My ex started doing heroin after 20 months of dating (I had not known she used to do it before we met). Anyway, things did not go well after that. She disappeared for long periods of time, hung me out to dry, and left me for a heroin dealer. 2 weeks later she begged for me back, thankfully I grew some balls. They got engaged. She wanted me back about 6 months later. She wanted out of the engagement was all. One year after that instant, she broke off the engagement and was clean for some amount of time. At this point, she attempted to recreate a "friendship" with me.

What's my point? Get out before you get hurt. If you think she's only done it once, then you, and her, are just full of shit. Plenty of fish in the sea. Heroin is serious business.

EDIT: I'm not blaming a drug for our breakup; just pointing out that heroin addicts are unstable and certainly unfit for meaningful relationships.

CharlieMurphy

United States22895 Posts

August 19 2009 11:30 GMT

#22

isn't for the first time you do heroin you feel like shit and puke? Even morphiene (sic) in your IV drip sucker punches your bread basket so fast you almost wanna vomit. but yea, it is fuckin relaxing. Trying it is one thing, but if you do it more that is a really bad habit.

If I were you I'd tell her it's not cool and giver her an ultimatum. Also, if you ever catch her high on it just slap her around, don't worry, she won't feel it.

SCC-Faust

United States3736 Posts

August 19 2009 11:40 GMT

#23

On August 19 2009 05:13 Ronald_McD wrote:
She says she wouldn't go looking for it but if the opportunity came up she would do it again.

I can't tell if that is just loving honesty or her trying to get you on your toes.

Either way you should take a plank of wood and give her a good old face plant back into reality.

WeSt

Portugal918 Posts

August 19 2009 12:05 GMT

#24

On August 19 2009 20:30 CharlieMurphy wrote:
isn't for the first time you do heroin you feel like shit and puke? Even morphiene (sic) in your IV drip sucker punches your bread basket so fast you almost wanna vomit. but yea, it is fuckin relaxing. Trying it is one thing, but if you do it more that is a really bad habit.

If I were you I'd tell her it's not cool and giver her an ultimatum. Also, if you ever catch her high on it just slap her around, don't worry, she won't feel it.

Yes that's pretty much true. I call it bullshit by her. First times you have heroin (smoked) you will feel sick and vomit etc, so I guess that was not her first time. If she was injecting herself you would have noticed yea.
H is really really dangerous, it's the most addictive shit in the world, and the most lethal. Try to keep her away from that shit... get some weed and smoke with her to make her feel away from that shit. Total abstinence doesn't work with H users, you have to go step by step. If you totally deny drug use to an H user believe me she will try to find more. I had some problems with a friend doing heroin and we helped him by hanging around with him more. Smoked some weed and went partying getting drunk, girls etc and he eventually forgot about heroin. It was really hard believe me. Don't let her start a bad habit. gl

Leath

Canada1724 Posts

August 19 2009 13:03 GMT

#25

On August 19 2009 05:13 Ronald_McD wrote:
Let's say your girlfriend of 8 months does heroin. How do you feel? How do you react? What do you do?

I'm pretty angry, but I'm not entirely sure if it's justified. I don't know what to really say. It's been three or four days since and I fought with her once about it. I tried to just forget about it but it keeps coming up in the back of my mind. I can't stop, and it eats away at me.

To clear a few other things up. She did it once. She smoked it, a small amount.
She says she wouldn't go looking for it but if the opportunity came up she would do it again.

Isnt heroin something you inject in yourself?
Can you smoke it too? o.o

Killy

United States39 Posts

August 19 2009 15:17 GMT

#26

/serious/
I live in Detroit, and this shit is everywhere around here. Extremely dirt cheap, oftentimes cheaper than weed. I can tell you from personal experience, everyone i know who has chosen that path, are now DEAD. Including my best friends form high school, one of them even had 2 kids! Current death count is 6, and there are a couple more i'm expecting phone calls for anyday.
Very sad stories, but they all started out similar to yours, usually with perscription pain killers. Some of my friends didn't start doing it until they were in their 30's. Shit goes downhill VERY fast.

Slaughter

United States20255 Posts

August 19 2009 15:24 GMT

#27

If she did it once you might be fine, but Heroin is highly addictive. Just tell her your worried about the addiction potential and that drugs like weed are much safer if she needs a high. You need to take a soft tone though, if you take an angry or accusatory/judgmental tone then she will just get mad back and you won't be able to really talk.

Licmyobelisk

Philippines3682 Posts

August 19 2009 15:35 GMT

#28

that's why I hate using chemicals when it comes to getting high, I might get addicted to it

For me on my opinion about it is read west's post since I think he have already dealt with it.
Like jam with her using weed and party until she forget's it, and also check out for signs if she is still using H.

Also, give her the ultimatum like the others have told you, she should never ever use it again if that fails well harden your balls like adamantium then dump her.

last opinion sounds really cruel but you got to accept that it will be meaningless shit to be with her if she keeps using H. (since your going down with her)

food

United States1951 Posts

August 19 2009 15:43 GMT

#29

shoot some up your leg and relax

MC9876

Netherlands82 Posts

August 19 2009 15:46 GMT

#30

Heroine is some fucked up shit, it's highly addictive. All those homeless junkies are crack or heroine addicts.
So I should decide to help her or leave her be and just get away from that stuff.

Astray

Canada59 Posts

August 19 2009 19:43 GMT

#31

Have a long talk with her about this and talk her out of it because chances are, she will do it again.

If she gets addicted to it, it will screw up both you and her life.

stroggos

New Zealand1543 Posts

August 19 2009 20:28 GMT

#32

On August 19 2009 05:13 Ronald_McD wrote:
Let's say your girlfriend of 8 months does heroin. How do you feel? How do you react? What do you do?

I'm pretty angry, but I'm not entirely sure if it's justified. I don't know what to really say. It's been three or four days since and I fought with her once about it. I tried to just forget about it but it keeps coming up in the back of my mind. I can't stop, and it eats away at me.

To clear a few other things up. She did it once. She smoked it, a small amount.
She says she wouldn't go looking for it but if the opportunity came up she would do it again.

well, from what it sounds your girlfriend is far from addiction although heroin is the 2nd most addictive drug(after normal smokes), anyway point is you can still save her!

Anyways i think she needs a good beating, also tell her parents.

I wouldn't leave her, would probably increase the chance of her doing it again.

on the otherhand if she did heroin behind your back there's a good chance shes cheating on you.

Hope this helps.

GeneralStan

United States4789 Posts

August 19 2009 20:52 GMT

#33

That she used it once is a cuase for concern, not a breakup.

Just let her know that you aren't ready to be in a relationship with a heroin user. If she ignores that to start using it, then you break up with her.

p4ge

Canada160 Posts

August 20 2009 02:03 GMT

#34

dump her, unless you really like her. if you really like her or known her long enough etc, tell her earnestly that it makes u extremly uncomforatble that she smoked heroin, then wait for her reaction then reevaluate