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So I've been up all night, reading stories... watching youtube, listening to music... killing time (sadly)
Then I ran by some old blogging Korean site where this girl I was in love with still has her page. I checked it out and haven't really been in contact with her for 3 years and suddenly, looking at her pictures, it brought back all those memories of love and despair. (Was one sided... very one sided)
I believe it to be one of those "love" moments that every person remembers in their life, and for most guys, something that causes them to really stiffen up or to man-up.
Because of the girl I was in love with, I've changed a lot of things in my life. But long story short, I just can't look at any girl in terms of "love" ever... I mean I still see A LOT of hot ass girls on campus and am able to go out on dates and even tried to get serious with one girl but broke up because I could just never commit fully.
I blame this on myself comparing every girl to the girl in the past. It sucks... I don't know if I will ever get a gf.
Not just to have one but I mean, I don't think I can ever find a girl that can woo me the way the other girl did.
Anyone else have something similar? =\
I don't think I have a "playa" gene. It's just.. I donno... =\
 
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United States20661 Posts
Oh, definitely.
Almost the exact same with me. Just can't put my heart into it.
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Spenguin
Australia3316 Posts
Why don't I have a girlfriend? I think because I am socially inadequate. Thanks internet.
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Starcraft is my girlfriend
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Crippling self esteem, and being fat. Woohoo!
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I "dated" a ton of girls in high school, probably like 2-3 per year, although it was more like hooking up for a few months and then moving on. Since I've been in college I haven't dated any girls or even actively tried to get a girlfriend. For me, it just seems to not be a priority. I see plenty of hot chicks and I flirt plenty in classes, but I never take it to the next level or ask anyone out, because I just don't seem to care right now in my life. I don't know why this is. I don't feel unsatisfied or unhappy, I feel perfectly fine. I work out, I try to maintain a good body image and be attractive to girls, I just don't feel any compulsion or desire to actively pursue any kind of relationship.
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You don't compare girls with the one from your past, but with the one in your head, roughly based on the one from the past.
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Man I understand completely what you're talking about, I'm in the exact same position as you. One sided love -> no serious feelings for anyone else even after you've "moved on" (if such a thing is possible).
The part that sucks the most is when I try to force myself into something I always end up running away from it after a short while and hurting the girl that's interested in me. I'm no player either and I hate hurting people, it sucks.
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On February 18 2009 20:20 jjun212 wrote:
I blame this on myself comparing every girl to the girl in the past. It sucks... I don't know if I will ever get a gf.
I kinda have been in a situation like this. Around 4 years ago when my gf broke with me I was very sad. I tried to date a few girls and I felt like you describe, comparing them all to the first girl. But for me it only lasted a few weeks. Once I realized what I am doing and how it's in fact crippling my relations with people I just decided not to do it. To force my brain not to compare the girls. So in some time this feeling disappeared. I guess one blowjob on a party and 2-3 ecstasy pills also helped me immensely.
But I feel for you, dude, I really do.
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I actually feel the same Noobs, although my lack of interested in a relationship is self induced at the moment. A few years ago I would have said a lack of self confidence and a lack of game. These days, I honestly don't have the time, at least for another 5-6 months. Over the last year I have been really actively getting involved in fitness and sports which turned from a hobby to an obsession, so whatever time I am not spending at work or asleep I am spending at the gym or playing golf.
As a result of all the activity, healthy living and exercise I have gotten pretty fit and toned which has dramatically increased my self confidence, along with more of zero commitment social life, I have really improved my social skills.
So I basically just go out drinking every other Fri/Sat night and try to hook up with someone. At no point have I felt the desire to start a relationship though. Working 6 days a week at the moment, spending all my free time at the gym leaves me Sundays which is my chillaxation time. I honestly wouldn't know where to fit it in.
I don't know anything about love, but I do miss the feeling of being smitten over someone. When you can't wait to see them, talk to them, or them having the ability to cheer up your shitty day merely by calling you and saying "hi". I don't know what that is, but I have only ever felt it a couple of times in my life.
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On February 18 2009 21:05 Energies wrote:
I don't know anything about love, but I do miss the feeling of being smitten over someone. When you can't wait to see them, talk to them, or them having the ability to cheer up your shitty day merely by calling you and saying "hi". I don't know what that is, but I have only ever felt it a couple of times in my life.
You sir, seem to know more about love than you openly admit here. A beautiful description of love. Thank you!
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On February 18 2009 20:57 Navane wrote:
You don't compare girls with the one from your past, but with the one in your head, roughly based on the one from the past.
ding ding. and once you realize the girl from the past isnt the one in your head, and no girl you will ever meet can compare to the one in your head.. it becomes easier..
at least, til that girl from the past comes back every few months and reminds you >_<
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because I've much rather fuck and forget.
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Belgium8305 Posts
damn.. how did you know i don't have a gf
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Kennigit
Canada19447 Posts
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On February 18 2009 20:31 Racenilatr wrote:
Starcraft is my girlfriend
mine is my computer
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at some point, you gotta get back on the saddle and try again
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On February 18 2009 21:05 Energies wrote:
I don't know anything about love, but I do miss the feeling of being smitten over someone. When you can't wait to see them, talk to them, or them having the ability to cheer up your shitty day merely by calling you and saying "hi". I don't know what that is, but I have only ever felt it a couple of times in my life.
I am feeling exactly this
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Welcome to the age of Internets. The information superhighway, where chicks are megabytes streaming onto your HDD through your torrent client. Forget troublesome exchange of bodily fluids -- humanity has evolved beyond that, and we have the Pentagon to thank for it.
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On February 18 2009 22:25 ffswowsucks wrote:mine is my computer
Lovin that 20 inch...monitor.
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On February 18 2009 22:27 KOFgokuon wrote:
at some point, you gotta get back on the saddle and try again
Riding pun anybody? But seriously, that can be really hard.
I'm definitely not looking forward to a day where my gf breaks it off and we've only been together for 2 and a half years.
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i dont have one cuz .. well, i'm not a lesbian. ^^
har har, sorry couldnt resist.
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Why the fuck are you guys so scared of pussy. Shit I might as well write up a blog of
"Why don't you get any pussy?"
I probably get a whole lot of "my pc/hand does the job for me."
I have a dilemna with not having a g/f. I meet lots of nice girls here and there(even get numbers handed to me at least once a month) but I'm so fuckin picky that if the girl's personality combined with one stupid thing she does can totally make me drop her off the map. I believe it has to do with the last girl I was with which was 7 years older then me and OMG her personality was just off the charts to the point that she even knew she was a dumb girl at times and didn't dodge that fact.
That and there is too many fish in the sea. Let me not even count the girl's that still need to graduate high school(chester the molester). Why jump the gun and try and make a relationship work when you can obviously just be picky and wait for that special one. I did assume that none of you get pussy just by reading whatever you typed up but it was an assumption. I can get bread without having a relationship. 
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Nobody said they were scared of pussy. You are an idiot.
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And your on my nuts...Go learn of to get pussy asap....
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On February 18 2009 22:27 KOFgokuon wrote:
at some point, you gotta get back on the saddle and try again
no man if he tries to get on the saddles again he'll come back talking crap after a while saying how well he's gonna be doing compared to others and shit.... and then dissapear after a while.
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I have a girlfriend, but I think I won't want one ever again.
I don't like the idea of having a friendship with someone that I'm obligated to put more effort into than any other friendship. I'm content with merely enjoying eachothers company emotionally and physically, rather than bickering about arbitrary things like why I don't pay for her movie ticket always and why I don't care about the 5 month anniversary.
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On February 18 2009 23:12 Kennelie wrote:Why the fuck are you guys so scared of pussy. Shit I might as well write up a blog of "Why don't you get any pussy?" I probably get a whole lot of "my pc/hand does the job for me." I have a dilemna with not having a g/f. I meet lots of nice girls here and there(even get numbers handed to me at least once a month) but I'm so fuckin picky that if the girl's personality combined with one stupid thing she does can totally make me drop her off the map. I believe it has to do with the last girl I was with which was 7 years older then me and OMG her personality was just off the charts to the point that she even knew she was a dumb girl at times and didn't dodge that fact. That and there is too many fish in the sea. Let me not even count the girl's that still need to graduate high school(chester the molester). Why jump the gun and try and make a relationship work when you can obviously just be picky and wait for that special one. I did assume that none of you get pussy just by reading whatever you typed up but it was an assumption. I can get bread without having a relationship.
You're an idiot.
ROFL BROS JUST GET SOME PUSSY
Shut up.
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The closest I got was when 3 girls were interested in me in college. Sounds like a buffet. It wasn't
One was ugly. The other was in a serious relationship. The thrird was hot, I got to know her better and found out she was BAD SHIT CRAZY!!!!one111eleven.
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If you can't get the high-quality girls, you gotta lower your expectations. But then again, you might actually meet another girl that you will fall in love with. You are still young after all.
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On February 18 2009 22:22 Kennigit wrote:
Cause girls are yucky.
cooties ftl
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On February 18 2009 23:22 DoctorHelvetica wrote:Show nested quote +On February 18 2009 23:12 Kennelie wrote:Why the fuck are you guys so scared of pussy. Shit I might as well write up a blog of "Why don't you get any pussy?" I probably get a whole lot of "my pc/hand does the job for me." I have a dilemna with not having a g/f. I meet lots of nice girls here and there(even get numbers handed to me at least once a month) but I'm so fuckin picky that if the girl's personality combined with one stupid thing she does can totally make me drop her off the map. I believe it has to do with the last girl I was with which was 7 years older then me and OMG her personality was just off the charts to the point that she even knew she was a dumb girl at times and didn't dodge that fact. That and there is too many fish in the sea. Let me not even count the girl's that still need to graduate high school(chester the molester). Why jump the gun and try and make a relationship work when you can obviously just be picky and wait for that special one. I did assume that none of you get pussy just by reading whatever you typed up but it was an assumption. I can get bread without having a relationship. You're an asshole. Pussy is drawn towards assholes. Get Some N Shut Up.
What you really meant.
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good thing I'm an asshole I guess
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On February 18 2009 23:03 lilsusie wrote:
i dont have one cuz .. well, i'm not a lesbian. ^^
What a dissapointment :/
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Not interested in the whole attraction thing. Had a long-term relationship before and it just didn't work out. Besides this, I barely have enough time for me (and my beloved TL) let alone another person completely. Fuck that.
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On February 18 2009 23:12 Kennelie wrote:Why the fuck are you guys so scared of pussy. Shit I might as well write up a blog of "Why don't you get any pussy?" I probably get a whole lot of "my pc/hand does the job for me." I have a dilemna with not having a g/f. I meet lots of nice girls here and there(even get numbers handed to me at least once a month) but I'm so fuckin picky that if the girl's personality combined with one stupid thing she does can totally make me drop her off the map. I believe it has to do with the last girl I was with which was 7 years older then me and OMG her personality was just off the charts to the point that she even knew she was a dumb girl at times and didn't dodge that fact. That and there is too many fish in the sea. Let me not even count the girl's that still need to graduate high school(chester the molester). Why jump the gun and try and make a relationship work when you can obviously just be picky and wait for that special one. I did assume that none of you get pussy just by reading whatever you typed up but it was an assumption. I can get bread without having a relationship.
This is my main problem with incontroll (yes it was intentional) I think. I mean inc himself is actually funny but the guys taking after him in some desperate "pls laugh at me act" are just lame ><.
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FuDDx
United States5014 Posts
Have you guys tried getting some glamor shots done for your myspace accounts.You'll get all the sexy ladies, if you can update pics, photoshop skills are a plus.
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DRINK the BEERS, GET the CHICKS, WATCH the FOOTBALLHOCKEYSPORTS and SCORE the TOUCHPOINTS.
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On February 18 2009 23:12 Kennelie wrote:Why the fuck are you guys so scared of pussy. Shit I might as well write up a blog of "Why don't you get any pussy?" I probably get a whole lot of "my pc/hand does the job for me." I have a dilemna with not having a g/f. I meet lots of nice girls here and there(even get numbers handed to me at least once a month) but I'm so fuckin picky that if the girl's personality combined with one stupid thing she does can totally make me drop her off the map. I believe it has to do with the last girl I was with which was 7 years older then me and OMG her personality was just off the charts to the point that she even knew she was a dumb girl at times and didn't dodge that fact. That and there is too many fish in the sea. Let me not even count the girl's that still need to graduate high school(chester the molester). Why jump the gun and try and make a relationship work when you can obviously just be picky and wait for that special one. I did assume that none of you get pussy just by reading whatever you typed up but it was an assumption. I can get bread without having a relationship.
Rooffflllllll you sir are terrible. Thanks for the laughs though.
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On February 19 2009 00:44 KlaCkoN wrote:
I mean inc himself is actually funny but the guys taking after him in some desperate "pls laugh at me act" are just lame ><.
How dare you refer me to such a menace.
I just stated my opinion on why I don't have a g/f and the morals I live my pathetic life on.
Edit: I didn't state my opinion to make someone laugh but more like inspire some peers in this thread.
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Too much effort. I don't do one-night stands or even booty calls because I'm just not douche enough to tell the girl to take a hike afterwards, and I don't do serious, committed relationships because it's just too much stress and effort. The emotional rollercoaster that you go through when you let your shields down for someone is just ridiculous, and fact of the matter is, after ten minutes of internet porn and a short trip to palmdale it's just not interesting anymore.
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On February 19 2009 01:32 mrgerry wrote:
DRINK the BEERS, GET the CHICKS, WATCH the FOOTBALLHOCKEYSPORTS and SCORE the TOUCHPOINTS.
FUCK YEAH BRO
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FUCK THOSE PUSSY NERDS PLAYING VIDEO GAMES
THEY SHOULD GET OFF THESE STARCRAFT PROGAMING FORUMS
THIS IS FOR ALPHA MALES
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3 Lions
United States3705 Posts
The problem with me is that usually when I try to have a serious conversation with someone I'm interested in, they usually just joke around. 
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cause i just kicked my g/f out of my house
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On February 18 2009 23:03 lilsusie wrote:
i dont have one cuz .. well, i'm not a lesbian. ^^
har har, sorry couldnt resist.
IM A GIRL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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because there are 10 lined up for me in china, y work when u can pick??
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Because wives a wife are more convient
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cause once you get a real mutuall relationship you won't miss that 1 sided bull.
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On February 18 2009 22:22 Kennigit wrote:
Cause girls are yucky.
Don't get cooties!
On February 19 2009 05:15 IzzyCraft wrote:
Because wives a wife is more convient
Fixed =P. Sorry, couldn't resist.
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I don't have a girlfriend =(
I've always tried and tried but everything fails all the time, and the worst thing about it is that I already have earned a reputation around where I live where everybody knows that I will never in my life have a girlfriend.
They always tell me to stop asking girls out, but if I do it, I'm 100% sure I won't be ever able to have a girlfriend, so I keep and keep trying.
Everything fails all the time though, but who cares in the end, I will never ever have a girfriend and the reason is simple: + Show Spoiler +I just can't get rid of the other ones >.<!!!
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no time for girlies, gotta do music!
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Northern Ireland22212 Posts
Uni soon, what's the point?
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I know exactly what you mean.
I really truly loved a girl about 3 or 4 years ago, but I was really stupid and inexperienced with attracting girls, and I completely failed at getting her to go out with me even though I was trying for over a year (I was a fucking retard... looking back I want to punch myself in the face for the stupid shit I did).
Now every time I like a girl I can easily feel that it's just sexual attraction, and I don't feel any type of personality affection for them because none of them live up to what the girl I loved was like. It makes me sick and I don't even want to go out with them most of the time because I feel like it's just a waste.
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It's sad and amazing reading all the apathy. For me there are lots of reasons, including social ineptitude, depression/anxiety, and lack of hobbies/interests. I hate to admit it but I feel like I'd rather just have sex and not take on the responsibility of being a good romantic partner, which I'm certain I would fail at. Basically I feel like if a girl were to live with me and depend on me for her happiness, she would wind up miserable and broken before too long. I still want a girlfriend someday but it just doesn't seem possible right now. I feel disillusioned by the notions of loyalty and romantic love that I've been fed all my life by greedy assholes just trying to make money (Disney, TV sitcom bullshit, and Hollywood garbage).
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I have a wife
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On February 19 2009 03:51 DoctorHelvetica wrote:
FUCK THOSE PUSSY NERDS PLAYING VIDEO GAMES
THEY SHOULD GET OFF THESE STARCRAFT PROGAMING FORUMS
THIS IS FOR ALPHA MALES
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United States20661 Posts
On February 19 2009 05:15 IzzyCraft wrote:
Because wives a wife are more convient
You had it right the first time.
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I do not have a girlfriend because I am ugly and stupid.
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My girlfriend is staunchly against me having any girlfriends.
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Because I don't have a job or a car. Shit just doesn't work without those, interview Monday though 
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On February 19 2009 05:40 Archaic wrote:Don't get cooties! Show nested quote +On February 19 2009 05:15 IzzyCraft wrote:
Because wives a wife is more convient Fixed =P. Sorry, couldn't resist.
Well not so "because wives are more convient" is the oringal one i thought striking out are also would be lame
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On February 18 2009 20:40 NoobsOfWrath wrote:
I "dated" a ton of girls in high school, probably like 2-3 per year, although it was more like hooking up for a few months and then moving on. Since I've been in college I haven't dated any girls or even actively tried to get a girlfriend. For me, it just seems to not be a priority. I see plenty of hot chicks and I flirt plenty in classes, but I never take it to the next level or ask anyone out, because I just don't seem to care right now in my life. I don't know why this is. I don't feel unsatisfied or unhappy, I feel perfectly fine. I work out, I try to maintain a good body image and be attractive to girls, I just don't feel any compulsion or desire to actively pursue any kind of relationship.
You must have amazing skills to be able to flirt in lecture hall of over 100+ people
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its the fucking cooties man
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Why don't I have a GF in real life?
Because I'm a nerd and spend my time watching live starcraft games.
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I am shy
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Something similar happened to me recently...
The only girl I can ever admit to "loving" is an ex from highschool (5-6 years ago).
So a few months back I decided to message her see how life is going and such on her side.. we end up hanging out and I took her to a party... We had sex that night and the next 2-3 months were crazy...
she was in the process of breaking up with her ex for 2-1/2 years and I made that easier on her...
we had a "thing" we werent technically "dating" she wasn't my "girlfriend" but we spent almost every waking hour together for the last couple months...
Finally after 3 months of amazing sex, passionate feelings springing back to me wondering why I ever left this girl back in highschool. She woke up one morning (this is entirely literal) looked at me and said... "I can't do this to you anymore, we need to end this."
I was like wtf... is going on... I just had the happiest 3 months in my life since highschool and you ending it?!?!?!
"I still love (insert douchebag abusive ex boyfriends name here). I have feelings for you, and they are real but I cant be happy with you everyday and when I'm alone be sad because I miss (insert douchebag abusive ex boyfriends name here). I'm sorry I need to be alone, I'll call you"
This happened the day after valentines day and I'm fuckin heartbroken... I cant believe its over. She's called me so many times but I refuse to answer... I cant believe after everything we shared after the last couple months she would just end it...
Trust me yo, dont call this girl. You know that saying, It's better to love and have lost then to never have loved at all?
FUCK THAT! I wish I never hung out with this girl.. Kuz I dont know what it is but this other girl ive kinda been crushing on finally decided to call me and see whats up and wanted to hangout and now... I dont care... I have to get over this girl that walked into my life and turned it upside down. WHEREAS if she would of never hung out with me and I never would have re-developed these feelings for her I wouldn't have a problem finally getting to know this girl (who is far more attractive).
Love sucks, I dont find it "non-manly" to admit to loving a women... What kind of man doesn't? Everyone needs that special someone and mine ripped my heart out...
Dont call her
good luck
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Can't afford one right now.
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What my current girlfriend doesn't realize is that SC has been with me with 3 other girlfriends.
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In all honesty I can't offered one time wise or money wise... or at least that's what I'm going to keep telling myself. :p
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On February 19 2009 11:58 kdog3683 wrote:Show nested quote +On February 18 2009 20:40 NoobsOfWrath wrote:
I "dated" a ton of girls in high school, probably like 2-3 per year, although it was more like hooking up for a few months and then moving on. Since I've been in college I haven't dated any girls or even actively tried to get a girlfriend. For me, it just seems to not be a priority. I see plenty of hot chicks and I flirt plenty in classes, but I never take it to the next level or ask anyone out, because I just don't seem to care right now in my life. I don't know why this is. I don't feel unsatisfied or unhappy, I feel perfectly fine. I work out, I try to maintain a good body image and be attractive to girls, I just don't feel any compulsion or desire to actively pursue any kind of relationship. You must have amazing skills to be able to flirt in lecture hall of over 100+ people
Let's see, I am in one class with 11 people, one class with 450 people (intro gov lulz), one class with 16 people, and one class with 20 people. Additionally, if you think you can only flirt in class, then....you're doing it wrong. lmao. Perhaps you're a grammar nazi? Should I then say "flirt with girls IN my classes," thus meaning they are in my classes but it is not only in my class that I do so?
Seriously, what a dumbass thing to post.
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this may come off as a little gay..
who am i kidding this is pretty gay.
what i miss most in past relationship was the cuddling and talking for hours 
i broke up with a girl because she just wanted sex..I was 17, 
the reason i don't have a girlfriend is because I don't think i can take another break up
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On February 18 2009 20:59 Makhno wrote:
Man I understand completely what you're talking about, I'm in the exact same position as you. One sided love -> no serious feelings for anyone else even after you've "moved on" (if such a thing is possible).
The part that sucks the most is when I try to force myself into something I always end up running away from it after a short while and hurting the girl that's interested in me. I'm no player either and I hate hurting people, it sucks.
Totally same situation.
and also as LR said
Just can't put my heart into it.
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On February 19 2009 09:58 IzzyCraft wrote:Show nested quote +On February 19 2009 05:40 Archaic wrote:On February 18 2009 22:22 Kennigit wrote:
Cause girls are yucky. Don't get cooties! On February 19 2009 05:15 IzzyCraft wrote:
Because wives a wife is more convient Fixed =P. Sorry, couldn't resist. Well not so "because wives are more convient" is the oringal one i thought striking out are also would be lame
change your sig please =/
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I don't have a girlfriend because I'm an asshole.
Apparently I go against everything ever taught to me about asshole guys getting girlfriends.
They also don't go for nice guys, like my cousin and best friend.
The latest craze seems to be douchebags that don't bathe or understand how to take care of facial hair. I have no chance with my crew cut, clean-shaven, daily-bathed self, dressed in dress shirts/pants and occasionally suits with nothing but the best matching ties.
Woe is me. No, but seriously, women have become playthings for me. I've become bitter with the fact that every woman I come across seems to think I enjoy the friend zone. I'm so far removed from that area that I don't even talk to women anymore that are "just friends" because it's an extremely 1-sided friendship.
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On February 19 2009 16:36 Etherone wrote:this may come off as a little gay.. who am i kidding this is pretty gay. what i miss most in past relationship was the cuddling and talking for hours i broke up with a girl because she just wanted sex..I was 17, the reason i don't have a girlfriend is because I don't think i can take another break up
amen...i know how u feel
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because I'm better in taking care of someone else than taking care of myself
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