EPTOne year later - Page 2
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Mortality
United States4790 Posts
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sung_moon
United States10110 Posts
i can only imagine the pain to lose some1 whom u clearly care so much for. i can hope u may be able to find some1 else and also be able to be happy in life. you have my condolences | ||
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HooHa!
United States688 Posts
My older brother Mitch and his wife had their kid a few weeks ago. Its real humbling to hold a newborn. Can't really comprehend an innocent being losing its life like that. And also someone that means the world to you. I hope you get through this and heal little by little every day. Because you can. And you'll feel better and be on top of the world. | ||
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Titusmaster6
United States5937 Posts
On January 11 2009 05:10 Mortality wrote: If people want to get wasted, that's their perogative, but I really think that there should be huge consequences for causing a serious accident if there's even a possibility of drug use involved. You can't just say "I was high, I'm sorry dude." It doesn't bring back someone's life. That is true to an extent. I'm sure anyone who has suffered like this will want proper justice. But for me at least, even putting that driver away for life or killing him would still not make it "fair." So in the end, I think it would be best to just let him be punished, but also just let him go. I don't know, it's a complicated thing and that logic doesn't work for all cases. But I really feel for the op and wish this never happens to anyone. | ||
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il0seonpurpose
Korea (South)5638 Posts
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Mastermind
Canada7096 Posts
On January 11 2009 05:10 Mortality wrote: If people want to get wasted, that's their perogative, but I really think that there should be huge consequences for causing a serious accident if there's even a possibility of drug use involved. You can't just say "I was high, I'm sorry dude." It doesn't bring back someone's life. you cant punish someone for something they may have done. As tragic as this is, if you cant prove he was high, then you have to assume he wasn't. The guy may have just been transporting drugs. Either way, I really feel for the OP. Losing someone you love has got to be hard. | ||
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LordWeird
United States3411 Posts
I've found that our community has actually helped a lot with some of the pain. Times I could have spent grieving have been spent watching epic StarCraft or having a good laugh over a thread. I guess I should mention that I do not hate Mr. J for what happened. I smoke marijuana regularly, and also have driven under the influence of it. However, I've never been impaired to the point where I haven't been able to drive. I actually can't fathom being that high. We think he may have fallen asleep at the wheel. The accident took place at 5:45 AM, so it was dark, and the streets were pretty empty. He was on his way to work (he worked for the county of Yorktown, the area the accident took place). I don't hate him, and actually feel a bit of pity for the guy. He himself has a child on the way, and I know his pleading guilty will give him some time to really think about it. I don't want him dead, as that wouldn't help anything. I just want him to feel the weight of his actions. I want him to know how much he impacted her family. A part of me feels as though he never will. | ||
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Cambium
United States16368 Posts
I have written these words far too many times... it is indeed a sad and depressing world for many of us. | ||
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Wala.Revolution
7584 Posts
Back to the story: Due to the hospital being located in a different city than the accident, he was charged twice in two different jurisdictions. The police could not prove that Mr. J had any criminal negligence to cause the accident, so manslaughter was out of the window. The only realistic charge he could face was reckless driving, as well as a possession charge from the pot. A blood test can not reveal how recently someone had smoked, so there was no way of proving he was high during the accident. Can someone explain how Mr.J can't be charged with Manslaughter? I thought it applied to all killings (at least). | ||
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Ilvy
Germany2445 Posts
I hope you love for life comes back any time soon | ||
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CharlieMurphy
United States22895 Posts
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Brett
Australia3822 Posts
On January 11 2009 17:39 Wala.Revolution wrote: Can someone explain how Mr.J can't be charged with Manslaughter? I thought it applied to all killings (at least). Negligent manslaughter test here in Victoria, Australia (note that the law in his jurisdiction may be different): Is there proof that a reasonable person placed in the circumstances in which the accused found themselves would have appreciated the probability of the occurence of death or serious bodily harm? The rest is self-explanatory. Edit: Condolences to the OP. | ||
thedeadhaji
39489 Posts
 Makes me realize that I should appreciate the good fortune I have had thus far with not having suffered any particularly serious losses, personal or otherwise. | ||
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t_co
United States702 Posts
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iNcontroL
USA29055 Posts
I am so sorry. I know you said you didn't want that but.. jesus christ. Respect to you and your outlook on this sir. | ||
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Psyqo
United States401 Posts
On 12/12/07 a drunk driver and my dad in his semi collided. My dad was the one that didn't walk away. That's usually not what happens when a semi and a car crash, but, that's how things happened. A WTF from God I guess. 5 hours later they got a judge's signature to take the kid's (I'll call him Mr. S) blood. Even 5 hours after the accident he was still legally drunk. For most of 2008 we dealt with the court system, which I'll agree with you is completely and utterly fucked in this country. Anyways, late summer we find out that the police do not have enough evidence to determine which driver was left of center. Through another few months of tormet from Lady Justice, and the kid gets 180 days in jail for the DUI (he had priors). Yeah, we're still in disbelief at the whole thing. Having Dad gone is one thing, having the fucking useless court system not prove a beligerent, loser drunk killed my father is another. All my thoughts and condolences go out to you. As I said, you aren't alone in this. | ||
Carnac
Germany / USA16648 Posts
I know that I had watery eyes reading this your op -.-On January 11 2009 00:59 LordWeird wrote: So now, a year later, I guess you could say I'm still bent up over it. I've basically lost the desire for a relationship and sex. It just seems like any girl I've met is just not good enough. Mr. J's trial is still not finished, he faces sentencing later this year. Each and every day I have to drive past the scene of her accident, which doesn't hurt as much as it used to. I normally use the time to pay my respects to her, whether it by a kiss to the sky or simply an "I love you" whispered to the heavens. I miss her more than anything in the world, I can't stress that enough. Sounds pretty normal to me, that you can't see anything in another girl just yet. Maybe you won't even ever be able to fully detach yourself from the fact that you lost your gf and your unborn baby and in fact I don't think you should, but you will learn to be happy anyway - and with someone else. You already seem strong, that's a good reason for me to be optimistic. Personally I am lucky enough to have never lost someone who was close to me (ok, a girl with whom I was close in high school ended up commiting suicide a couple of years later, but I didn't have anything to do with her anymore, so it didn't really get to me). But my dad and his 2nd wife lost their 2nd baby when it was only a couple of weeks old. I wasn't as close with him as I am now and was also much younger than I am now, but I distinctly remember the look in his eyes... | ||
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Biff The Understudy
France8143 Posts
Though, maybe the thought that you have lived a part of your life with this girl you loved, and that this will always have happened, can make you feel better. I always find a consolation in the idea that what has been done has been done for ever (huh, sounds a bit unclear, hope you understand what I mean). What make the beauty of the life is not only what you live and are going to live but also what you have lived. But that's just words. You have my sympathy. | ||
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Samurai-
Slovenia2035 Posts
The 'justice' system is fucked, I tell you what. And respect for not taking justice into your own hands.. If it was me... I dont know... | ||
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Vilda
Sweden111 Posts
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