After 30 years of not having kissed anyone and fapping almost every day, today I was too bored (and a bit horny) that I decided to finally lose my virginity. Since I didn’t have a girlfriend, my only choice was a hooker. I called several but none responded, so I called the one that always answered my calls. She was totally available again. It was raining but fuck it, I was DETERMINED. I got into the hotel, took a shower, then waited for her. Then she showed up, said hi and went straight into the bathroom to take a bath. At this point I still wasn’t feeling anything. She asked for the money after getting out of the bathroom. Then she sat on the bed and told me to sit next to her. I had read on the Internet that you shouldn’t let a hooker blow you without a condom on, so I told her to give me a handjob instead. My pp only got half-hard, even the condom still had quite a lot of empty space. She jumped on me anyway and rode me. I felt almost nothing. I didn’t even know if my penis was inside her or not. Then we changed into a few other positions, still no luck. My penis just couldn’t erect hard enough. It didn’t help that her boobs were saggy and small, and her body was not soft enough. I stayed true to the “don’t use your mouth” rule the whole time. After a while she got upset and gave up. When she got out of the bathroom, I asked her to give me a blowjob without a condom on for one last try. She sucked with lightning speed. I asked her to take it slow, but she didn’t want to. At this point I had lost all excitement, and so had my penis. She advised that I pay for an “overnight” so she could teach me things, but nope. There was no way I was gonna spend any more on this disaster. I just let her leave. I thought my first time would be me cumming way too fast, but it was the opposite. Do I have issues or was it because she was too unattractive?
There are some major continuity issues in this story, if you're a virgin why have you called a hooker a plethora of times before "the one that always answers my calls". And why is it that she was "totally available AGAIN"?
Cease your tomfoolery at once, you're not fooling any of us with these stories.
To answer your question, yes there is absolutely something wrong with you, seek help.
On May 24 2022 01:01 Avi-Love wrote: There are some major continuity issues in this story, if you're a virgin why have you called a hooker a plethora of times before "the one that always answers my calls". And why is it that she was "totally available AGAIN"?
Cease your tomfoolery at once, you're not fooling any of us with these stories.
To answer your question, yes there is absolutely something wrong with you, seek help.
I called random hookers just to hear their voices, because I can tell a lot from someone's voice.
i also generally have weak erections, but they improve as i ascertain the following in my partners:
- their religion, and respective piety - their family and family history - their socio-economic class - their artistic and literary talents - their sensitivity, romanticism and sentimentalism - their patriotism, provincialism, and rootedness in their native culture - their cooking, cleaning and other domestic abilities - their mental and emotional stability - their historical attitude and preferences regarding bourgeois family life - their racial origins (if not already clear) - their feminine virtues (virginity, modesty, etc)
On May 23 2022 18:19 Harris1st wrote: How were you feeling about this whole endeavor? Nerves play a big role
Very little emotion. It just felt like wrestling with someone, tbh.
That's not what sex is supposed to be like.
Tbh I think what you are desperate for is being loved/appreciated, not the act of having sex itself. Prostitutes obviously don't give you that. That said, having the mindset of 'no mouth stuff' is also bound to result in a pretty boring experience. 'Mouth stuff' is generally a pretty essential part of getting in the mood if you're not already there. Also performance anxiety can result in this type of stuff, or so I hear, and you seem like a guy prone to performance anxiety.
You mention masturbating. Presumably that means you're capable of getting and sustaining an erection. Maybe next time while she's showering you should just watch whatever porn you normally masturbate to on your cellphone so you're already hard when she comes out. Not that I really advocate going for a next time, but you know, if you do.
The serious long term advice is work on bettering yourself (the big, obvious point is 'exercise' - having a hot body is actually attainable for almost everybody and having a hot body means you'll be somewhat attractive even if you have a 'meh' face). Then maybe some lady will actually be attracted to you, and based on your collective blogging, that's what you really want more than anything else.
First of all, you weren't attracted to anybody. Your motivation was "bored and a bit horny". Your decision was mental, not emotional or physical. You were "determined".
She showed up, and you weren't feeling anything. Meaning, this girl wasn't attractive to you.
"She jumped on me anyway and rode me." Means she didn't read you well and just wanted to get her job done.
"I felt almost nothing." First time having a girl on top of you should make you feel a bit nervous, or a bit like a kid in a candyshop or just like... being in the moment. But maybe nowadays with lots of porn, especially if you watch it a lot and regularly, you are desensitized.
"It didn’t help that her boobs were saggy and small, and her body was not soft enough." Obviously you don't like this girl enough.
About the "no mouth thing", yeah, doesn't help.
"She sucked with lightning speed. I asked her to take it slow, but she didn’t want to. At this point I had lost all excitement, and so had my penis." Yep, obviously she's not your type of girl, even for a hooker.
"There was no way I was gonna spend any more on this disaster." Good decision.
"...she was too unattractive?" Yes
--- My conclusion: if this is the way you wanna do it, find a way to choose the girl. Go to a strip club if you have some near. Just having a drink there, the girls will start coming up and try to convince you to pay for a lap dance. Keep rejecting until one really 'pulls your strings'. Then you can ask also if she does sex too...
There's not big deal about losing virginity. You could've stuck your dick into this girl, and you would've still been the same person. At least have good sex if you're gonna do it, and you're willing to pay for a girl.
On the other hand, my long term advice is, like LiquidDrone said, work on yourself. Being attractive for a guy is like 90% within your control because women are mostly turned on by the personality. Unlike for girls, who depend much more on the looks. (scientifically proven)
Working on your capability to approach women, sustain insteresting conversations, and causing attraction is very much within your power and a matter of decision. I've changed it completely in my life. Like LiquidDrone said, also start exercising. Get fit, get at least into top 20% of men in that regard. It's not that important to women, but it WILL give you a solid boost of confidence, 100% sure.
I thought my first time would be me cumming way too fast, but it was the opposite. Do I have issues or was it because she was too unattractive?
Yeah, it's often one or the other problem the first times, in my experience at least. Your post is rather empty of emotions, but are you sure you didn't have some emotions that inhibited you: embarrassment, nervousness, guilt...? It's hard to believe you weren't turned on by her if you have very limited sexual experience.
Eh, I think if you already did it its done, next time you wont have so many mental barriers about it being this big thing. Still, if you already did it you should have paid for the overnight imo to get more comfortable with the whole thing.
Also, what is the going rate for these services in Vietnam? (Might aswell learn something from this blog)
Masturbating and having sex with a female next to you are very different. You got used to the first one where you do it the way you like, so it's not surprising that real sex didn't go that easy, where you have to adopt a lot and you are out of your comfort zone. But you can get used to it. To get over the erection issues, there are many things that you can do.
1. Find a longer-time partner Having sex the first time with a new person often goes not so well even among experienced people. Giving it more tries increases the chance of successful and pleasurable sex because you build trust and comfort which allows you to get an erection easier (it doesn't guarantee it though). Also you have more time to teach your partner what you like and vice versa. Not to mention that you can repeat for cheaper : ] Of course getting a parner that you like is difficult, you would have to invest in yourself more, keep trying and failing until you see returns. But as I said, the returns are for a longer period of time.
2. Try out other partners People like different things. You connect sexually better with some women and worse with some others. There are some girls with whom things just flow kind of naturally. With others, you will have to adjust more. This is true both for hookers or regular girls.
3. Know what turns you on and go for that - Try to hit on girls that are more of your taste. Here you will have to make compromises. Or if you go with the hooker, pick one that you like. - During sex, put her into the position that you like, or ask her verbally (lightly) to do this or that. For example I like to put on the condom while she lays on her stomach so i have good vision of the ass. Most girls are fine with things like that.
4. Other tips - If things don't work out well, ask for a break, just talk to her about anything. Then a restart will get you easier into a comfortable mood. Kissing for a long time can also help. - Get a condom that is thin to feel more. "Masculan Pur" is quite good and cheap in my country.
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