EPTDating: How's your luck? - Page 471
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We are extremely close to shutting down this thread for the same reasons the PUA thread was shut down. While some of the time this thread contains actual discussion with people asking help and people giving nice advice, it often gets derailed by rubbish that should not be here. The moderation team will be trying to steer this thread in a different direction from now on. Posts of the following nature are banned: 1) ANYTHING regarding PUA. If your post contains the words 'alpha' or 'beta' or anything of that sort please don't hit post. 2) Stupid brags. You can tell us about your nice success stories with someone, but posts such as 'lol 50 Tinder matches' are a no-no. 3) Any misogynistic bullshit, including discussion about rape culture. 4) One night stands and random sex. These are basically brags that invariably devolve into gender role discussions and misogynistic comments. Last chance, guys. This thread is for dating advice and sharing dating stories. While gender roles, sociocultural norms, and our biological imperative to reproduce are all tangentially related, these subjects are not the main purpose of the thread. Please AVOID these discussions. If you want to discuss them at length, go to PMs or start a blog. If you disagree with someone's ideologies, state that you disagree with them and why they won't work from a dating standpoint and move on. We will not tolerate any lengthy derailments that aren't directly about dating. | ||
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Broetchenholer
Germany1944 Posts
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skrzmark
United States1528 Posts
How are asians/koreans when you date them? | ||
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WombaT
Northern Ireland25659 Posts
Of course there will be cultural differences, I just find the specificity of looking for a Korean girlfriend a bit strange. | ||
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LeLfe
France3160 Posts
On May 21 2014 20:36 skrzmark wrote: Idk. I just want a Korean girlfriend. I can't have an anti-social girlfriend either, I love doing stuff outside, I mainly game and stay inside because many of my friends are lazy and don't want to do much, also not much to do in Florida without a car. How are asians/koreans when you date them? obviously depends on the girl.. From experience (had Chinese and Malaysian gfs) they're less likely to take the iniative than Westerners and more likely to be cute and caring. But once again, every girl is different no matter where she comes from. | ||
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arb
Noobville17921 Posts
On May 21 2014 20:36 skrzmark wrote: Idk. I just want a Korean girlfriend. I can't have an anti-social girlfriend either, I love doing stuff outside, I mainly game and stay inside because many of my friends are lazy and don't want to do much, also not much to do in Florida without a car. How are asians/koreans when you date them? I met one online her whole family was from Laos though, she seemed pretty low maintenance, like she was ok with coming over to cuddle + watch movies and stuff instead of going out and overall she was a pretty nice girl. Even with me I guess you could say being ignorant and bombarding her with questions about Asian culture since she was legit the only Asian girl i've ever met in my life :x. I have heard alot of them are high maintenance though and I've had very few hits from them online too :\ | ||
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B.I.G.
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TheFish7
United States2824 Posts
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eviltomahawk
United States11135 Posts
On May 22 2014 03:22 arb wrote: I met one online her whole family was from Laos though, she seemed pretty low maintenance, like she was ok with coming over to cuddle + watch movies and stuff instead of going out and overall she was a pretty nice girl. Even with me I guess you could say being ignorant and bombarding her with questions about Asian culture since she was legit the only Asian girl i've ever met in my life :x. I have heard alot of them are high maintenance though and I've had very few hits from them online too :\ Doesn't help that Asian girls tend to get the most attention online, so it's already an uphill battle compared to other ethnicities. | ||
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WombaT
Northern Ireland25659 Posts
This is only in the absence of further information from the poster/me misinterpreting the tone but I think that sort of fetishisation of a particular nationality is a strange starting point to come from . | ||
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ComaDose
Canada10357 Posts
On May 22 2014 06:14 Wombat_NI wrote: Ok so it's just me that finds the Korean stipulation a bit unhealthy? This is only in the absence of further information from the poster/me misinterpreting the tone but I think that sort of fetishisation of a particular nationality is a strange starting point to come from . i think most educated people consider all forms of racism more than a bit unhealthy | ||
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Gahlo
United States35159 Posts
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WombaT
Northern Ireland25659 Posts
Dating and being lonely in that sense aside, are you in a good place personally in your life? Apologies if that's too personal a question. In this aspect I buy the likes of Evo's approach to 'PUA', namely that by being or 'making' yourself into somebody you are happy with, that romance springs from that as a natural consequence of that. | ||
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Gahlo
United States35159 Posts
I've never been very good at compartmentalizing large tasks. | ||
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-Jacob-
358 Posts
I find it better to just go out with a group of friends or even to the bar (Just order a light beer if you don't drink) and try to talk to a girl there. Its better to talk in person with a stranger that you aren't on a first date with than trying to connect over a dating site/app | ||
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eviltomahawk
United States11135 Posts
On May 22 2014 15:15 -Jacob- wrote: From what I have learned, using dating apps on smart phones blow. I currently use POF (plenty of fish) and half the girls I try and talk to (even if they are interested in me first) end up being very short. By that I mean in their answers and questions. I was trying to talk to this cute girl a year younger than me, and all her answers were one word answers so I just gave up and moved on. About a week later she tried talking to me again so I thought I would give her a chance and once again she answered with one word answers. I find it better to just go out with a group of friends or even to the bar (Just order a light beer if you don't drink) and try to talk to a girl there. Its better to talk in person with a stranger that you aren't on a first date with than trying to connect over a dating site/app I didn't like POF at all when I used it. The entire thing felt cheap compared to okcupid, including the app. The girls on there didn't even seem that appealing. I found better success with other sites. But IRL stuff is way better than online stuff if you can handle it, which it looks like you can. | ||
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arb
Noobville17921 Posts
On May 22 2014 16:00 eviltomahawk wrote: I didn't like POF at all when I used it. The entire thing felt cheap compared to okcupid, including the app. The girls on there didn't even seem that appealing. I found better success with other sites. But IRL stuff is way better than online stuff if you can handle it, which it looks like you can. I feel like theres alot more girls on POF but the ones who reply are usually bland and boring, the ones on OKC seem to have more to say/be more apt to go out if you manage to get a response though. | ||
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ROOTCatZ
Peru1226 Posts
On May 20 2014 16:22 Thereisnosaurus wrote: That stat was self-described and also per-day, not per year. It's obviously a massive under-reporting thing because hardly anyone will bother to let the site know they got hitched, whether through it or not. That said, it's still not great. For the record, I've used OKC for a few years now and while I had trouble figuring the place out to begin with, I've since found it fantastic and met two (concurrent) partners through it, plus a third girl I'm in the initial process of getting to know who seems super cool (she mentioned Day9 and Catz on a date before I even brought up starcraft XD). my one 'bros' tip is that OKC subs are actually worth it. The biggest thing is you get access to a match filter that filters out people who joined, say, more than a week ago. This means you can look for people new to the site and thus very likely still interested in chatting. After that it's just about making yourself interesting. she sounds awesome | ||
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aTnClouD
Italy2428 Posts
On May 22 2014 15:15 -Jacob- wrote: From what I have learned, using dating apps on smart phones blow. I currently use POF (plenty of fish) and half the girls I try and talk to (even if they are interested in me first) end up being very short. By that I mean in their answers and questions. I was trying to talk to this cute girl a year younger than me, and all her answers were one word answers so I just gave up and moved on. About a week later she tried talking to me again so I thought I would give her a chance and once again she answered with one word answers. I find it better to just go out with a group of friends or even to the bar (Just order a light beer if you don't drink) and try to talk to a girl there. Its better to talk in person with a stranger that you aren't on a first date with than trying to connect over a dating site/app The problem with online dating is that girls can only judge you based on your physical appearence (which becomes secondary once you meet them anyway) and if you are not supermodel looking they will not show much interest or investment because they have thousands of guys writing to them. Meeting girls in person is always better. | ||
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Monsen
Germany2548 Posts
She probably said "Day9 is way more handsome than Catz"! edit: my bad, it's CatZ obviously. <3 | ||
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Thereisnosaurus
Australia1822 Posts
She probably said "Day9 is way more handsome than Catz"! nah, she just enjoyed catz's stream. @ I'll tell her you said hi ^^. | ||
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