<3 Faruko.
It might sound selfish but your own health is still the most important thing. Take the timeout you need and decide what you want to do after. Depression is no slouch and pulling trough as a couple requires both parties to work on it. I'm sure everything will turn out fine for you.

PoulsenB

Poland7754 Posts

June 28 2019 14:12 GMT

#201682

Hang in there Faruko, you're a cool dude and I hope everything works out in the end for you. I know it's not that helpful but I don't really know what else to say.

Artisreal

Germany9235 Posts

June 28 2019 14:38 GMT

#201683

If you wanna talk/vent on skype or WhatsApp, just send me a pm mate.

I have to say that I've never dealt actively with a depressive Person. I have some Friends that are rather melancholic or have a negative Outlook on life (due to different reasons) but that arent depressed. So I aint not expert.
So I can only say that it's incredibly hard to be supportive 100% of the time. So hard that it's almost impossible. Try not to feel bad about not being able to cope with that pressure. It is alright to have limits. And respect them.

You worded it rather fittingly: when you can't take care of yourself, how can you do the same for others.
Only by sacrificing your self. (not yourself, your self.).

What helped me in the end was to not be the sole outlet/support for my wife when she had bad times.
We oftentimes are most honest with the People closest to us - Family and Partners - by which we can burden them over their capacity. Insofar help, be it by a professional or just some other individuals that can support you in shouldering some of the burden, it might help you be less strained by your partner's Depression.

much love, stay strong and rely on help when needed!

Faruko

Chile34173 Posts

June 28 2019 15:14 GMT

#201684

This is so hard, i feel anger, anxiety, impotence, sadness, etc... i feel so bad for beign selfish, so bad for thinking of me, but i have to set limits, i have to understand that if i want to be with her, i might have to step aside a bit and let things flow... and see how it goes from there

Thank you

Unleashing

Denmark14978 Posts

June 28 2019 15:15 GMT

#201685

feel free to hmu in PMs if you need anyone to talk to dude, got more than just a bit of experience dealing with stuff like this

goody153

44292 Posts

June 28 2019 16:04 GMT

#201686

Faruko. I can't really have a say on how to solve the depression thing as i myself till can't somehow resolve it(but i managed to become a full functioning adult without resorting ending myself so i guess i consider that as a win but it never really went away for me) so i don't have a really any real advise when it comes to dealing with people like me(one thing i noticed doting makes us feel worse but listening and just being there seems tolerable) but we have contact on at least one social media so you can just bump me whenever you need somebody to talk to.

As for you my man. Find some things that would take off your mind over the things that are stressing you out atm,.

Nevuk

United States16280 Posts

June 28 2019 20:30 GMT

#201687

So what games are worth getting on the switch aside from xenoblade, botw, and hollow knight and I guess the obvious ones like Mario and smash?

Fleetfeet

Canada2807 Posts

June 28 2019 22:05 GMT

#201688

Gl Faru! Life is hard, and depresssion is a shitty illness/state to deal with. Gj with understanding that your own stability is part of the equation - you're on a good path to be able to be helpful/supportive if you need to be.

tehh4ck3r

Magrathea7084 Posts

June 28 2019 23:01 GMT

#201689

On June 29 2019 05:30 Nevuk wrote:
So what games are worth getting on the switch aside from xenoblade, botw, and hollow knight and I guess the obvious ones like Mario and smash?

picross

Comeh

United States18919 Posts

June 29 2019 12:29 GMT

#201690

On June 28 2019 22:46 Faruko wrote:
i know this is not the place tbh, but i feel like shit, i'm on the verge of breaking with the girl i love, she has depression and its starting to affect me, and i can't be her support if i can't even help myself

we had a pretty terrible (crying all over the place) yesterday talk and we decide we should split out for a bit... and think stuff, even my mom is flying in this minute to be with me

i really dont know what to do.

I'm sorry

but i really consider you guys as part of my life tbh, even if its all meme and random stuff

<3 <3 <3 <3

I'm sorry mate, thats really hard

. As someone with depression, its something the person afflicted has to be proactive about self care - you cant rely on others to help you through it. Encourage her to find the help she needs, be it medication or therapy or both. (currently doing both atm with good results). But you also have to look out for yourself, and there's only so much you can do as a partner. Its good you are recognizing whats important for you, regardless of anything.

I'm sorry man, I hope it works out for you both but you'll get through this either way. *hugs*

Faruko

Chile34173 Posts

June 29 2019 12:41 GMT

#201691

u guys

Thank for this kind words, it's been a terrible time and I've decided that I'll see a therapist too, i need to work on myself, I really don't want to end this relationship but i also need to take care of myself.

I'll tell her about this because i know that if we continue like this we will hit a wall anyway and it'll be way worse.

I'm more optimistic today I've been talking with friends, family, reading your comments and I've been feeling much better and more peaceful, it's not gonna be easy but at least I'm start to see, albeit really small, light at the end of this long tunnel

Yurie

12153 Posts

June 29 2019 14:38 GMT

#201692

On June 29 2019 05:30 Nevuk wrote:
So what games are worth getting on the switch aside from xenoblade, botw, and hollow knight and I guess the obvious ones like Mario and smash?

Diablo and bomber man.

TheEmulator

28102 Posts

June 29 2019 21:47 GMT

#201693

On June 29 2019 23:38 Yurie wrote:

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Diablo and bomber man.

You might enjoy Octopath as well. The new Pokemon is obviously good if you're already into Pokemon. Since you mentioned Hollow Knight I would like to also point out that Celeste was released on the Switch as well and is probably the best platformer I've ever played.

Faruko

Chile34173 Posts

June 29 2019 23:36 GMT

#201694

Slay the Spire on the switch is the best version by far

Touch controls, buttons, can play in bed, etc...

Erasme

Bahamas15899 Posts

June 30 2019 00:54 GMT

#201695

why do people hate on cod but not on pokemon ? literally the same game over and over and over

Faruko

Chile34173 Posts

June 30 2019 01:05 GMT

#201696

why would people hate cod or pokemon tho, dont buy it

Fleetfeet

Canada2807 Posts

June 30 2019 01:14 GMT

#201697

I want a COD with cute guns that evolve now.

TheEmulator

28102 Posts

June 30 2019 01:22 GMT

#201698

People generally hate on cod because of elitism from what I can tell. Old school gamers saw it as a shitty console game played by teens. Lots of new school gamers don't play it because they think everyone in the community is a normie/bro.

rabidch

United States20289 Posts

June 30 2019 05:55 GMT

#201699

On June 30 2019 09:54 Erasme wrote:
why do people hate on cod but not on pokemon ? literally the same game over and over and over

one is cute the other one isnt

SKC

Brazil18828 Posts

June 30 2019 14:16 GMT

#201700

Main difference is that you don't get a new Pokemon game every year while CoD was getting more new titles than FIFA at some point.

But people are starting to get annoyed with some of GameFreaks bullshit now too.