On July 13 2005 18:28 1337 wrote:
gg_hertz i dont care about your posts, u r an idiot, do you have any idea how traumatic a situation like this is?

I blame society for my insensitivity.

karelen

Sweden2407 Posts

July 13 2005 10:08 GMT

#28

hunt him down and rape him, eye for an eye..

1337

United States171 Posts

July 13 2005 10:11 GMT

#29

On July 13 2005 19:08 karelen wrote:
hunt him down and rape him, eye for an eye..

eewwwww

lightman

United States731 Posts

July 13 2005 10:14 GMT

#30

On July 13 2005 18:54 sonofek(scnoob) wrote:

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Meh, everyone is different. He is taking the calm route. I'm sure he cares, but he just doesn't want to complicate things further or something like that. Anyway, that really sucks man.

What I meant was something like: If you go by foot through harlem with gold chains and rings, do you expect to not get robbed ? or are you really careful when you drive a car at 100 mph? if you crash and end up in a hospital what do you expect ?

Yes. I've tried to look at the situation and how I am handling it and so far I see that I am taking it calmy. Three or four years ago, I would have not rested until I tracked, found, lured and kill whoever did it. Today I am a very cold person. Right now I'm trying to handle it as cold as I can.

I don't feel good believe me. Accepting the truth is the hardest lesson man has to face.

Anyhow, it doesn't matter how it happened. That's not what I care and you shouldn't either, you're taking it the wrong way. She has to get an HIV test every 3 months for 1 year. Think if any of those tests gets positive. I am thinking how can I help her live through this whole year she has to be in jeopardy? And we have to be prepared for either a negative or a positive result. Plus the other tests to discard other deseases.

Btw, the Map joke was nice. It's always good to at least have a laugh even in the worst moments.

Refrain[FriZ]

Canada4337 Posts

July 13 2005 10:14 GMT

#31

wow what the fuck
how is it not possible that she did not get a look at the person?

decafchicken

United States20164 Posts

July 13 2005 10:18 GMT

#32

[/quote]What I meant was something like: If you go by foot through harlem with gold chains and rings, do you expect to not get robbed ? or are you really careful when you drive a car at 100 mph? if you crash and end up in a hospital what do you expect ?[/quote]

Going by those examples, i'm guessing she got raped because she went walking naked into a prison?

FunnyMan

95 Posts

July 13 2005 10:20 GMT

#33

damn i comprenhend you, and its very respectfull that you didnt react the "ima kill him, right now" way. i really think you SHOULD search for the guy, but not because you want revenge, because he deserves jail, and he must realize wtf he did....

anyway, i wish you good luck in all results. Lets hope the rapist was his first time or he doesnt get laid much.

Legend

United States47 Posts

July 13 2005 10:21 GMT

#34

Let me get this straight:

You don't really care that your girlfriend got raped because she was in a situation that lends itself to it.

Think about that.

lightman

United States731 Posts

July 13 2005 10:21 GMT

#35

On July 13 2005 19:08 karelen wrote:
hunt him down and rape him, eye for an eye..

Four maybe three years ago I would have done that, even worse. Actually when she told it to me it was the first thing that popped in my head. I called that "to act instinctivly", like an animal. No reasoning.

A couple of minutes, just minutes passed and I had another view of the situation. She is already having a bad time. She doesn't know if she has any decease. And she is very very depressed. She wants to (and I want her to) get well and come out with no deceases. So how can you want somebody to get well and on the other hand, have revenge, vengaence, pain and suffering feelings. Is revenge really worth it ? I don't know.

I feel like giving the other cheek, and you know what ? I think it's the right thing to do. I want all my feelings to be good now and be with her.

Resse

307 Posts

July 13 2005 10:22 GMT

#36

Well it's not going to be easy that is for sure. You're just going to have to try to be there in whatever way she needs you to be, even if she doesn't tell you. Also I'm sure she'll probably feel really dirty and depressed so you're going to have to help her work on her self-esteem and shit.
And you're perception of life thing where you say oh if someone speeds at 100miles an hour and crash they deserve it etc. doesn't really apply to this. Because unless your girl purposely swalloed a date rape drug and met up with some escaped rape convict then it's totally not her fault.

Refrain[FriZ]

Canada4337 Posts

July 13 2005 10:28 GMT

#37

yeah i agree with that... what was the situation? was she at some kind of crazy party? was she doing drugs? was she walking down the street to buy some groceries?

SA-kcabsiozteh

United States396 Posts

July 13 2005 10:30 GMT

#38

"My only question is...

What map was it on?"

... -___-;;

That kind of stuff sucks man, I hope everything goes ok for you and your girlfriend. Try to get the police involved or something, seriously.

lightman

United States731 Posts

July 13 2005 10:31 GMT

#39

On July 13 2005 19:06 Liquid`Drone wrote:
I feel your pain
has happened to three friends of mine (that told me anyway. which makes me scared to think of how often it happens. )
=[

Drone you are a good person. One of the fewest I appreciate here.

Thanks

Tien

Russian Federation4447 Posts

July 13 2005 10:35 GMT

#40

I agree with Refrain. The least you can do is tell us how it happened, I mean we are curious.

I don't think there is much we can tell you or much that you can do except to keep pushing on in life.

Shit happens all the time, it happens to everyone, whether it happens now or it happens later there is nothing you can do but to keep living.

Be thankful she is alive. You and her have been through the worse. It can only get better from now on...