marry and not the woman you date. Boys, there is a difference. If you are dating the kind of woman you will marry, then good for you, but if you are dating the kind of woman you only be dating, then do the right thing, don't marry her. Now I'm not talking about marrying a virgin or good girl verse some girl who likes to party or whatever, that is just stupid shit. The kind of woman you marry is the kind that will always do 3 things : 1. Always support you in public 2. Believe in you as a man who can provide for the family 3. Not put her personal need to want to be with you in front of your ambition and/or the family Of course, this is just my view as a Korean man, but of course part of what makes this work as well is as a Korean man you work your freaking ass off and do whatever you can to provide the highest standard of living you can for your wife and family. And of course as humans there are limits. when i was reading through this part, i remember my Korean friend giving me almost the exact same talk about the differences between the two types of girls (his brother has been dating the 'marrying kind' for awhile now). is this common knowledge for relationships in Korean society? i was just wondering because the dialogues were so similar. | ||
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mizU
United States12125 Posts
Nice writing. This gives a different sense of Korea that I've been wanting to explore. Thanks for writing.<3 | ||
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Juliette
United States6003 Posts
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29 fps
United States5724 Posts
will there be a part 3? | ||
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