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Usually my mum’s cool: sure we have our disputes, but hey, we’re mother and son, and not having those would be weird. We fight and generally we’re cool a few hours later.
But there are things that I wish I could change about her. I’m sure she feels the same way about me. In fact just to make sure, I decided I’d make a list for her, about the things I’d imagine she wanted me to change. She might even confirm this: after I’ve done writing it, I’ll send here the link to this blog. Here we go:
- Not be so lazy
- Take better care of my stuff (I have a bat habit of wrecking/throwing away stuff)
- Get better in school (more on this later)
- Not be so much in front of my computer, especially during weekends (more on this later)
- Live healthier (also more on this later)
So on to my rants, the reason why you’re probably even reading this.
As said my mum’s cool for the majority of the time. Only seldom do we have really bad fights, and very seldom do those fights last for days.
But, damn sometimes I wish she’d shut the hell up about my schoolwork. We agreed when I started high school that I was old enough to manage it myself, but apparently she has changed her mind. My part of the deal was to make sure that I did all my homework and all my assignments for all classes throughout all my high school years – her part was to not bug me about it. Of course I haven’t kept my part of the deal (not missing homework once for three years is pretty damn hard) but I try my best, and 95% of the time I turn up well prepared for class. I doubt she expected me to uphold my end of the bargain for previously stated reasons, but I had expected her to uphold hers: that sounds weird, I know, and I have nothing against her asking what my assignments are or if I’ve done them. She’s has already broken my balls many times, by standing in my doorway for literally 5 minutes, complaining that I’m not ‘ambitious enough’, or ‘serious enough’ or that ‘I’m severely limiting my possibilities for the future by not trying harder’.
Newsflash mum (was tempted to write bitch, but resisted), I AM trying my hardest. I know for a fact that you sucked ass in math when you were in high school, but apparently that was cool, ‘cause you were trying you hardest. Could it be that I am too? Could it be that 7 is all I’m ever gonna get in german? That 10 is all I’m ever gonna get in social studies? Play around with that thought, meddle it around up in that chamber we call your head, and try to reach a conclusion.
In fact just to prove my point, here’s my grades for the end of the 2nd semester (o=oral, w=written, bolded represents final grades):
History: 10
P.E.: 12
Drama (acting): 10
Math, o: 10
Math, w: 10
German, o: 7
German, w: 7
Danish, w: 10
Danish, o: 10
English, o: 12
English, w: 12
Biology: 10
Physics: 12
Social Studies, w: 7
Social Studies, o: 10
For comparison here’s how the government value these grades:
12: Best grade, top-notch work
10: Good grade, some flaws
7: Solid grad, quite a bunch of flaws
4: Still passed safely, but with quite a lot of flaws
02: Barely a pass
00: Fail, many flaws
-3: Fail, MANY major flaws
And how my mum values those grades:
12: OK, I guess….
10: Acceptable, but could improve
7: WTF, get better already.
4-(-3): WTF, YOU ARE PLAYING TOO MUCH COMPUTER YOUNG MAN!
And now for computer gaming. My mum’s a smart woman: when she reads that some immigrants are causing trouble, she knows that not all immigrants are like that. When she sees that some Americans doesn’t know how many sides a triangle have, she knows that not all Americans are that mentally retarted.
However, the reason that she so flawlessly applies to these other statements, is suddenly not valid when it comes to computer gaming. Because one guy in Korea games himself to death, does not you’ll find me death in my room someday. Because 100 gamers out of MILLIONS (yes, mum MILLIONS) drop out of high school due to too much World of Warcraft does not mean that I am going to drop out too? You get that picture? Sometimes I want to just drop out of high school, due to gaming, and then look her in the eyes and say: “Sorry, mum, guess you were right, Imma raid Naxxramas (something in WoW) now, cya!” Also 3-4 hours a day is not that much, neither is 5-6 hours in a weekend.
A normal day for me:
7: up
8-15: school
15-16.30: Computer
16.30-19.00: Exercise (running mostly)
19-20: Shower, food, etc.
20-21.30: Homework
21.30-23.00: Games
23.00-23.20: An episode of South Park, Simpsons or so before bed
23.20: G’night
3 hours = 6-7 hours (as she claims I play a day), that's logic! And of course using a computer for something else than gaming is impossible! MSN Messenger, Teamliquid, News Services and School Boards online is just strange things that we all know doesnt exist!
And finally my lifestyle: if I’m sick, it’s because I eat too much pizza, if she’s sick she’s been infected by someone: Once again, why does the reason that applies to you, not apply to me? Am I immune to transferred diseases? Is Coca-Cola a poisonous drink? What has the world kept away from my knowledge? Why can I not know, what the rest of you selected people know? Jeez.
Also, let’s not mention that I run 15 hours a week. Cause that is not important.
I can honestly say that I live more healthy that my mother. I even drink less alcohol (average) than her: she drinks a glass of wine each night, and once every two weeks or so she drinks a bottle at some friends or at our place. That’s (14+5)/2 = (I’ll do it for you, mum, don’t worry) 9,5, and since I don’t party more than once or twice a month (don’t wanna ruin my physical shape, and the season lasts from late May to late September) and hardly ever drink more than 10 beers, that means that you drink more than I do!
My mum’s cool most of the time. But boy, a few changes would be a drastic improvement! I love you and all, and I sure it’s mutual, but hey think about it, I am trying my hardest, I am thinking about my future and I can control most of my own life. If I need help I will ask, and you’ll probably know it too.
Regz
Your son/Hans-Titan
(Will probably edit this later, but damn am I pissed at her atm. Good way to get your rage out)
 
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Your mom's just trying to help you out and I guess give you a better future than what she had maybe? Your grades are pretty good, just improve on german! Tell your mom however that your future isnt going to last forever and that when you get old, are you going to hold on to your college diploma, a nice car or your home to make you feel better? No, you're gonna want to be healthy and youthful, but then again dont waste your youth life either.
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Your mum doesn't seem so bad to me. You will understand this when you get older...seriously. For now, try and talk to her about your concerns and how you would like more appreciation for your grades and stuff.
This is a typical teen vs parent thing.
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uh, i get so pissed off when my parents bitch at me for playing like 10 hours a day, when in fact i play like 2 and spend the rest reading, listening to music, surfing and stuff like that, but you cant explain that to them, i know your pain ^
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You have to understand that when she bitches about playing so much games, she means that you need to do your fucking work and stop screwing around. Stop taking shit so literally and think about her position. You're actually wasting a lot of time. You need to stop playing games at some point and get serious. Look at how many hours you devote to homework. One and a half hours? Your schedule doesn't even include studying. Shape up, listen to your mother, and, guess what, a glass of wine each night can actually be beneficial as opposed to a can of beer.
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Your mom sounds a lot like my mom, except my grades were usually top notch and I only twice ever got less than that in high school (and one was probably because the teacher wanted to stick it to me -_-). She didn't really care too much when that happened, and even less so in college. Partly because at that point, if I didn't have any motivation there's not much she could have done...
Course the difference with me was I actually was on the computer 8-12 hours a day. Granted, I'm really bad at focusing, so I'd do homework and stuff online at the same time and spend maybe 2-3 hours on games.
It might seem like a bad thing now, but you'll probably appreciate it 5-10 years down the road. One of the things that I've always appreciated about my mom is she expected my best (and generally knew when I was actually trying).
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My dad's just as bad. Except I don't get as good grades as you do T.T. I must try harder this year.
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you've obviously never had Asian parents, try 2-3 hours of computer per week, and getting chastised for anything below 90%
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Uhm, of course his mother is riding him cause she wants him to do well, and not cause she hates him, I think he got that part as well. What parents in general (I guess?) need to understand that not all kids really need to motivated by them, at least not all the time, and also that constant bickering isn't really going to do anything with whatever motivation you might have. Getting a 10 or whatever should get you praise, not "you could do better".
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Canada6683 Posts
On September 05 2007 08:19 azndsh wrote:
you've obviously never had Asian parents, try 2-3 hours of computer per week, and getting chastised for anything below 90%
QFT
a very sad truth T_T
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On September 05 2007 08:19 azndsh wrote:
you've obviously never had Asian parents, try 2-3 hours of computer per week, and getting chastised for anything below 90%
True, Asian parents are the worst. My dad goes psycho when I get 1-2 Bs on my report card. I still pass every class and maintain a 3.3 - 3.5 GPA during high school too. Not to mention they're like "OMFG STOP PLAYING COMPUTER GAMES!" when I'm on the PC surfing the net, chatting, listening to music, typing an essay, or doing a project. I rarely play any games now since now that school started. Not to mention they always say that I'm on the PC 24/7 to their friends when most of the time on weekends I'm usually out of the house. Asian parents are fucking retarded. Oh, and what is funny is how my dad always say you better do well in high school so you can get into a good college and he wants me to go to a community college for 2 years.. so what's the point of taking AP/Honor classes when those don't even count when you're in a community college trying to transfer out to a UC or CSU?
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iNcontroL
USA29055 Posts
I have several friends who are asian and their parents are insane. I also heard that not too long ago Japan had the highest suicide rate as a nation which was largely in part due to the unrealistically high expectations the household set for its children. I dunno, both sides of the coin are pretty bad. My parents were getting divorced when I was going through middleschool -> highschool and really didnt pay attention/care about my schooling (as much as unified parents would at least) and consequently I am kind of locked in a "just getting by" type mentality when it comes to school. I dont point the finger though, I know this is my own doing. It was just cultivated by a lack of parenting in that regard.
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It's not a surprise really. Most Asian parents forces their children/child to stay in doors most of the time. If they do go out the parents usually follow them or call them every 30 minutes to see if their safe. Which is probably why most Asians are so good at games or play too much.
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haha zolo, just go to a nice university, dont waste time at comm college
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my asian parents are cool
i dont think they'd care too much if i got B's
but that's not really a concern cause i don't
4.6 ftw?
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4.6, what does that translate into letter wise?
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On September 05 2007 11:57 Wizard[pl] wrote:
4.6, what does that translate into letter wise?
What you mean? Getting a 4.6 GPA is possible if he passes all his AP/Honors classes.
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I wasn't saying it's impossible, I didn't see he is from US TT, I was thinking it's some weird marking system from somewhere
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I've just woken and now she doesn't seem as bad as yesterday. I still stand by my words - even though I am not angry anymore I still hope that she reads this, and realizes that I want her to think about some of the things she says to me.
Thanks for all the posting guys. I realize I do not have the worst mum in the world, and now I got confirmed in what I already know, that she is just trying to help.
Most of the time she's awesome and all, and perhaps I am a bit lazy, but I doubt I can get any higher grades that what I am getting. Will try and work harder from now on 
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