Utterly mind-fucked by girl

On December 28 2009 12:57 resonance wrote:
I gotta blog this. This is so frigging ridiculous.

Ok so I started work at a clothing store about 3 months ago or so. Everything is all good, I am liking my job, I am liking my co-workers, etc.. Anyway, there is a co-worker who is a year younger than me and pretty decent looking. We talked a lot at work and she seemed very into me, and I was interested in her as well. We talked for a while and I got very good indicators of interest from her. I was thinking about asking her to do something, however I did not want to date anybody from work simply to avoid possible problems (I really want to keep this job).

Anyway, so that lasted for a while. Couldn't really ask to do something, so I kinda left it. We still chatted a fair bit at work but w/e.

She told me a while ago that she is starting school in January, and might be leaving work. I'm thinking that's a great opportunity to ask her to do something.

At the beginning of December she tells me that she is quitting work by the end of December. I'm thinking that's great I'll ask her out when she quits.

Now a little info about her. Firstly she is asian. Being caucasian, I tend to find most asian girls to act very different from white girls. The way they interact and what they talk about, etc.. Doesn't bother me, I live in Vancouver which is so ridiculously asian it's not even funny. I would say it's about 70% asian in Vancouver and 30% the rest. Anyway, secondly, she ishardcore Christian. So ridiculously christian it's not even funny. I am really not attracted to that at all as I switch back and forth from being agnostic to atheist (but I was catholic when I was much younger). But hell you know what, why should that be a reason to not ask her out. I need some experience, why the hell not. She is into me, why the hell not.

So we had a work party and she came and she was quiet as hell the whole time. I thought it was kinda peculiar but w/e, nobody really talked much at the work party because nobody wanted to say something stupid and be possibly fired/in trouble/etc.. This was around the 22nd.

So after that she texts me asking me something about work, and I replied. We sent a couple texts and we start text chatting and I ask her what she has planned for the break.

She replies:

"haha well i have 3 more
days of work! and then
next week i just chill =
we shud hang out! Wat's
up for ur break?"

I'm thinking, wow ok she must be pretty damn into me to ask ME out, I don't know many girls who ask guys out unless they are REALLY into the guys.

So I am like wow dope. I say ok let's do it. I even mention that I was about to ask her to do something but she beat me to it.

She responds:

"HAHA xD ya for sure !
Wat do u have in mind?"

I tell her I will think of something and let her know in a couple days. She says great.

Now at this point I'm thinking, this is pretty dope. I got a girl who is really interested in me, and I hardly did anything to get to that point. Life is also good as well being on break and couple fun things going on and of course being able to play sc.

I call her a couple days later, and recommend ice skating. Firstly I am really not into movies, I think it totally screams boring guy. Secondly, ice skating would make certain the mood the clear, this wasn't just being friends. She sounded very nervous and was like "sure ok!". Seemed good. Nervousness is great. Gotta love that awkwardness period in between friends and a potential relationship.

So I go to work again and this was the last day she was working and we chat a bit. However, I notice she really isn't into the convos. She loses interest fast, one time she even interrupted me to talk to somebody else. I was thinking what the hell, that's a bit rude. She is talking to other people more than me, etc.. I'm not too worried though, I blame it on that awkwardness period. Don't blame her, she is kinda shy anyway (funny cuz she asked me out!).

So I'm starting to be concerned here whether or not she meant to go as friends or a potential relationship.

I browse her facebook that night and notice she is going to the movies with a co-worker friend of mine my age! I'm like...what the fuck? Wtf is going on. She is confusing me the hell out of me.

So I call her and she doesn't pick up. I send a text saying I need to talk to you something is bothering me. She replies

"kk sry, was eating dinner
with friends. Ill call u
soon!"

I am thinking ok. She tells me later that night that she won't be home till late so won't be able to call. Ok. I go play sc. While I am playing sc she goes on msn and msgs me saying "yoooo" "you wanted to chat??", but I was playing so I didn't get the msg till she was offline. I sent a fb message saying I will call her tomorrow.

Tomorrow, which was today, I called her up after work.

"hey do you have a few minutes to talk?"

she replies

"um sure okkayy"

I say,

"k I'm going to be really honest here and I want you to do the same"

"okayy.."

She sounds nervous, as if I am about to propose to her or something.

"I am really confused right now and...am getting really mixed........feelings from you. What were your intentions when you asked me to do something? Do you know what I mean?

-nice awkward pause-

"oh..justt friendss"

are you effing kidding me...

I explain my side of the story. She contributes almost nothing to the conversation.

I ask at the end of another pause:

"so uh...is there anything you wanted to say?"

"umm...sorryyy"

Honestly, I knew there was no relationship there, but I just did it cuz I figured why not.

"mkkk well, im happy we cleared this up"

blah blah blah..

What the fuck. Who does that seriously. At least I saved myself time and didn't bother going skating.

Edit:

Reminds me of this video