EPTLosing Faith in Humanity Because of my Room-mate. - Page 4
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konadora
Singapore66355 Posts
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konadora
Singapore66355 Posts
but your roommate != humanity i hope | ||
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poasiodss
United States63 Posts
You should strongly push for getting yourself a different roommate (or a single). As far as my past experience goes, my roommate only got worse and worse throughout the year. Only way to deal with some of these more inconsiderate and clueless people who can't seem to listen to your cues is to just get the fuck away from them. Roommate contract, RA, HRL, kitchen knife - use whatever method possible to get away from your current roommate. | ||
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Frits
11782 Posts
.... someone just left the house while leaving the fucking stove still on | ||
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Zapdos_Smithh
Canada2620 Posts
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eMbrace
United States1300 Posts
as in, he sounds like the typical douchebag, but he's mentally sane. i've yet to get a normal human being as a roommate. | ||
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Nevuk
United States16280 Posts
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eshlow
United States5210 Posts
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QuanticHawk
United States32082 Posts
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Frits
11782 Posts
so what did you end up doing | ||
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Loanshark
China3094 Posts
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NeverGG
United Kingdom5399 Posts
By the last week I had a massive row with them in the middle of the night where they told me I was a bad housemate for keeping to myself and not socializing enough (Which was because I don't drink and had a job on top of my studies. They were all rugby/chav types who just wanted to go to the pub. Nothing wrong with that, but it doesn't mean I'm a bad person for choosing not to join them.) Luckily by this time my Mum (who moved to the city without telling me because she fell in love with it.) had moved in round the corner. So I went to sleep at hers for the night and then the next morning found out one housemate was moving out to live in a spare room at his other friends' house and the other was dropping out. I got a text message a few months later from one of them apologizing for that night. The people who moved in after them were thankfully much nicer. I don't begrudge people much - a bit of messiness is fine, friends coming over is no problem of course, but making noise in the middle of the night is the one thing which I hate. It's just so inconsiderate of everyone around you. (Oh and in my first year there was a girl living next door in my halls who would play music and then go out all night with it still on. So I basically moved in to the 24/7 computer room down the road and left rock music on for 48 hours straight. I was the room at the end of the hall so it would only be loud through the wall connecting our rooms. She stopped playing music after that. I had tried talking to her about it before, but all I got in return was a faceful of screeching swear words.) A bit petty, but it was worth it. I agree with most of the other comments, be firm and fair, but if that doesn't work then bring up the contract and contact whoever is in authority over that kind of issue. | ||
Rekrul
Korea (South)17174 Posts
rap music is great btw, even the cheesy shit | ||
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Kaialynn
United States242 Posts
I wanted to not be someone who was just walked all over, so I sat him down and laid it out. Unfortunatly, he was on *some* sort of *something* and after carefully going over the rules with him, he forgot them within well...about 24 hours. I asked him a few times to turn it down, blah blah blah. Nothing really worked, I continued to press on it (albeit politely) and nothing really happened. I went and saw an RA yesterday, they said that since i've tried that I can either A) Find a friend that I can move in with, who has an open spot, or whatever...it's complicated apparently... B) Ask him if he wants to move in with someone else so I don't move, but he does. C) I can see the Advisor for our hall and start the process of getting a new room, which again, is apparently complicated. D) Sit down with him *and* an RA and try to work things out. I probably won't do this just because we really, really just don't work as room-mates. Thanks for your advice guys(and girls!), i'll probably do some followups as things continue to go into motion. Edit: Before it sounds like I hate people who do drugs/drink/whatever. I don't, I was just pointing out that whatever it was he was currently on apparently gave him memory loss. He says he doesn't even remember our conversation ;/ | ||
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Varn
United States33 Posts
However, as the year progressed, he would stay up increasingly later and almost every night would be watching anime without headphones. After a certain period of time listening to four-year-old voice actors this started to become rather irritating. I made a few attempts to convey that I would like him to wear headphones, and while he would put them on, subsequent nights saw him completely disregard any thought of wearing them. I suppose I'm passive-aggressive, but once I'd told him once I shouldn't have had to constantly repeat myself. And I would think it would be common courtesy, like not turning lights on in the morning while I'm trying to sleep (which I never did to him), or... well, pretty much everything else he did. Eventually, though, I developed the ability to tune out the high-pitched squealing of his favorite shows, something I doubt you'll be able to do with this rap shit. And I have a single this year. It's the most wonderful experience. Granted, there is still the obnoxious bass which shakes my walls pouring from the hall, and people screaming and slamming doors long after quiet hours are in effect, but I'd say much of the headache from last year has been mitigated. Moral of the story: get a fucking single at the first opportunity and you won't have to live with an asshole. | ||
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phosphorylation
United States2935 Posts
To OP: You should just go through the "complicated" steps and chose one of A-C. It will make rest of your year so much better. | ||
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citi.zen
2509 Posts
1. The first semester / year is a crap-shoot. Everybody knows this. Get to know other people and room with them in the future. 2. Loud music can be annoying when it interferes with sleep. Talk to him about it. Also may be worth trying earplugs and / or noise cancelling headphones. 3. The rest of your complaints are pretty petty: he moves your fan? oh no, how to move it back?!?! he printed 25 pages after asking you? the nerve! He asked to borrow your phone and then used it TO FIND HIS OWN DAMN PHONE (not social calls!)? what a bitch! etc. etc. Also, the idea that there is "special contract" between roommates is silly. As long as there is no theft / physical violence, nobody (RA or otherwise) will get involved. Just my opinions, hope they don't offend. | ||
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nitram
Canada5412 Posts
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nitram
Canada5412 Posts
On September 27 2009 12:20 Frits wrote: i came home a week ago and someone left the stove on .... someone just left the house while leaving the fucking stove still on My roommate put metal in a microwave which almost set the house on fire(it fried the wall jack). | ||
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Kiarip
United States1835 Posts
The guy you're living with doesn't seem like such a terrible person. Obviously there's a conflict of interests, but it's probably just his personality, a lot of people tend to "take as much as they can get" so to speak, and that can make it difficult for someone who doesn't do something similar. There's two ways to go about this that have to do with actually dealing with the guy (and not the RA's or residence office or anything.) You can either let him know, but then if it's this many things and you try to let him know about everything he'll just think you're some bitchy kid, and you guys would never get along really, and it'd be a boring semester (or year if you have to live with him for that long.) You need to establish some kind of rapport with him, that's probably the most important thing with people with personalities like his. Find something you guys have in common, he's probably hanging out with a bunch of friends, but you still live with him. The football season is on now, do you like football? maybe he does... There's a lot of great MMA fights coming up you can watch that. Maybe he plays the same sports you do? Basketball? The NBA starts soon, if he listens to rap he's likely to follow that or football >_>. If all else fails take him to one of the parties you go to, or just watch some Family guy on TV or something, or some console games etc etc. Once you establish a rapport in which you guys actually interact, it will be a lot easier for you to make him acknowledge your personal space without instigating a conflict via a passive-aggressive attitude, and the problem will dissolve. I completely disagree with the guy who suggested trying to get a single room... Dorming is treating me great so far, you just have to learn to handle these type of things, it will help you develop a character which doesn't telegraph "push-overism", when you're really just trying to be considerate (not saying you do, but it sounds like it may be something of this sort.) | ||
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