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JackMcCoy
Profile Blog Joined August 2007
165 Posts
Last Edited: 2011-01-16 12:02:42
January 16 2011 11:52 GMT
#161
On January 16 2011 18:56 Raeleigh wrote:
Show nested quote +
On January 16 2011 18:31 JackMcCoy wrote:
I'm sorry for my previous picture, I shouldn't reference such obscure movies. I drew you a happy picture to make up for it. Do you like music? I love talking about music.
[image loading]

[image loading]

Edit: I'm oblivious to everything in the world right now. I went to the pub with friends. ^_^;
As for music, I doubt we'll have similar interests, thus the picture above.

I enjoy conversing with you in pictures though.
XD

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OBJECTION
Order
Profile Blog Joined December 2008
Lithuania231 Posts
January 16 2011 11:55 GMT
#162
Hey. I want to tell a very short story which has changed my point of view on this matter in a way.

I saw a girl on the bus and I thought she looked really pretty but I was very shy and didnt say anything to her. Now, two or three weeks later I saw the same girl on the same bus and this time she got off the bus at the same bus stop as did I. So I came home and told all about that to my brother. He said I was dumb for not saying anything to her and so on and so forth. Now this is what happened. Like two or three days later me and my brother were going to school. We came up to this bus stop and the girl was there! (Actually there were 2 of them, cause it turned out they were twins, not the point tho) So they got into the bus and so did we. Then I told my brother that they are in the bus and showed him what I was talking about.

Now. If I would've been alone I would've NEVER EVER EVER done this. But my brother didnt give a shit. He said to me "If u will not stand up and go there and talk to them I am gonna start screaming and I will tell them everything about you." At that point I felt horrible. I felt tremendous feeling of fear because I just didnt know what to do. But let me tell you this. I know my brother really well and I am to this day 100% sure that he would've done that. I am completely sure. He's like semi-punk and doesnt give a fuck :D

So I stood up went to them, looked at my brother and he was waving like crazy. So I took one more step forward so they could see me and started talking. And it turned out really well. We didnt hook up, but we still sometimes talk to this day. After that I was thinking a lot about what happened and how when I didnt have anywhere to run and I was forced to take the only remaining option I took it, even tho it was probably one of the most horrifying things that I had to do EVER.

I dont know if this will help anyone in any way, but all of this is true. After that my problems of talking to girls havent had gone away completely, but now I am way more confident.
Common Sense - so rare that it's a super power
Ghardo
Profile Blog Joined September 2004
Germany1685 Posts
January 16 2011 14:39 GMT
#163
I sincerely thank Rekrul for posting in this thread - sometimes a little bit directness is very much needed =) I also enjoyed hazelynut's post for the same value.
Hypnosis
Profile Blog Joined October 2007
United States2061 Posts
January 16 2011 14:53 GMT
#164
Hey what if I want you to pay for all the meals though? How do I go about rising about this tough obstacle?
Science without religion is lame, Religion without science is blind
OpticalShot
Profile Blog Joined October 2009
Canada6330 Posts
January 16 2011 15:11 GMT
#165
Awesome illustrations, thanks for this blog!
[TLMS] REBOOT
tonight
Profile Blog Joined November 2006
United States11130 Posts
January 16 2011 17:17 GMT
#166
On January 16 2011 23:53 Hypnosis wrote:
Hey what if I want you to pay for all the meals though? How do I go about rising about this tough obstacle?

The best you're going to get is a split of the bill unless it's the chick that is really into you. Other than that you can be that guy that's like, "Oh no! I don't have my wallet and or any money!" Yeah, chicks love those dudes.
if I come without a thing, then I come with all I need @tonightsend
Deleted User 61629
Profile Blog Joined March 2010
1664 Posts
Last Edited: 2011-01-16 17:24:03
January 16 2011 17:23 GMT
#167
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SkytoM
Profile Blog Joined July 2009
Austria1137 Posts
Last Edited: 2011-01-16 18:34:52
January 16 2011 17:54 GMT
#168
And once again, Rekrul wins the Thread.

I partially agree with him. Raleighs view of things is purely from a girl/women side and thus pretty useless. Most girls have no idea why they are attracted to a particular kind of guy at the age of 20. Hell, most of us guys don't know either. We just know who we want to fuck, i guess. And the things Rekrul quoted ( i'm too lazy to do it again) ....
Bisu... ;-(
tonight
Profile Blog Joined November 2006
United States11130 Posts
January 16 2011 18:11 GMT
#169
They probably didn't lie if her friends were trying to pick up girls like herself which seem to be a very small minority of girls.
if I come without a thing, then I come with all I need @tonightsend
SkytoM
Profile Blog Joined July 2009
Austria1137 Posts
January 16 2011 18:34 GMT
#170
On January 17 2011 03:11 tonight wrote:
They probably didn't lie if her friends were trying to pick up girls like herself which seem to be a very small minority of girls.


oh.. didn't think about that. That seems way more likely..
Bisu... ;-(
StorkHwaiting
Profile Blog Joined October 2009
United States3465 Posts
January 16 2011 20:10 GMT
#171
hilarious illustrations. Hi, I'm a d-bag!
Torenhire
Profile Blog Joined April 2009
United States11681 Posts
January 16 2011 22:19 GMT
#172
On January 16 2011 11:07 Raeleigh wrote:
Show nested quote +
On January 16 2011 11:05 Rekrul wrote:
And that ladies and gentlemen, is how you pick up a girl.

I don't think you'd know how to pick up a girl even if she was laying naked in front of you telling you to touch her. Honestly.


Oh god I long to see Rekrul's reply to this.

Rekrul should make a how to pick up women guide. Kennigit did a good one a while back if I remember correctly. Can never seem to find it though.
SirJolt: Well maybe if you weren't so big and stupid, it wouldn't have hit you.
Servius_Fulvius
Profile Joined August 2009
United States947 Posts
Last Edited: 2011-01-16 23:30:11
January 16 2011 23:27 GMT
#173
I feel it would be more appropriate to title this blog "How to make friends" instead of just 'talking to girls'. I don't think much of this advice is likely to get you a serious girlfriend, though, it may get you a date or two given a large group of people. On the other hand, the general strategy of 'striking up conversations through small talk' is a great way to make a lot of acquaintances and friends.

Social anxiety is a high hurdle for anyone just entering college (about the age group this post is primarily intended), but, as I learned 8 months ago, it happens again whenever you pack up and move into the real world. I constantly thought "OMG what do I do? I only really know how to talk to people my own age!". Forget finding a girlfriend, I wanted to find a life! Fortunately, I already knew how to do it, I just didn't know it yet!

The trick is to keep doing the things you enjoy. In college, you meet people you live with, and people through school clubs, parties, and classes. This is considerably easier in college since you all share college in common as well as whatever special interest your club focuses on, the particular class, or the fact you're all drunk at a party. Almost everyone is around the same 18-22 age group. This isn't as easy in the real world, mostly because it's harder to find things like this and it's much easier to sit inside and relish the life you wish you still had. Keep following those special interests. Like gaming? Spend some time at the local game shop or tournaments in the area (start your own if there's none available, you'll probably find at least one person!). Volunteer if you enjoy helping or mentoring others. Still want to get drunk AND meet people? Why do you think the bar and club scene is so popular! The important thing is to do what you enjoy and put yourself in as many rooms as possible. There's people in every room, so building relationships becomes important and ultimately leads to a solid friend base and possibly feeling like you belong in a new place.

Notice I never mentioned meeting girls. This should come as a byproduct of doing what you enjoy. It's been my experience that the harder you look for a romantic relationship the more elusive it seems. Stop trying. The people I see do this drive themselves crazy with expectations, become very desperate, settle with second-best, and miss out on the wonderful opportunities in front of them. Learn to be yourself and learn to love yourself - only then are you truly giving that future someone the best of what you are.
Kenpachi
Profile Blog Joined August 2009
United States9908 Posts
January 16 2011 23:30 GMT
#174
such Korean-esque drawings lol
Nada's body is South Korea's greatest weapon.
luckyseven
Profile Joined December 2010
179 Posts
Last Edited: 2011-01-17 00:54:32
January 17 2011 00:51 GMT
#175
1. become confident
2. become best buddies with a girl and make her laugh and happy and love being your friend
3. get depressed or anxious over something
4. girl decides she doesnt want to be around you anymore because you cant provide for her emotional stimulation right now and girls only give a shit about how you make them feel, and not about you as a person
5. get even more depressed because your so-called friend has "dumped" you
6. *waves to confidence*
luckyseven
Profile Joined December 2010
179 Posts
Last Edited: 2011-01-17 01:17:02
January 17 2011 01:09 GMT
#176
how many women have you heard say something like "oh i dont like him/her, theyre so miserable all the time!" whether they actually know the person or not. i hear it all the fucking time, when i might feel sympathetic towards a sad-looking person, a girl will just feel repulsed.

its coz women only give a fuck about how you can make THEM feel. they dont actually give a fuck about YOU: only what you can DO for them. if you cant make them feel attracted or you cant smile at them and play on their primal nature then they will chuck you out the window, abandon you and want nothing to do with you.

you know what my friend of 3 years said to me when i was feeling bad recently and we met up in town? "why did you agree to meet up if you're going to be like THIS??" how do you think that made me feel?? any better??? is that really the way you should talk to a friend????

women are not supportive or kind, dont kid yourself. they react to smile with smile but will just as quickly leave you in the dirt if you dont live up to their standards one day. and believe me, they will just as quickly come running back if you turn up feeling confident again the next week. but i've had enough of being treated like an emotional pick-n-mix. my friend was dumped recently by his wife of 5 yrs just because she got some emotional stimulation from a new guy and hence stopped caring completely abt her husband.

women are unreliable and you can't trust them with your emotional well-being. they will stab you in the back as soon as you're feeling down and you cant give them what they want.

if you want to get a girl (or girls) heres the best tip: go 100,000 miles away from them and train up your personal self and skills for 10 years until you are so frickin happy with yourself that nothing can bring you down. having any sort of emotional dependance or reliance on or trust in a woman is asking for a rollercoaster hell of a life that will fuck you up and delay your personal growth time and time and time again. and they will come out of it still beautiful and desireable (unless they're fat) whereas you'll be miserable and feel like a waste that has gone 3 steps forward and 4 steps back

intrigue
Profile Blog Joined November 2005
Washington, D.C9934 Posts
Last Edited: 2011-01-17 01:32:55
January 17 2011 01:27 GMT
#177
On January 16 2011 10:59 Raeleigh wrote:
I'm sorry, when did I say I only had 2 serious relationships?

On January 16 2011 10:24 Raeleigh wrote:
I've had 2 serious relationships

On January 16 2011 10:59 Raeleigh wrote (in the same post as quote 1):
I've had more than 2 relationships... 2 of them were serious.


cute drawings btw
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tonight
Profile Blog Joined November 2006
United States11130 Posts
January 17 2011 01:29 GMT
#178
Hm, I'm curious on the definition of "serious" for you. At 20 how serious could the relationships have been and for how long could they have been?
if I come without a thing, then I come with all I need @tonightsend
luckyseven
Profile Joined December 2010
179 Posts
January 17 2011 01:39 GMT
#179
also im wondering if nyone can help me decide what sort of motorcycle i should buy
Servius_Fulvius
Profile Joined August 2009
United States947 Posts
Last Edited: 2011-01-17 02:21:43
January 17 2011 02:13 GMT
#180
On January 17 2011 10:09 luckyseven wrote:
+ Show Spoiler +

how many women have you heard say something like "oh i dont like him/her, theyre so miserable all the time!" whether they actually know the person or not. i hear it all the fucking time, when i might feel sympathetic towards a sad-looking person, a girl will just feel repulsed.

its coz women only give a fuck about how you can make THEM feel. they dont actually give a fuck about YOU: only what you can DO for them. if you cant make them feel attracted or you cant smile at them and play on their primal nature then they will chuck you out the window, abandon you and want nothing to do with you.

you know what my friend of 3 years said to me when i was feeling bad recently and we met up in town? "why did you agree to meet up if you're going to be like THIS??" how do you think that made me feel?? any better??? is that really the way you should talk to a friend????

women are not supportive or kind, dont kid yourself. they react to smile with smile but will just as quickly leave you in the dirt if you dont live up to their standards one day. and believe me, they will just as quickly come running back if you turn up feeling confident again the next week. but i've had enough of being treated like an emotional pick-n-mix. my friend was dumped recently by his wife of 5 yrs just because she got some emotional stimulation from a new guy and hence stopped caring completely abt her husband.

women are unreliable and you can't trust them with your emotional well-being. they will stab you in the back as soon as you're feeling down and you cant give them what they want.

if you want to get a girl (or girls) heres the best tip: go 100,000 miles away from them and train up your personal self and skills for 10 years until you are so frickin happy with yourself that nothing can bring you down. having any sort of emotional dependance or reliance on or trust in a woman is asking for a rollercoaster hell of a life that will fuck you up and delay your personal growth time and time and time again. and they will come out of it still beautiful and desireable (unless they're fat) whereas you'll be miserable and feel like a waste that has gone 3 steps forward and 4 steps back



Sounds like you've had it with the BS too, huh? Ultimately men need women, not girls. It's hard to tell the difference.

My last girlfriend was fantastic! Then I moved to grad school. At first it was ok. Being 1000 miles away it was hard to visit, and certainly hard on us, but I felt she was worth it and she swore the same. After 4.5 months she couldn't take it anymore. Did she start telling me about it? No. She basically lied to me saying everything was alright, didn't mention any of her emotional insecurities about our relationship, and after another 90 days decides to just break up with me. Had she mentioned it sooner we probably still would have broken up, but then it would have been on OUR terms instead of HER terms. We promised to talk two months after that when I was home for winter break (three days after breaking up she called again to say it was a mistake; I told her she put me through a lot of crap I needed time), but then she got in not one but TWO relationships. Did she tell me so I wouldn't get my hopes up? No! Instead I find out through facebook she's dating someone else a whole four days before I was supposed to see her. All in all, what I thought was a woman was a girl pretending she was something more. I get the heartbreak, she gets the rebound. Really fair, huh?

The point of all that is we have nothing to go on but trust. I trusted her and got hurt, but that won't stop me from trusting again. I'm confident in myself and my awesomeness right now, so there's no need to move 100,000 miles away! I'm not going out of my way to find anyone; if it happens it happens. When it does, the best way I can think of to test a woman's integrity is through time. Anyone can be a great partner for a few months, but do they have what it takes to be a great partner for life? Only time tells!
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