Let's say your girlfriend of 8 months does heroin. How do you feel? How do you react? What do you do?
I'm pretty angry, but I'm not entirely sure if it's justified. I don't know what to really say. It's been three or four days since and I fought with her once about it. I tried to just forget about it but it keeps coming up in the back of my mind. I can't stop, and it eats away at me.
To clear a few other things up. She did it once. She smoked it, a small amount. She says she wouldn't go looking for it but if the opportunity came up she would do it again.
doesn't sound like a big deal to me... As long as she only smoked it and it was only this once... only problems w/ heroin imo are the addiction and injecting. as long as those don't arise there is no problem. imo.
This is assuming that you wouldn't have a problem w/ her smoking weed or taking a lorcet and that you find recreational use of illegal substances acceptable.
I don't mean to condone the usage of heroin, but most of the replies in this thread make it seem as if she sold her car to get the herion and then did it all and sucked the guys dick for more. She smoked it once. It's not a big deal... Herion doesn't do much more long term damage to your body than just about anything else you would smoke. What do you people really know about herion that wasn't spoon fed by a bias media? Your biggest concern should be that she doesn't get addicted, and that is all. I mean the way these people are talking if you did cocaine once you're an addict.
On August 19 2009 05:13 Ronald_McD wrote: Let's say your girlfriend of 8 months does heroin. How do you feel? How do you react? What do you do?
I'm pretty angry, but I'm not entirely sure if it's justified. I don't know what to really say. It's been three or four days since and I fought with her once about it. I tried to just forget about it but it keeps coming up in the back of my mind. I can't stop, and it eats away at me.
To clear a few other things up. She did it once. She smoked it, a small amount. She says she wouldn't go looking for it but if the opportunity came up she would do it again.
Question is how much do you love her? would you accept the fact that she's takin drugs to be with her? Do you yourself take any other drugs?
If i were you I would make her choose between you and the heroin. Tell her you gonna leave her if she continues and see how she reacts. Heroin is serious bussiness, I would think about nothing else than this if she would stand in front of me. If she leaves you because of some stupid drugs than she wasn't worth it anyway. I rather would have no GF than one that does heroin.
Get her some help and if that doesnt work then dump her. imo. You cant "make" someone quit people have to do that on their own. I wish you the best my friend.
If she keeps saying she might do it again then bite the bullet and present her with an ultimatum. Heroin is some serious shit, don't wanna get stuck with a druggie I imagine. ^____^
On August 19 2009 05:21 crucifix wrote: Holy crap. Heroin? That's fucking serious bussiness.
yea this sums it up heroin isn't something used casually and the people who are providing it are more likely to rob you then do anything else i say rethink life and find normal people to hang out with the chick is obviously an uneducated fool for touching it. basically snuff it out and move on distance yourself from that crowd and try to save the chick, but shes sounds stupid weed,even coke or ecstasy is something you mingle with but herion is as crucifix wrote. gl with that dude
On August 19 2009 05:21 crucifix wrote: Holy crap. Heroin? That's fucking serious bussiness.
yea this sums it up heroin isn't something used casually and the people who are providing it are more likely to rob you then do anything else i say rethink life and find normal people to hang out with the chick is obviously an uneducated fool for touching it. basically snuff it out and move on distance yourself from that crowd and try to save the chick, but shes sounds stupid weed,even coke or ecstasy is something you mingle with but herion is as crucifix wrote. gl with that dude
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On a more serious note...
Did fanatacist even do heroin? I didn't see any references to it in his blog... Perhaps I just missed it. That was a pretty long blog. This is serious business, and you need to do something about it by either getting her to stop or just breaking up with her.
i snorted H once. no biggy. wouldn't do it again though. i'd say 2 or 3 times wouldn't be dangerous but idk. ask her why she wants to do it again, because honestly the risk/benefit ratio for H sucks bad.
My ex started doing heroin after 20 months of dating (I had not known she used to do it before we met). Anyway, things did not go well after that. She disappeared for long periods of time, hung me out to dry, and left me for a heroin dealer. 2 weeks later she begged for me back, thankfully I grew some balls. They got engaged. She wanted me back about 6 months later. She wanted out of the engagement was all. One year after that instant, she broke off the engagement and was clean for some amount of time. At this point, she attempted to recreate a "friendship" with me.
What's my point? Get out before you get hurt. If you think she's only done it once, then you, and her, are just full of shit. Plenty of fish in the sea. Heroin is serious business.
EDIT: I'm not blaming a drug for our breakup; just pointing out that heroin addicts are unstable and certainly unfit for meaningful relationships.
isn't for the first time you do heroin you feel like shit and puke? Even morphiene (sic) in your IV drip sucker punches your bread basket so fast you almost wanna vomit. but yea, it is fuckin relaxing. Trying it is one thing, but if you do it more that is a really bad habit.
If I were you I'd tell her it's not cool and giver her an ultimatum. Also, if you ever catch her high on it just slap her around, don't worry, she won't feel it.
On August 19 2009 20:30 CharlieMurphy wrote: isn't for the first time you do heroin you feel like shit and puke? Even morphiene (sic) in your IV drip sucker punches your bread basket so fast you almost wanna vomit. but yea, it is fuckin relaxing. Trying it is one thing, but if you do it more that is a really bad habit.
If I were you I'd tell her it's not cool and giver her an ultimatum. Also, if you ever catch her high on it just slap her around, don't worry, she won't feel it.
Yes that's pretty much true. I call it bullshit by her. First times you have heroin (smoked) you will feel sick and vomit etc, so I guess that was not her first time. If she was injecting herself you would have noticed yea. H is really really dangerous, it's the most addictive shit in the world, and the most lethal. Try to keep her away from that shit... get some weed and smoke with her to make her feel away from that shit. Total abstinence doesn't work with H users, you have to go step by step. If you totally deny drug use to an H user believe me she will try to find more. I had some problems with a friend doing heroin and we helped him by hanging around with him more. Smoked some weed and went partying getting drunk, girls etc and he eventually forgot about heroin. It was really hard believe me. Don't let her start a bad habit. gl
On August 19 2009 05:13 Ronald_McD wrote: Let's say your girlfriend of 8 months does heroin. How do you feel? How do you react? What do you do?
I'm pretty angry, but I'm not entirely sure if it's justified. I don't know what to really say. It's been three or four days since and I fought with her once about it. I tried to just forget about it but it keeps coming up in the back of my mind. I can't stop, and it eats away at me.
To clear a few other things up. She did it once. She smoked it, a small amount. She says she wouldn't go looking for it but if the opportunity came up she would do it again.
Isnt heroin something you inject in yourself? Can you smoke it too? o.o
/serious/ I live in Detroit, and this shit is everywhere around here. Extremely dirt cheap, oftentimes cheaper than weed. I can tell you from personal experience, everyone i know who has chosen that path, are now DEAD. Including my best friends form high school, one of them even had 2 kids! Current death count is 6, and there are a couple more i'm expecting phone calls for anyday. Very sad stories, but they all started out similar to yours, usually with perscription pain killers. Some of my friends didn't start doing it until they were in their 30's. Shit goes downhill VERY fast.
If she did it once you might be fine, but Heroin is highly addictive. Just tell her your worried about the addiction potential and that drugs like weed are much safer if she needs a high. You need to take a soft tone though, if you take an angry or accusatory/judgmental tone then she will just get mad back and you won't be able to really talk.
that's why I hate using chemicals when it comes to getting high, I might get addicted to it
For me on my opinion about it is read west's post since I think he have already dealt with it. Like jam with her using weed and party until she forget's it, and also check out for signs if she is still using H.
Also, give her the ultimatum like the others have told you, she should never ever use it again if that fails well harden your balls like adamantium then dump her.
last opinion sounds really cruel but you got to accept that it will be meaningless shit to be with her if she keeps using H. (since your going down with her)
Heroine is some fucked up shit, it's highly addictive. All those homeless junkies are crack or heroine addicts. So I should decide to help her or leave her be and just get away from that stuff.
On August 19 2009 05:13 Ronald_McD wrote: Let's say your girlfriend of 8 months does heroin. How do you feel? How do you react? What do you do?
I'm pretty angry, but I'm not entirely sure if it's justified. I don't know what to really say. It's been three or four days since and I fought with her once about it. I tried to just forget about it but it keeps coming up in the back of my mind. I can't stop, and it eats away at me.
To clear a few other things up. She did it once. She smoked it, a small amount. She says she wouldn't go looking for it but if the opportunity came up she would do it again.
well, from what it sounds your girlfriend is far from addiction although heroin is the 2nd most addictive drug(after normal smokes), anyway point is you can still save her!
Anyways i think she needs a good beating, also tell her parents.
I wouldn't leave her, would probably increase the chance of her doing it again.
on the otherhand if she did heroin behind your back there's a good chance shes cheating on you.
dump her, unless you really like her. if you really like her or known her long enough etc, tell her earnestly that it makes u extremly uncomforatble that she smoked heroin, then wait for her reaction then reevaluate