This is going to sound very weird and fake/made up but I can assure you that nothing that I type below is a lie nor is it exaggerated.
Its Tuesday morning around 4am and I am biking home. I started work @ 5pm on Monday and got off at work @ 3:30am. Anyways, I start on my normal 15-20 minute bike home from work. Its a bit chilly outside and with the wind, I think its feeling like around -9 Celius. I always have to bike through some bike path in the woods that cuts into the road that I live on.
Anyways, so I am biking into these woods and I see some light up ahead and I thought that its some construction lamp because they are widening the road behind me. I pass by and see that it is some guy sitting down by some fire. I didn't get a good look and the first thing that I thought is that its a couple of people burning stuff for fun. I then notice that its only one person and I continue biking on my way home. I stop half-way through the bike path thinking about whether to offer him a place to stay for tonight. It was obvious that he was kinda young [below 25] and without a place and it was kinda cold and I felt bad for him.
I literally spent 5 minutes sitting on my bike just thinking about whether I should invite him to my place. I rent a room in the basement of a house so I really shouldn't be bringing in strangers and I have a bit of money in the bank so if he is any weirdo with a weapon and see's a bank account statement then maybe he'll force me to give him money or anything.
Against my better judgment, I bike back and offer him a place to stay for the night. He accepts the offer and packs up his stuff and tells me that he ran away from the place he was staying at and he lives with a roommate. I assumed from the girly way that he is talking that he is gay. Anyways, He is packing his bag and I noticed he is putting a mirror into it. Who runs away from a place and packs a mirror. I can understand a girl but a guy packing a mirror...
I started regretting my decision to bring him to my house. We walk back to my house and he is telling me how it was his birthday and his roommate was treating him like shit after he was partying with friends so I ask him 'Is that your boyfriend' which he was like 'no way eww' I then find out that he is 25 and his roommate is like 56 or something like that. I kinda felt stupid after he answered my question.
He gets to my place and stuff like that and I give him some food and some milk and I let him sleep on the bed while I sleep on the floor. I made sure I had my wallet/phone/Ipod in my pocket. I felt very uncomfortable. Anyways he's sniffling here and their and unpacking his stuff. He takes out this thing which looks like a vibrating dildo LOL and tells me its something for his skin. Mirrow and some machine for toning skin makes me think...
So, he is bi-polar and on some cheque and goes to York University. He doesn't have that much money and wants to get his own place but needs to wait till 26th for his 1500 cheque or something. I end up sleeping [and it took me a damn while]. I almost had thoughts that he was going to try to rape me or something.
So, I wake up around 1pm. I actually set my alarm @ 11am cause I wanted to get on ICCup and play some PvP on Athena for some CW that is coming up but I decided to forego that because it would be weird as hell.
We wake up and I feed him some cereal and I tell him that i am leaving for work around 3:30pm. I imply that he has to be gone by then and he gets the point. I then let him use my phone. He calls his disability place and tells them that he will pick up the cheque there and not send it to his old place. Anyways, he calls some guy that he stayed at before for a couple of days and I could hear him asking like 4 times 'I never did anything wrong at your house or stole anything' like he wants me to know that so I will let him stay at my place while I go to work. LOL NO WAY.
He later asks me why I asked him if that was his boyfriend [his roommate] and I don't reply. He then tells that he dates boys and girls and lists a name of 3-4 recent male boyfriends but says he would prefer to be with a girl cause that's the way God made us and asking if I think Barack Obama is the Antichrist LOL
I am really worried now. I guess you could say I am homophobic if you want to use that term. He then starts to say how he likes my goatee. I had already told him I am married (which I am). He then calls his mom on ym phone. I know its long distance but He said it would be a minute or 2. It ends up being 16 minutes. I like how he said 'Some nice STRAIGHT' guy let me stay at his house'. I guess mentioning I was straight was important.
He calls his roommate that he got in a fight with and I guess he decides to go back their. His roommate had threaten to call the police before and he had pulled the phone off the wall and then ran a way when he thought police were coming.
He then mentions 'Can I freeze in this weather' like 10 times and I wanted to say 'grow up girly man' but I didn't
He asks for my number which I don't give him. Anyways, its 3:30pm. I want some private time so I tell him I have to go to work. I lead him to that bike path and he starts to walk home then I bike home and surf TL.net and stuff lol
He was talking about how he hopes to see me again and stuff like that...
Fast forward to Friday Night...
I was trying to sleep before the Bisu vs Jangbi finals and here some knocking on my window which freaked me out. I didn't get up or anything. Anyways, the owner comes down and tells me some guy was looking for me and told me how I gave him a place to stay and then asked about the spare room that we need to rent out. The owner found out he is on disability and doesn't want 2 people just staying home. We already have 1 guy who is retired Italian but he is very nice guy.
This guy [Adam] was looking for me and knocked on my window and told the owner he might leave a note on my bike or something and that he will be back tomorrow to see me lol
I really don't like this guy and I don't know why he so interested in me. He said he had lots of friends that he could stay with downtown (gay ones), so why is he bothering me.
I HOPE HE IS NOT INTERESTED IN ME (I will vomit now)
Anyways, this guy is biking 15-20 minutes just to come to my house so now I have my shutters closed and will pretend I am not home. Well, he can't get and knock on my door unless he gets in the house and he can't get into the house without knowing the password for the keypad on the entrance.
This is really freaking me out and I am such a nice person in real life that I don't like to offend people or tell people off.
Lol so I had a friend in the closet (as in, I didn't know) who got more and more involved in my life in a very subtle way, like first asking me to get him high and to continue getting high with him once in a while, to hang out often, talk online... Eventually he asked me to join a gym with him, so I did. Turns out he finished changing last not because he was slow, but because he was checking me out every time. I found this out when a mutual friend of ours left her phone on to prove to me he was gay (I didn't want to believe it) in the car after they dropped me off. Here is how the conversation went:
Her: "You looked like you wanted his dick all night." Him: "Is it really so obvious?"
I was so terrified. He had been checking me out. He had been getting high with me to get me into a relaxed state of mind. He could have eventually gone for the strike.
Basically what you should do is be straight up with the kid, tell him you're not gay, will never want to experiment, and don't find him attractive in any way, and that he should stop harassing you or you will beat the shit out of him. End of story.
EDIT: Fuck being nice, this kid wants to put his PENIS in your RECTUM and go at it like a jackhammer combined with a plunger. If you sway the same way I do, my answer is NO. And I will bluff or threaten or exaggerate my fighting prowess and superhuman strength to whatever limits need be to ensure that I am unhassled and unraped.
hmm i was thinking that this guy prolly just wants a place to stay, rather than wants your dick.. but idk, i wasnt there, so i dont know the type of vibe you were getting from him.
On November 22 2008 23:51 Yaqoob wrote: He said he had lots of friends that he could stay with downtown (gay ones), so why is he bothering me.
He is obviously lieing. He is on disability. Exploiting others peoples pitty is his mode of survival. He burned all his bridges and moves from one person to the next to cling on to. These types are hard to get rid of. They are desperate and often believe their own lies and live in a make believe fantasy world.
On November 22 2008 23:51 Yaqoob wrote: He said he had lots of friends that he could stay with downtown (gay ones), so why is he bothering me.
He is obviously lieing. He is on disability. Exploiting others peoples pitty is his mode of survival. He burned all his bridges and moves from one person to the next to cling on to. These types are hard to get rid of. They are desperate and often believe their own lies and live in a make believe fantasy world.
I wish life had a /squelch or /ignore command like bnet.
I will try to ignore him and hopefully he only comes by today and doesn't come back.
It was a really cool thing of you to do, shame it backfired like that.
The problem is that even if you hide from him for the next few days, he's probably going to come back eventually. Most of these people don't have a fix roof over their bed, so they go from acquaintance to acquaintance trying to find shelter. Chances are he'll need a place to stay in the future and remember you were nice to him.
The best course in my opinion is to just tell him he can't stay at your place again if she shows up tomorrow. No need to be a huge dick about it, but you need to get the message across.
On November 22 2008 23:51 Yaqoob wrote:I really don't like this guy and I don't know why he so interested in me.
Cause you almost out of the blue asked him if he was gay? Combine that with the fact that you just picked him up, a bum off the street, with an offer to stay the night.
On November 22 2008 23:58 FanaBatHero wrote: Lol so I had a friend in the closet (as in, I didn't know) who got more and more involved in my life in a very subtle way, like first asking me to get him high and to continue getting high with him once in a while, to hang out often, talk online... Eventually he asked me to join a gym with him, so I did. Turns out he finished changing last not because he was slow, but because he was checking me out every time. I found this out when a mutual friend of ours left her phone on to prove to me he was gay (I didn't want to believe it) in the car after they dropped me off. Here is how the conversation went:
Her: "You looked like you wanted his dick all night." Him: "Is it really so obvious?"
I was so terrified. He had been checking me out. He had been getting high with me to get me into a relaxed state of mind. He could have eventually gone for the strike.
Basically what you should do is be straight up with the kid, tell him you're not gay, will never want to experiment, and don't find him attractive in any way, and that he should stop harassing you or you will beat the shit out of him. End of story.
EDIT: Fuck being nice, this kid wants to put his PENIS in your RECTUM and go at it like a jackhammer combined with a plunger. If you sway the same way I do, my answer is NO. And I will bluff or threaten or exaggerate my fighting prowess and superhuman strength to whatever limits need be to ensure that I am unhassled and unraped.
So.. basically, if you were a girl, you'd find it necessary to threaten to kill any male interested in you, that you yourself wasn't interested in?
I mean, the guy sounds a bit weird but he's gay, not a rapist (as far as we know)? No should be enough?
Can't the violence wait until you have actually determined that he wants to rape you (at which point violence is fine, obviously)?
On November 23 2008 02:40 dronebabo wrote: your first mistake was inviting some random stranger to your house
your second is letting him see the way there
yeah, you should tell all homeless people that they can come home with you if you can blind fold them so they don't know the way back.
While you are at it you should also ask them if they are allergic to chloroform. Plus I think they rode bikes there, can't exactly ride a bike blind folded.
On November 23 2008 00:14 Yaqoob wrote: I would think that too except he has a place to stay and has friends downtown that he can stay at.
I think that's pretty safe to say that was a lie. If he had places to stay he wouldn't have been sleeping in a park.
There's a difference between being nice and being naive. Homeless people are usually in a pretty desperate situation, and you gave him a place to stay out of the blue. It's no wonder he tried to stay with you again.
I understand what you are saying about being a nice guy and not liking to say no. But put shit into perspective dude. You weren't saying no to someone borrowing a pencil, you let a complete stranger stay in your house. If you wanted to help him out that bad, go give him an old sleeping bag, money or some food or something. You could have potentially put yourself in alot of danger doing that.
You sound like a good guy though.
Also, have you thoroughly checked your place to see if anything is missing? Like old credit cards, bank statements, clothes, shoes. Could he have gotten any info off your computer? The last thing you need is your identity being stolen.
On November 23 2008 00:14 Yaqoob wrote: I would think that too except he has a place to stay and has friends downtown that he can stay at.
Also, have you thoroughly checked your place to see if anything is missing? Like old credit cards, bank statements, clothes, shoes. Could he have gotten any info off your computer? The last thing you need is your identity being stolen.
TBH, if he stole something, i don't think he would be coming back begging him anymore...
you've got a kind heart dude, but you did way wayyyyy too much. hope it works out, cuz people who do nice things like that should be subjected to gay stalkers (even if i do find it rather amusing)
Next time he comes around tell him something new has come up in your life and you just can't let him stay at your place and that you're sorry but he's going to have to find somewhere else to go.
perhaps call your wife and tel her to come to your house, so next time when he comes your wife will answer the door. U will tell him that you already have a family and a life without speaking directly and that your not interested
On November 23 2008 04:47 ilj.psa wrote: perhaps call your wife and tel her to come to your house, so next time when he comes your wife will answer the door. U will tell him that you already have a family and a life without speaking directly and that your not interested
I wish I could bring my wife here. I don't know if you read my whole blog but I just rent a room in the basement of a house till my wife comes. When she comes then I will rent an apartment.
On November 22 2008 23:58 FanaBatHero wrote: Lol so I had a friend in the closet (as in, I didn't know) who got more and more involved in my life in a very subtle way, like first asking me to get him high and to continue getting high with him once in a while, to hang out often, talk online... Eventually he asked me to join a gym with him, so I did. Turns out he finished changing last not because he was slow, but because he was checking me out every time. I found this out when a mutual friend of ours left her phone on to prove to me he was gay (I didn't want to believe it) in the car after they dropped me off. Here is how the conversation went:
Her: "You looked like you wanted his dick all night." Him: "Is it really so obvious?"
I was so terrified. He had been checking me out. He had been getting high with me to get me into a relaxed state of mind. He could have eventually gone for the strike.
Basically what you should do is be straight up with the kid, tell him you're not gay, will never want to experiment, and don't find him attractive in any way, and that he should stop harassing you or you will beat the shit out of him. End of story.
EDIT: Fuck being nice, this kid wants to put his PENIS in your RECTUM and go at it like a jackhammer combined with a plunger. If you sway the same way I do, my answer is NO. And I will bluff or threaten or exaggerate my fighting prowess and superhuman strength to whatever limits need be to ensure that I am unhassled and unraped.
So.. basically, if you were a girl, you'd find it necessary to threaten to kill any male interested in you, that you yourself wasn't interested in?
I mean, the guy sounds a bit weird but he's gay, not a rapist (as far as we know)? No should be enough?
Can't the violence wait until you have actually determined that he wants to rape you (at which point violence is fine, obviously)?
The fact that he didn't tell me that he was interested OR that he was gay makes him suspect. If he has to hide it then he is hiding too much, I don't care if he's gay or not as long as he's not sneaky and creepy about it. That shit is a no.
EDIT: Note how I said bluff and exaggerate and threaten... Doesn't mean I would actually beat him up for being creepy. Like you said, if he starts getting touchy, that would have been it.
On November 22 2008 23:58 FanaBatHero wrote: Lol so I had a friend in the closet (as in, I didn't know) who got more and more involved in my life in a very subtle way, like first asking me to get him high and to continue getting high with him once in a while, to hang out often, talk online... Eventually he asked me to join a gym with him, so I did. Turns out he finished changing last not because he was slow, but because he was checking me out every time. I found this out when a mutual friend of ours left her phone on to prove to me he was gay (I didn't want to believe it) in the car after they dropped me off. Here is how the conversation went:
Her: "You looked like you wanted his dick all night." Him: "Is it really so obvious?"
I was so terrified. He had been checking me out. He had been getting high with me to get me into a relaxed state of mind. He could have eventually gone for the strike.
Basically what you should do is be straight up with the kid, tell him you're not gay, will never want to experiment, and don't find him attractive in any way, and that he should stop harassing you or you will beat the shit out of him. End of story.
EDIT: Fuck being nice, this kid wants to put his PENIS in your RECTUM and go at it like a jackhammer combined with a plunger. If you sway the same way I do, my answer is NO. And I will bluff or threaten or exaggerate my fighting prowess and superhuman strength to whatever limits need be to ensure that I am unhassled and unraped.
So.. basically, if you were a girl, you'd find it necessary to threaten to kill any male interested in you, that you yourself wasn't interested in?
I mean, the guy sounds a bit weird but he's gay, not a rapist (as far as we know)? No should be enough?
Can't the violence wait until you have actually determined that he wants to rape you (at which point violence is fine, obviously)?
That's good to see that some people are not completely retarded about homos.
I guess if people are so violent and react so brutally anytime homosexuality is in question, it's because they are not very clear themselves.
On November 22 2008 23:58 FanaBatHero wrote: Lol so I had a friend in the closet (as in, I didn't know) who got more and more involved in my life in a very subtle way, like first asking me to get him high and to continue getting high with him once in a while, to hang out often, talk online... Eventually he asked me to join a gym with him, so I did. Turns out he finished changing last not because he was slow, but because he was checking me out every time. I found this out when a mutual friend of ours left her phone on to prove to me he was gay (I didn't want to believe it) in the car after they dropped me off. Here is how the conversation went:
Her: "You looked like you wanted his dick all night." Him: "Is it really so obvious?"
I was so terrified. He had been checking me out. He had been getting high with me to get me into a relaxed state of mind. He could have eventually gone for the strike.
Basically what you should do is be straight up with the kid, tell him you're not gay, will never want to experiment, and don't find him attractive in any way, and that he should stop harassing you or you will beat the shit out of him. End of story.
EDIT: Fuck being nice, this kid wants to put his PENIS in your RECTUM and go at it like a jackhammer combined with a plunger. If you sway the same way I do, my answer is NO. And I will bluff or threaten or exaggerate my fighting prowess and superhuman strength to whatever limits need be to ensure that I am unhassled and unraped.
So.. basically, if you were a girl, you'd find it necessary to threaten to kill any male interested in you, that you yourself wasn't interested in?
I mean, the guy sounds a bit weird but he's gay, not a rapist (as far as we know)? No should be enough?
Can't the violence wait until you have actually determined that he wants to rape you (at which point violence is fine, obviously)?
The fact that he didn't tell me that he was interested OR that he was gay makes him suspect. If he has to hide it then he is hiding too much, I don't care if he's gay or not as long as he's not sneaky and creepy about it. That shit is a no.
EDIT: Note how I said bluff and exaggerate and threaten... Doesn't mean I would actually beat him up for being creepy. Like you said, if he starts getting touchy, that would have been it.
So yeah.. If you try to drunkely hug or even just touch a girl on a party it is of course totally fine for her to beat the living shit out of you if she isn't interested? Because let's face it, you might have wanted to put your penis in her rectum ~~.
On November 23 2008 07:11 Yaqoob wrote: I forgot to mention...
HE USED MY LAST ROLL OF TOILET PAPER AND LEFT THE EMPTY ROLL ON THE GROUND. IT WAS LIKE ONLY 2/3 USED UP!
HOW MUCH TOILET PAPER DO YOU NEED? DAMN IT! HE WAS PROBABLY JACKING OFF IN THE WASHROOM.
ASFSKJF*&(##(
Omg >_< You are like the nicest most tolerant person I have ever heard of. You should get knighted or something, (I am 100 % serious) Sucks that the guy doesn't really seem to deserve it :/
dont let random douchebags in your house just give him 10 dollars to find some crappy motel or whatever you're asking to get mugged, you got REALLY lucky here.
On November 22 2008 23:58 FanaBatHero wrote: Lol so I had a friend in the closet (as in, I didn't know) who got more and more involved in my life in a very subtle way, like first asking me to get him high and to continue getting high with him once in a while, to hang out often, talk online... Eventually he asked me to join a gym with him, so I did. Turns out he finished changing last not because he was slow, but because he was checking me out every time. I found this out when a mutual friend of ours left her phone on to prove to me he was gay (I didn't want to believe it) in the car after they dropped me off. Here is how the conversation went:
Her: "You looked like you wanted his dick all night." Him: "Is it really so obvious?"
I was so terrified. He had been checking me out. He had been getting high with me to get me into a relaxed state of mind. He could have eventually gone for the strike.
Basically what you should do is be straight up with the kid, tell him you're not gay, will never want to experiment, and don't find him attractive in any way, and that he should stop harassing you or you will beat the shit out of him. End of story.
EDIT: Fuck being nice, this kid wants to put his PENIS in your RECTUM and go at it like a jackhammer combined with a plunger. If you sway the same way I do, my answer is NO. And I will bluff or threaten or exaggerate my fighting prowess and superhuman strength to whatever limits need be to ensure that I am unhassled and unraped.
So.. basically, if you were a girl, you'd find it necessary to threaten to kill any male interested in you, that you yourself wasn't interested in?
I mean, the guy sounds a bit weird but he's gay, not a rapist (as far as we know)? No should be enough?
Can't the violence wait until you have actually determined that he wants to rape you (at which point violence is fine, obviously)?
The fact that he didn't tell me that he was interested OR that he was gay makes him suspect. If he has to hide it then he is hiding too much, I don't care if he's gay or not as long as he's not sneaky and creepy about it. That shit is a no.
EDIT: Note how I said bluff and exaggerate and threaten... Doesn't mean I would actually beat him up for being creepy. Like you said, if he starts getting touchy, that would have been it.
So yeah.. If you try to drunkely hug or even just touch a girl on a party it is of course totally fine for her to beat the living shit out of you if she isn't interested? Because let's face it, you might have wanted to put your penis in her rectum ~~.
I would expect to get slapped if I make a person uncomfortable. Especially if I know that the person doesn't find me attractive or even have that sexual orientation. Hence I would never conceal something like that nor would I do things candidly to get some sort of middle-of-the-road type of pleasure.
This is exactly why being a Good Sumaritan is bad idea. Also the reason why they don't give away free food instead of throwing it away at restaraunts. Also the reason why your mother never told you to talk to strangers.
first of all get a read on a person before you offer them such 'help' like this and dont be afraid to say nevermind if you get a bad vibe
dont let him use your shit, and let him know
in the morning tell him he needs to leave straight up and don't diddle daddle around
and for god sakes do not openly acknowledge his gayness/homosexuality and especially dont try to make little comments about it.. it will just provoke him into wanting to pester you more with his gay ways
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