Woohoo, another blog where someone rants about something pointless!
DISCLAIMER: Everything that's typed here, while somewhat exagerated (and by somewhat I mean not really) is 100% true, i'm simply recounting events from the past couple weeks.
Warning: I'm REALLY not in a good mood at the time of writing this blog, be warned alot of angst and swearing follows.
God, I don't know how I could have possibly lost faith in humanity, well my college room-mate has managed to do this. I do NOT understand how ignorant this kid is. It's ridiculous. Ugh. Here we go. Why exactly do I hate him?
1)His music. Fucking hell. Rap is not all that great in the first place, but the stuff my room-mate listens too, FUCK. Half of the songs are (and I quote) "I'm so fly, fly as the sky, I get high, high as the sky, I steal money and deal drugs, Yeah I'm so fly." What the fuck kind of music is that? Now, it would be all fine and dandy if he listened to it with headphones. But of course, that would make my life too easy, so of course, he has to have a massive subwoofer and speakers. Great. He has *absolutely* no regard for when i'm in the room, it's just on. Two thursdays ago, we had both gone to bed at 1:00ish, neither of us have classes untill pretty late. at 7:45 in the morning, i had just kinda woken up and was just relaxing in bed, when all the sudden "IM SO FLY, IM SO HOT" comes on. Loud. SFG:KHADGMAGNMNVMSDG NO NO NO NO NO NO NO ITS FUCKING 7:45 IN THE FUCKING MORNING FOR CHRISTS SAKE. WHY. ARE. YOU. PLAYING. MUSIC. WITHOUT. HEADPHONES? WHY? Ugh, I didn't even say anything because I was just blown away that someone would even CONSIDER something like that. I could understand if it was like, 10:00, and we hadn't gone to bed at 1 in the morning, but SERIOUSLY?
As if that wasn't bad enough, Monday night (I have an 8am on tuesday) It's 12:30. I needed to get to bed, I was busy reading TL, i notice the clock, and was like "Shit, bedtime" out loud. Got up, got ready for bed. My room-mate, amazingly enough, got out headphones. Notice the key word though. Got out. Yes. He got out his headphones, looked for a headphone jack, spent about 15 seconds looking for a headphone jack, couldn't find one in his 15 seconds of looking, SO HE SHRUGS AND JUST TURNS HIS MUSIC DOWN A TINY BIT. FFS HE *KNOWS* I have an 8am, like WHAT THE FUCK. Once again, I was blown away at this and didn't say anything, this time, it really is my fault for not saying anything, still pisses me off though.
I woke up once AGAIN this morning to rap music. This time I kinda got up, wow, I went to bed at 2. It's FUCKING 8:30 ASFGK:LHASFGKASHFGASMFVNASFVMAL:SFASFBADFG!GREAT. I just kinda got up and was like "Dude, it's 8:30, like seriously?" and he went "oh sorry" and TURNS IT DOWN JUST A TINY BIT. NOPE. HEADPHONES ARE JUST TOO HARD FOR HIM. Sigh.
2)Give him an inch, he'll take a mile. Woo, this one sounds fun right? Wrong. First weekend we're here, he goes to a party at a friends and leaves his cell. He asks to borrow mine so he can call his friend. Sure, that's np on my part. But no, he can't *just* call his friend, he has to call EVERY SINGLE PERSON WHO WAS AT THE FUCKING PARTY asking if they had his phone. I'm STILL getting random calls and texts of "Who is this?" "Oh *insert* used my phone to call you, he left his phone at a party you were at" Yeah, i just love repeating myself over and over again. It's real awesome. As if that wasn't the lesson to learn. He asked to use my printer. I figured it was for like an essay or something. Nope. It was for 25 PAGES OF NOTES FOR ONE OF HIS CLASSES. Maybe, just maybe, instead of saying "hey dude can i use your printer?" You could have said "Hey dude, I kinda need to print some notes, they're kinda long, do you mind if i use your printer?" Maybe, just MAYBE I wouldn't have been SO PISSED about it. He *actually* made some excuse along the lines of "It's just some notes" when i asked him what he needed to print. Fuck you room-mate. Fuck you.
3)We never talk. Ever. Lord knows, I've tried to strike up a conversation with him multiple times, and EVERY. SINGLE. TIME. It's a one word answer. HE REFUSES to talk to me, and at this point, I refuse to talk to him. A few of his friends have come in looking for him and they always go "yeah, he's shy, but once you get to know him he's a great person." Uh-huh. Bullshit. Not much else to say here.
4)Has it suddenly become okay to touch/use people's stuff without asking? I guess according to my room-mate, it has. I have two fans in our room, it gets REALLY hot because we don't have air conditioning. But, i'll come back from class, walk into the heat wave, and see BOTH of my fans off. Awesome. On top of that, sometimes they're randomly moved around. Yeah, that's cool, just move my shit without asking me, i'm TOTALLY cool with that. On top of that, go ahead and use the fridge and microwave THAT I PAID FOR, BECAUSE YOU WOULDN'T ANSWER ME WHEN I ASKED IF YOU WANTED TO SPLIT THE COST without asking me too. I'm totally cool with that. FUCK YOU.
5)He's lost two room keys already. Yeah, there's two room keys that lead into our room that he's just *lost*. Great. Random people potentially have access to our room. Did I forget to mention that I woke up at 5:30 one morning and our door was open? Yeah, that's just REAL wonderful.
The worst part? All of this shit is outlined in our room-mate contract, but it seems that the contract is just a "whatever" thing. Great. Awesome.
On a somewhat brighter note:
He's not in the room much, so I don't have to deal with it all the time, but It's still *Really* annoying when I do have to deal with it. I wear headphones when he's in the room. I don't even CONSIDER music if he's trying to sleep, even with headphones on. I keep to myself, I don't EVER touch his stuff, I'm quiet, and I follow all the rules of our room-mate contract.
I'm not a hard person to live with, I'm quiet, I keep to myself, and I won't bother you. I don't get why someone has to be such a dick.
I feel a little better, but trust me, there's quite a bit more I could go on about, I just don't want to find a knife and stab him right now.
the way I see it, there's 5 options:
1. Get my RA involved. I'm not really interested in 'talking it out' though. I don't really like him at all in the first place, and i get the feeling that it's mutual.
2. Go to my RA and ask for a room switch. The only problem here is that I might lose my loft (which I paid like 200 for), and I might have to move into a hall that's not the style of dorm I like (hard to explain, but anyways)
3. Try to talk it out with him. Again, he's not really receptive in the first place, seems like a waste of time.
4. Kill myself. I won't, for a multitude of reasons.
5. Drop out of college. I won't, again for a multitude of reasons.
Anyways. Because I really hate having ALL bad blogs, enjoy this awesome AMV that I was shown on thursday. Advice, comments, whatever is welcome, i just REALLY needed to get this out of my system.
You are right, the rest of humanity should look up to you, people who cant say shit about whats bothering them. And instead considering going behind the jerk's back and having other people solve your problems.
But honestly speaking this kid does seem like a jackass. Get a room switch if you can help it. From your account it doesn't seem like this kid deserves someone like you (who's been lenient) as a roommate.
On September 27 2009 01:34 Cloud wrote: You are right, the rest of humanity should look up to you, people who cant say shit about whats bothering them. And instead considering going behind the jerk's back and having other people solve your problems.
I'm not trying to point out a problem with humanity. Also, I have very low self esteem. Grats, thanks for pointing out my flaws, If I tell people something they say is bothering me, then I feel horrible because I feel like i'm imposing on how they feel or what they do, something I don't like to do. It just wont happen :/.
Edit:
Caller, I actually DO like some rap, Dre and 2pac, and some of the older rap, but the crap he listens to isn't even rap, it's just like a beat with some guy talking about how awesomely fly he is and how he gets women, I'll try to find one of his songs on youtube, hang on.
See, your problem is that you're being super negative, while your roomie is positive. Negative and positive attract. So what you need to do is either being really positive, or for your roomie to become really negative, so that you repel each other. I can't say exactly who will go flying thru the wall, but that's the basic physics of it.
On September 27 2009 01:43 Chef wrote: See, your problem is that you're being super negative, while your roomie is positive. Negative and positive attract. So what you need to do is either being really positive, or for your roomie to become really negative, so that you repel each other. I can't say exactly who will go flying thru the wall, but that's the basic physics of it.
Wait, Psycho from SEN? Omg dude it's been forever~
Anyways, I like this. I might try it rofl. Thanks.
do you bitch at him every time he does something retarded?
like for instance, you ask him to turn down the music and he turns it down just a little bit, do you tell him to put on his head phones? if not, then it's just as much your fault as it is his. You have to communicate what you want clearly.
If you tell him to put on his headphones and he refuses, then you have a case to take to your RA for a room switch.
honestly, i've done shit to annoy my roommate and housemates unintentionally before. If they never came to talk to me about it, then I probably wouldn't have figured it out or figured it out after a long time. Just be clear about what you want from him by talking to him every time he does something unreasonable to annoy you otherwise he'll never learn and you'll continued to be pissed off.
On September 27 2009 01:46 infinity21 wrote: do you bitch at him every time he does something retarded?
like for instance, you ask him to turn down the music and he turns it down just a little bit, do you tell him to put on his head phones? if not, then it's just as much your fault as it is his. You have to communicate what you want clearly.
If you tell him to put on his headphones and he refuses, then you have a case to take to your RA for a room switch.
Not always, but there was one time where I was trying to study for a test and asked him 3 times to turn it down, all the times he turned it down, but then just slowly turned it back up untill it was at a high volume once again. That being said, by the time the 3rd one hit, I was already playing my own music with headphones on so It wasn't as big of a deal.
you didnt even have to expain all the other stuff, I woulda wanted to switch the first time he put on any sort of rap music. fuck that if he cant even wear headphones.
Fuck him, just yell at him. Tell him to pay for half the fucking microwave and fridge or fuck off. He can go bug his friends. That is bullshit.
And a note about rap music. This shit on the radio is not fucking music. Its bragging with a subwoofer in the background. Lil wayne is such trash, but don't hate all rap for it, there is some good stuff. I used to listen to Dead Celebrity Status and Fort Minor. That's good rap. I never listened to biggie/tupac so I have no comment on them.
Just bitch out your roommate, he sounds like a faggot, try to get a room change that is similar to what you have now. Maybe one of your friends has a shitty roommate too? It could work out. If I had a roommate I'd be cool with him using my shit, as long as he wasn't a douche and we got along but if hes a fuck treat him like that.
If I tell people something they say is bothering me, then I feel horrible because I feel like i'm imposing on how they feel or what they do, something I don't like to do.
You have to get over this. You have every right to tell him if you consider his actions rude or inconsiderate.
As Cloud implied and infinity21 said, you need to communicate with him and work this shit out. I imagine that neither of you have lived in a situation like this before, you're both not sure where the lines are supposed to be drawn, so talk to him and draw them.
Are you kidding me? I had to roommate with a fat hairy guy who would get drunk 5 times a week and run around screaming naked through the halls and through the dorms. One time he fell on my desk corner and bled all over the floor and my desk. He broke countless objects and he smelled.
When he wasn't drunk he would grab a bunch of his loser friends together and fast forward to the rape scenes in his collection of movies. After we were finally split up, he would still get drunk and beat on my door shouting obscenities at the top of his generously endowed lungs at 2am for months afterward.
You kids must be fucking pussies today. Look, this kid isn't going to respond to your passive aggressive shit. Nor is he going to miraculously start to care what you think. Tell him to turn his music down or use headphones. If he doesn't know how to use headphones, teach him. If he refuses to use them, turn off his radio. If he won't listen, get angry. Throw his shit out of your fridge. Unplug your microwave. If the guy doesn't fall in line (and I doubt he will), you can now say you've done everything and now you REQUEST A NEW ROOM! Preferably with a friend.
Life is too short to live with someone you can't stand.
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. Would be awesome if you were though~ <3!
