So I got rejected - Page 2

On July 14 2009 09:22 Garnet wrote:
If you have read my previous entry you'll know what I'm talking about.

Now I don't know what to do next, this is my first time confessing to a girl, so you know how painful it is. But I think I have earned some experiences.

I know I have to get over it, but I kinda expected her to be more sympathetic. I gave her my heart after all.
I'm listening to "Rhythm of the rain", this song is so fit with my situation!.

On July 14 2009 09:44 Shauni wrote:


No, I don't know how painful it is... I've never fallen for a girl and even if I did I'd never confess. Consider yourself lucky, and confident. It's better than not trying at all and regretting it, so why would you have a reason to feel pain?

On July 14 2009 10:25 ghostWriter wrote:
rejection happens to everyone everywhere. there are billions of girls out there and thousands in your general vicinity. chances are that there is at least one attractive girl out there that would be a good fit for you.

On July 14 2009 13:43 251 wrote:

you don't 'confess' to girls.
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As much as you may hate it, you have to play 'the game'.

On July 14 2009 15:13 citi.zen wrote:


Amen. This sort of thing is pretty universal: people want to feel they are "doing well" in love, as in: dating someone of equal or higher value. When you come on too strong you are saying you think the other person is way higher value than you - so their natural reaction is to run & try to do better.

This conversation reminds me of the scene in the silly movie "Hitch", with the young Will Smith (Alex) falling for Cressida, who decides to cheat on him with someone more... baller:

Alex: I love you. I love you so much.

Cressida (looking uncomfortable): I love you, too, Alex.

Alex (getting more pathetic): I know you don't love me as much as I love you. But that's okay.
I'm just glad you love me at all.

Older Alex (narrating): In retrospect, I guess I may have come on a little strong. But the experience taught me a lot.

Alex (looking at Cressida making out in car with baller ): Cressida! What are you doing?

Cressida: I'm sorry, Alex.

Alex (pathetic looking getting soaked in the rain looking into the car): But I love you. What did I do wrong? Just tell me what I did wrong.

Baller: Dude, you're doing it right now!

Cressida: Alex, I'm sorry.

On July 14 2009 13:43 251 wrote:
I don't know what happened man, but word of advice -

you don't 'confess' to girls. Think about that. Who wants to hear a confession? It sends a message that you are 'guilty' of liking her, like its some wrong thing. No matter how gooey a girl makes you feel inside, you don't just lay all your cards out on the table like that, you're setting yourself up for sure rejection. You set yourself up to be a 'sure bet' that she could fall back on should she not get what she wants, but she'd never fall back on you.

As much as you may hate it, you have to play 'the game'. You give a little, take away a little. Just be funny, sweet (but not overbearing) and eventually you'll get inside her head. Eventually things escalate to a point where you both are crazy about each other, and then you just kiss her. After that, you don't play games and if she rejects you or your kiss, you take it all away and THEN see how she reacts. If the girl REALLY doesn't care then move on. Chances are by that point she's yours. This is just the nature of the way we're all sexually and psychologically screwed up. Obviously it gets deeper than just that, but I've had my share of successes and failures. Once you get it, you get it. Best of luck bro

On July 14 2009 15:29 Garnet wrote:


Yeah you may be right, BUT I don't have time! She's moving away! It's not like we are still in highschool seeing each other everyday...