Talking to girls and being confident. [pics] - Page 10

On January 17 2011 10:09 luckyseven wrote:
how many women have you heard say something like "oh i dont like him/her, theyre so miserable all the time!" whether they actually know the person or not. i hear it all the fucking time, when i might feel sympathetic towards a sad-looking person, a girl will just feel repulsed.

its coz women only give a fuck about how you can make THEM feel. they dont actually give a fuck about YOU: only what you can DO for them. if you cant make them feel attracted or you cant smile at them and play on their primal nature then they will chuck you out the window, abandon you and want nothing to do with you.

you know what my friend of 3 years said to me when i was feeling bad recently and we met up in town? "why did you agree to meet up if you're going to be like THIS??" how do you think that made me feel?? any better??? is that really the way you should talk to a friend????

women are not supportive or kind, dont kid yourself. they react to smile with smile but will just as quickly leave you in the dirt if you dont live up to their standards one day. and believe me, they will just as quickly come running back if you turn up feeling confident again the next week. but i've had enough of being treated like an emotional pick-n-mix. my friend was dumped recently by his wife of 5 yrs just because she got some emotional stimulation from a new guy and hence stopped caring completely abt her husband.

women are unreliable and you can't trust them with your emotional well-being. they will stab you in the back as soon as you're feeling down and you cant give them what they want.

if you want to get a girl (or girls) heres the best tip: go 100,000 miles away from them and train up your personal self and skills for 10 years until you are so frickin happy with yourself that nothing can bring you down. having any sort of emotional dependance or reliance on or trust in a woman is asking for a rollercoaster hell of a life that will fuck you up and delay your personal growth time and time and time again. and they will come out of it still beautiful and desireable (unless they're fat) whereas you'll be miserable and feel like a waste that has gone 3 steps forward and 4 steps back

On January 17 2011 13:00 luckyseven wrote:
well actually what i said is true for men also, except men base their attraction on a girl's looks rather than the way the girl acts. men also dont look DOWN on unattractive women, although they do look up to attractive women. women look down on people they arent attracted to (ie people who arent , in the moment, cool and cant make them laugh and give them a good vibe). these mean 2 things

1. man is loyal if he finds her physically attractive, she doesnt have to worry about losing her man if she gets depressed or loses confidence or has a shitty ego or whatever. she doesnt have a hard job of earning and maintaining attraction, being a manly rock, knowing that if she shows weakness then her man will lose interest and be easily taken. of course age and the dwindling nature of physical attraction may eventually have a part to play, but ive found that if a guy falls in love with a girl then he will "love her nomatter her age or looks (so long as she has a pussy and tits)". on the other hand a woman will never love a man "nomatter his confidence and coolness", the attraction just wont be there.

2. if she ISNT attractive then its not a case of a man thinking "this girls a dufus" or "this girls a chode" or "this girls repulsive coz she has no confidence" or "im gonna look down on this girl coz shes not making me laugh" or "im gonna ditch her coz shes spoiling my mood". it is just a case of the man thinking "i dont find her attractive but we can still be friends, whatever".

this 2nd point is more than obvious when you get women in a workplace together where their lack of attraction for one another just lets their basic personality and the way they view and treat other people shine thru: they fight and squabble and hate on one another. men dont do this, they will generally be affable. l

is it okay to judge someone and treat someone based on how confident and cool they come accross as today?

this is how women treat men

is it okay to judge someone and treat someone based on how they look?

this is how men treat women

is one better than the other? they both have their issues (as demonstrated) . "love" and relationships is pretty much about meeting each other part-way, in the middle of this rather nasty and unforgiving balance. when it works it can be a beautiful thing, but dont go letting the teamliquid nerds thinking they have what it takes. 100,000 miles and 10 years and maybe you'll be good enough to find true happiness in our human condition. 1 million divorces in 2008 in USA, thats a shit lot of suffering dont you think. is it worth it? are you one of the awesome lucky ones? or do you think you need to work on yourself a damn LOT before you can take care of yourself enough to take care of another person (who is actually not all that reliable on a subconscious/primal level)

On January 27 2011 22:52 Joementum wrote:
Tip of the day: Want more confidence? Drink a beer, or three before talking to a girl. Make sure you're not drunk though (it would be sad if you get drunk off 3 beers). Your confidence levels go way up when there's some alcohol in you. Alcohol level needed will vary.

If you try too hard to get a relationship going quickly, she'll get flustered and will back away. Of course, it could work, but more times than not, she'll want to be friends first, and get to know you more before she trusts you with her feelings or her heart. If you honestly, really like a girl, she'll be a time investment. You'll get to know her over a few months, she'll get to know you, and when(if) you finally start dating, it'll be rewarding, because you'll be close already from the friendship you two created.

On January 15 2011 18:35 Raeleigh wrote:
So TL, how does that sound? Do I sound ridiculous or does some of this sound semi-helpful? Haha. Sorry if you don't agree with it, but this is just what I think you guys should be watching out for and really taking into consideration.

On January 15 2011 18:43 NeverGG wrote:
The illustrations are so cute. I kind of skimmed it, but the advice seems sound and I agree about some of us girls finding the whole 'baller'/d-bag attitude a bit overpowering and kind of lame. It's not really relevant to me personally because I've found that most guys can't get past me being ugly, and having really geeky hobbies (far geekier than SC.) and most of the guys I've liked myself have already got girlfriends, or see me as friend-material only due to these issues.

On January 16 2011 10:24 Raeleigh wrote:
On another note: Can mods just lock this blog? It's derailed from the original purpose, and I'm a bit disappointed it's done so.

I'm sorry, when did I say I only had 2 serious relationships? I've had more than 2 relationships, but only 2 of them were serious.