EPTTo be fair I am but I've kept in touch with her and she texts me first most of the time so I honestly don't see the problem, I just wanted opinions.
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Shotcoder
United States2316 Posts
To be fair I am but I've kept in touch with her and she texts me first most of the time so I honestly don't see the problem, I just wanted opinions. | ||
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evilfatsh1t
Australia8892 Posts
in which case i think you are probably free to pursue her much more directly | ||
CosmicSpiral
United States15275 Posts
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puppykiller
United States3137 Posts
+ Show Spoiler + On September 25 2014 08:02 puppykiller wrote: If you are feeling sexual tension with someone can you assume they feel it to? Today during spanish class I felt really attracted to this girl I sit by so I asked her to hang out with me after class and then we ended up making out. I just felt really into her and assumed that she felt the same,but I wonder if that is always a rule of thumb or if I should be gauging if they are into me in some other way than just analyzing my own emotions. It's been a while since I fucked someone so I woulda thought I would have gotten off really easily but it was really really hard. I assumed the last time I had sex before this it was so hard because I didn't have any chemistry but even this time with what seemed like a fair amount it was difficult. Why can't I jizz... isn't sex supposed to be better than this??? | ||
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evilfatsh1t
Australia8892 Posts
2. she laid there like a starfish and probably didnt make it seem like she was enjoying herself (to me personally whether or not she is enjoying it makes a huge difference on how much i enjoy it) 3. you last forever, which is a good thing in some ways, except normally youd still enjoy getting to the end which doesnt seem to be the case for you | ||
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SixStrings
Germany2046 Posts
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WombaT
Northern Ireland27085 Posts
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Epishade
United States2267 Posts
On October 01 2014 23:29 SixStrings wrote: I have a girlfriend now. Congrats. When's the wedding? | ||
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LeeDawg
United States1306 Posts
On October 01 2014 23:29 SixStrings wrote: I have a girlfriend now. she's married, isn't she? | ||
Firebolt145
Lalalaland34503 Posts
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Northern Ireland27085 Posts
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MysteryMeat1
United States3292 Posts
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LostWraithSC
United States111 Posts
On October 02 2014 06:20 MysteryMeat1 wrote: How did you two meet? I want more detail than that  Give us the play by play, starting from the pick up line. | ||
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GreenHorizons
United States24067 Posts
On October 01 2014 22:42 evilfatsh1t wrote: 1. youre more emotional than you thought and you actually need to love the girl to enjoy sex more 2. she laid there like a starfish and probably didnt make it seem like she was enjoying herself (to me personally whether or not she is enjoying it makes a huge difference on how much i enjoy it) 3. you last forever, which is a good thing in some ways, except normally youd still enjoy getting to the end which doesnt seem to be the case for you *4 You've been beating your meat like it stole your car since the last time and without all the porn and your patented lap salute you are just not quite getting where you're going. | ||
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Yoz
Australia357 Posts
On October 01 2014 21:49 puppykiller wrote: It's been a while since I fucked someone so I woulda thought I would have gotten off really easily but it was really really hard. I assumed the last time I had sex before this it was so hard because I didn't have any chemistry but even this time with what seemed like a fair amount it was difficult. Why can't I jizz... isn't sex supposed to be better than this??? Sounds like you might have been nervous? | ||
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puppykiller
United States3137 Posts
I do fap to porn 1 or 2 times a day so maybe I have to lay off that shit. | ||
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eviltomahawk
United States11135 Posts
However, she did mention in a text that her ex bf is spreading a rumor that she cheated on him. I got curious and decided to do some facebook stalking because, fuck it, I'm really good at creeping on the internet. I found her ex, and in addition to looking terrifyingly jacked, his latest post from last weekend mentioned how she wanted to get back with him while leading on another guy (probably an older ex) just so that she can eventually break up with new ex to get back with old ex. And it looks like she was dating old ex for several years up until a couple weeks before dating new ex earlier this year. Anyways, I dunno if it's wise for me to jump waist-deep into this drama. I'm already meeting her for the first time over dinner tomorrow because I really want to get a chicken salad sandwich at this restaurant, but I'm already seeing red flags. | ||
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CosmicSpiral
United States15275 Posts
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FanaticCZ
Czech Republic287 Posts
On September 28 2014 05:02 LemOn wrote: Looks like you are still hurt and have low confidence from last time man. I'd be in touch a lot less or stop completely, and just schedule some fun time together in person. Definitely don't try to prove anything to her and keep your options open - I mean last girl spent 3 years with you you must be a good guy right why cling to this one girl, how'd she deserve so much of your devotion when it doesn't seem she's reciprocating much? What she says sounds like typical stuff that just means she's not that into you right now, I wouldn't bring any mentions of future together or defining the relationship etc. up at all - how'd that come up anyway in the first place? Just have fun with her and relax On September 28 2014 06:25 CosmicSpiral wrote: You can't control someone's feelings. If she doesn't have strong feelings, she doesn't have strong feelings. You have nothing to prove to her. A relationship that doesn't start from physical attraction is neither better nor worse than one that does. Don't hypnotize yourself into thinking she's this special snowflake because of the former. Release yourself from putting expectations on the outcome. Focus on having an enjoyable time over building towards some ambiguous future that may or may not happen. You can deal with those obstacles as they appear. Well in the end I went to talk to her, because few days ago she started to act differently from how she acted for those four months we were in touch. She said that even tho she loves me (as an important and close person in her life), she can't get her feelings on the same level as mine, no matter how hard shes trying and that she started this between us because she wanted it and thought she would eventually share the same feelings with me. But it didnt come and shes apparently not that interested in seeing me very often as well. So we agreed upon it going nowhere. I guess this is the right thing to do, but i feel like shit now cuz its pretty much a second heartbreak in a row without any significant time of being happy in between... So here goes another fuc*ed up autumn... | ||
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Killmouse
Austria5700 Posts
On October 02 2014 12:17 puppykiller wrote: Its hard to say, the girl was really into it except when for shits and giggles I tried to get her to watch a danny devito interview on youtube while I fucked her (no troll it was hillarious but really confusing to her). Idk she's a cool girl but not someone I felt any emotional attatchment to. I do fap to porn 1 or 2 times a day so maybe I have to lay off that shit. i know that feeling man! having hard time to jizz aswell T.T your life sounds like the movie Don Jon haha, if u havnt watched it go watch it | ||
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