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never_jiggy
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TryThis
Canada1522 Posts
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Klockan3
Sweden2866 Posts
On December 18 2008 04:00 never_jiggy wrote: Self esteem is generally pretty spot on Except when you have mentally disturbed parents who treats you like shit no matter what you do. But yeah you are mostly right, most people have quite normal parents and quite normal understanding of the world around them. | ||
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Pyrrhuloxia
United States6700 Posts
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Dknight
United States5223 Posts
On December 18 2008 04:00 never_jiggy wrote: Many guys’ fundamental problems with girls are related to a combination of too much ego in relation to their self esteem. If anything, the problems most guys on this forum asking for help is from a lack of self esteem - not too much. | ||
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Insane Lane
United States397 Posts
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il0seonpurpose
Korea (South)5638 Posts
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Insane Lane
United States397 Posts
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never_jiggy
Australia25 Posts
like if you are feeling depressed, and havent been out in a while, then going out will likely aleviate some of that depression. and i dont mean depression in the emo pathetic kind of way, everyone gets sad or down for a multiude of reasons. try to interpret your own emotions as indicating what the best thing for you is. feel the urge to engage someone in conversation? fucking do it, youll feel happier after, and itll increase your social skillz to have those smalltalk types of situations, smalltalk really is an art for most people, but like all art can be broken down into questions of 'why does this work'. obviously come up with at least a loose idea of what to say to them though, failed interations will leave you feeling bad (but maybe less bad since you at least tried to do something to help yourself). practicing saying something subtly witty to someone you know youll never see again is a pretty surefire way to gain confidence and ability. try not to be self conscious, people concentrate a lot more on what you do then just what you look like (as long as they dont see you as low enough in the social ladder to not be worth it). self consciousness gets in the way of our ability to harness our cognition language skills and come up with new shit to say, not just repeating phrases. like one thing people could try is to be extremely nice to everyone for a day, you might not even really realise what this means but its smiling at people, saying at least semi-interesting/unique stuff, you will find that many people will be very nice in return. now when people are nice to each other both come away happier, since its like a confirmation of worth. even if you are rational enough to realize how shallow (forget that shit its worthless) it is you will still feel happier. shit like that is not an accident i really encourage peopel to ask me questions to clarify why they might feel a certain way about this advice, emotions will fuck over your logic ability, and if you cant apply logical ability to real life on the fly then youre not getting what you can out that ability dknight just try to sub your definition of self esteem for mine | ||
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