EPTOn April 21 2013 02:56 arb wrote:
stupid as fuck, I hate people. so god damn much.
stupid as fuck, I hate people. so god damn much.
Sounds like there must a story behind this?
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farvacola
United States18826 Posts
Sounds like there must a story behind this? | ||
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MasterOfPuppets
Romania6942 Posts
On April 21 2013 02:56 arb wrote: stupid as fuck, I hate people. so god damn much. This post gives me a deep resonance. | ||
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Mostly[Q]
United States34 Posts
were you flirty too, or just friendly, there's quite a big difference I was flirting with her. Sometimes I have difficulty realizing when I'm flirting or being flirted with, but people who saw us together said I was flirting really overtly. | ||
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hooahah
3752 Posts
On April 21 2013 02:55 ROOTFayth wrote: I don't understand why you don't just go out and get that experience, build that confidence you're apparently missing deep ingrained thought that "it has never happened before, hence it won't happen now" very much like other problems, all you have to do in order to solve them is 'just do it' which is why I went yesterday to a pub, filled with the intent to charge in there and just...try. Anything. Then as soon as I walked in I realized 99% of the place was dudes and hightailed it out there back home. | ||
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Xenocryst
United States521 Posts
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farvacola
United States18826 Posts
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arb
Noobville17921 Posts
On April 21 2013 02:59 MasterOfPuppets wrote: This post gives me a deep resonance. if you only knew | ||
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MasterOfPuppets
Romania6942 Posts
Jokes aside, I've been feeling very similarly as of late. | ||
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Xenocryst
United States521 Posts
On April 21 2013 03:33 farvacola wrote: Confessing your love can work, it just needs to not be done in a desperate and creepy way. In my mind confessing your love is a great thing once you are already in a relationship or extremely close, but other than that it is almost ALWAYS creepy, I've seen too many people do it and cringed as they did it. It is almost always creepy. | ||
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ziggurat
Canada847 Posts
On April 21 2013 03:21 hooahah wrote: deep ingrained thought that "it has never happened before, hence it won't happen now" very much like other problems, all you have to do in order to solve them is 'just do it' which is why I went yesterday to a pub, filled with the intent to charge in there and just...try. Anything. Then as soon as I walked in I realized 99% of the place was dudes and hightailed it out there back home. You know, going out to a pub with the intention of hitting on random women is not the way to start. This is practically impossible for a shy person at the bar by himself to do. You need to find some activities where you can meet women naturally. Join some kind of activities where there are lots of women. Take an acting class, do ultimate frisbee, join an outdoors group and go on hikes, whatever you think would be fun where there will be at least 50% women. But if your life is structured so you rarely meet attractive women in normal social situations then you are at a big disadvantage right off the bat. Or internet dating, obviously. | ||
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WombaT
Northern Ireland25318 Posts
Will expand upon this when I'm not in the maternity ward awaiting mini wombat' | ||
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riddi
United Kingdom118 Posts
I might've said some stupid shit, along the lines of "whatever happens will happen, you might decide you dont wanna be with me, or vice versa, and we'll deal with that when it happens". Just being as realistic and honest as i could be really. She didnt like it, stormed off, came back a while later and said it wasnt gunna work, were breaking up, etc etc. Shes had a previous boyf up sticks and move to the USA before, and it was messy. Anyway, she also said, "If we stay together, il forever be worrying if you're cheating, i wont know. and if we last the year, and you come back, il still never know, and itll always be on my mind." Basically, she doesn't trust me (no reason not to, ive never/never will cheat on a girl" Went out and got hideously drunk last night, was not a good idea but hey ho. Im still kinda clinging on to the fact that we might get back together, weve spoken a small bit since, bumped into her at university which was awkward, and were gunna meet up some time next week to "talk". Worth going through all the shit, or should i just forget about it and make the most of the Scandinavian girls? | ||
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McBengt
Sweden1684 Posts
On April 21 2013 04:11 Wombat_NI wrote: That or deal with whatever underlying confidence issues you might have. Pushing out of your comfort zone will have benefits, but long-term you want to expand the confines of what constitutes a comfort zone for you. If you are putting yourself out there in situations that you never come to terms with, things will not resolve long term. Will expand upon this when I'm not in the maternity ward awaiting mini wombat' My mouth is watering as we speak... I mean congratulations to the imminent addition to your family unit, I have calculated that it is statistically probable that your child will be of aesthetically pleasing appearance and of sound constitution, including efficacious vocal cords. Btw, anyone seen the oregano? | ||
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WombaT
Northern Ireland25318 Posts
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Shotcoder
United States2316 Posts
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riddi
United Kingdom118 Posts
On April 21 2013 04:28 Wombat_NI wrote: I hate you, I have wanted to go there, had a Finnish gf before but am stuck here for a while yet. I say go for it Hah, il be in Helsinki, really looking forward to this. Was an opportunity that i was never going to pass up, just a shame its left me in the situation im in. And i know that give it 2-3 weeks, and il be fine, things just feel awful at the moment, and i needed to vent. Its horrible going from seeing someone most days/spending alot of time with them, to not seeing them for a few, not speaking at all, just bleugh. Happy relationship to messy break up in 20 minutes.  | ||
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Grumbels
Netherlands7031 Posts
On April 21 2013 04:25 riddi wrote: So im moving to Finland in august to study for a year. [..] Worth going through all the shit, or should i just forget about it and make the most of the Scandinavian girls? The first thing you need to work on is your geography, as Finland is not Scandinavian. | ||
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riddi
United Kingdom118 Posts
On April 21 2013 04:36 Grumbels wrote: The first thing you need to work on is your geography, as Finland is not Scandinavian. Facepalm moment. I always assumed that Scandinavian was Finland/Sweden/Denmark. Apparently its Norway, not Finland. Ah well. | ||
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McBengt
Sweden1684 Posts
On April 21 2013 04:36 Grumbels wrote: The first thing you need to work on is your geography, as Finland is not Scandinavian. Still, it's a lot like Sweden 2, but with worse hockey and more russians. | ||
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turdburgler
England6749 Posts
On April 21 2013 04:39 riddi wrote: Facepalm moment. I always assumed that Scandinavian was Finland/Sweden/Denmark. Apparently its Norway, not Finland. Ah well. you can do 1 better by calling finish people russian. | ||
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