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On December 28 2009 13:41 jeddus wrote:
I even thought ice skating was a good call, much better than the movies.
My personal opinion is she WAS interested, got fickle, then flipped it around.
Tis the way of the wimmin.
...Yea...She seemed interested....
I think you let her make a few too many moves...
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Honestly, as much as I like the idea of ice skating over the movies...she clearly like the movies idea...sucks man, but its life...
You shoulda asked her out before she quit work man...Once you known she was quitting it wouldn't of mattered. Like seriously, at that point they wouldn't fire you for anything happening...and a retail clothing store? They wouldn't care...
Lol...And I'd of recommended not saying this
On December 28 2009 13:41 jeddus wrote:""hey do you have a few minutes to talk?"
she replies
"um sure okkayy"
I say,
"k I'm going to be really honest here and I want you to do the same"
"okayy.."
She sounds nervous, as if I am about to propose to her or something."
Kinda a convo kill right there. Bitches aren't direct creatures...They don't like the point, they like dodging the point.
On December 28 2009 16:22 Frits wrote:
am i the only one who sees all the mistakes the op made or what
Nope, had to point some out. Lol. I was thinking I was the only person to not just jump on the "that girls stupid" wagon...Shit, she's a girl, we know that already...lol...
But yea, as rek said, don't ever let yourself come off as needy.
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This is very typical behavior from girls who spell "should" as "shud". She sounds like she's young, like still in high school/maybe first or second year in college and doesn't sound like a mature girl. She's just interested in being out-going and making friends. When you're into a girl and she's not into you, you end up over-analyzing every word she says and thinking up ideas that were never in her head in the first place.
By the way, it's a pretty easy sign that she only wants friendship with you if she's going on these little play-dates with other co-workers too. That or she's just a slut.
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On December 28 2009 20:44 Rekrul wrote:Show nested quote +So I go to work again and this was the last day she was working and we chat a bit. However, I notice she really isn't into the convos. She loses interest fast, one time she even interrupted me to talk to somebody else. I was thinking what the hell, that's a bit rude. She is talking to other people more than me, etc.. I'm not too worried though, I blame it on that awkwardness period. Don't blame her, she is kinda shy anyway (funny cuz she asked me out!). theres really not enough information to accurately judge what went wrong...but the way you acted in this situation could have totally swung it in or out of your favor...girls always do shit like that on purpose to see how you react...they don't even do it consciously alot of the time. if you came off needy at all in that situation they can feel it, even if you are physically not showing signs, if you feel it they probably feel it. but judging on your original conversation with her she did not ask you out. when a girl says 'we should hang out' she is not asking you at all. she is merely unlocking the door, its still up to u to have the balls to open it and step in. Show nested quote +I browse her facebook that night and notice she is going to the movies with a co-worker friend of mine my age! I'm like...what the fuck? Wtf is going on. She is confusing me the hell out of me. once again, shes playing the same game with you with a bunch of other guys obviously, do not be so naive to think a girl won't keep her options open, obviously the other guy was doing something better than you Show nested quote +So I call her and she doesn't pick up. I send a text saying I need to talk to you something is bothering me. THIS IS A HUUUUUGE NONO. When you call a girl one time and she doesn't pick up you should never try to text or call again. She will always see your missed call and any further attempt to communicate on your behalf will just come off as incredibly needy. In cases like this its almost always better to just wait and hope, your chances still seem low but saying something like that makes your chances even smaller. Ur phone conversation with her was the worst...thats just completely and entirely awkward as fuck. Long story short u can't come across as a guy expecting something...you just have to be cool with whatever happens and no matter what the girl says/does if you want her to actually want to end up wanting to be with you.
As well as this.
Never wait for a girl to ask you out, you should have made a move way before this happened.
You shouldn't be waiting for her to open the door, you should be kicking the door down.
Also 95% of the talking+Bullshit with women is not actually making a difference in her opinion on you. There are pivot moments in the interaction with women and these moments are what changes her mind. All of the chumps at her work + in her social circle and going to be talking the meaningless BS you probably churned out. You have to make a difference when it matters and make the moves.
and like Rekrul said here . "if you came off needy at all in that situation they can feel it, even if you are physically not showing signs, if you feel it they probably feel it." as soon as you show some approval-seeking behavior your giving her the higher ground. You aren't asserting any dominance, no one is attracting to guys who are trying to impress women. They might find it amusing for a short while but it isn't going to move the relationship on. You need to show signs that you are a man worth having in her life. You need to make her feel the need to impress you, you need to exude dominance and confidence. You have to be a risk taker, you need to know the worst case scenario and not give a flying fuck about it. Don't drool over her and DEFINITELY do not call her and then text. That's the nail in the coffin, women don't want a clingy wimp then want to jump on the roller coaster ride of your amazing life, even though she's probably getting kicked out later.
By the time that terrible phone conversation took place it was over, at least you can learn from this failure. And don't try anything else with her now, it's way gone.
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dude man
you were over-analyzing.
she was just excited to get off work and chill. "Yeah I don't work any more~ let's hang out~~"
she probably said that to buncha ppl. The person that went to movies with her, scheduling, logistics, and ppl just hanging out timing moment worked out. Many girls forget stuffs and just hang out with ppl whoever happens to be hanging around.
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On December 29 2009 16:14 Jibba wrote:Show nested quote +On December 29 2009 15:30 d3_crescentia wrote:
in other news, conversations with my sister and from personal observation reveals that when a woman is single and looking, she'll intimate situations with a lot of different guys and screen through them until she finds the best available relationship candidate through a series of tests
Gross.
What? that's what guys should be doing too it's called natural selection
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On December 30 2009 04:49 Hypnosis wrote:Show nested quote +On December 29 2009 16:14 Jibba wrote:On December 29 2009 15:30 d3_crescentia wrote:
in other news, conversations with my sister and from personal observation reveals that when a woman is single and looking, she'll intimate situations with a lot of different guys and screen through them until she finds the best available relationship candidate through a series of tests
Gross. What? that's what guys should be doing too it's called natural selection
lol yeah sers. I don't get why d3 wrote that like it's some arcane ritual only women do. It's called meeting people and getting to know them. It's just sad that women can't hang out with a person without signing some kind of contract that it's the first step towards sex.
Most girls who have cool personalities get away with this no problem. It's the dumb/annoying girls who try to do it and fail because no guy in their right mind would think hanging out with her was fun without the possibility of sex. Kind of like rich guys who have no personality, girls will only hang out with them thinking they can get some free drinks/meals/VIP passes out of it. Never any other reason.
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On December 30 2009 04:49 Hypnosis wrote:Show nested quote +On December 29 2009 16:14 Jibba wrote:On December 29 2009 15:30 d3_crescentia wrote:
in other news, conversations with my sister and from personal observation reveals that when a woman is single and looking, she'll intimate situations with a lot of different guys and screen through them until she finds the best available relationship candidate through a series of tests
Gross. What? that's what guys should be doing too it's called natural selection
First of all, it has nothing to do with natural selection. Second, it was a subtle joke about him and his sister.
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On December 30 2009 07:13 Jibba wrote:Show nested quote +On December 30 2009 04:49 Hypnosis wrote:On December 29 2009 16:14 Jibba wrote:On December 29 2009 15:30 d3_crescentia wrote:
in other news, conversations with my sister and from personal observation reveals that when a woman is single and looking, she'll intimate situations with a lot of different guys and screen through them until she finds the best available relationship candidate through a series of tests
Gross. What? that's what guys should be doing too it's called natural selection First of all, it has nothing to do with natural selection. Second, it was a subtle joke about him and his sister.
ok...?
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Sounds like you've never been friends with a girl before... -_-
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On December 30 2009 07:13 Jibba wrote:Show nested quote +On December 30 2009 04:49 Hypnosis wrote:On December 29 2009 16:14 Jibba wrote:On December 29 2009 15:30 d3_crescentia wrote:
in other news, conversations with my sister and from personal observation reveals that when a woman is single and looking, she'll intimate situations with a lot of different guys and screen through them until she finds the best available relationship candidate through a series of tests
Gross. What? that's what guys should be doing too it's called natural selection First of all, it has nothing to do with natural selection. Second, it was a subtle joke about him and his sister.
I don't get it. I love my sister very much.
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Just stop trying to be with a girl and die alone. That's what I'm doing, feels great. 
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My belief is.
Kiss her the 1st time you hang out. Whether that be meeting her at work, classroom, school, club first time.
If she likes you, she will push away only a little hard. That is when you use the power of suction to pull her closer until she succumbs to your manlyman powers.
If she doesn't like you, when you turn on the lip suction, she will pull away harder. You must now apologize profusely, and hope there is no restraining order.
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On December 28 2009 13:17 ToyotaDemon wrote:
This is not really a "mind-fuck" it is just you (a simple male engulfed in testosterone) unconsciously looking for "signs" in a female that you are interested in.
Don't worry, every guy does it/has done it. Just gotta learn from this experience and make your intentions clear next time, etc xP
On December 28 2009 13:49 ddengster wrote:
Asian christians are so friendly(at least those whom I've met), they confuse you sometimes.
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On December 30 2009 13:51 kdog3683 wrote:
My belief is.
Kiss her the 1st time you hang out. Whether that be meeting her at work, classroom, school, club first time.
If she likes you, she will push away only a little hard. That is when you use the power of suction to pull her closer until she succumbs to your manlyman powers.
If she doesn't like you, when you turn on the lip suction, she will pull away harder. You must now apologize profusely, and hope there is no restraining order.
just hug her first time you hang out, kissing then is too fast for tons of women.
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You waited too long bro.
At least you tried to skate.
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On December 31 2009 00:57 Sadistx wrote:
You waited too long bro.
At least you tried to skate.
LMFAO, i just realized "skating" XD
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On December 31 2009 01:01 YPang wrote:Show nested quote +On December 31 2009 00:57 Sadistx wrote:
You waited too long bro.
At least you tried to skate. LMFAO, i just realized "skating" XD
LMAOOOOO me too hahahahahahahaha!!!!!!
A+ for effort!
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On December 29 2009 15:30 d3_crescentia wrote:Show nested quote +On December 29 2009 03:15 YPang wrote:On December 29 2009 02:57 d3_crescentia wrote:
sounds like she's trying on guys to see which one fits if a baby can come out of her hole, they will definitly all fit. loooooooooool in other news, conversations with my sister and from personal observation reveals that when a woman is single and looking, she'll intimate situations with a lot of different guys and screen through them until she finds the best available relationship candidate through a series of tests and you, good sir, have failed spectacularly some women are aware that they do this (which is why they always have plausible deniability), but a lot of times it's just an unconscious response - you finding out about the other dude was a test in and of itself, and it didn't require any additional effort from her to set up
your sister is uber sinister
she also says she likes playing games with guys =P
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On December 31 2009 03:36 duckett wrote:Show nested quote +On December 29 2009 15:30 d3_crescentia wrote:On December 29 2009 03:15 YPang wrote:On December 29 2009 02:57 d3_crescentia wrote:
sounds like she's trying on guys to see which one fits if a baby can come out of her hole, they will definitly all fit. loooooooooool in other news, conversations with my sister and from personal observation reveals that when a woman is single and looking, she'll intimate situations with a lot of different guys and screen through them until she finds the best available relationship candidate through a series of tests and you, good sir, have failed spectacularly some women are aware that they do this (which is why they always have plausible deniability), but a lot of times it's just an unconscious response - you finding out about the other dude was a test in and of itself, and it didn't require any additional effort from her to set up your sister is uber sinister she also says she likes playing games with guys =P
at least she's honest about it
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