EPTOn August 24 2014 18:01 SixStrings wrote:
Wow, this thread has really taken a nose-dive.
Wow, this thread has really taken a nose-dive.
Save us SixStrings!
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We are extremely close to shutting down this thread for the same reasons the PUA thread was shut down. While some of the time this thread contains actual discussion with people asking help and people giving nice advice, it often gets derailed by rubbish that should not be here. The moderation team will be trying to steer this thread in a different direction from now on. Posts of the following nature are banned: 1) ANYTHING regarding PUA. If your post contains the words 'alpha' or 'beta' or anything of that sort please don't hit post. 2) Stupid brags. You can tell us about your nice success stories with someone, but posts such as 'lol 50 Tinder matches' are a no-no. 3) Any misogynistic bullshit, including discussion about rape culture. 4) One night stands and random sex. These are basically brags that invariably devolve into gender role discussions and misogynistic comments. Last chance, guys. This thread is for dating advice and sharing dating stories. While gender roles, sociocultural norms, and our biological imperative to reproduce are all tangentially related, these subjects are not the main purpose of the thread. Please AVOID these discussions. If you want to discuss them at length, go to PMs or start a blog. If you disagree with someone's ideologies, state that you disagree with them and why they won't work from a dating standpoint and move on. We will not tolerate any lengthy derailments that aren't directly about dating. | ||
dravernor
Netherlands6192 Posts
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DarkPlasmaBall
United States45779 Posts
On August 24 2014 17:28 SoSexy wrote: Ok, so I went out with the two girls and friends. The night was at an amazing point, we were about to move to a quieter place and then out of nothing one of their mums comes to pick them up by car (they're 18 but no driving license yet).I drank a bit and this car was really near to the sidewalk, so I opened my arms to communicate something like 'don't come so close, do you know how to drive?'. Then I turned back and the girls were already in the car, Today one of them texted 'mum is super angry'. S*** Why is the mother angry? Did you and the girls talk since? | ||
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riotjune
United States3394 Posts
I enjoy being a mole too. On August 24 2014 19:06 DarkPlasmaBall wrote: Why is the mother angry? Did you and the girls talk since? Drunk dude challenging mum's driving ability of all things, let's just say his favor is not held by mum. | ||
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SoSexy
Italy3725 Posts
I received a call from a number I don't know and I didn't reply as I always do. I then checked on google and 100% that number is the girl's mother. Oh crap. I rationally know that I'm safe, because the girl is 18+, we were just drinking at a bar etc, but this is making me feel tremendously uneasy. | ||
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SoSexy
Italy3725 Posts
On August 24 2014 19:55 DarkPlasmaBall wrote: Talk to the mom and clarify things with her if you ever want to go out with those girls again. Yeah I'm probably going to call back later but this just seems stupid to me. What does she want from me? | ||
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DarkPlasmaBall
United States45779 Posts
On August 24 2014 19:57 SoSexy wrote: Yeah I'm probably going to call back later but this just seems stupid to me. What does she want from me? I'm not her so I don't know  I would recommend being extremely nice and even apologetic if she's clearly pissed at you for some reason (drunkenly waving at her to drive better, or whatever she assumes... after all, you're a stranger as far as she knows, and you just went out with her daughter with the intent of being intimate with her... parental alarm right there). Don't be aggressive or combative. | ||
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SoSexy
Italy3725 Posts
On August 24 2014 20:20 DarkPlasmaBall wrote: I'm not her so I don't know I would recommend being extremely nice and even apologetic if she's clearly pissed at you for some reason (drunkenly waving at her to drive better, or whatever she assumes... after all, you're a stranger as far as she knows, and you just went out with her daughter with the intent of being intimate with her... parental alarm right there). Don't be aggressive or combative. Good tip. I decided that I'm just gonna let the steam blow off so I won't call back for now, but is she calls me I'm gonna reply and be nice. I'll keep you updated. | ||
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DarkPlasmaBall
United States45779 Posts
On August 24 2014 20:23 SoSexy wrote: Good tip. I decided that I'm just gonna let the steam blow off so I won't call back for now, but is she calls me I'm gonna reply and be nice. I'll keep you updated. Please do!  | ||
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SixStrings
Germany2046 Posts
Not much I can do at this point. For me it's the same old story. I meet a girl, I sleep with her, I fall in love with her, she doesn't want to 'get serious'. I meet the next girl, I sleep with her, I have no further interest in pursuing and she wants a relationship. To quote the great Costanza, whose real-life equivalent I have become: 'Why can't I act with the ones I like the same way I act with the ones I don't like?' | ||
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aTnClouD
Italy2428 Posts
By the way they should start doing iq tests to moderators, some garbage got in by accident and are giving unjustified bans in this thread to make themselves feel powerful and worthy. Pathetic. User was temp banned for this post. | ||
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DarkPlasmaBall
United States45779 Posts
On August 24 2014 20:29 SixStrings wrote: Not much I can do at this point. For me it's the same old story. I meet a girl, I sleep with her, I fall in love with her, she doesn't want to 'get serious'. I meet the next girl, I sleep with her, I have no further interest in pursuing and she wants a relationship. To quote the great Costanza, whose real-life equivalent I have become: 'Why can't I act with the ones I like the same way I act with the ones I don't like?' I suppose if you do it enough times, you'll eventually find a match! Do you actually get to know the girls on a personal (not just sexual) level too? I'd venture a guess that just having sex might not be enough to fully appreciate a future boyfriend or girlfriend. + Show Spoiler + On August 24 2014 21:01 aTnClouD wrote: By the way they should start doing iq tests to moderators, some garbage got in by accident and are giving unjustified bans in this thread to make themselves feel powerful and worthy. Pathetic. User was temp banned for this post. lmao why post this... | ||
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SoSexy
Italy3725 Posts
From what I gathered she believed that her daughter was the pure kind, but she actually told me that she did things with her previous bf so her mother is living inside an illusion. Well no girls are worth my freedom so I'll just drop the ball. I'm sorry for the girl because she was into me and I liked going out with her. Also the mother said 'you are 25 and she is 18, it's an abyss. She is a good girl while you're not.' Man...I would have loved to reply but I was just calm and collected. Thanks for the help DarkPlasmaBall. | ||
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DarkPlasmaBall
United States45779 Posts
Sucks for the girl though, to have a crazy mom. | ||
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Grumbels
Netherlands7031 Posts
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DarkPlasmaBall
United States45779 Posts
On August 24 2014 22:05 Grumbels wrote: Why would a mother be allowed to dictate her adult daughter's romantic life? The police should laugh away such things, right? Probably, although the mother could accuse him of a bunch of shit that may take a while to process legally, and I doubt you'd want to deal with that level of drama this early into a relationship. Plus, the daughter does seem to be living with the mother and even needing the mother for rides everywhere, so the mother's "My House, My Rules" might be a big enough deterrent for the girl to stop pursuing SS, even if the only issue is because of age or something. The girl is 18, but clearly not independent. | ||
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SoSexy
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Calanthe
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Baltor
United States171 Posts
I could be misinterpreting her intentions, but assuming I'm not, what's the best way for me to go forward with things? I really don't want to lead her on romantically, but at the same time I don't like the idea of cutting things off cold-turkey - like I mentioned, she's had some really bad luck with guys being assholes in the past, and I'm afraid that even if I cut things off delicately I'll still end up hurting her. | ||
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