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Mortality
Profile Blog Joined December 2005
United States4790 Posts
January 10 2009 20:10 GMT
#21
If people want to get wasted, that's their perogative, but I really think that there should be huge consequences for causing a serious accident if there's even a possibility of drug use involved. You can't just say "I was high, I'm sorry dude." It doesn't bring back someone's life.
Even though this Proleague bullshit has been completely bogus, I really, really, really do not see how Khan can lose this. I swear I will kill myself if they do. - nesix before KHAN lost to eNature
sung_moon
Profile Blog Joined September 2008
United States10110 Posts
January 10 2009 20:26 GMT
#22
wow moving post man.
i can only imagine the pain to lose some1 whom u clearly care so much for.

i can hope u may be able to find some1 else and also be able to be happy in life.

you have my condolences
Forever Young
HooHa!
Profile Blog Joined February 2006
United States688 Posts
Last Edited: 2009-01-10 21:15:40
January 10 2009 21:14 GMT
#23
Wow, I am really sorry you had to go through that. I couldn't imagine losing someone really close to you. I've had a couple close calls, and those hurt like heck.

My older brother Mitch and his wife had their kid a few weeks ago. Its real humbling to hold a newborn. Can't really comprehend an innocent being losing its life like that. And also someone that means the world to you.

I hope you get through this and heal little by little every day. Because you can. And you'll feel better and be on top of the world.
Hoo Ra!
Titusmaster6
Profile Blog Joined September 2007
United States5937 Posts
January 10 2009 22:41 GMT
#24
On January 11 2009 05:10 Mortality wrote:
If people want to get wasted, that's their perogative, but I really think that there should be huge consequences for causing a serious accident if there's even a possibility of drug use involved. You can't just say "I was high, I'm sorry dude." It doesn't bring back someone's life.


That is true to an extent. I'm sure anyone who has suffered like this will want proper justice. But for me at least, even putting that driver away for life or killing him would still not make it "fair." So in the end, I think it would be best to just let him be punished, but also just let him go.

I don't know, it's a complicated thing and that logic doesn't work for all cases.

But I really feel for the op and wish this never happens to anyone.
Shorts down shorts up, BOOM, just like that.
il0seonpurpose
Profile Blog Joined January 2007
Korea (South)5638 Posts
January 10 2009 23:00 GMT
#25
I'm sorry over what happened, I feel like after reading all these tragic things to people when I lose a loved one sometime, it's gonna feel horrible
Mastermind
Profile Blog Joined April 2008
Canada7096 Posts
January 10 2009 23:06 GMT
#26
On January 11 2009 05:10 Mortality wrote:
If people want to get wasted, that's their perogative, but I really think that there should be huge consequences for causing a serious accident if there's even a possibility of drug use involved. You can't just say "I was high, I'm sorry dude." It doesn't bring back someone's life.

you cant punish someone for something they may have done. As tragic as this is, if you cant prove he was high, then you have to assume he wasn't. The guy may have just been transporting drugs. Either way, I really feel for the OP. Losing someone you love has got to be hard.
LordWeird
Profile Blog Joined November 2007
United States3411 Posts
Last Edited: 2009-01-11 05:37:26
January 11 2009 05:36 GMT
#27
Thanks for the kind words everyone. I don't feel as though I could have written this anywhere and had such a nice response. Much love from my end.

I've found that our community has actually helped a lot with some of the pain. Times I could have spent grieving have been spent watching epic StarCraft or having a good laugh over a thread.

I guess I should mention that I do not hate Mr. J for what happened. I smoke marijuana regularly, and also have driven under the influence of it. However, I've never been impaired to the point where I haven't been able to drive. I actually can't fathom being that high. We think he may have fallen asleep at the wheel. The accident took place at 5:45 AM, so it was dark, and the streets were pretty empty. He was on his way to work (he worked for the county of Yorktown, the area the accident took place).

I don't hate him, and actually feel a bit of pity for the guy. He himself has a child on the way, and I know his pleading guilty will give him some time to really think about it. I don't want him dead, as that wouldn't help anything. I just want him to feel the weight of his actions. I want him to know how much he impacted her family. A part of me feels as though he never will.
Chains none
Cambium
Profile Blog Joined June 2004
United States16368 Posts
January 11 2009 07:16 GMT
#28
My dearest condolence to you.

I have written these words far too many times... it is indeed a sad and depressing world for many of us.
When you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it.
Wala.Revolution
Profile Blog Joined November 2006
7582 Posts
January 11 2009 08:39 GMT
#29


      Back to the story: Due to the hospital being located in a different city than the accident, he was charged twice in two different jurisdictions. The police could not prove that Mr. J had any criminal negligence to cause the accident, so manslaughter was out of the window. The only realistic charge he could face was reckless driving, as well as a possession charge from the pot. A blood test can not reveal how recently someone had smoked, so there was no way of proving he was high during the accident.


Can someone explain how Mr.J can't be charged with Manslaughter? I thought it applied to all killings (at least).
Stuck.
Ilvy
Profile Joined September 2002
Germany2445 Posts
January 13 2009 06:43 GMT
#30
Still could remember the day you posted when it happend and still hard to imagine how you feel and how you gonna work this up;/
I hope you love for life comes back any time soon
CharlieMurphy
Profile Blog Joined March 2006
United States22895 Posts
January 13 2009 07:01 GMT
#31
That really sucks that you have to drive by the spot every day to work (or whatever it is for). Remember that life goes on, don't dwell on the past. Sorry if that's not very comforting but it's applicable.
..and then I would, ya know, check em'. (Aka SpoR)
Brett
Profile Blog Joined October 2002
Australia3820 Posts
Last Edited: 2009-01-13 07:12:46
January 13 2009 07:06 GMT
#32
On January 11 2009 17:39 Wala.Revolution wrote:
Show nested quote +


      Back to the story: Due to the hospital being located in a different city than the accident, he was charged twice in two different jurisdictions. The police could not prove that Mr. J had any criminal negligence to cause the accident, so manslaughter was out of the window. The only realistic charge he could face was reckless driving, as well as a possession charge from the pot. A blood test can not reveal how recently someone had smoked, so there was no way of proving he was high during the accident.


Can someone explain how Mr.J can't be charged with Manslaughter? I thought it applied to all killings (at least).

Negligent manslaughter test here in Victoria, Australia (note that the law in his jurisdiction may be different):

Is there proof that a reasonable person placed in the circumstances in which the accused found themselves would have appreciated the probability of the occurence of death or serious bodily harm?


The rest is self-explanatory.


Edit: Condolences to the OP.


thedeadhaji *
Profile Blog Joined January 2006
39489 Posts
January 13 2009 08:01 GMT
#33
So many tragic anecdotes these past few days

Makes me realize that I should appreciate the good fortune I have had thus far with not having suffered any particularly serious losses, personal or otherwise.
t_co
Profile Blog Joined July 2007
United States702 Posts
January 13 2009 08:08 GMT
#34
Reading this puts life in perspective... sorry for your loss. Hope fate smiles upon you and rewards you with a cupid's arrow soon
"Look, don't congratulate us when we buy a company, congratulate us when we sell it. Because any fool can overpay and buy a company, so long as there is money to buy it." --Henry Kravis
iNcontroL *
Profile Blog Joined July 2004
USA29055 Posts
January 13 2009 10:21 GMT
#35
your story makes me weak at the knees dude.

I am so sorry. I know you said you didn't want that but.. jesus christ. Respect to you and your outlook on this sir.
Psyqo
Profile Joined November 2007
United States401 Posts
Last Edited: 2009-01-13 23:46:27
January 13 2009 23:45 GMT
#36
I thought I'd drop my story to let you know that there are other people out there in very similar situations.

On 12/12/07 a drunk driver and my dad in his semi collided. My dad was the one that didn't walk away. That's usually not what happens when a semi and a car crash, but, that's how things happened. A WTF from God I guess.

5 hours later they got a judge's signature to take the kid's (I'll call him Mr. S) blood. Even 5 hours after the accident he was still legally drunk. For most of 2008 we dealt with the court system, which I'll agree with you is completely and utterly fucked in this country. Anyways, late summer we find out that the police do not have enough evidence to determine which driver was left of center. Through another few months of tormet from Lady Justice, and the kid gets 180 days in jail for the DUI (he had priors).

Yeah, we're still in disbelief at the whole thing. Having Dad gone is one thing, having the fucking useless court system not prove a beligerent, loser drunk killed my father is another.

All my thoughts and condolences go out to you. As I said, you aren't alone in this.
Carnac
Profile Blog Joined December 2003
Germany / USA16648 Posts
January 14 2009 20:08 GMT
#37
I'm not sure whether I can find anything good to say I know that I had watery eyes reading this your op -.-

On January 11 2009 00:59 LordWeird wrote:
      So now, a year later, I guess you could say I'm still bent up over it. I've basically lost the desire for a relationship and sex. It just seems like any girl I've met is just not good enough. Mr. J's trial is still not finished, he faces sentencing later this year. Each and every day I have to drive past the scene of her accident, which doesn't hurt as much as it used to. I normally use the time to pay my respects to her, whether it by a kiss to the sky or simply an "I love you" whispered to the heavens. I miss her more than anything in the world, I can't stress that enough.

Sounds pretty normal to me, that you can't see anything in another girl just yet. Maybe you won't even ever be able to fully detach yourself from the fact that you lost your gf and your unborn baby and in fact I don't think you should, but you will learn to be happy anyway - and with someone else.
You already seem strong, that's a good reason for me to be optimistic.

Personally I am lucky enough to have never lost someone who was close to me (ok, a girl with whom I was close in high school ended up commiting suicide a couple of years later, but I didn't have anything to do with her anymore, so it didn't really get to me). But my dad and his 2nd wife lost their 2nd baby when it was only a couple of weeks old. I wasn't as close with him as I am now and was also much younger than I am now, but I distinctly remember the look in his eyes...
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Biff The Understudy
Profile Blog Joined February 2008
France7883 Posts
January 15 2009 11:54 GMT
#38
I'm sorry for your loss LordWeird. Any word would sound stupid I guess.

Though, maybe the thought that you have lived a part of your life with this girl you loved, and that this will always have happened, can make you feel better. I always find a consolation in the idea that what has been done has been done for ever (huh, sounds a bit unclear, hope you understand what I mean). What make the beauty of the life is not only what you live and are going to live but also what you have lived.

But that's just words. You have my sympathy.
The fellow who is out to burn things up is the counterpart of the fool who thinks he can save the world. The world needs neither to be burned up nor to be saved. The world is, we are. Transients, if we buck it; here to stay if we accept it. ~H.Miller
Samurai-
Profile Joined May 2008
Slovenia2035 Posts
Last Edited: 2009-01-17 19:51:29
January 17 2009 19:49 GMT
#39
I am sorry for your loss..

The 'justice' system is fucked, I tell you what.

And respect for not taking justice into your own hands.. If it was me... I dont know...
One ring, to rule them all!
Vilda
Profile Blog Joined July 2006
Sweden111 Posts
January 20 2009 21:33 GMT
#40
I love you Matt.
Vilda is all about StarCraft
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