On July 31 2009 08:59 Epicfailguy wrote: The thing with the parent, is that he only sees what its looking for...when you do stuff its "ok" and it forgets it very fast, but once it sees you do something that annoys it, its blood starts boiling and all hell is loose.
Here is the solution: Fuck with its computer or any other piece of technology its got.
If there's one thing the parent suck at, its technology. It'll hit its head against the wall for about..30 seconds without even trying to fix it, just focusing on how annoying the problem is, ask you for help, you help it, and it'll at least remember it.
Man I wish I could do that. Both of my parents have mature careers involving computers and related technical skills. My father for instance is an Oracle consultant and has had experience with both database and network administration. I don't think this is entirely unusual for Asian parents, either (no stereotyping intended.)
When I lived at home and my (typical overbearing Asian) parents hound at me for all sorts of reasons - I learned to affirm and acknowledge their desire while continue to do things as I see fit. Of course, very soon they will hound at me again for the same reason, but I simply rinse and repeat the method. When the time is ripe, I AM GONE. ADIOS.
I think the important thing about dealing with [typical] Asian parents is that you want to leave them with their dignity. If it means affirm and stay silent (while pointing out that you're making progress diligently - they love to hear that), I'd do it.
It's just their way to feel relevant. It's part of the culture...
Ahaha I feel bad for some of you. I'm asian (chinese) and I have parents that do not give a shit on what I do as long as I don't take drugs and give them really good marks in school.
(well ok they recently got mad at me for staying up till 4 o clock to watch starcraft but I guess thats reasonable)
After fighting with parents for years, now I just say yes to everything. Then they are happy and I just go back to what I was doing before. They just wanna feel like they still have control over you and for some reason, Asian parents will do what they know best - nag. It's cuz that's how they were raised, it's what they know.
Just agree with them and for like 2 days afterwards make it a point to show that you're "following" their instructions. That will make them happy and get them off your case for a little while.
I feel your pain. I live away from my parents, I'm 28 and yet they STILL think that they have a say in what I do. (ex: I once got my hair straightedn and my mom got mad that I didnt consult with her first. WTF?)
On July 31 2009 13:56 lilsusie wrote: After fighting with parents for years, now I just said yes to everything. Then they are happy and I just go back to what I was doing before. They just wanna feel like they still have control over you and for some reason, Asians parents will do what they know best - nag. It's cuz that's how they were raised, it's what they know.
Just agree with them and for like 2 days afterwards make it a point to show that you're "following" their instructions. That will make them happy and get them off your case for a little while.
I feel your pain. I live away from my parents, I'm 28 and yet they STILL think that they have a say in what I do. (ex: I once got my hair straightedn and my mom got mad that I didnt consult with her first. WTF?)
oh wow good timing... I just want to say that the worst thing for me was not being able to fully hate mine... because his tactic was to rise feeling of guilt in me whenever I did something wrong in his eyes what happened pretty often... add that he had very strange belief I'm doing things to piss him off and that was supposed to be fun for me and that there was no other point of view than his point of view word to word makes me surprised I'm not Asian at all ;P
When my psychologist made me realize because of who exactly I was always feeling so down and trying to talk with him seriously and be shocked by his unbelievably cold attitude it finally allowed me to call him spermgiver and break any contact with him. It probably wouldn't be possible if my parents were together as I moved to my mom's apartment + Show Spoiler +
(but in a world where they would like each other enough not to break 13 years ago, he wouldn't be as fucked up as he is so there would be no reason, w/e)
Clazz if there is anything more than just blood ties I would go with Susie's attitude =.= happy day where you'll be able to move out x)
On July 31 2009 08:59 Epicfailguy wrote: The thing with the parent, is that he only sees what its looking for...when you do stuff its "ok" and it forgets it very fast, but once it sees you do something that annoys it, its blood starts boiling and all hell is loose.
Here is the solution: Fuck with its computer or any other piece of technology its got.
If there's one thing the parent suck at, its technology. It'll hit its head against the wall for about..30 seconds without even trying to fix it, just focusing on how annoying the problem is, ask you for help, you help it, and it'll at least remember it.
Omfg this lol..
My dad doesn't know shit about the computer and when I can't play for what ever reason he laughs but, when he needs me i might just say no to just mess with him.
just suck it up and say yes O_O! he's traditional, you're Americanized... there's a culture clash going on, and until you're able to support yourself, he's always going to be bigger and stronger (figuratively) so you can't win.
I suppose not one person can answer this question: I'm guesing these much maligned asian parents are immigrants? Born and raised in an asian culture. Not american born asian parents?
On July 31 2009 13:56 lilsusie wrote: After fighting with parents for years, now I just say yes to everything. Then they are happy and I just go back to what I was doing before. They just wanna feel like they still have control over you and for some reason, Asian parents will do what they know best - nag. It's cuz that's how they were raised, it's what they know.
Just agree with them and for like 2 days afterwards make it a point to show that you're "following" their instructions. That will make them happy and get them off your case for a little while.
I feel your pain. I live away from my parents, I'm 28 and yet they STILL think that they have a say in what I do. (ex: I once got my hair straightedn and my mom got mad that I didnt consult with her first. WTF?)
edited for slightly better grammar. -____-
Wow seriously? I can't even begin to imagine what she was like when you were going to high school/college then.
On July 31 2009 13:56 lilsusie wrote: After fighting with parents for years, now I just say yes to everything. Then they are happy and I just go back to what I was doing before. They just wanna feel like they still have control over you and for some reason, Asian parents will do what they know best - nag. It's cuz that's how they were raised, it's what they know.
Just agree with them and for like 2 days afterwards make it a point to show that you're "following" their instructions. That will make them happy and get them off your case for a little while.
I feel your pain. I live away from my parents, I'm 28 and yet they STILL think that they have a say in what I do. (ex: I once got my hair straightedn and my mom got mad that I didnt consult with her first. WTF?)
edited for slightly better grammar. -____-
Aren't you financially independent? Why do you put up with it at all?
On July 31 2009 13:56 lilsusie wrote: After fighting with parents for years, now I just say yes to everything. Then they are happy and I just go back to what I was doing before. They just wanna feel like they still have control over you and for some reason, Asian parents will do what they know best - nag. It's cuz that's how they were raised, it's what they know.
Just agree with them and for like 2 days afterwards make it a point to show that you're "following" their instructions. That will make them happy and get them off your case for a little while.
I feel your pain. I live away from my parents, I'm 28 and yet they STILL think that they have a say in what I do. (ex: I once got my hair straightedn and my mom got mad that I didnt consult with her first. WTF?)
edited for slightly better grammar. -____-
Do not do this clazziquai If you have any self respect and determination to become a better person.
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