You previously said that when you give your heart to someone it stays with them, that is the wisest relationship advice I have ever heard. Time heals pretty much everything. Me and my girlfriend parted company a few months ago due to forces beyond our control. She was my seventh girflreind or something but since that i've had no interest in chicky babes at all. I just don't really have anything to give them. Whats the best way to getting back to normal?
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PsyChill
Australia58 Posts
You previously said that when you give your heart to someone it stays with them, that is the wisest relationship advice I have ever heard. Time heals pretty much everything. Me and my girlfriend parted company a few months ago due to forces beyond our control. She was my seventh girflreind or something but since that i've had no interest in chicky babes at all. I just don't really have anything to give them. Whats the best way to getting back to normal? | ||
Zlasher
United States9129 Posts
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Indrium
United States2236 Posts
What was your piece? Did you ever do anything but duo? | ||
guesswho19
Canada2 Posts
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Urth
United States1247 Posts
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[NSL]BansheeHero
Czech Republic143 Posts
Did you like his/her interaction? (Looking back probably yes, but at the moment ) | ||
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Rylaji
Sweden580 Posts
On March 26 2011 17:02 uNcontroLable wrote: OH MY GOSH, dude this is seriously so funny, I had almost forgotten about that! Ok so it's the day before Valentine's Day, 2006. Geoff and I are Duo Dramatic Interp Partners on the Oregon State Speech and Debate Team, and we are on campus for our home tournament. I've been laying it on pretty thick for the past few days: the typical touching the arm, leaning on the shoulder, hovering around "I FREAKING LIKE YOU, OK" girl moves. And nothing. Nothing. Clueless gamer. So my roommate, who is also on the Speech Team with us, notes my dismay, approaches Geoff and says: "So, are you taking Anna out for Valentine's Day or....?" (Mind you, I'm like, 25 feet away. So high school.) Geoff's face could not have been more deer-in-headlights (don't move or it might scare this situation away!) He stutters out: "Uh... does... well... I mean... would she... you think... she'd want me to or...?" "Yep." Says my roommate. I have never seen anyone look so confused, motivated, excited, and petrified at the same time. Long story short, the conversation at the end of the night sounded something like: "Hey so uh... you have any fun plans for Valentine's Day?" "Nope!" (stares expectantly) "Huh." (long pause) "..." (stares expectantly) "So... I dunno, you wanna like... do something maybe?" "Yes." "Cool." (glowing) We decided to go out to dinner the following night at a tiny well-known restaurant in Corvallis that had been recommended to us as having some semblance of elegance/romance. I was thrilled. The night comes and he picks me up after we both go home and change out of our dorky Speech Team clothes. (I remember I was wearing heels and a skirt and that's when I first learned how to stupefy him.) He gets my door as we pull up to the restaurant, pulls my chair for me at the table, and is every bit chivalrous and attentive. We pick up the menus and I begin to peruse the fare. I ask Geoff what he's getting and suddenly I notice he's a little flushed. "Aww... he's still nervous" I think to myself, and try to seem not threatening. Truth is, I'm excited as all heck myself, and find I'm all of a sudden less and less hungry. Geoff says he's not sure what he wants... he wants to hear what I'm getting first... and I should order whatever suits my fancy. But there are beads of sweat on his forehead now. So strange... I'm trying so hard to be a comfortable date...? Now my stomach is not excited much for dinner at all. Searching the menu again, strawberry cheesecake dessert sounds like the only thing I could possibly desire. "I'm not really so hungry," I admit "I'm kinda thinking just of dessert..." "Oh, okay, sure" he says gallantly. Phew. I haven't offended him. "Honestly, I don't even want the whole thing... you wanna share maybe?" I venture - the red is receding from his cheeks. "Sure, ok." He concedes. What a nice guy, so laid back. We have our cheesecake (delicious) and soon head back to his place where he presents me with a birthday gift he had bought me: A Collector's Edition Monty Python and the Holy Grail DVD set, since I had mentioned a few days before that I hadn't seen it, and wanted to. We cuddled up and watched it, talked through the night, and stayed up for the next 2 nights consecutively talking and cuddling. + Show Spoiler + (and finally having our first kiss ) Before all that though, on the way back to the car from the restaurant, he lets me in on a little secret. As we were walking into the restaurant, he had checked the balance of his bank account on his phone, remembering that he had splurged his college budget on my present earlier that day. He found he had only 7 dollars. With the looming threat of his credit card being declined, he had watched me perusing the menu, praying for mercy. The cheesecake I wanted was 6 dollars. I never had any idea. He was so relieved that God had spared him, he couldn't help but tell me about it right away. What a nerd. <3 #winning. So, the age old question. Why did you fall for him? =) | ||
mechavoc
United States664 Posts
I wish I had read it before Pax East as you would have been a cool person to chat with! What was your reaction when Pokebunny beat Inc there? | ||
trancey_
Germany729 Posts
On October 10 2009 09:55 uNcontroLable wrote: No, in fact the guy I dated before iNcontroL was only 5'4"...but I'm a HUGE sucker for big strong arms and shoulders and always have been. Muscles in general, really. Like, Vin Diesel is droolworthy (I know, I know). will you leave inControl for Khaldor? He's basically Vin Diesel. | ||
Eleaven
772 Posts
On December 30 2010 15:55 uNcontroLable wrote: 1. On the hair, it depends. Stuff like this: + Show Spoiler + Blech. Stuff like this: + Show Spoiler + I'll be honest... that's getting to a point that I could run my fingers through. (Quiet Geoff.) ...unless you mean "the ring" as a metaphor for marriage, and a horse as an iNcontroL-made metaphor for sexuality... in which case you may be asking me if marriage takes all the fun out of sex to which I would reply... heh heh heh... NO. You have NO idea. Eh? (correct me if i misinterpret this) How can the one who denies themselves a pretty basic human desire claim to know anything of it? It's like saying "I've never eaten food before" and then telling everyone they have no idea how good food can be. Le what. As someone eloquently stated, Marriage isn't the beginning of a relationship, it is the sealing of an already 100% functioning and happy relationship.. otherwise there's far too much down to chance/hope rather than knowledge and experience. Like what you do for the community though, and i mean no grievance, differences are interesting to discuss. All i can say is, the first time my wife and i had sex (days after we met) was the instant we both realised how perfectly matched we were. We'd already spoken for like 3 days straight getting barely any sleep just cuddling etc.. and then wow omg one of the most amazing experiences of my life. The fact we'd both had sex before didn't take anything away from the experience. You don't "compare" your partner to others if they satisfy you fully, and ever since that first time, great sex has been something that just creates an incredible bond, emotionally, chemically.. physically. We were 18 then, now closing in on 30 and i have thousands of memories of sheer bliss :3 Almost makes me sad to think people miss out on it for years of their life. I respect your dedication to each-other though, and to your beliefs. I don't understand them, and it doesn't really bother me that i don't understand. As long as we're all happy Dedication and commitment are what defines us as people. 100% respect for your dedication. | ||
WinterNightz
United States111 Posts
where does your fancy dresses come for pageants? Is it like famous people at award shows that have to tell the camera, "I'm wearing Italiano Fancypants~", or is there more of an involved process working with designers/tailors to do something perfect for you? And is there some kind of failsafe to make sure that you and some other person aren't wearing almost-identical dresses? Also, what are your opinions on men's dress clothes? I've been casually interested in fashion forever, but it's always so depressing to watch things like Project Runway, then go to the store and see, "well, I could get a black suit... or a blue suit.. or a brown suit." (it's even worse when Irish coloring limits what colors actually look good on me.. I can't wait to actually have a steady income so I can get a nice custom suit from these indochino ads I see all over the internet) (forgive me if this sort of thing has already been asked!) | ||
GloPikkle
United States197 Posts
You brought up some interesting and definitely valid points which really got me thinking and would like to provide my own perspective on (not to rebut you, just to share my own ^_^). How can the one who denies themselves a pretty basic human desire claim to know anything of it? I would argue here that while sex is a basic human desire, it's not a basic human NEED. The basic human need is intimacy and sex is one of many routes to it. A person can experience absolute intimacy with someone without sex without necessarily experiencing the full spectrum of it. For some people, pushing intimacy boundaries beyond what they're ready for or experiencing certain aspects of it without other necessary aspects can lead hurt, anger, pain, etc. Of course to your point, this can be experienced prior to marriage, but that leads me to the next... As someone eloquently stated, Marriage isn't the beginning of a relationship, it is the sealing of an already 100% functioning and happy relationship.. otherwise there's far too much down to chance/hope rather than knowledge and experience. I've actually heard the opposite which is funny. Someone so eloquently told me that "marriage is not the culmination of profound emotional experience, but the beginning of one". If marriage is a culmination of all the memories, trials, joys, tears, and love, then logically to me it seems as if there's nothing greater beyond that. If Romance leads to Love leads to Marriage, what comes after? Just personally speaking (got married last year), marriage, and the foundation of the commitment to love each other, has really been the starting point for my journey with my wife towards a deeper emotional, spiritual, and physical connection that couldn't possibly exist without it. Marriage gives us the safety to invest and pour into each other and grow as people with purpose. Not try to take anything away from the experiences of you and your wife, that's awesome man. But personally, just resonate with uNcontroLable. Anyway, my questions =) : I haven't read every entry in the blog, so forgive me if these are redundant: 1) You've mentioned that you've been involved with NGO's, is there a specific area that interests you? ie healthcare, economic development, mercy/justice, education? 2) Any plans to take a more active role in NASL? 3) Who are 3 people who inspire you and why? | ||
SpectralFremen
Australia386 Posts
On March 26 2011 17:02 uNcontroLable wrote: OH MY GOSH, dude this is seriously so funny, I had almost forgotten about that! Ok so it's the day before Valentine's Day, 2006. Geoff and I are Duo Dramatic Interp Partners on the Oregon State Speech and Debate Team, and we are on campus for our home tournament. I've been laying it on pretty thick for the past few days: the typical touching the arm, leaning on the shoulder, hovering around "I FREAKING LIKE YOU, OK" girl moves. And nothing. Nothing. Clueless gamer. So my roommate, who is also on the Speech Team with us, notes my dismay, approaches Geoff and says: "So, are you taking Anna out for Valentine's Day or....?" (Mind you, I'm like, 25 feet away. So high school.) Geoff's face could not have been more deer-in-headlights (don't move or it might scare this situation away!) He stutters out: "Uh... does... well... I mean... would she... you think... she'd want me to or...?" "Yep." Says my roommate. I have never seen anyone look so confused, motivated, excited, and petrified at the same time. Long story short, the conversation at the end of the night sounded something like: "Hey so uh... you have any fun plans for Valentine's Day?" "Nope!" (stares expectantly) "Huh." (long pause) "..." (stares expectantly) "So... I dunno, you wanna like... do something maybe?" "Yes." "Cool." (glowing) We decided to go out to dinner the following night at a tiny well-known restaurant in Corvallis that had been recommended to us as having some semblance of elegance/romance. I was thrilled. The night comes and he picks me up after we both go home and change out of our dorky Speech Team clothes. (I remember I was wearing heels and a skirt and that's when I first learned how to stupefy him.) He gets my door as we pull up to the restaurant, pulls my chair for me at the table, and is every bit chivalrous and attentive. We pick up the menus and I begin to peruse the fare. I ask Geoff what he's getting and suddenly I notice he's a little flushed. "Aww... he's still nervous" I think to myself, and try to seem not threatening. Truth is, I'm excited as all heck myself, and find I'm all of a sudden less and less hungry. Geoff says he's not sure what he wants... he wants to hear what I'm getting first... and I should order whatever suits my fancy. But there are beads of sweat on his forehead now. So strange... I'm trying so hard to be a comfortable date...? Now my stomach is not excited much for dinner at all. Searching the menu again, strawberry cheesecake dessert sounds like the only thing I could possibly desire. "I'm not really so hungry," I admit "I'm kinda thinking just of dessert..." "Oh, okay, sure" he says gallantly. Phew. I haven't offended him. "Honestly, I don't even want the whole thing... you wanna share maybe?" I venture - the red is receding from his cheeks. "Sure, ok." He concedes. What a nice guy, so laid back. We have our cheesecake (delicious) and soon head back to his place where he presents me with a birthday gift he had bought me: A Collector's Edition Monty Python and the Holy Grail DVD set, since I had mentioned a few days before that I hadn't seen it, and wanted to. We cuddled up and watched it, talked through the night, and stayed up for the next 2 nights consecutively talking and cuddling. + Show Spoiler + (and finally having our first kiss ) Before all that though, on the way back to the car from the restaurant, he lets me in on a little secret. As we were walking into the restaurant, he had checked the balance of his bank account on his phone, remembering that he had splurged his college budget on my present earlier that day. He found he had only 7 dollars. With the looming threat of his credit card being declined, he had watched me perusing the menu, praying for mercy. The cheesecake I wanted was 6 dollars. I never had any idea. He was so relieved that God had spared him, he couldn't help but tell me about it right away. What a nerd. <3 #winning. Thats the nicest thing I have read in as long as I can remember. | ||
Joementum
787 Posts
On April 27 2011 19:29 SpectralFremen wrote: + Show Spoiler + On March 26 2011 17:02 uNcontroLable wrote: OH MY GOSH, dude this is seriously so funny, I had almost forgotten about that! Ok so it's the day before Valentine's Day, 2006. Geoff and I are Duo Dramatic Interp Partners on the Oregon State Speech and Debate Team, and we are on campus for our home tournament. I've been laying it on pretty thick for the past few days: the typical touching the arm, leaning on the shoulder, hovering around "I FREAKING LIKE YOU, OK" girl moves. And nothing. Nothing. Clueless gamer. So my roommate, who is also on the Speech Team with us, notes my dismay, approaches Geoff and says: "So, are you taking Anna out for Valentine's Day or....?" (Mind you, I'm like, 25 feet away. So high school.) Geoff's face could not have been more deer-in-headlights (don't move or it might scare this situation away!) He stutters out: "Uh... does... well... I mean... would she... you think... she'd want me to or...?" "Yep." Says my roommate. I have never seen anyone look so confused, motivated, excited, and petrified at the same time. Long story short, the conversation at the end of the night sounded something like: "Hey so uh... you have any fun plans for Valentine's Day?" "Nope!" (stares expectantly) "Huh." (long pause) "..." (stares expectantly) "So... I dunno, you wanna like... do something maybe?" "Yes." "Cool." (glowing) We decided to go out to dinner the following night at a tiny well-known restaurant in Corvallis that had been recommended to us as having some semblance of elegance/romance. I was thrilled. The night comes and he picks me up after we both go home and change out of our dorky Speech Team clothes. (I remember I was wearing heels and a skirt and that's when I first learned how to stupefy him.) He gets my door as we pull up to the restaurant, pulls my chair for me at the table, and is every bit chivalrous and attentive. We pick up the menus and I begin to peruse the fare. I ask Geoff what he's getting and suddenly I notice he's a little flushed. "Aww... he's still nervous" I think to myself, and try to seem not threatening. Truth is, I'm excited as all heck myself, and find I'm all of a sudden less and less hungry. Geoff says he's not sure what he wants... he wants to hear what I'm getting first... and I should order whatever suits my fancy. But there are beads of sweat on his forehead now. So strange... I'm trying so hard to be a comfortable date...? Now my stomach is not excited much for dinner at all. Searching the menu again, strawberry cheesecake dessert sounds like the only thing I could possibly desire. "I'm not really so hungry," I admit "I'm kinda thinking just of dessert..." "Oh, okay, sure" he says gallantly. Phew. I haven't offended him. "Honestly, I don't even want the whole thing... you wanna share maybe?" I venture - the red is receding from his cheeks. "Sure, ok." He concedes. What a nice guy, so laid back. We have our cheesecake (delicious) and soon head back to his place where he presents me with a birthday gift he had bought me: A Collector's Edition Monty Python and the Holy Grail DVD set, since I had mentioned a few days before that I hadn't seen it, and wanted to. We cuddled up and watched it, talked through the night, and stayed up for the next 2 nights consecutively talking and cuddling. + Show Spoiler + (and finally having our first kiss ) Before all that though, on the way back to the car from the restaurant, he lets me in on a little secret. As we were walking into the restaurant, he had checked the balance of his bank account on his phone, remembering that he had splurged his college budget on my present earlier that day. He found he had only 7 dollars. With the looming threat of his credit card being declined, he had watched me perusing the menu, praying for mercy. The cheesecake I wanted was 6 dollars. I never had any idea. He was so relieved that God had spared him, he couldn't help but tell me about it right away. What a nerd. <3 #winning. Thats the nicest thing I have read in as long as I can remember. I find it so hilarious that inc has given advice before like "just be confident," yet on his first date he was nervous as hell. haha I mean no disrespect w/ this comment either. It just struck me as funny. In all honesty my first date was a train wreck of nervousness on both sides. | ||
XiaN
Germany162 Posts
I have a question regarding the "Wait with Sex until marriage". I can fully understand your thoughts behind it and respect your decision there in any way. But i'm always wondering there. Because like you may not know from personal experience, but some people are not fitting together when it comes to sex. I was with a girl ones which i fully loved in any respect .. we where soul mates as you will, but we both could not fulfill the others sexual wishes. It was not that we both where into very extreme kinds of sex, but when we had sex together it was obvious for both of us that the other partner is not enjoying it. We had to quit the relationship after some month, because the unfulfilling sex life was like a dark shadow over the relationship and in the end .. destroyed it. Since you are waiting until you are married with it ... what if thats the case for you and inc? *crossing fingers its not*. Also ( this might fit better in incontrols thread ) how does incontrol think about it? I mean he's a boy and you are a very attractive lady. And by our gene's we are ... kind of programmed to spread our DNA as often as possible. I also think he hadn't waited until the marriage with his first sex .. or did he? | ||
AyeH
United States534 Posts
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iNcontroL
USA29055 Posts
On April 28 2011 01:51 AyeH wrote: how does a boyfriend ask their girlfriend to get fit/lose weight in a nice way? lol Just have lingering glances each time she is eating. Also offer her celery and water all the time. When she says "want to see a movie?" Ask her if she'd rather go to the gym. Make sure to offer to pick her up afterward though. It's the gentlemanly thing to do. | ||
GloPikkle
United States197 Posts
Just have lingering glances each time she is eating. Also offer her celery and water all the time. When she says "want to see a movie?" Ask her if she'd rather go to the gym. lol I just get told straight up to go to the gym lest I become, in the wife's words, "a chubby hubby". FTL | ||
Cush
United States646 Posts
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