On May 20 2010 06:42 Masamune wrote:
Uhhh...it's 2010. These people should be counting their lucky stars that at least you guys are being safe.

And I highly doubt that these people are really more at issue with their rules being broken than with their daughter having sex. You don't place such a stupid rule like 'no boys in the house when we aren't home' if you aren't afraid of your daughter having sex. They clearly don't want it happening and should stop trying to fight the inevitable and just be happy that you guys are responsible.

Ohh. i thought they just meant no people in the house in general.
Yeah if thats the case then theyre just silly parents living in the past.
@OP, how old are your parents?

arb

Noobville17922 Posts

May 19 2010 22:16 GMT

#44

this seems like a hard situation let me give you a fast way to deal with it

1 : dont be a dick
2 : man up and make sure you talk to them face to face
3 : it may be hard but do it.
4 : life has alot of hardships in it this is obviously one of them

lIlIlIlIlIlI

Korea (South)3851 Posts

May 19 2010 22:17 GMT

#45

--- Nuked ---

Flaccid

8914 Posts

May 19 2010 22:19 GMT

#46

I hope you can work hard to salvage the relationship long enough that she can get drunk in university and bone a frat boy and you can realize that she was a bitch the entire time and get on with your life.

Fingers crossed

TommyGG

United States142 Posts

May 19 2010 22:28 GMT

#47

On May 20 2010 06:56 XinRan wrote:

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Don't flush it. The water treatment people have to remove it and dispose of it another way, which is wasted resources.

lol...

Wr3k

Canada2533 Posts

May 19 2010 22:34 GMT

#48

If their rents said that you can date as long as it doesn't happen under their roof then whats the problem? Don't have sex in their house or don't get caught lol.

RebirthOfLeGenD

USA5860 Posts

May 19 2010 22:35 GMT

#49

On May 20 2010 07:19 Flaccid wrote:
I hope you can work hard to salvage the relationship long enough that she can get drunk in university and bone a frat boy and you can realize that she was a bitch the entire time and get on with your life.

Fingers crossed

lololol pessimist.

AmstAff

Germany949 Posts

May 19 2010 23:07 GMT

#50

2 weeks are nothing, just make an excuse now and on the 4th again.

NobleDog

United States65 Posts

May 19 2010 23:10 GMT

#51

The mom's probably just jealous--the dad too.

When you meet them again look for cues, like them showing you other condoms and asking if you think this is too big or do you like the color.

It could be a wild scene, man.

QueueQueue

Canada1000 Posts

May 19 2010 23:11 GMT

#52

They will get over the situation eventually. They have to accept their daughter will grow up at some point. I'm sure it's just the shock of their "little girl" not being so little anymore that has them upset. I remember my last girlfriend's dad confronting me immediately when we started dating laying ground rules and such. A few months after, he didn't really seem to care and I am sure he knew what was going on.

Your story reminds me of one of my experiences. When my Dad found a rubber from me and my girlfriend that didn't flush. He walked in with all the pamphlets about STDs and contraceptives and tried to have the first "sex talk" (I was 17 at the time). I had to basically say that I knew everything I needed to know and that we could stop the awkward situation. He then told me to not be dumb and check to make sure it flushes next time.

Setz3R

United States455 Posts

May 19 2010 23:35 GMT

#53

On May 20 2010 05:02 Bill Murray wrote:
stop using condoms
problem solved
lol

Yeah that opened up a couple new problems for me....lol.

It makes sense like others said, you kinda did disrespect their home but its not like we haven't done that before, just give it some time they will get over it. TRUST me. Doesn't matter how strict they are, just play it cool, say sorry, and just play it out.

jimminy_kriket

Canada5534 Posts

May 19 2010 23:50 GMT

#54

Under their roof? What they want you to fuck in a back alley or something? T_T

Smorrie

Netherlands2941 Posts

May 20 2010 00:31 GMT

#55

On May 20 2010 05:01 HeavOnEarth wrote:
whatever you do, dont make excuses for why you were in their house uninvited.
Forrr example, Oh i was raised differently, people come into my house all the time, so i ddidnt know it was that big of a deal ( BAD)
i would say something like:
Im very sorry i disrespected you and went behind your back like this, I want you to know i love your daughter very much and you have done a great job of raising her, and this is not her fault in anyway.
I hope you can forgive my actions and something about agreeing not to see their daughter until june 4th.

First id probably knock and be like, Do you mind if we have a talk about what happened.. etc.
Basically, Just accept whatever you've done and take responsibility. You could offer something to her parents as a favor , but i cant really think of anything relevant to the situation

^
pretty good advice.

I would leave the out any requests to let their daughter do whatever again though.

You'll gain massive respect and her parents most likely reconsider everything after wards. Just apologize, suck up a little, thank them for their time and leave.

Either way:
- They'll let you leave and keep things as is but will have a lot respect for being a man =)
- They'll let you leave, discuss stuff later and might tell their daughter things are ok again.
- They'll ask you to stay and have a drink etc. to let you know things are still cool but nothing changes.
- They'll ask you to stay and will tell you everything's fine again.

I'd say all 4 options are pretty good. Whatever happens, it's only 2 weeks.. Spend some more time with your friends, read a book, play some more SC. If you don't go down and apologize things will be really awkward next time you see them and they'll always have the nasty aftertaste of you not abiding their rules.

Ps. To everyone thinking her parents suck or whatever... It's their house and as long as you're on their house you go by their rules. Every family has different values, and not having sex in their house is a pretty reasonable one. :o

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On May 20 2010 05:02 Bill Murray wrote:
stop using condoms
problem solved
lol

Jibba

United States22883 Posts

May 20 2010 01:04 GMT

#56

I'm just gonna leave this here...

AyeH

United States534 Posts

May 20 2010 01:51 GMT

#57

Thanks for the pessimism you asshole.

MaReK

Australia446 Posts

May 20 2010 01:53 GMT

#58

Very similar thing happened with me and my ex. Got caught having sex, quote "behind their backs". Yeah like I'm going to fucking tell them 'I'm going to fuck your daughter now'. One thing lead to another and we broke up, as her dad would have killed me if he saw us together again,

Spiffeh

United States830 Posts

May 20 2010 02:21 GMT

#59

Try and apologize. If that doesn't work, there are more fish in the sea. You're still young and alive. (Thankfully her father isn't one of those shotgun wielding maniacs)

igotmyown

United States4291 Posts

May 20 2010 02:37 GMT

#60

Unless she's completely naive and easily taken advantage of, this is more about her parents unhappy that their daughter is having sex. You're not tricking her, so it's a problem between what they want their daughter to do and their daughter. There's nothing that you can say that will make them ok with it, and they're just going to have to adjust to it over time.

They'd be unhappy with anyone having sex with their daughter. If you were a parent (or a similar protective role), you'd feel the same way. Since they don't disapprove of you, it's not personal.

They're just trying to manage the situation and feel like they have some control over a situation they like. The more they feel they're not being rushed into having to accept the situation, they happier they'll be.