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United Kingdom8629 Posts
First of all what does this phrase mean (Korean? is It?). Keep in mind that she is Chinease and knows just some korean. And that the phonetics may different from reality ;o
Oba sa dan heyo
An Asian girl told me this and didn't want to translate 2AM in the morning.
EDIT: "Oppa, sarang haeyo" which translates to "I love you" -thank you 
Anyway, here is the full story.
I have always adored asian girls. Yes, because of Starcraft at first. but secondly because of their hot bodies and politeness. And they looked untouchable for me. They always form a foreign Asian community and reaching into it is very hard.
But today (Halloween) I have actually met one Asian girl with a Spanish friend at the Union Bar. We ended up partying with my two friends (males) at this club until like 1AM.
Two hours walk later, and we are hugging and holding hands until she gets to her bike (to go for a 40 minutes ride to her accomodation omg).
Anyway here are the facts:
-She is here since three months ago. Went out once.
-She is so fucking polite. A guy was harrasing her in a club, grabbing her etc (norm in Scotland ;o), but she didn't even show him that she doesn't enjoy it and she GAVE HIM HER REAL NUMBER. (she addmited she really hated the guy later).
-Korean girls at Starleague are shy. Jing (her name) told me (after I walked her) that Chinease girls sometimes kiss after THREE YEARS from being with a guy.
-She is so adorable, likeable, hot and polite that I you can't but love her. Idea of watching chinease martial arts films with her is so hot. And I want to know more about their culture etc.
-Her English is very good (much better than of my french roomies), and she studies third year of Economics and Finance (I do 2nd year Business Studies)
Anyway, I want some feedback from you guys. Did you ever go out with an Asian (chinease) that is in a foreign country (for a very short time)?
Should try to push her towards the Scottish etiquette?
And obviously, please help me with the phrase. I believe in you TL!
 
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If she were Korean, I would mistake the phrase to be
"Oppa, sarang haeyo"
which translates to
"I love you"
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sounds like korean to me, not chinese, but Im not exactly fluent
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lol....the blog is kinda sad imo but I'll try and help you out.
It sounds like something korean especially the ' dan heyo ' cuz thats usually ' doing ' or a verb in Korean.
I'm taking intro to chinese and I just asked a chinese friend and it doesn't mean anything in mandarin. Also please spell chinese correctly, it might help if the girl really is chinese.
Make sure you heard it right would be my suggestion. Oba san doesn't really mean anything that I can think of in korean.
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can't be chinese for sure
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United Kingdom8629 Posts
Oh yeah, I was not sure because I was drunk.
But we were talking about Korean so it is very likely. Also explains why she wouldn't tell me
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United Kingdom8629 Posts
Also explains why she doesn't know the phonetical spelling.
(She said she can watch some films in Korean. So she knows some Korean)
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That's sounds pretty much like a old-style Korean dialect to me, but that's the only Asian language I know.
It's either "You must not like [me? a woman? ] women" (this is a common Korean saying) or something like "You [we? how did she accent the A sound?] are closer with your male friend than us."
If you could record yourself saying it or accent it more carefully I could be more helpul
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On November 01 2008 13:22 -_- wrote:
That's sounds pretty much like a old-style Korean dialect to me, but that's the only Asian language I know.
It's either "You must not like [me? a woman? ] women" (this is a common Korean saying) or something like "You [we? how did she accent the A sound?] are closer with your male friend than us."
If you could record yourself saying it or accent it more carefully I could be more helpul
hahaha
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I was thinking more like sa lang he yo, or I love you.
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i don't think there's any reason to think anyone else's experience with other asian women will necessarily translate.
i dated a girl once who was chinese, but raised in brazil, and was in her first year studying in the United States. we're getting married in january (nine years later). i don't know if that applies at all to your experience, since brazilians are culturally not all that similar to people who grew up in east asia.
but, as a general rule, i don't think you should have to "push her" in any direction. if you're really into her, i'd just try to play it cool. probably to her, in that environment, it feels like everyone else around is acting more forwardly than she's used to. she'd probably be happy to just chill out with someone without any pressure to act a certain way. just my 2c.
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Oba sa dan heyo = I'm a dude
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Your case sounds like a small case of Asian fetish that I know millions of other white guys have. Just learn to respect her culture and don't push her toward your Scottish etiquette and I'm sure she will have a fine time with you. Also, be prepared for cultural difference frustration and etc. I'm Korean and I have dated so many other non Korean Asian races (Vietnamese, Chinese/Taiwanese, Japanese) and I get frustrated that there is cultural difference that sometimes I just wish I would settle down with a Korean girl. Imagine how much difference there will be for you since you're more different. But in the end, learning to overcome cultural barrier is really rewarding and makes you feel like you're a much more understanding person.
And please...learn to spell Chinese correctly if you are really serious about getting with her
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obaasan is grandmother in japanese lolol
if she TYPED this that would be really weird, but if she verbally said it and YOU transcribed it as "Oba sa dan heyo" then i think Leunal has it right on the dot.
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On November 01 2008 13:56 freshtowers wrote:
Oba sa dan heyo = I'm a dude
LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOL
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On November 01 2008 13:56 freshtowers wrote:
Oba sa dan heyo = I'm a dude
win.
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On November 01 2008 13:56 freshtowers wrote:
Oba sa dan heyo = I'm a dude
we have a winner lol
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Asian girls are rather troublesome, really. For a lot of reasons, I can definitely see that dating white girls would be easier, in general. It's just that I never really like white girls.
Even when it comes to Asian girls, I usually go for Chinese girls rather than Korean girls despite being Korean; it's complicated.
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LOLOL thats great Freshtowers
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On November 01 2008 13:56 freshtowers wrote:
Oba sa dan heyo = I'm a dude
Hahahaha. Anyways, I think you're making too much of a distinction between "asian" and "non-asian" categories of girls. Sure there are some general trends but you should probably get to know what she's like rather than all our combined experiences with asian women...
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Canada1842 Posts
On November 01 2008 12:59 LemOn wrote:
Keep in mind that she is Chinease
Not an enzyme!
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On November 01 2008 15:13 koreasilver wrote:
Asian girls are rather troublesome, really. For a lot of reasons, I can definitely see that dating white girls would be easier, in general. It's just that I never really like white girls.
Even when it comes to Asian girls, I usually go for Chinese girls rather than Korean girls despite being Korean; it's complicated.
How so? Please explain.
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first step, spell chinese right.
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Russian Federation4333 Posts
On November 01 2008 15:13 koreasilver wrote:
Asian girls are rather troublesome, really. For a lot of reasons, I can definitely see that dating white girls would be easier, in general. It's just that I never really like white girls.
Even when it comes to Asian girls, I usually go for Chinese girls rather than Korean girls despite being Korean; it's complicated.
I think a majority of the Asians I know would prefer an Asian girl over a white girl and thats obviously understandable. But I have never ever heard of anybody not liking white girls at all.
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Yeah, if i sometimes jerk off to white chicks.
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now now...probably means that she has a grandmother who's dependant upon her and therefore she can't marry you yet;)
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Calgary25993 Posts
I just finished with a Korean girl. She was so fucking cute and I've never had as much fun as taking her around the city and showing her things and learning things from her. Ended in disaster because I'm retarded 
Good luck!
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On November 01 2008 16:42 fight_or_flight wrote:Show nested quote +On November 01 2008 15:13 koreasilver wrote:
Asian girls are rather troublesome, really. For a lot of reasons, I can definitely see that dating white girls would be easier, in general. It's just that I never really like white girls.
Even when it comes to Asian girls, I usually go for Chinese girls rather than Korean girls despite being Korean; it's complicated. How so? Please explain.
Hmm? Which part?
On November 01 2008 21:28 TheTyranid wrote:Show nested quote +On November 01 2008 15:13 koreasilver wrote:
Asian girls are rather troublesome, really. For a lot of reasons, I can definitely see that dating white girls would be easier, in general. It's just that I never really like white girls.
Even when it comes to Asian girls, I usually go for Chinese girls rather than Korean girls despite being Korean; it's complicated. I think a majority of the Asians I know would prefer an Asian girl over a white girl and thats obviously understandable. But I have never ever heard of anybody not liking white girls at all.
Well, the main reason that I like dating Asian girls more is because I often establish deeper relationships with them. There are some cultural aspects that can't really be understood completely unless you're from the same culture; or at least a similar one. This only really counts for 1st gens and 1.5 gen Asians though. 2nd gens it depends, and some 1st gens are just make my head hurt. 1.5s are the best, at least for me.
I have liked white girls before, and I had a short relationship with one white girl before, but I dunno. It just never really works out regardless of the intentions of both sides.
Anyway, I really don't recommend non-Asians dating 1st gen Asians. There are too many things both sides won't fully understand about the other.
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United Kingdom8629 Posts
Agreed KoreanSilver. Its never easy.
But isn't it just a spice in the relationship when you can discover the other one's different culture?
And my previous relationships ended BECAUSE I knew and understood all about the girl. I just reached the point where I didn't learn anything new and boredom arised. Shouldn't the different cultures just push this point towards the future?
There will obviously be barriers at first, and I can see it right now, but am I right to assume that they might just reinforce a long term relationship ?
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You're.. a.. creep! :O
Don't obsess so much about people you hardly know... Or at least... Don't let other people know you do
EX: Her giving her phone number to a guy she doesn't like isn't a sign of politeness... It's a sign she's either lying that she didn't like him, or that she's prone to getting herself into trouble because she can't say no...
Asian girls are people too... They're not above these sins of the flesh
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all i'm reading from the first post is that you're white and she's asian.
dude, siamslam that yellow ass then ask her to do your homework.
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On November 02 2008 05:28 PsycHOTemplar wrote:You're.. a.. creep! :O Don't obsess so much about people you hardly know... Or at least... Don't let other people know you do EX: Her giving her phone number to a guy she doesn't like isn't a sign of politeness... It's a sign she's either lying that she didn't like him, or that she's prone to getting herself into trouble because she can't say no... Asian girls are people too... They're not above these sins of the flesh
Nah.. I know a lot of girls who actually will give their real numbers to guys they really, really despise just because they are too polite to say no.
Then they will complain to their friends about the "fucking stalker creep" who keeps texting them even if he gets no reply until he finally stops 2 weeks later.
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i have dated asian and non-asian, with asian referring to the culture, not the person.
i'd say that the biggest thing is that asian culture places the group above the individual but in western culture, the individual is above the group. this really made problems for me because i'm the type of person who needs to do my own things, and i'm not used to always having her know where i am. in the US, i think this is just a preference thing and it's something you work out, but in asia, this is a really big no-no.
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ROFL @ asian fetishes on TL 
PsycHOTemplar is right.
But it is SOO IN right now to have a fashionable asian girlfriend.
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United Kingdom8629 Posts
EX: Her giving her phone number to a guy she doesn't like isn't a sign of politeness... It's a sign she's either lying that she didn't like him, or that she's prone to getting herself into trouble because she can't say no...
I know for certain that it was because of her politeness. I met actually quite a few chinease, and they are polite towards the most discussting people and sometimes even people that insult them...
It took me almost the whole night to convince her to lift this barrier and make her say what she actually thinks. Believe me some girls are really like that, although very very scarce in the western culture.
On November 02 2008 05:28 PsycHOTemplar wrote:You're.. a.. creep! :O Don't obsess so much about people you hardly know... Or at least... Don't let other people know you do Asian girls are people too... They're not above these sins of the flesh
Oh well I made this thread after being with her for like 6 hours. 4 of those were in a pub and a club. Both of which had cheap drinks.
Therefore I can propose I had a full right to obsess about her!
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I love girls i can insult and be disgusting around without having them say anything.!!
"SHUT YOUR MOUTH AND STAY IN THE KITCHEN!!"
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On November 02 2008 07:32 gEzUS wrote:
I love girls i can insult and be disgusting around without having them say anything.!!
"SHUT YOUR MOUTH AND STAY IN THE KITCHEN!!"
... Then you probably get disgusting girls
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man I've been so frustrated by Asian girls lately. They pretend to like you and act so nice, but don't mean anything by it, so you waste sooooo long on them because they'll never admit to you that they don't like you. And even if they do, they're so naive that trying to bring up sex is like bringing it up with a 14 year old- they're like "WHAT???? you want THAT??? EEEEEWWWW!!!" gah it really irritates me.
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On November 01 2008 17:54 haduken wrote:
Damn, another one lost.
rofl
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Lol, from the blog post name I thought that you were being attacked by some crazy asian woman.
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On November 02 2008 08:12 Luddite wrote:
man I've been so frustrated by Asian girls lately. They pretend to like you and act so nice, but don't mean anything by it, so you waste sooooo long on them because they'll never admit to you that they don't like you. And even if they do, they're so naive that trying to bring up sex is like bringing it up with a 14 year old- they're like "WHAT???? you want THAT??? EEEEEWWWW!!!" gah it really irritates me.
So your into sluts?
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On November 02 2008 08:32 Try wrote:Show nested quote +On November 02 2008 08:12 Luddite wrote:
man I've been so frustrated by Asian girls lately. They pretend to like you and act so nice, but don't mean anything by it, so you waste sooooo long on them because they'll never admit to you that they don't like you. And even if they do, they're so naive that trying to bring up sex is like bringing it up with a 14 year old- they're like "WHAT???? you want THAT??? EEEEEWWWW!!!" gah it really irritates me. So your into sluts?
WTF does this mean? No i'm not into sluts, but I do like it when the girl I'm with has more maturity/confidence than a 14 year old.
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On November 02 2008 05:22 LemOn wrote:
Agreed KoreanSilver. Its never easy.
But isn't it just a spice in the relationship when you can discover the other one's different culture?
And my previous relationships ended BECAUSE I knew and understood all about the girl. I just reached the point where I didn't learn anything new and boredom arised. Shouldn't the different cultures just push this point towards the future?
There will obviously be barriers at first, and I can see it right now, but am I right to assume that they might just reinforce a long term relationship ?
Well, I've been traveling around the world for my whole world, and I have always taken interest in different cultures and such, so I never discovered anything new culturally from dating. It was usually the other way around. Perhaps if I date an Asian that isn't Chinese, Korean, or Vietnamese, I might start learning something new, but really, the "culture" doesn't interest me as much as the girl herself, although the girl and her culture are rather intimately related to each other.
For long term relationships, I do think that the closer the cultures are, the easier it is to establish. There are a variety of social shit that factors in. Once again, this doesn't really relate with 2nd+ gen Asians; they're more North American than anything else.
On November 02 2008 08:12 Luddite wrote:
man I've been so frustrated by Asian girls lately. They pretend to like you and act so nice, but don't mean anything by it, so you waste sooooo long on them because they'll never admit to you that they don't like you. And even if they do, they're so naive that trying to bring up sex is like bringing it up with a 14 year old- they're like "WHAT???? you want THAT??? EEEEEWWWW!!!" gah it really irritates me.
1. Girls from every culture are capable of leading men on.
2. You're white, and therefore you do not understand the subtleties of Asians.
3. Dating a white girl and an Asian girl are completely different; once again, 2nd+ gens are a different story.
4. Every girl is different.
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i hope ur just trying to get with her not to fall in love with her because i dout it will work out for long time o.,o
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On November 02 2008 09:55 koreasilver wrote:Show nested quote +On November 02 2008 08:12 Luddite wrote:
man I've been so frustrated by Asian girls lately. They pretend to like you and act so nice, but don't mean anything by it, so you waste sooooo long on them because they'll never admit to you that they don't like you. And even if they do, they're so naive that trying to bring up sex is like bringing it up with a 14 year old- they're like "WHAT???? you want THAT??? EEEEEWWWW!!!" gah it really irritates me. 1. Girls from every culture are capable of leading men on. 2. You're white, and therefore you do not understand the subtleties of Asians. 3. Dating a white girl and an Asian girl are completely different; once again, 2nd+ gens are a different story. 4. Every girl is different.
I mostly agree with you, but you shouldn't be so dismissive. "You're white so you wouldn't understand" isn't really true, and yeah I'm obviously not talking about 2nd+ generation girls living in the US because they basically have the same culture as me. I'm thinking first of all of the Korean girl I dated this summer who, even though she was older than me, I literally had to explain to her how a penis worked because she had never had any sort of sex ed. That's not me missing the subtleties of the culture, it's just her being really naive.
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On November 02 2008 10:24 Luddite wrote:Show nested quote +On November 02 2008 09:55 koreasilver wrote:On November 02 2008 08:12 Luddite wrote:
man I've been so frustrated by Asian girls lately. They pretend to like you and act so nice, but don't mean anything by it, so you waste sooooo long on them because they'll never admit to you that they don't like you. And even if they do, they're so naive that trying to bring up sex is like bringing it up with a 14 year old- they're like "WHAT???? you want THAT??? EEEEEWWWW!!!" gah it really irritates me. 1. Girls from every culture are capable of leading men on. 2. You're white, and therefore you do not understand the subtleties of Asians. 3. Dating a white girl and an Asian girl are completely different; once again, 2nd+ gens are a different story. 4. Every girl is different. I mostly agree with you, but you shouldn't be so dismissive. "You're white so you wouldn't understand" isn't really true, and yeah I'm obviously not talking about 2nd+ generation girls because there's not much difference in their behavior. I'm thinking of the Korean girl I dated this summer who, even though she was older than me, I literally had to explain to her how a penis worked because she had never had any sort of sex ed. That's not me missing the subtleties of the culture, it's just her being really naive.
lol luditte we def need to meet up sometimes, i still have ur cell ^^;;
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On November 02 2008 09:08 Luddite wrote:Show nested quote +On November 02 2008 08:32 Try wrote:On November 02 2008 08:12 Luddite wrote:
man I've been so frustrated by Asian girls lately. They pretend to like you and act so nice, but don't mean anything by it, so you waste sooooo long on them because they'll never admit to you that they don't like you. And even if they do, they're so naive that trying to bring up sex is like bringing it up with a 14 year old- they're like "WHAT???? you want THAT??? EEEEEWWWW!!!" gah it really irritates me. So your into sluts? WTF does this mean? No i'm not into sluts, but I do like it when the girl I'm with has more maturity/confidence than a 14 year old.
ROFL, how does that make him into sluts?
try is trying too hard
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TIP:
Don't talk about Starcraft.
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On November 02 2008 10:24 Luddite wrote:Show nested quote +On November 02 2008 09:55 koreasilver wrote:On November 02 2008 08:12 Luddite wrote:
man I've been so frustrated by Asian girls lately. They pretend to like you and act so nice, but don't mean anything by it, so you waste sooooo long on them because they'll never admit to you that they don't like you. And even if they do, they're so naive that trying to bring up sex is like bringing it up with a 14 year old- they're like "WHAT???? you want THAT??? EEEEEWWWW!!!" gah it really irritates me. 1. Girls from every culture are capable of leading men on. 2. You're white, and therefore you do not understand the subtleties of Asians. 3. Dating a white girl and an Asian girl are completely different; once again, 2nd+ gens are a different story. 4. Every girl is different. I mostly agree with you, but you shouldn't be so dismissive. "You're white so you wouldn't understand" isn't really true, and yeah I'm obviously not talking about 2nd+ generation girls living in the US because they basically have the same culture as me. I'm thinking first of all of the Korean girl I dated this summer who, even though she was older than me, I literally had to explain to her how a penis worked because she had never had any sort of sex ed. That's not me missing the subtleties of the culture, it's just her being really naive.
The "subtlety" I was talking about wasn't referring to the apparent sexual naivety. When it comes to sex, my last Korean girlfriend knew everything inside out. She was one year younger than me. Sexual naivety depends tremendously on the individual girl.
The subtleties I'm talking about are those subtle hints people give in conversation. There are some things that may be hard to pick up on and some things will just go right over your head because you didn't know to look out for it. There are some things that a girl might expect from you but you have absolutely no idea about it because you just never knew about it ever.
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Go for it, whether it be success or failure to launch, have no regrets
heh
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First of all, it's spelled "Chinese".
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On November 02 2008 13:58 [X]Ken_D wrote:
TIP:
Don't talk about Starcraft.
Dude.
You so haven't read this.
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EPT
