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[Q] Can you REALLY change your personality? - Page 2
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n3m0
Portugal247 Posts
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jfazz
Australia672 Posts
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Piste
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lone_hydra
Canada1460 Posts
On November 18 2009 23:26 n3m0 wrote: Nah.. ppl can't really change their personality.. The closest thing to change your personality is faking it. People are what they are. Wrong. If you can fake a personality long enough, it will become your normal personality. Personality is habits and attitudes exhibited by 1 person. If you decide to "fake" being nice for a year, you will fall into a habit of being nice and you will naturally be nice. If you do something or act differently consistently for a long time, it will not be different and it will be natural. This is the basis of how humans learn and grow. | ||
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Garnet
Vietnam9047 Posts
On November 18 2009 23:37 jfazz wrote: I just want to make a quick suggestion - there is a book called 'The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People'. I read it when I was quite young - I had many of the attributes your describe - and it gave me insight into how I dealt with the world - and I can tell you, I am a very different (and thankfully, successful) person now. You might like it, im sure the book wouldn't be hard to get a hold of. Downloading. Thx for the suggestion, maybe it will be different from all the books I've read. | ||
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Piste
6183 Posts
On November 18 2009 23:26 n3m0 wrote: Maybe if you sit on your ass in front of computer all day.Nah.. ppl can't really change their personality.. The closest thing to change your personality is faking it. People are what they are. | ||
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searcher
277 Posts
And of course your personality can change. Do the people who suggest otherwise seriously that no one over the age of 20 or whatever has changed their personality? Seriously? Most people who want to change don't manage to change it the way they want, but that's a different matter. | ||
Heyoka
Katowice25012 Posts
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alexpnd
Canada1857 Posts
On November 18 2009 21:03 Garnet wrote: Two girls in class asked me a favor, and I replied I would do it, but somehow my actions later made them think I was annoyed, This most likely represents your fear of true expression. Your not letting your nature insist because of a fear that you will not be taken seriously perhaps? Mental images are powerful you have to go through them and go through your scenario again and try to conjure up what you think really would have happened, or what has happened and you were just placing it there again. | ||
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Cloud
Sexico5880 Posts
Now, why are you trying to change your personality? Because girls aren't falling for you at every corner? Because of your low self esteem? I also think it's rather weird to say that you have inherited a low self esteem from your parents, but anyway; Your procrastination can be fixed by setting up a schedule. A big self esteem or whatever isn't going to help you change that: boredom and self esteem have nothing to do with each other. I mean I know, in all of highschool I never studied more than 2 hours prior the exam. But setting a strict schedule based on tasks (not on time) helped me tremendously to change. Then, what do you want to change into? You don't like being a people pleaser, I think one of the more obvious alternatives is, as has been said, not giving a fuck. Yet it has also been said that it leads you to being a narcissist. And, yes, sorry, unless you were a monk you can't have the best part of both sides. As for the last part, so what the fuck if you're nerdy? There are millions others like you, a lot of them females (crazy I know), I think you're just annoyed because you feel subject to mock, aka. you have a low self esteem, yet I'm of the belief that a high self esteem is independent of what you are. A beggar can love himself, he can even have a high self respect (which ranks higher than his own self esteem) based purely on him following his own principles. All this ranting aside, I think the place to start would be to change your procrastination. And you do that by well, doing something for a change. Reading books is quite the contrary in my opinion, because it's just looking for an idea that appeals you the most because you find it so hard to drastically change. As I have mentioned, try keeping a hard schedule. From setting a strict hour to wake up, and all the tasks you have to do in the next day (not the time you plan to give each of them), to the hour you decide is optimal for sleeping. | ||
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HwangjaeTerran
Finland5967 Posts
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Cloud
Sexico5880 Posts
On November 19 2009 01:33 HwangjaeTerran wrote: I´m an optimist and think people can change their personalities, otherwise world is doomed, also I ´ve never known what I´m like so I´ve had to kinda create a personality. Isn't thinking that the world is doomed because people can't change pessimistic? | ||
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lejason
57 Posts
most importantly, and this is key, i would start focusing on the good aspects of your personality, there is a plus to anything you just need to find how to make it work for you. you got to learn to like yourself more and stop thinking that you inherently have a bad personality or else you'll get no where. subsequently you should stop acting like not you and be true to yourself; stop aiming to please so much, not that you shouldn't be nice, just don't be so deferential to your equals. | ||
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SkylineSC
United States564 Posts
u just gotta do it. work hard and do it. grow some backbone and start saying no, start taking initiative. don't expect some miracle that one day you are gonna be confident. its hard work, if it bugs you this much to be doormat all the time, then DO something about it. no secret | ||
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eshlow
United States5210 Posts
Instill better habits. | ||
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